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CAMERON LEES, D.D., LL.D., + +Edinburgh. + + + + + + + +Toronto: +William Briggs, +Wesley Buildings. +Montreal: C. W. Coates. +Halifax: S. F. Huestis. +1896. + +Entered, according to Act of the Parliament of Canada, in the year one +thousand eight hundred and ninety-six, by WILLIAM BRIGGS, at the +Department of Agriculture. + + + + +INTRODUCTION. + +This book has been selected from the "Guild Series" for young people, +published in Scotland, and reprinted in Canada by permission. + +The wise counsels and practical suggestions with which this book +abounds make it eminently suitable for the Epworth League Reading +Course. We commend it to all young people who are desirous to form +their character on the Christian model and to carry religious principle +into the practical affairs of common life. + +Some of the chapters will furnish material for interesting programmes +in the Literary Department. + + + + +PREFACE. + +This hand-book has been written at the request of the Christian Life +and Work Committee of the Church of Scotland as one of a series of +volumes which it is at present issuing for the use of Young Men's +Guilds and Bible Classes. + +The object of the writer has been to show how the principles of +religion may be applied to the conduct of young men, and in the +practice of everyday life. In doing this he has endeavored to keep +steadily in view the fact that the book is designed chiefly as a manual +of instruction, and can only present the outlines of a somewhat wide +subject. His language has been necessarily simple, and he has been +often obliged to put his statements in an abbreviated form. + +Most of the contents of this book have been drawn from a long and +somewhat varied experience of life; but the author has also availed +himself of the writings of others who have written books for the +special benefit of young men. He has appended a list of works which he +has consulted, and has endeavored to acknowledge his indebtedness for +any help in the way of argument or illustration that they have afforded +him. + +It will be a great gratification to him to learn that the book has been +in any way useful to the young men, of whose position, duties, and +temptations he has thought much when writing it; and he sends it forth +with the earnest prayer that the Spirit of God may bless his endeavors +to be of service to those whose interests he, in common with his +brethren in the ministry, regards as of paramount importance. + +EDINBURGH, + _28th June, 1892._ + + + + +CONTENTS. + + +CHAP. + + I. CHARACTER + II. SUCCESS IN LIFE + III. PERSONAL INFLUENCE + IV. FRIENDS + V. MONEY + VI. TIME + VII. COURAGE + VIII. HEALTH + IX. EARNESTNESS + X. MANNERS + XI. TEMPER + XII. RECREATION + XIII. BOOKS + XIV. FAMILY LIFE + XV. CHURCH + XVI. CITIZENSHIP + + APPENDIX + LIST OF WORKS + + + + +LIFE AND CONDUCT. + + +CHAPTER I. + +CHARACTER. + +Everything in the practical conduct of life depends upon character. + +What is character? What do we mean by it? As when we say such a man +is a bad character, or a good character, or when we use the words, "I +don't like the character of that man." + +By character we mean what a man really is, at the back of all his +actions and his reputation and the opinion the world has of him, in the +very depth of his being, in the sight of God, "to whom all hearts are +open, all desires known, and from whom no secrets are hid." + +It is said of Burns, the poet, that walking along the streets of +Edinburgh with a fashionable acquaintance, he saw a poorly-dressed +peasant, whom he rushed up to and greeted as a familiar friend. His +companion expressed his surprise that he could lower himself by +speaking to one in so rustic a garb. "Fool!" said the poet, with +flashing eye; "it was not the dress, the peasant's bonnet and hodden +gray, I spoke to, but the man within--the man who beneath that bonnet +has a head, and beneath that hodden gray a heart, better than a +thousand such as yours." What the poet termed the "man within," what +the Scripture calls the "hidden man of the heart," is character--the +thing a man really is. Now, there are five things to be remembered +about _character_. + +I. Character is a growth.--As the man without grows, so the man within +grows also--grows day by day either in beauty or in deformity. We are +becoming, as the days and years pass on, what we shall be in our future +earthly life, what we shall be when that life is ended. No one becomes +what he is at once, whether what he is be good or bad. You may have +seen in the winter-time an icicle forming under the eaves of a house. +It grows, one drop at a time, until it is more than a foot long. If +the water is clear, the icicle remains clear and sparkles in the sun; +but if the water is muddy, the icicle looks dirty and its beauty is +spoiled. So our characters are formed; one little thought or feeling +at a time adds its influence. If these thoughts and feelings are pure +and right, the character will be lovely and will sparkle with light; +but if they are impure and evil, the character will be wretched and +deformed. + +Fairy tales tell us of palaces built up in a night by unseen hands, but +those tales are not half so wonderful as what is going on in each of +us. Day and night, summer and winter, a building is going up within +us, behind the outer screen of our lives. The storeys of it are being +silently fashioned: virtue is being added to faith, and to virtue is +being added knowledge, and to knowledge is being added brotherly +kindness, and to brotherly kindness charity; or meanness is being added +to selfishness, and greed to meanness, and impurity, malice and hatred +become courses in the building. A wretched hovel, a poor, mean, +squalid structure, is rising within us; and when the screen of our +outward life is taken from us, this is what we shall be. + +II. Character is independent of reputation and circumstances.--A man +may be held in very high esteem by the world, and yet may be a very +miserable creature so far as his character is concerned. The rich man +of the parable was well off and probably much thought of, but God +called him a fool. Here is a man who is greatly esteemed by the +public; he is regarded in every way as admirable. Follow him home, and +you find him in his family a mean and sordid soul. There you have the +real man. We cannot always judge a man by what he has, or by what he +appears to us; for what he is may be something very different. "These +uniforms," said the Duke of Wellington, "are great illusions. Strip +them off, and many a pretty fellow would be a coward; when in them he +passes muster with the rest." We must not confound the uniform with +the man: we are often too ready to do so. _To a certain extent_ we can +form an idea what a man is from the outside. The horny hand tells of +the life of labor; the deep-set brow tells of the thinker. In other +words we have a right to judge a man by his habitation. If the fences +are broken down, the paths are unkept, the flower-beds full of weeds, +we may be pretty sure the inhabitants are idle, thriftless, perhaps +intemperate. So a clear eye, a firm step, an open countenance, tell of +a pure, good soul within. For example, a man of cold exterior or of +formal manner may often have a warm heart under it all; a man of rough +manners may have kindly feelings that he cannot express. We are often +long in the company of men before we really know them, and then the +discovery of what they are comes on us by surprise. + +III. Character cannot be always hidden.--There are those who seem to +think that they can have one set of principles for themselves and +another for the outward world; that they can be in their heart one +thing and in society another; that they can have one character and +another reputation. They may be proud, but they can so hide their +pride as to have the reputation of being humble; they can lie, but +still have the reputation of always speaking the truth; they can be +impure, and yet have the reputation of being virtuous. But sooner or +later what they really are generally becomes manifest. Reputation and +character come to be one. That which they would keep secret cannot be +concealed. The mask which men would wear slips aside and discloses the +face beneath it. (1) Time reveals character. As the years pass along, +a man generally gets to be known for what he is. For example, if a man +is a coward and enlists in the army, he may swagger about and look like +a real soldier, but a time will come when the spirit of the man will +show itself, and he will be set down at his real value. Or a young man +in an office may act dishonestly and go on perhaps for long doing so, +and thinking he is carefully concealing his frauds, but, when least +expected, discovery takes place, and ruin and disgrace follow. (2) +Sorrow reveals character. Nothing more truly shows what a man is than +his bearing under the sorrows of life. When the flag is wrapped around +the flag-staff on a calm day, when no breath of wind is moving, we +cannot read the device that is upon it, but when the storm unfurls the +flag, we can read it plainly enough. In the same way when the troubles +of life beat upon men we can read clearly what they are. Again, when +we go along the road on a summer day we often cannot see the houses +that are concealed by the foliage of the trees; but in winter-time, +when the trees are bare and leafless, we know what kind of houses are +there, whether they are squalid cottages or grand mansions. So in the +winter-time of life, when the leaves are blown away, men come out and +we know what kind of character they have been building up behind the +screen of their life. (3) If time and sorrow do not reveal character, +eternity will. We will appear then, not as we seem, but as we are. +Christ is to be our judge. Consider what a striking thing it is in the +life of Christ that His searching glance seemed to go right to the +heart, to the hidden motive, to the man within. "He knew what was in +man." A poor woman passed by Him as He sat in the temple. She was +poverty-stricken in her garb, and she stole up to the contribution-box +and dropped in her offering. Christ's glance went right beyond her +outward appearance, and beyond her small and almost imperceptible +offering, to the motive and character. "She hath given more than they +all." All sorts of people were around Him: Pharisees, with their +phylacteries; Scribes, with their sceptical notions; Samaritans, with +their vaunted traditions: but He always went right beyond the outward +show. The Samaritan was good and kind, though he got no credit for +piety; the Pharisee was corrupt and self-seeking, though he got no +credit for piety; the Publican was a child of God, though no one would +speak to him. Christ reversed the judgment of men on those people whom +they thought they knew so well, but did not know at all. So it shall +be at the last; we shall be judged by what we are. + +IV. Character alone endures.--What a man has he leaves behind him; +what a man is he carries with him. It is related that when Alexander +the Great was dying he commanded that his hands should be left outside +his shroud, that all men might see that, though conqueror of the world +he could take nothing away with him. Before Saladin the Great uttered +his last sigh he called the herald who had carried his banner before +him in all his battles, and commanded him to fasten to the top of the +spear a shroud in which he was to be buried, and to proclaim, "This is +all that remains to Saladin the Great of all his glory." So men have +felt in all ages that death strips them, and that they take nothing +with them of what they have gained. But what we are ourselves we take +with us. All that time has made us, for good or evil, goes with us. +We can lay up treasures in ourselves that neither moth nor rust can +corrupt, and which thieves cannot steal away. "The splendid treasures +of memory, the treasures of disciplined powers, of enlarged capacities, +of a pure and loving heart, all are treasures which a man can carry in +him and with him into that other world." + + We are but farmers of ourselves, yet may, + If we can stock ourselves and thrive, uplay + Much good treasure for the great rent-day.--DONNE. + + +"All the jewels and gold a man can collect he drops from his hand when +he dies, but every good action he has done is rooted into his soul and +can never leave him."--Buddhist saying. + +V. The highest character a man can have is the Christian +Character.--(1) Christ is the giver of a noble character. It is +possible to be united to Christ as the branch is united to the tree; +and when we are so, His life passes into ours: a change in character +comes to us; we are renewed in the inward man, old things pass away, +and all things become new. In the life of St. Paul we have a striking +instance how coming to Christ effects a change in character. He became +a different man from what he was; he received a new inward life; a +transfiguring change passed over the entire character; the life he +lived in the flesh became a life of faith in the Son of God; and his +experience has been the experience of many. The source of the highest +and noblest character is Christ. (2) Christ is also the _standard_ of +a noble character; the true ideal of manhood is found in Him: "the +stature of the fulness of Christ." Take the following illustration: +"In Holland we travel with Dutch money, in France with French money, in +Germany with German money. The standard of the coinage varies with +every state we go into. In Britain there is one standard of coinage; +we may get some corrupted money or some light coin, but the standard of +coinage is the same. The standard for the Christian is the same +throughout the years and in all places: the one perpetual standard of +the life of Christ." The best men are those who come the nearest to +it. Those who come nearest to it are those who will do best in the +practical conduct of life. + + + + +CHAPTER II. + +SUCCESS IN LIFE. + +We often hear the word success used. The great wish that most have in +beginning life is that they may be successful. One man constantly asks +another the question regarding a third, How has he succeeded? + +What is success in life? It may perhaps be defined in this way: It is +to obtain the greatest amount of happiness possible to us in this world. + +There are two things to be borne in mind in estimating what success is: + +I. Lives which according to some are successful must in the highest +sense be pronounced failures.--The idea of many is that success +consists in the gaining of a livelihood, or competency, or wealth; but +a man may gain these things who yet cannot be said to have succeeded. +If he gets wealth at the expense of health, or if he gets it by means +of trickery and dishonest practices, he can hardly be said to have +succeeded. He does not get real happiness with it. If a man gains the +whole world and loses his own soul, he cannot be said to have +succeeded. True success in life is when a fair share of the world's +good does not cost either physical or intellectual or moral well-being. + +II. Lives which according to some are failures must in the highest +sense be pronounced successful.--The life of our blessed Lord, from one +point of view, was a failure. It was passed in poverty, it closed in +darkness. We see Him crowned with thorns, buffeted, spit upon; yet +never was Christ so successful as when He hung upon the cross. He had +finished the work given Him to do. He "saw of the travail of His soul +and was satisfied." + +Milton completed his _Paradise Lost_ and a bookseller only gave him +fifteen pounds for it, yet he cannot be said to have failed. + + Speak, History, who are life's victors? unroll thy long + annals and say, + Are they those whom the world calls victors, who won + the success of the day, + The martyrs or Nero? The Spartans who fell at + Thermopylae's tryst + Or the Persians or Xerxes? His judges or Socrates? + Pilate or Christ? + + +What may seem defeat to some may be in the truest sense success. + +_There are certain things which directly tend to success in life:_ + +The first is Industry.--There can be no success without working hard +for it. There is no getting on without labor. We live in times of +great competition, and if a man does not work, and work hard, he is +soon jostled aside and falls into the rear. It is true now as in the +days of Solomon that "the hand of the diligent maketh rich." + +(_a_) There are some who think they can dispense with hard work because +they possess great natural talents and ability--that cleverness or +genius can be a substitute for diligence. Here the old fable of the +hare and the tortoise applies. They both started to run a race. The +hare, trusting to her natural gift of fleetness, turned aside and took +a sleep; the tortoise plodded on and won the prize. Constant and +well-sustained labor carries one through, where cleverness apart from +this fails. History tells us that the greatest genius is most diligent +in the cultivation of its powers. The cleverest men have been of great +industry and unflinching perseverance. No truly eminent man was ever +other than an industrious man. + +(_b_) There are some who think that success is in the main a matter of +what they call "luck," the product of circumstances over which they +have little or no control. If circumstances are favorable they need +not work; if they are unfavorable they need not work. So far from man +being the creature of circumstances he should rather be termed the +architect of circumstances. From the same materials one man builds +palaces and another hovels. Bricks and mortar are mortar and bricks +till the architect makes something out of them. In the same way, out +of the same circumstances one man rears a stately edifice, while +another, idle and incompetent, lives for ever amid ruins. +Circumstances rarely conquer a strong man; he conquers them. He + + Breaks his birth's invidious bar + And grasps the skirts of happy chance, + And breasts the blows of circumstance, + And grapples with his evil star.--TENNYSON. + + +Against all sorts of opposing obstacles the great workers of the world +fought their way to triumph. Milton wrote _Paradise Lost_ in blindness +and poverty. Luther, before he could establish the Reformation, had to +encounter the prestige of a thousand years, the united power of an +imperious hierarchy and the ban of the German Empire. Linnaeus, +studying botany, was so poor as to be obliged to mend his shoes with +folded paper and often to beg his meals of his friends. Columbus, the +discoverer of America, had to besiege and importune in turn the states +of Genoa, Portugal, Venice, France, England, and Spain, before he could +get the control of three small vessels and 120 men. Hugh Miller, who +became one of the first geological writers of his time, was apprenticed +to a stonemason, and while working in the quarry, had already begun to +study the stratum of red sandstone lying below one of red clay. George +Stephenson, the inventor of the locomotive engine, was a common collier +working in the mines. James Watt, the inventor of the steam-engine, +was a poor sickly child not strong enough to go to school. John +Calvin, who gave a theology to the seventeenth and eighteenth +centuries, which has not yet been outgrown, was tortured with disease +all his days. When were circumstances favorable to any great or good +attempt, except as they were compelled by determination and industry to +become favorable? + +(_c_) Even if circumstances seem in every way favorable, industry is +necessary to success. Though we be born, as the saying is, "with a +silver spoon in our mouth," we cannot afford to dispense with work. +Unless we are hard-working, life will become a weariness to us. Work +keeps life full and happy; it drives all diseased fancies out of the +mind; it gives balance and regularity to all movements of the soul. + +If then we expect to succeed in life we must make up our mind to work +hard. We must not let it be our notion of a fine lady or gentleman to +do nothing. The idle life is a miserable life; it is bound to be so. +God has promised many a blessing to industry; He has promised none to +indolence. God himself works, and He wants His children to work. + +_The second thing that tends directly to success in life is a distinct +Aim_.--A man may run very hard in a race, the perspiration may stream +from his brow and every muscle be strained, but if he is not running in +a right direction, if he is running away from the goal, all his +activity will not help him. So, industrious habits are not sufficient, +unless we have a distinct idea of what we are aiming at. The world is +full of purposeless people, and such people come to nothing. Those who +have succeeded best have chosen their line and stuck to it. + + One great aim, like a guiding-star above, + Which tasked strength, wisdom, stateliness, to lift + Their manhood to the height that takes the prize. + BROWNING. + + +(_a_) The choice of a trade or profession is of enormous importance in +settling our aim in life. Men often fail from having adopted a calling +for which they are entirely unfitted. The round man in the square hole +is a pitiful spectacle. It is difficult to lay down any special rule +in regard to the choice of a profession or business. Some are obliged +to take whatever opportunity offers, and others have to begin work at +too early an age to permit them to form a true idea of what they are +best fitted for, and are obliged to follow the wishes of others rather +than their own. This only we can say, that so far as we have a choice +we should adopt the calling that is most congenial to us and suits our +inclinations. "Grasp the handle of your being" was the direction given +by a wise counsellor to one who sought advice as to what calling he +should follow. Everyone has certain aptitudes, and as far as he is +able should keep them in view. There is often a distinct indication at +a very early period of life for what we are best fitted. "The tastes +of the boy foreshadow the occupations of the man. Ferguson's clock +carved out of wood and supplied with rudest mechanism; Faraday's tiny +electric machine made from a common bottle; Claude Lorraine's pictures +in flour and charcoal on the walls of the bakers' shops; Canova's +modelling of small images in clay; Chantrey's carving of his +school-master's head in a bit of pine wood,--were all indications clear +and strong of the future man." + +(_b_) Whatever you resolve upon, keep to it. "One thing I do," is a +great rule to follow. It is much better to do one thing well than many +things indifferently. It may be well to have "many strings to our +bow," but it is better to have a bow and string that will every time +send the arrow to the target. A rolling stone gathers no moss. He +that is everything by turns and nothing long comes to nothing in the +end. + + If thou canst plan a noble deed + And never flag till it succeed, + Though in the strife thy heart should bleed, + Whatever obstacles contend, + Thine hour will come, go on, thou soul! + Thou'lt win the prize, thou'lt reach the goal. + CHAS. MACKAY. + + +(_c_) The higher our purpose is, the greater our attainment is likely +to be. The nobler our ideal, the nobler our success. It seems +paradoxical to say it, but it is true, that no one ever reached a goal +without starting from it; no one ever won a victory without beginning +the battle with it; no one ever succeeded in any work without first +finishing it in his own mind. + + Pitch thy behavior low, thy projects high, + So shalt thou humble and magnanimous be. + Sink not in spirit; who aimeth at the sky + Shoots higher much than he who means a tree. + G. HERBERT. + +When we go forward to life we should make up our mind what we intend to +make of life. Make up your mind after prayer to God, and work for that. + +_The third essential to success in life is Moral Character_, in its +various elements of honesty, truthfulness, steadiness, temperance. +"Honesty is the best policy" is one of those worldly maxims that +express the experience of mankind. A small leak will sink a great +ship. One bad string in a harp will turn its music into discord. Any +flaw in moral character will sooner or later bring disaster. The most +hopeless wrecks that toss on the broken waters of society are men who +have failed from want of moral character. There are thousands of such +from whom much was expected but from whom nothing came. It is told of +a distinguished professor at Cambridge that he kept photographs of his +students. He divided them into two lots. One he called his basket of +adled eggs: they were the portraits of men who had failed, who had come +to nothing though they promised much. What brought most of them to +grief was want of character, of moral backbone. Some of them--a good +many of them--went to drink, others to love of pleasure, others to the +bad in other ways. Good principle counts for more than can be +expressed; it is essential. Many things may hinder a man from getting +on--slowness, idleness, want of ability, trifling, want of interest in +his vocation. Many of these faults may be borne with long by others, +and may be battled with earnestly by ourselves; but a flaw in character +is deadly. To be unsteady, dishonest, or untruthful is fatal. Before +God and man an unfaithful servant is worthless. We may have other +qualifications that go to command success, such as those we have +noticed,--industry and a distinct aim,--but want of principle will +render them useless. Slow and sure often go together. The slow train +is often the safest to travel by, but woe be to it and to us if we do +not keep upon the rails. + +_The last essential to success in life is Religious +Hopefulness_.--(_a_) Our industry, our purpose, our principles may be +all they ought to be, yet the "race is not always to the swift nor the +battle to the strong." But when we find the race going from us and the +battle going against us, if we have trust in God and the hopefulness +that comes from religion, we will find heart to try again: we will not +be utterly cast down. Christian faith keeps men in good heart amid +many discouragements. (_b_) Even if a man or woman become rich or +clever and have life pleasant around them, they cannot feel at the +close of life that they have succeeded if the future is dark before +them. When Cardinal Wolsey, who had been the favorite of the king and +had long held the government of England in his hand, fell from power, +he said, "If I had served my God as truly as I served my king He would +not have forsaken me in my gray hairs." The world is a poor comforter +at the last. No man or woman has become successful until their +essential happiness is placed beyond the reach of all outward +fluctuation and change. Faith in Christ, the faith that penetrates the +future and brings down from heaven a bright and blessed hopefulness, +which casts its illumination over the present scene and reveals the +grand object of existence, is essential to true success. + +We cannot sum up the teachings of this chapter better than in the words +of a poem of which we should try to catch the spirit: they express the +very philosophy of success in life: + + Courage, brother! do not stumble, + Though thy path be dark as night; + There's a star to guide the humble;-- + Trust in God, and do the right. + + Let the road be rough and dreary, + And its end far out of sight, + Foot it bravely! strong or weary, + Trust in God, and do the right. + + Perish policy and cunning, + Perish all that fears the light! + Whether losing, whether winning, + Trust in God, and do the right. + + Trust no party, sect, or faction; + Trust no leaders in the fight; + But in every word and action + Trust in God, and do the right. + + Trust no lovely forms of passion,-- + Fiends may look like angels bright: + Trust no custom, school, or fashion-- + Trust in God, and do the right. + + Simple rule, and safest guiding, + Inward peace and inward might, + Star upon our path abiding,-- + Trust in God, and do the right. + + Some will hate thee, some will love thee, + Some will flatter, some will slight: + Cease from man, and look above thee,-- + Trust in God, and do the right. + NORMAN M'LEOD. + + +That is the way to succeed in life. + + + + +CHAPTER III. + +PERSONAL INFLUENCE. + +We are all of us in close relations to one another. We are bound +together in numberless ways. As members of the same family, as members +of the same community, as members of the same Church--we are bound so +closely together that what any one of us does is certain to tell upon +others. It is out of this close connection with others that influence +comes. Just as one man in a crowd sends by his movements a certain +impulse throughout the whole, just as the stone thrown into a pond +causes waves that move far away from where the stone fell and that +reach in faint ripples to the distant shore, so our very existence +exercises influence beyond our knowledge and beyond our calculation. + +_Influence is of two kinds, Direct and Indirect_--Conscious and +Unconscious,--The first is influence we deliberately put forth, as when +we meet a man and argue with him, as when the orator addresses the +multitude, or the politician seeks to gain their suffrages. The second +is the influence which radiates from us, whether we will it or not, as +fire burning warms a room, or icebergs floating down from the frozen +north change the temperature where they come. There is a passage in +Scripture where both kinds of influence are illustrated. "Iron +sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend. As +in water face answereth to face, so the heart of man to man." The +first part of the proverb refers to direct influence: as "iron +sharpeneth iron," so one man applying to another his powers of +persuasion, his motives in the shape of money or some other inducement, +moulds, fashions, sharpens him to his liking. "As in water face +answereth to face:" this is the silent influence which we have on +others. There is no conscious exercise of power, there is no +deliberate putting forth of strength, there is no noise as of iron +against iron; but as our shadow is silently reflected in the still +water, so our life and character silently reflect themselves in others, +and other hearts answer to the feelings that sway our own. + +I. Direct or conscious influence.--In regard to this everyone must +choose his own line of action. Everyone has his own special gift, and +everyone has his own special opportunities. There are, however, +certain lines of direct influence that may be indicated, and which lie +open to all. + +(_a_) Keeping others in the right path. We constantly meet with people +who are evidently taking a wrong road; it is our duty to try and show +them the right one, and to persuade them to walk in it. We see men +taking up with evil habits, evil companions, or evil opinions; we are +bound to remonstrate with them and endeavor to warn them timeously. +This of course needs to be wisely done, and after prayer to God to +guide us rightly; but we ought to do it. "A word spoken in due season +how good is it." Such a word has often been blessed and made +effectual, and we should not shrink from speaking it. The right time +for speaking it should be chosen, but it should not be left by us +unsaid. When Paley the great moralist was a student at Cambridge he +wasted his time in idleness and frivolity, and was the butt of his +fellow-students. One of them, however, took courage to remonstrate +with him, and did so with good effect. One morning he came to his +bedside and said to him earnestly, "Paley, I have not been able to +sleep for thinking about you. I have been thinking what a fool you +are! I have the means of dissipation, and could afford to be idle; you +are poor and cannot afford it. I could do nothing probably even if I +were to try; you are capable of doing anything. I have lain awake all +night thinking about your folly, and I have now come solemnly to warn +you. Indeed, if you persist in your indolence and go on in this way, I +must renounce your society altogether." The words took effect. Paley +became a changed man, and his after success sprang from his friend's +warning. This incident illustrates what may be the influence in this +form of one man upon another. + +(_b_) Bearing testimony against evil. This is another line of direct +influence open to all. It is a precept of the book of Leviticus, "If a +soul sin, and hear the voice of swearing, and is a witness, whether he +hath seen or known of it; if he do not utter it, then he shall bear his +iniquity." If he does not give evidence against evil, even to his own +hurt he sins. We are bound to protest against wrongdoing in any form; +and our protest, if distinct and well directed, always tends to good. +To be silent in certain circumstances makes us the accomplice of sin; +to speak out frees us from responsibility. To be the dumb auditor of a +shameful story, or to listen silently to the relation of a deed of +wickedness, and not be honest and resolute in expressing our disgust +and disapproval is to condone what no good man should condone. The +outspoken testimony against evil is incumbent on all Christian men. + +(_c_) Taking part in Christian and benevolent work. There are many +ways, it is evident, in which we may do so _individually_. "The +greatest works that have been done have been done by the ones." No +learned society discovered America, but one man, Columbus. No +parliament saved English liberties, but one man, Pym. No confederate +nations rescued Scotland from her political and ecclesiastical enemies, +but one man, Knox. By one man, Howard, our prisons were purified. By +one woman, Miss Nightingale, our disgraceful nursing system was +reformed. By one Clarkson the reproach of slavery was taken away. God +in all ages has blessed individual effort, and if we are strong enough +to take up any special line of benevolent and Christian work that seems +open to us we should not shrink from it. We should be on the lookout +for it. But many from their circumstances are not able to do so, and +such can find their best opportunity by _combining their own effort +with the efforts of others_. There are many agencies at work in every +community for the helping of man, and they afford to all the +opportunity of wisely using their power of influence. This is true +especially of the Christian Church. It has been defined as "a society +for doing good in the world." In many ways it carries on work for the +benefit of others. In every Christian congregation there ought to be +some work in which each of its members, however few his talents may be, +can engage; and in lending a helping hand each of them may do something +directly towards making society sweeter and better. + +II. Indirect or unconscious influence.--There is an imperceptible +personal atmosphere which surrounds every man, "an invisible belt of +magnetism" which he bears with him wherever he goes. It invests him, +and others quickly detect its presence. Take some of its simplest +phases. + +(_a_) Think of the influence of a _look_. When Christ stood in the +courtyard of the palace of the High Priest over against His weak and +erring disciple, whom He heard denying Him with oaths, it is said, "The +Lord looked upon Peter." No more than that, and it reached right down +into his heart. It touched him as nothing else could have touched him. +"He went out and wept bitterly." It was said of Keble the poet that +"his face was like that of an illuminated clock, beaming with the +radiance of his poetry and wisdom"; and it is written of one of the +most spiritually-minded of Scotchmen, Erskine of Linlathen, that "his +looks were better than a thousand homilies." There was something in +the very expression of his countenance that spoke to men of an inner +life and of a spiritual dwelling in God. + +(_b_) Think of the influence of a _smile_: the smile of welcome when we +call at a friend's house; the smile of recognition when we meet him in +the street; the smile of pleasure which the speaker sees in his +audience; the smile of satisfaction in one to whom we have done an act +of kindness. By the very expression of the countenance we can +influence others, make their life more pleasant or more painful. There +are those who by the sweetness of their demeanor are in a household +like fragrant flowers. They are like the sweet ointment of spikenard +which the woman poured upon Christ--the sweet perfume of it "filled the +whole house." + +(_c_) Think of the influence of _sympathy_. There are some natures +that are gifted with a blessed power to bring consolation to men. It +is not that they are glib of tongue or facile of speech, but somehow +the very pressure of their hand is grateful to the saddened heart. The +simple and kindly action, of which we think nothing, may tell +powerfully on others, and unclose fountains of feeling deep down in the +heart. + +(_d_) Think of the influence of _example_: the simple doing of what is +right, though we say nothing about it; the upright life of a father or +mother in a household; the steady conduct of a soldier in his company; +the stainless character of a workman among his comrades, or a boy in +his school. It is bound to tell. "Example," says Dr. Smiles, "is one +of the most potent instructors, though it teaches without a tongue. It +is the practical school of mankind working by action, which is always +more forcible than words. Precept may point to us the way, but it is a +silent continuous example conveyed to us by habits, and living with us +in fact, that carries us along. Good advice has its weight, but +without the accompaniment of a good example it is of comparatively +small influence, and it will be found that the common saying of 'Do as +I say, not as I do' is usually reversed in the actual experience of +life." Goodness makes good. As a man who trims his garden in a +straight row and makes it beautiful will induce in time all his +neighbors to follow him, or at least to be ashamed of their ragged and +ill-kept plots in contrast with his own, so is it that the upright, +good life of a sincere Christian man will silently tell upon others. + +These are some illustrations of the power of influence unconsciously +exercised, and the whole subject teaches us (1) Our responsibility. If +we are ready to ask, "Am I my brother's keeper?" the answer is, you +cannot help being so. It is as easy to evade the law of gravitation as +the law of responsibility. A man was lately prosecuted for having +waited on his customers in clothes he had worn when attending his +children during an infectious complaint. It was proved that he had +sown broadcast germs of the disease. It would have been no +justification for him to say, What has anyone to do with the clothes I +wear? It is my own business. He was a member of the community. His +action was silently but surely dealing out death to others. He was +punished, and justly punished. We cannot live without influencing +others. We say perhaps that "we mean well," or at least we mean to do +no one any harm, but is our influence harmless? It is going from us in +forms as subtle as the germs of an infectious disease. + + Say not, "It matters not to me, + My brother's weal is _his_ behoof," + For in this wondrous human web, + If your life's warp, his life is woof. + + Woven together are the threads, + And you and he are in one loom, + For good or ill, for glad or sad, + Your lives must share one common doom. + + Then let the daily shuttle glide, + Wound full of threads of kindly care, + That life's increasing length may be + Not only strongly wrought, but fair. + + So from the stuff of each new day + The loving hand of Time shall make + Garments of joy and peace for all, + And human hearts shall cease to ache. + M. J. SAVAGE. + +(2) The power all have to do good. There are some who think they can +only serve God and man in a direct and premeditated way, by taking up +some branch of Christian work and devoting themselves to it; and if +they have no gift in any special direction, they think they are outside +of the vineyard altogether. But it is not so. The sphere of quiet and +unassuming Christian life is open to all. It is impossible to measure +the extent of our influence. Its + + Echoes roll from soul to soul, + And grow for ever and for ever. + +Like those of the Alpine horn in the solitudes of the mountains, long +after the voice that caused them has ceased, they reverberate far and +wide. No man lives to himself. He could not do so if he would. (3) +The secret of good influence is to be influenced for good ourselves. +Our lamp must be first lit if it is to shine, and we must ourselves be +personally influenced by coming to the great source of spiritual power. +If Christ is in a man, then, wherever he may be, there will radiate +from him influences that can only be for good. Out of the life that is +in him "will flow rivers of living water." + + Thou must be true thyself + If thou the truth wouldst teach. + Thy soul must overflow if thou + Another soul wouldst reach. + It needs the overflowing heart + To give the lips full speech. + Think truly, and thy thought + Shall the world's famine feed. + Speak truly, and thy word + Shall be a fruitful seed. + Live truly, and thy life shall be + A great and noble creed. + + + + +CHAPTER IV. + +FRIENDS. + +By friends we mean those whom we admit to the inner circle of our +acquaintance.--All of us know many people. We are bound to do so; to +meet with men of all classes, sects, beliefs, opinions. But with most +of us there are a few persons who stand to us in a different relation +from the rest. We are intimate with them. We take pleasure in their +company; we tell them our thoughts: we speak to them of things we would +not speak of to others; we confide in them, and in joy and in sorrow it +is to them we go. It is of this inner circle, and of those we ought to +admit to it, that we have now to speak. + +Friendship has been regarded in all ages as one of the most important +relationships of life.--Cicero, who dedicates an essay to it says that +"it is the only thing on the importance of which mankind are agreed." +It has been defined by Addison, the great English writer, as "a strong +habitual inclination in two persons to promote the good and happiness +of each other." It has been termed by another "the golden thread that +ties the hearts of the world." "A faithful friend" has been called +"the medicine of life." Ambrose, one of the Christian Fathers, says, +"It is the solace of this life to have one to whom you can open your +heart, and tell your secrets; to win to yourself a faithful man, who +will rejoice with you in sunshine, and weep in showers. It is easy and +common to say, 'I am wholly thine,' but to find it true is as rare." +And Jeremy Taylor, the great preacher, calls friendship "the ease of +our passions, the discharge of our oppressions, the sanctuary to our +calamities, the counsellor of our doubts, the charity of our minds, the +emission of our thoughts, the exercise and improvement of what we +meditate." The great preachers, philosophers and poets of all time +have dwelt on the importance and sweetness of friendship. The _In +Memoriam_ of Tennyson is a glorification of this relationship. + +The highest of all examples of friendship is to be found in +Christ.--"His behaviour in this beautiful relationship is the very +mirror in which all true friendship must see and mirror itself." [1] +In His life we see the blessings of companionship in good. "He loved +Martha, and her sister, and Lazarus." He had intimate friends in His +group of disciples. Peter and James and John stood to Him in this +relation. They were taken by Him into scenes which the rest of the +disciples did not behold. They knew a friendship with Him unenjoyed by +the others. And of that inner circle there was one to whom the soul of +Jesus clung with peculiar tenderness--the beloved disciple. Human +friendship has been consecrated for us all by this example of Christ. +He offers himself to every one of us as a _friend_: "Ye are my friends +if ye do whatsoever I command you." + +There are two things which specially show the importance of friendship: + +(_a_) It is regarded by others _as a test of our character_. The worth +of a man will always be rated by his companions. The proverbs of all +nations show this. "A man is known by the company he keeps." "Like +draws to like." "Birds of a feather flock together." If our +companions are worthless, the verdict of society regarding us will be +that we are worthless ourselves. This verdict may not in all cases be +true, but the probability is that it will be true. If we are admitted +to the friendship of men of honor, integrity and principle, people will +come to believe in us. We would not, they will feel, be admitted into +that society unless we were in sympathy with those who compose it. If +we wish, therefore, that a good opinion should be formed regarding us +by others, we need to be especially careful as to those with whom we +associate closely and whom we admit to intimate friendship. + +(_b_) Friends have a special power in _moulding our character_. George +Herbert's saying is true, "Keep good company, and you shall be of their +number." It is difficult, on the other hand, to be much with the silly +and foolish without being silly and foolish also. It is the common +explanation of a young man's ruin that he got among bad companions. We +may go into a certain society confident that we will hold our own, and +that we can come out of it as we go in; but, as a general rule, we will +find ourselves mistaken. The man of the strongest individuality comes +sooner or later to be affected by those with whom he is intimate. +There is a subtle influence from them telling upon him that he cannot +resist. He will inevitably be moulded by it. Here also the proverbs +of the world point the lesson. "He who goes with the lame," says the +Latin proverb, "will begin to limp." "He who herds with the wolves," +says the Spanish, "will learn to howl." "Iron sharpeneth iron," says +the scriptural proverb, "so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his +friend." The rapidity of moral deterioration in an evil companionship +is its most startling feature. It is appalling to see how soon an evil +companionship will transform a young man, morally pure, of clean and +wholesome life, into an unclean, befouled, trifling good-for-nothing. +Lightning scarcely does its work of destruction quicker, or with more +fell purpose. + +It is difficult to give precise rules in regard to the formation of +friendship. "A man that hath friends," says Solomon, "must show +himself friendly." The man of a generous and sympathetic nature will +have many friends, and will attract to himself companions of his own +character. A few suggestions, however, founded on practical +experience, may be offered for our guidance. + +I. We should be (_a_) slow to make friendships, and (_b_) slow to +break them when made.--(_a_) It is in the nature of some to take up +with people very readily. Some young men are like fish that rise +readily to a gaudy and many-colored fly. If they see anything that +attracts them in another they admit him at once to their confidence. +It should not be so. Among the reported and traditional sayings of +Christ, there is one that is full of wisdom: "Be good money changers." +As a money changer rings the coin on his counter to test it, so we +should test men well before we make them our friends. There should be +a narrow wicket leading into the inner circle of our social life at +which we should make them stand for examination before they are +admitted. An old proverb says, "Before you make a friend, eat a peck +of salt with him." We should try before we trust; and as we should be +careful whom we receive, we should be equally careful whom we part +with. "Thine own friend, and thy father's friend, forsake not." With +some, very little severs the bond of friendship. They are always +changing their companions. They are "Hail fellow, well met," with one +to-day, and cold and distant to-morrow. Inconstancy in friendship is a +bad sign. It generally arises from readiness to admit to intimacy +without sufficient examination. The friendship that is quickly +cemented is easily dissolved. Fidelity is the very essence of true +friendship; and, once broken, it cannot be easily renewed. Quarrels +between friends are the bitterest and the most lasting. Broken +friendship may be soldered, but never made sound. + + Alas! they had been friends in youth, + But whispering tongues can poison truth. + * * * * + They parted, ne'er to meet again, + But never either found another + To free the hollow heart from paining. + They stood aloof, the scars remaining, + Like cliffs which had been rent asunder; + A dreary sea now flows between. + COLERIDGE. + + +Shakespeare gives this rule for friendship in his own wonderful way. +It could not be better stated-- + + The friends thou hast, and their adoption tried, + Grapple them to thy soul with hooks of steel; + But do not dull thy palm with entertainment + Of each new-hatched, unfledged comrade. + + +II. We should refuse friendship with those whose standard of right is +below our own.--Anything in a man or woman that indicates low moral +tone, or want of principle, should debar them at once from our +friendship. It is not easy to say in so many words what want of +principle is, but we all know what is meant by it. It corresponds to a +constitutional defect in the physical system. A person may have +ailments, but that is different from a weak and broken constitution. +So a person may have faults and failings, but a want of principle is +more serious. It is a radical defect which should prevent friendship. +A small thing often shows us whether a person wants principle. The +single claw of a bird of prey tells us its nature. According to the +familiar saying, "We don't need to eat a leg of mutton to know whether +it is tainted; a mouthful is sufficient." So a single expression may +tell us whether there is a want of moral principle. A word showing us +that a person thinks lightly of honesty, of purity in man, of virtue in +woman, should be sufficient to make us keep him at a distance. We may +be civil to him, try to do him good, and lead him to better things, but +he is not one to make our friend. Cowper the poet says: + + I would not enter on my list of friends, + Though graced with polished manners and fine sense, + Yet wanting sensibility, the man + Who needlessly sets foot upon a worm. + +We may think it a small thing to set the foot upon a worm, but to do so +needlessly and wantonly indicates a hard and cruel nature, and a man +with such a nature is not a safe friend. + +III. There should be equality in friendship.--Equality of station, of +circumstances, of position. It does not do to lay down a hard and fast +line as to this. For instance, in a "young men's guild" men of all +stations and social conditions meet on an equality. They are a +brotherhood bound together by ties of a very close description. To +them this rule does not apply. Among members of such an association, a +young man may always fitly find a friend. It is friendships formed +outside such a circle, and in general society, that we have in view; +and, in regard to such society, we are probably not far wrong in saying +that we do well to choose our intimate friends from those who are +neither much above us nor beneath us. If a man is poor, and chooses as +a friend one who is rich, the chances are either that he becomes a +toady and a mere "hanger-on," or that he is made to feel his +inferiority. Young men in this way have been led into expenses which +they could not afford, and into society that did them harm, and into +debts sometimes that they could not pay. Making friends of those +beneath us is often equally a mistake. We come to look upon them with +patronizing affability. "It is well enough to talk of our humble +friends, but they are too often like poor relations. We accept their +services, and think that a mere 'thank you,' a nod, a beck, or a smile +is sufficient recompense." [2] Either to become a toady or a patron is +destructive of true friendship. We should be able to meet on the same +platform, and join hands as brothers, having the same feelings, the +same wants, the same aspirations. We should be courteous to the man +above us, and civil to the man beneath us; but if we value our +independence and manhood we will not try to make a friend of either. + +IV. We should not make a friend of one who is without reverence for +what we deem sacred and have been taught to deem sacred.--The want of +"reverence for that which is above us" is one of the most serious +defects in man or woman. We should be as slow to admit one to our +friendship who has this defect as we would be if we knew he had entered +into a church and stolen the vessels of the sanctuary. We should +consort only with those who honor the sacred name we bear, and treat it +with reverence. We should especially beware of admitting to intimacy +the sceptic and infidel. There are those who have drifted away from +the faith of Christ, and to whom God and eternity are mere names. Such +are deserving of our most profound pity and sorrow, and we should do +all in our power to lead them back to the Father's house from which +they have wandered. But we should never make them our friends. We +cannot dwell in an ill-ventilated and ill-drained house without running +the risk of having our own constitution lowered. We cannot associate +in close companionship with the infidel and the sceptic without +endangering our own spiritual life. Doubt is as catching as disease. +"Take my word for it," said the great Sir Robert Peel, who was a close +observer of men, "it is not prudent, as a rule, to trust yourself to +any man who tells you he does not believe in God, and in a future life +after death." We should choose our friends from those who have chosen +the better part, and day by day we shall feel the benefit of their +companionship in making us stronger and better. + +These are some plain rules drawn from long experience of life which may +be helpful to some. We may conclude by quoting the noble lines of +Tennyson in which he draws the picture of his friend, Arthur Hallam, +and the inspiration he drew from him: + + Thy converse drew us with delight, + The men of rathe and riper years: + The feeble soul, a haunt of fears, + Forgot his weakness in thy sight. + + On thee the loyal-hearted hung, + The proud was half disarm'd of pride, + Nor cared the serpent at thy side + To flicker with his double tongue. + + The stern were mild when thou wert by, + The flippant put himself to school + And heard thee, and the brazen fool + Was soften'd, and he knew not why; + + While I, thy nearest, sat apart, + And felt thy triumph was as mine; + And loved them more, that they were thine, + The graceful tact, the Christian art; + + Nor mine the sweetness or the skill, + But mine the love that will not tire, + And, born of love, the vague desire + That spurs an imitative will. + TENNYSON. + + +Happy are those whose friends in some degree approach the character +here delineated. + + + +[1] Stalker's _Imago Christi_. + +[2] Hain Friswell, _The Gentle Life_. + + + + +CHAPTER V. + +MONEY. + +Money has been defined as _the measure and standard of value, and the +medium of exchange_. It represents everything that may be purchased. +He who possesses money has potentially in his possession everything +that can be bought with money. Money is thus power. It seems to have +in itself all earthly possibilities. + +There are three things which should be borne in mind in regard to money: + +I. Money itself is neither good nor bad.--It is simply force. It is +like the lightning or the sunlight: it withers or nourishes; it smites +or does other bidding; it devastates or fertilizes, according as it is +used by us. Whether money is good or bad depends on whether it is +sought for in right or wrong ways, used wisely or unwisely, squandered +where it does harm, or bestowed where it does good. (_a_) That it may +be a power for good is evident to all. It enables men to benefit their +fellow-creatures; it gives a man independence; it procures him comforts +he could not otherwise have obtained. It is, as it has well been +termed, "the lever by which the race has been lifted from barbarism to +civilization. So long as the race could do nothing but barely live, +man was little more than an animal who hunted and fought for his prey. +When the race began to think and plan and save for tomorrow, it +specially began to be human. There is not a single feature of our +civilization to-day that has not sprung out of money, and that does not +depend on money for its continuance." (_b_) That money may be a power +for evil is equally evident. Much of the crime and sin and sorrow of +the world spring from its misuse. "The love of money," as Scripture +says, "is a root of all evil." In the haste to be rich men too often +lose their very manhood. Money, it is often said, does wonders, but +"the most wonderful thing that it does is to metalize the human soul." + +II. Money and our relation to it is a test of character--The making +and the using of it is an education. If we know how one gets and +spends money, we know what a man is. "So many are the bearings of +money upon the lives and characters of mankind, that an insight which +would search out the life of a man in his pecuniary relations would +penetrate into almost every cranny of his nature. He who, like St. +Paul, has learnt how to want and how to abound, has a great knowledge; +for if we take account of all the virtues with which money is mixed +up--honesty, justice, generosity, charity, frugality, forethought, +self-sacrifice, and their correlative vices--it is a knowledge which +goes to cover the length and breadth of humanity, and a right measure +and manner in getting, saving, spending, taking, lending, borrowing and +bequeathing would almost argue a perfect man." [1] Nearly all the +virtues and all the vices are connected with money. Its acquisition +and its distribution are almost certain indications of what we are +morally. + +III. There are some things that are better than money, and that cannot +be purchased with it--These are indeed the best things. All that can +be bought money possesses actually or potentially, but there are some +things that cannot be bought. Love, friendship, nobleness of soul, +genius, cannot be purchased. We must estimate rightly the power of +money. It is great, but it may be exaggerated, (_a_) _Honesty_ is +better than money. If a man gains money at the expense of honesty and +integrity, he pays too great a price. He is like a savage who barters +jewels for a string of beads. (_b_) _Home_ is better than money. If a +man, struggling and striving to be rich, has no time for the joys of +family and the rich blessings that circle round the fireside, if he +knows nothing of the charm of love and the pleasures that spring from +the affections, he pays too great a price--"a costly house and +luxurious furnishings are no substitute for love in the home." (_c_) +_Culture_ is better than money. If a man grows up in ignorance and +vulgarity, shut out from the world of art, literature and science, and +all that refines and elevates the mind--a rude, uncultured boor--he +pays too great a price for any money he may scrape together. (_d_) +_Humanity_ is better than money. The rich man who leaves Lazarus +untended at his gates, who builds about him walls so thick that no cry +from the suffering world ever penetrates them, who becomes mean and +stingy, close-fisted and selfish, pays too great a price. Of such a +man it is said in Scripture that "in hell he lifted up his eyes." +Surely he made a bad bargain, (_e_) _Spirituality_ is better than +money. He who has made an idol of his wealth, who in gaining it has +lost his soul, who has allowed money to come between him and God, has +paid too great a price for it. He has well been depicted by John +Bunyan as the man with the muck-rake gathering straws, whilst he does +not see the golden crown that is held above him. Christ tells us God +regards such a man as a fool. + +There are certain rules of conduct which may be laid down, drawn both +from Scripture and experience, in regard to money. + +1. _We are especially to remember our stewardship_.--Money is a trust +committed to us, for which we are to give account unto God. We are +answerable to Him for the use we make of it. If we have amassed +wealth, from God has come the power that enabled us to do so. All we +have is His--not our own. To each of us shall be addressed the words, +"Give an account of thy stewardship, for thou mayest be no longer +steward." If we remember this great truth we shall be rightly guided, +both in regard to the accumulation and the distribution of money. We +shall not inordinately desire it, for we shall feel that with its +increase comes new responsibility; and we shall be careful how we spend +it, for the question will ever be present to our minds, What would the +great Master, to whom we have to give account, wish us to do with it? +Those who have most wisely used their money are the men who have +realized most intensely the thought of their stewardship. In the "Life +of Mr. Moore," the successful merchant, by Smiles, this is most +admirably shown. He amassed, by industry and by enterprise, great +wealth; he lived a noble and benevolent life; he was honored by all men +for his character and his generosity. But at the root and foundation +of his life was the thought that all he had was a trust committed to +him by God. + +2. _We should do good as we go_.--There are those who allow that they +should do good with their money, but they defer carrying out their +intention till they have accumulated something that they think +considerable. If they ever become rich, then they will do great +things. The folly of this is apparent, (_a_) They lose the happiness +which the humblest may daily reap from small deeds of kindness; and +(_b_) they lose the power which will enable them to do anything if the +great opportunity they desire comes. "Doing good," it has been well +said, "is a faculty, like any other, that becomes weak and atrophied, +palsied for lack of use. You might as well stop practising on the +piano, under the impression that in a year or two you will find time to +give a month to it. In the meantime, you will get out of practice and +lose the power. Keep your hand and your pocket open, or they will grow +together, so that nothing short of death's finger can unloose them." +[2] However little money we may have, we should use a portion of it in +doing good. The two mites of the widow were in the eye of Christ a +beautiful offering. Giving should always go with getting. Mere +getting injures us, but giving brings to us a blessing. "Gold," says +holy George Herbert, "thou mayest safely touch; but if it stick it +wounds thee to the quick." George Moore, to whom we have referred, +wrote yearly in his diary the words of wisdom-- + + What I saved I lost, + What I spent I had, + What I gave I have. + +What proportion of our money we should give every one must determine +for himself, but we are not safe spiritually unless we cultivate the +habit of generosity. "The Lord loveth a cheerful giver." "There are +many," it has been satirically said, "who would be Good Samaritans +without the oil and the two pence." All of us, however humble our +station, are bound to give "as God hath prospered us" for the help of +man and the cause of Christ; and the discharge of the obligation will +become to us one of the greatest pleasures in life. + +3. _We should cultivate thrift_.--Thrift is just forethought. It is +reasonable prudence in regard to money. It provides for "the rainy +day." If poverty be our lot, we must bear it bravely; but there is no +special blessing in poverty. It is often misery unspeakable. It is +often brought upon us by our self-indulgence, extravagance and +recklessness. We are to use every means in our power to guard against +it. The words of the poet Burns are full of common-sense: + + To catch Dame Fortune's golden smile, + Assiduous wait upon her, + And gather gear by every wile + That's justified by honor; + Not for to hide it in a hedge, + Nor for a train attendant, + But for the glorious privilege + Of being independent. + +The squalor and wretchedness which often fall upon people come from +their not having exercised a little thought in the use of their money. +A little self-denial would have saved them, and those depending on +them, from many sorrows. A saving habit is good. "It is coarse +thinking to confound spending with generosity, or saving with +meanness." The man who puts by a little week by week or year by year, +against possible contingencies is wise. However small may be our +salary and limited our income, we should try and save part of it. +Every young man should be a member of a savings bank, or a benefit +club, by means of which he can make provision for the future. The +honest endeavor to make such provision is in itself an education. + +4. _We should earnestly endeavor to avoid debt_.--Debt means slavery. +It is loss of independence. It is misery. "He" (says a Spanish +proverb) "that complains of sound sleep, let him borrow the debtor's +pillow." Every shilling that we spend beyond our income means an +addition to a burden that may crush us to the ground. "Pay as you go," +is a good rule. "Keep a regular account of what you spend," is +another. "Before you buy anything, think whether you can afford it," +is a third. But whatever rule we follow in regard to our expenditure, +let us see that it does not exceed our income. The words of Horace +Greeley, a great American writer and politician who had a large +experience of life, are not too strong: "Hunger, cold, rags, hard work, +contempt, suspicion, unjust reproach, are disagreeable, but debt is +infinitely worse than them all. Never run into debt! Avoid pecuniary +obligation as you would pestilence or famine. If you have but fifty +cents and can get no more a week, buy a peck of corn, parch it, and +live on it, rather than owe any man a dollar." + +5. _We should resolutely set our face against gambling_.--Gambling is +one of the curses of our time. It is the endeavor to get money by +dispensing with labor, to make it without honestly working for it. It +entails widespread ruin and degradation. Its consequences are often of +the most appalling character. When the gambling spirit is once +aroused, like drunkenness, it becomes an overpowering appetite, which +the victim becomes almost powerless to resist. Gambling is in itself +evil, apart from its deadly effects. (_a_) It proposes to confer gain +without merit, and to reward those who do not deserve a reward, (_b_) +It proposes to benefit us while injuring our neighbor. "Benefit +received," says Herbert Spencer in his _Sociology_, referring to +gambling, "does not imply effort put forth; but the happiness of the +winner involves the misery of the loser. This kind of action is +therefore essentially anti-social, sears the sympathies, cultivates a +hard egoism, and produces general deterioration of character and +conduct." The young should specially guard against this vice, which +has been a rock upon which many a promising life has made disastrous +shipwreck. + + + +[1] Sir Henry Taylor, _Notes from Life_. + +[2] _Life Questions_, by M. J. Savage. + + + + +CHAPTER VI. + +TIME. + +"Time," it is said, "is money." So it is, without doubt. But to the +young man or young woman who is striving to make the most of himself or +herself time is more than money, it is character and usefulness. They +become great and good just as they learn how to make the best use of +their time. On the right employment of it depends what we are to be +now, and what we are to be hereafter, "We all complain," says the great +Roman philosopher Seneca, "of the shortness of time, and yet we have +more than we know what to do with. Our lives are spent either in doing +nothing at all, or in doing nothing to the purpose, or in doing nothing +that we ought to do. We are always complaining that our days are few, +and acting as though there would be no end of them." + +In regard to the right use of time--how to make the most of it and to +get the most out of it--there are certain things that we should bear in +mind and keep in constant remembrance. We may arrange them for +convenience under four heads: _Economy, System, Punctuality and +Promptitude_. + +I. Economy.--We all know what economy is. In regard to money, in +connection with which the word is chiefly used, it is keeping strict +watch over our expenditure, and not spending a penny without good +reason. According to the oft-quoted proverb, "Take care of the pence +and the pounds will take care of themselves." Economy, in regard to +time, is to watch over the minutes, hours and days, and the years will +take care of themselves. It is, to let every moment of time be well +employed; to let every hour of the day as it passes be turned to use; +to let none be spent in idleness or folly. It is a good advice that of +the poet-- + + Think nought a trifle though it small appears, + Sands make the mountain, moments make the years, + And trifles life. + +In the mint, where money is coined, when the visitor reaches the room +where the gold coins are cast, it is said that the floor is a network +of wooden bars to catch all the particles of the falling metal. When +the day's work is done, the floor is removed and the golden dust is +swept up to be melted again. In the same way we should economize time: +gather up its golden dust, let none of its moments be lost. Be careful +of its spare minutes, and a wealth of culture will be the result. It +is said of a European cathedral that when the architect came to insert +the stained-glass windows he was one window short. An apprentice in +the factory where the windows were made came forward and said that he +thought he could make a window from the bits of glass cast aside. He +went to work, collected the fragments, put them together, and produced +a window said to be the finest of all. In the same way men have made +much out of the bits of time that have been, so to speak, broken from +the edges of a busy life. + +Many illustrations might be given from history of what men have been +able to do by a wise economy of time. Sir Humphry Davy established a +laboratory in the attic of his house, and when his ordinary day's work +was done began a course of scientific studies that continued throughout +his memorable life. Cobbett learned grammar when a soldier, sitting on +the edge of his bed. Lincoln, the famous president of America, +acquired arithmetic during the winter evenings, mastered grammar by +catching up his book at odd moments when he was keeping a shop, and +studied law when following the business of a surveyor. Douglas +Jerrold, during his apprenticeship, arose with the dawn of day to study +his Latin grammar, and read Shakespeare and other works before his +daily labor began at the printing office. At night, when his day's +work was done, he added over two hours more to his studies. At +seventeen years of age he had so mastered Shakespeare that when anyone +quoted a line from the poet he could give from memory that which came +next. While walking to and from his office Henry Kirke White acquired +a knowledge of Greek. A German physician, while visiting his patients, +contrived to commit to memory the _Iliad_ of Homer. Hugh Miller, while +working as a stonemason, studied geology in his off hours. Elihu +Burritt, "the learned blacksmith," gained a mastery of eighteen +languages and twenty-two dialects by using the odds and ends of time at +his disposal. Franklin's hours of study were stolen from the time his +companions devoted to their meals and to sleep.[1] Many similar +instances might be added to show what may be done by economising time +and strictly looking after those spare minutes which many throw away. +The great rule is, never to be unemployed, and to find relief in +turning from one occupation to another, due allowance of course being +made for recreation and for rest. The wise man economises time as he +economises money. + +II. System.--It is wonderful how much work can be got through in a day +if we go by rule--if we map out our time, divide it off and take up one +thing regularly after another. To drift through our work, or to rush +through it in _helter skelter_ fashion, ends in comparatively little +being done. "One thing at a time" will always perform a better day's +work than doing two or three things at a time. By following this rule +one person will do more in a day than another does in a week. "Marshal +thy notions," said old Thomas Fuller, "into a handsome method. One +will carry twice as much weight trussed and packed as when it lies +untoward, flapping and hanging about his shoulders." Fixed rules are +the greatest possible help to the worker. They give steadiness to his +labor, and they enable him to go through it with comparative ease. +Many a man would have been saved from ruin if he had appreciated the +value of method in his affairs. In the peasant's cottage or the +artisan's workshop, in the chemist's laboratory or the shipbuilder's +yard, the two primary rules must be, "For every one his duty," and, +"For everything its place." + +It is a wise thing to begin the day by taking a survey in thought of +the work we have to get through, and thus to divide it, giving to each +hour its own share. The shortest way to do many things is to do one +thing at a time. Albert Barnes was a distinguished American theologian +who wrote a valuable commentary on the Bible amid the work of a large +parish. He accomplished this by systematic arrangement of his time. +He divided his day into parts. He devoted each part to some duty. He +rigidly adhered to this arrangement, and in this way was able to +overtake an amount of work that was truly wonderful. In the life of +Anthony Trollope, the great novelist, we are told that he kept +resolutely close to a rule he laid down for himself. He wrote so many +pages a day of so many lines each. He overtook an immense amount of +work in the year. He published many books, and he made a great deal of +money. The great English lawyer Sir Edward Coke divided his time +according to the well-known couplet-- + + Six hours in sleep, in law's grave study six, + Four spend in prayer, the rest on nature fix. + +Sir William Jones, the famous Oriental scholar, altered this rule to +suit himself. + + Seven hours to law, to soothing slumber seven, + Ten to the world allot, and all to Heaven. + +Benjamin Franklin's system of working is given in his "Life." Each day +was carefully portioned off. His daily programme was the following: + + + Morning. ) Rise, wash, and address the + 5 ) Almighty Father; contrive + [Question, What good 6 ) the day's business and take + shall I do this day?] 7 ) the resolution of the day; + ) prosecute the present study, + ) breakfast. + + 8 ) + to ) Work + 11 ) + + 12 ) Read or look over accounts and + Noon. to ) dine. + 1 ) + + 2 ) + Afternoon, to ) Work + 5 ) + + 6 ) Put things in their place; + Evening to ) supper; music or diversion or + [Question, What good 9 ) conversation; examination of + have I done to-day?] ) the day. + + 10 ) + Night to ) Sleep. + 4 ) + + +It is evident that a scheme of life like this could not suit everyone. +It is given as an illustration of the value of adhering to method in +our work. "Order," the poet Pope says, "is Heaven's first law," and +time well ordered means generally work well and thoroughly done. + +III. Punctuality.--This means keeping strictly as to time by any +engagement we make either with ourselves or with others. If we resolve +to do anything at a certain time, we should do it neither before nor +after that time. It is better to be before than after. But it is best +to be at the very minute. If we enter into an engagement with others +for a certain time, we should be precise in keeping it. In a letter +from a celebrated merchant, Buxton, to his son, he says, "Be punctual; +I do not mean merely being in time for lectures, but mean that spirit +out of which punctuality grows, that love of accuracy and precision +which mark the efficient man. The habit of being punctual extends to +everything--meeting friends, paying debts, going to church, reaching +and leaving place of business, keeping promises, retiring at night and +rising in the morning." We may lay down a system or method of work for +ourselves, but it will be of little service unless we keep carefully to +it, beginning and leaving off at the appointed moment. If the work of +one hour is postponed to another, it will encroach on the time allotted +to some other duty, if it do not remain altogether undone, and thus the +whole business of the day is thrown into disorder. If a man loses half +an hour by rising late in the morning, he is apt to spend the rest of +the day seeking after it. Sir Walter Scott was not only methodical in +his work, he was exceedingly punctual, always beginning his allotted +task at the appointed moment. "When a regiment," he wrote, "is under +march, the rear is often thrown into confusion because the front does +not move steadily and without interruption. It is the same thing in +business. If that which is first in hand be not instantly despatched, +other things accumulate betimes, till affairs begin to press all at +once, and no brain can stand the confusion." We should steadily +cultivate the habit of punctuality. We can cultivate it until it +becomes with us a second nature, and we do everything, as the saying +is, "by clockwork." In rising in the morning and going to bed, in +taking up different kinds of work, in keeping appointments with others, +we should strive to be "to the minute." The unpunctual man is a +nuisance to society. He wastes his own time, and he wastes the time of +others; as Principal Tulloch well says, "Men who have real work of +their own would rather do anything than do business with him." [2] + +IV. Promptitude.--By this we mean acting at the present moment--all +that is opposed to procrastination, putting off to another time, to a +"convenient season" which probably never comes--all that is opposed +also to what is called "loitering" or "dawdling." There is an old +Latin proverb, "_Bis dat qui cito dat,_"--he gives twice who gives +quickly. The same thing may be said of work, "He works twice who works +quickly." In work, of course, the first requirement is that it should +be well done; but this does not hinder quickness and despatch. There +are those who, when they have anything to do, seem to go round it and +round it, instead of attacking it at once and getting it out of the +way; and when they do begin it they do so in a listless and +half-hearted fashion. There are those who look at their work, +according to the simile of Sidney Smith, like men who stand shivering +on the bank instead of at once taking the plunge. "In order," he says, +"to do anything that is worth doing in this world, we must not stand +shivering on the bank thinking of the cold and the danger, but jump in +and scramble through as well as we can. It will not do to be +perpetually calculating and adjusting nice chances; it did all very +well before the Flood, when a man could consult his friends upon an +intended publication for a hundred and fifty years, and then live to +see its success for six or seven centuries afterwards, but at present a +man doubts, and waits, and hesitates, and consults his brother, and his +uncle, and his first cousin, and his particular friends, till one day +he finds that he is sixty-five years of age, that he has lost so much +time in consulting first cousins and particular friends that he has no +time to follow their advice." This is good sense, though humorously +put. Promptitude is a quality that should be assiduously cultivated. +Like punctuality, it becomes a most valuable habit. "Procrastination," +it is said, "is the thief of time," and "hell is paved with good +intentions." These proverbs are full of wisdom. When we hear people +saying, "They are going to be this thing or that thing; they _intend_ +to look to this or to that; they will by and by do this or that," we +may be sure there is a weakness in their character. Such people never +come to much. The best way is not to _speak_ about doing a thing, but +_to do it_, and to do it _at once_. + +To these thoughts on the use of time we may fitly add the great words +of Scripture, "So teach us to number our days that we may apply our +hearts unto wisdom," Ps. xc. 12. "Redeeming the time, because the days +are evil," Ephes. v. 16. We transform time into eternity by using it +aright. + + + +[1] These illustrations are given by Mr. Davenport Adams. + +[2] _Beginning Life_. + + + + +CHAPTER VII. + +COURAGE. + +We all know what is meant by courage, though it is not easy to define +it. It is the determination to hold our own, to face danger without +flinching, to go straight on our way against opposing forces, neither +turning to the right hand nor the left. + +It is a quality admirable in the eyes of all men, savage and civilized, +Christian and non-Christian--as admirable as cowardice, the opposite +quality, is detestable. The brave man is the hero of the savage. +Bravery, or, as the Scriptures term it, _virtue_, is a great requisite +in a Christian. If it is not the first, it is the second +characteristic of a Christian life. "Add," says St. Paul, "to your +faith virtue," that is to say, courage. + +It is the very glory of youth to be courageous.--The "sneak" and the +"coward" are the abhorrence of youth. It is youth which climbs "the +imminent deadly breach" and faces the deadly hail of battle, which +defies the tyranny of custom and the hatred of the world. One may have +compassion for age, which is naturally timid and sees fears in the way, +but youth which is cowardly is contemptible. + +There are two kinds of courage--the one of a lower, the other of a +higher type. (_a_) The first, the lower kind of courage, is that which +has its root and foundation in our physical nature. It is +constitutional; there is little or no merit in it. Some men are born +to know no fear--men of strong nerve, of iron constitution, and +powerful physique. Such men laugh at danger and scorn opposition. +Theirs is the courage of the lion or the bull-dog, and there is no +virtue about it. They cannot help being what they are. (_b_) But +there is another kind of courage which is not so much physical as +_moral_. It has its foundation not in man's bodily constitution so +much as in his higher nature. It draws its power from the invisible. +"Are you not afraid," was a question put by a young and boastful +officer to his companion whose face was blanched and pale, as they +stood together amid the thickly falling shot of a battle-field. "I +_am_ afraid," he replied, "and if you were half as afraid as I am, you +would run." In his case there was little physical courage, but there +was the higher courage drawn from a sense of duty which made him stand +firm as a rock. When our Lord knelt in His mysterious anguish in +Gethsemane, His whole physical nature seemed broken down, "His sweat +was as it were great drops of blood falling down to the ground." +"Suffer," He said, "this cup to pass from me"; and His strength came +from the invisible. "Not my will," He cried, "but thine be done." +With that sublime trust in God strengthening Him, He shrank not back +for a moment; He took the cup and drained it to the dregs. This is the +highest form of courage that there is. The weakest women have +displayed it in face of appalling dangers. It is the courage of the +martyr, the patriot, the reformer. There is a glory and beauty in it +before which all men bow. + +There are three chief forms which this moral courage takes in ordinary +life. + +_First, there is the courage of our opinions_.--Many people, perhaps +the majority, do not have opinions. They have simply notions, +impressions, sentiments, prejudices, which they have imbibed from +others. They may be said to be like looking-glasses, which have a +shadow of whatever stands before them. So long as they are in company +with a positive person who believes something, they have an opinion. +When he goes the shadow on the looking-glass goes also. They are like +the sand on the seashore--the last person who comes the way makes a +track and the next wave washes it away and leaves the sand ready for +another impression. How many are there who, when any important +question comes up, have no opinion about it, until they read their +paper or hear what other people are saying. There is no sort of +courage more needed than the courage to form an opinion and keep by it +when we have formed it. There is no more contemptible form of +cowardice than to do a thing merely because others do it. The grand +words of President Garfield of the United States are worthy of +remembrance: "I do not think what others may say or think about me, but +there is one man's opinion about me which I very much value, that is +the opinion of James Garfield; others I need not think about. I can +get away from them, but I have to be with him all the time. He is with +me when I rise up and when I lie down, when I go out and when I come +in. It makes a great difference whether he thinks well of me or not." +To this noble utterance we may add the words of the poet Russell Lowell: + + They are slaves who will not choose + Hatred, scoffing, and abuse, + Rather than in silence shrink + From the truth they needs must think. + They are slaves who dare not be + In the right with two or three. + + +_Second, there is the courage of resistance_.--This is the chief form +courage should take in the young. They are surrounded on every side by +strong temptations--temptations addressed to their lower nature, to +vanity, to indolence, to scepticism, to impurity, to drunkenness. +There is many a young man beset by temptation who has in reality to +fight far harder if he will maintain his integrity than any soldier +belonging to an army making its way through an enemy's country. He +does not know when an ambush may be sprung upon him, or from what side +the attack may come. In an old tower on the Continent they show you, +graven again and again on the stones of one of the dungeons, the word +_Resist_. It is said that a Protestant woman was kept in that hideous +place for forty years, and during all that time her employment was in +graving with a piece of iron, for anyone who might come after her, that +word. It is a word that needs to be engraven on every young man's and +young woman's heart. It represents the highest form of courage which +to them is possible--the power to say "No" to every form of temptation. + +_Third, there is the courage of endurance_.--This is really the noblest +form of courage. There is no excitement in it; nothing to be won by +it. It is simply to bear without flinching. In the buried city of +Herculaneum, near Vesuvius, now uncovered, after the guide has shown +the visitor the wonders of the place he takes him to the gate and +points out the stone box where were found, buried in ashes, the rusted +remains of the helmet and cuirass of the Roman sentinel. When the +black cloud rose from the mountain, and the hot ashes fell around him, +and the people rushed out at the gate, he stood there immovable, +because it was his duty, and died in his place, suffocated by the +sulphury air. It was a grand instance of courage, but it is seen again +and again equalled in common life. In men and women stricken down by +fell disease; in those on whom adverse circumstances close like the +walls of an iron chamber; in people for whom there was no possible +escape, who could only bear, but who stood up firm and erect in their +weakness, whose cross, instead of crushing them to the earth, seemed +only to lift them up. We are told that Robert Hall, the great +preacher, suffered much from disease. He was forced often to throw +himself down and writhe on the ground in paroxysms of pain. From these +he would rise with a smile, saying, "I suffered much, but I did not cry +out, did I? did I cry out?" + +These are the chief forms of moral courage in ordinary life. We have +now to point out what are the sources of such courage. + +The first source of courage is conviction--the feeling that we are in +the right, the "testimony of a good conscience." Nothing can make a +man brave without that. "Thrice is he armed," we are told, "who hath +his quarrel just," and he is more than trebly armed who knows in his +heart that it is just. If we go over the roll of the strongest and +bravest men the world has seen we will find that at the root of their +courage there lay this fact of conviction. They _believed_, therefore +they spake, therefore they fought, therefore they bled and died. The +man of strong conviction is the strong man all the world over. If a +man wants that, he will be but a feeble character, a poor weakling to +the end of the chapter. Shakespeare says that "conscience makes +cowards of us all"; but it does something else when it makes us fear +evil--it lifts us above all other fear. So it raised Peter, who had +shortly before denied his Master, to such courage that he could say +before his judges, "Whether it be right in the sight of God to hearken +unto you more than unto God, judge ye. For we cannot but speak the +things which we have seen and heard." It has enabled men and women to +endure a martyr's death when one word, which they would not speak, +might have saved them. + +The second source of courage is faith.--We use the word in the +Christian sense of trust in God. When a man feels that God is with him +he can stand up against all the powers of earth and hell. "If God be +for us, who can be against us?" The heroes of the past, who subdued +kingdoms and wrought righteousness, have all been men of faith. Recall +Hebrews xi., the Covenanters, the Ironsides of Cromwell, the Huguenots, +Luther, Knox. Their faith may not have been so enlightened as it might +have been had their knowledge been wider. Their religious creeds may +have contained propositions that are no longer accepted, but they were +strong because of their undoubted faith in God. When His presence is +an abiding presence with us and in us, our + + Strength is as the strength of ten, + Because our hearts are pure. + +He who fears God will know no other fear. + +The third source of courage is sympathy.--A man who has God with him +will be brave if he stand alone, but he will be greatly helped if he is +in company with others like himself and knows that he has the sympathy +of good men. You remember St. Paul on his journey to Rome reaching a +little village about thirty miles from the great city. The look-out +for him was very depressing. He had appealed to Caesar, but what +likelihood was there of his obtaining justice in Caesar's capital. He +might be thrown to the lions, or made to fight for his life in the +Coliseum, a spectacle to the Roman multitude. Then it was that a few +Roman Christians who had heard of his approach came out to meet him, +and, it is said, "he thanked God and took courage." Such was the power +of sympathy. If we would be encouraged we will seek it. If we would +encourage others we will give it. + +We will only say in closing this chapter that its subject is most truly +illustrated by the life of our Lord himself. The mediaeval conception +of Christ was that He exhibited only the passive virtues of meekness, +patience, and submission to wrong. From the gospels we form a +different idea. He vanquished the devil in the wilderness; He faced +human opposition boldly and without fear; He denounced the hypocrisy of +the Pharisees, and encountered their rage and violence. He went calmly +along His appointed path, neither turning to the right hand nor to the +left. Scribes, Pharisees, Sadducees, could not deter Him from doing +His Father's work. Amid a tumultuous tempest of ill-will He moved +straight forward, foreseeing His death, "setting His face toward +Jerusalem," knowing all that awaited Him there. He went through +Gethsemane to Calvary with the step of a conqueror. Never was He more +truly a king than on the cross, and the grandest crown ever worn was +"the crown of thorns." In Him we have the highest example of courage, +as of all other virtues. + + + + +CHAPTER VIII. + +HEALTH. + +Health means soundness of body and of mind; the keeping of our physical +system in such a condition that it is able to do its work easily, +without disturbance, and without pain; the exercise of the mind so as +not to harm the body. There are certain preliminary considerations +that we should bear in mind in connection with this subject. + +I. The close connection between body and mind.--They are both related +to each other in some mysterious way. So close is the connection that +the one cannot be affected without the other. The well-being of the +one depends on the well-being of the other. The power which the mind +has over the body and the body over the mind has been well and tersely +described by a writer of our time. "Man," he says, "is one, however +compound. Fire his conscience, and he blushes; check his circulation, +and he thinks tardily or not at all; impair his secretions, and the +moral sense is dulled, discolored, or depraved, his aspirations flag, +his hope and love both reel; impair them still more, and he becomes a +brute. A cup of wine degrades his moral nature below that of the +swine. Again, a violent emotion of pity or horror makes him vomit; a +lancet will restore him from delirium to clear thought; excessive +thought will waste his energy; excess of muscular exercise will deaden +thought; an emotion will double the strength of his muscles; and at +last, a prick of a needle or a grain of mineral will in an instant lay +to rest forever his body and its unity." [1] When we consider the +close connection between mind and body, and how the state of the one +affects the other, we see how important it is that both should work +together in that harmonious action which is health, and how carefully +we should guard against anything by which that harmonious action may be +interrupted. + +II. Bodily health is almost essential to success in life.--It is not +_absolutely_ essential, but it is _almost_ essential. (_a_) Physical +health is not everything. "Give a man," it has been said, "a good deep +chest and a stomach of which he never knew the existence, and he must +succeed in any practical career." This has been said by a great +authority, Professor Huxley, but it is only partially true, for many +worthless people fulfil these conditions. They are, as Carlyle calls +them, only "animated patent digesters." (_b_) Great things also have +been done in the world by men whose health has been feeble. Calvin was +a man of sickly body; Pascal was an invalid at eighteen; Pope was weak +and deformed; William of Orange, a martyr to asthma; Hall, the famous +preacher, suffered great paroxysms of pain; Milton was blind; Nelson, +little and lame; St. Paul in bodily presence was weak. On the other +hand, some of these men might have done more if their health had been +better. Health is a splendid possession in the battle of life. The +men of great physical vitality, as a rule, achieve most; other things +being equal, their success in life is sure. Everything shows that the +greatness of great men is almost as much a bodily affair as a mental +one. It has been computed that the average length of life of the most +eminent philosophers, naturalists, artists, jurists, physicians, +musical composers, scholars and authors, including poets, is sixty-five +years. This shows that the most successful men on the whole have had +good bodies and been blessed with great vitality. + +III. The care of the body is a religious duty.--(_a_) It is so because +our spiritual feelings are largely dependent upon the state of our +health. "Certain conditions of body undeniably occasion, irritate and +inflame those appetites and inclinations which it is one great end of +Christianity to repress and regulate." The spirit has sometimes to +maintain a terrible struggle against the flesh. Intemperance is +largely the result of bad feeding. "It is easier for a camel to pass +through the eye of a needle," than for a dyspeptic person to be gentle, +meek, long-suffering. Dark views of God often come from the state of +the body. It would largely lift up the moral and spiritual condition +of men if their surroundings were such as tended to keep them in +health. To improve men's dwellings, to give them healthy homes, pure +air to breathe, and pure water to drink, would tend to help them +morally and spiritually, (_b_) God requires of us a certain amount of +service by and through our bodies. We cannot perform the work if we +destroy the machines by which the work is to be done. (_c_) Scripture +especially calls us to make the body the object of our reverent care. +"Your bodies are members of Christ." The body "is for the Lord, and +the Lord for the body." "Your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost, +which is in you, which ye have of God." "If any man defile the temple +of God, him will God destroy." Yield "your members as instruments of +righteousness unto God." Sin is not to "reign in your mortal body." +"Glorify God in your body." We are to "present our bodies a living +sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is our reasonable service." +(_d_) The body is a part of that humanity which Christ by His +_incarnation_ took, redeemed, sanctified and glorified. (_e_) Our +Lord's miracles were nearly all performed on the human body, for its +relief, cure, and restoration to life. + +IV. To a certain extent our health is in our own hands.--Not +altogether, for some are constitutionally defective, and subject to +infirmities with which they are born, and which they have perhaps +inherited. But a vast amount of disease is preventable, and comes from +causes over which we have direct control. "It is reckoned that a +hundred thousand persons die annually in England of preventable +diseases"--from disobedience to the laws of health, which are God's +laws, and the transgression of which, wilfully, is sin. Beyond all +doubt a vast amount of sickness comes from bad living, from +intemperance in eating and drinking, from breathing bad air, from +inhabiting ill-constructed houses. It is possible to live in +accordance with the laws of health so that life may be comparatively +free from disease and from pain. If Providence denies health, the want +of it must be patiently endured. If we have inherited weakness, we +must make the most of the strength we have. But if we lack health +through our own fault we are guilty of shameful sin. + +To discuss fully the subject and laws of health would require a whole +treatise, and would be beyond the scope of this text-book. There are, +however, some outstanding conditions for the preservation of health +which are plain to everyone, and which may be summed up in the three +words Temperance, Exercise, and Rest. These have been well termed the +three great physicians, whose prescriptions are painless and cost +nothing. + +1. _Temperance_.--Man needs a certain amount of food to sustain him, +but if that amount be increased beyond the proper quantity it is +dangerous to health. It overtasks the power of digestion and is +injurious. We need therefore to be constantly on our guard as to what +we eat and drink lest we run into excess. Every one must study his own +constitution, find out its need, and suit the supply of food to its +wants. According to the old proverb, "We should eat to live, not live +to eat." It is a great matter for health when we are able to strike +the proper medium and neither eat nor drink too much nor too little. +To lay down rules on this subject for the individual is impossible. +"One man's food is another man's poison." A man must determine from +his own experience what he ought to take, and how much, as well as what +he ought to avoid. The word intemperance is generally employed as +applying to the abuse of strong drinks. On this subject much has been +written, some advocating total abstinence and others judicious and +moderate use. Into this region of controversy we cannot enter. The +evils of drinking habits, as they are called, are plain to all. They +are a terrible curse to society, and a terrible danger to the +individual. They have ruined many a promising career. For many, +perhaps we may say for most, entire abstinence is their only safety. +He who finds that he can do his work well by drinking only water will +be wise if he drinks nothing else. That will never harm him, though +other liquids may. We must judge for ourselves, but "Temperance in all +things" is a rule binding on every Christian man. We cannot have +health unless we strictly and constantly practise temperance. + +2. _Exercise_.--This is as necessary to health as food. "Only by +exercise--physical exercise--can we maintain our muscles, organs and +nervous system in proper vigor; only by exercise can we equalise the +circulation and distribute the blood evenly over every part of the +body; only by exercise can we take a cheerful and wholesome view of +life, for exercise assists the digestion, and a good digestion is a +sovereign antidote to low spirits; only by exercise can the brain be +strengthened to perform the labor demanded of it." [2] No sensible man +will try to do without it. If any man does so he will pay the penalty. +As to the amount of exercise and the kind of exercise every man must +judge for himself. Some, from their occupation, need less than others; +the outdoor laborer, for instance, than the clerk who is most of the +day at the desk. One man may take exercise best by walking, another by +riding, another by following outdoor sports. Athletics, such as +football, and cricket, are a favorite form of exercise with the young, +and if not followed to excess are most advantageous. The walk in the +open air is life to many. But boy or man can never be what they ought +to be unless they take exercise regularly and judiciously, take it not +to exhaust but to refresh and stimulate. It strengthens the nerve and +clears the brain and fits for work. + +3. _Rest_.--Man needs a certain amount of repose to sustain his frame +in full vigor. Some need more, some need less. We must find out for +ourselves what we need and take it. Lack of sleep is especially a +great waste of vitality. Here also we must exercise our judgment as to +the amount of sleep we require. One needs a great deal; another can do +with very little. Early rising, which has been much recommended, is +only good for those who go early to bed. If one is compelled to sit up +late he should sleep late in the morning. It is no virtue on the part +of anyone to get up early unless he has slept enough. _That_ he must +do if he is to have health. A man who would be a good worker must see +to it that he is a good sleeper; and whoever, from any cause, is +regularly diminishing his sleep is destroying his life. Shakespeare +has well described the blessing of sleep when he says: + + Sleep that knits up the ravelled sleeve of care, + The death of each day's life, sore labor's bath, + Balm of hurt minds, great Nature's second course, + Chief nourisher in life's feast. + + +These are but _hints_ in connection with a great subject. A few brief +rules may be given of a general character: + +1. Take exercise every day in the open air if possible, and make it a +recreation and not merely a duty. + +2. Eat wholesome food, drink pure water. + +3. Let your house and room be well ventilated. + +4. Take time enough for sleep. Do not worry. + +5. Watch yourself, but not too closely, to find out what exercise, +air, diet, etc., agrees with you. No man can be a rule for another. + +6. If you consult a physician, it is better to do it before you are +unwell than later.[3] + +We close this chapter with the powerful words of Thomas Carlyle, +addressed to the students of the University of Edinburgh: "Finally, I +have one advice to give you which is practically of very great +importance. You are to consider throughout much more than is done at +present, and what would have been a very great thing for me if I had +been able to consider, that health is a thing to be attended to +continually; that you are to regard it as the very highest of all +temporal things. There is no kind of achievement you could make in the +world that is equal to perfect health. What to it are nuggets or +millions?" + + + +[1] Frederic Harrison, _Popular Science Monthly Supplement_. + +[2] _Plain Living and High Thinking_. + +[3] These rules are given by J. Freeman Clarke in his work on +Self-Culture. + + + + +CHAPTER IX. + +EARNESTNESS. + +Another word for earnestness is enthusiasm. The Scriptural equivalent +is zeal. It means putting our whole heart into whatever we are doing. +It is a sweeping, resistless energy, which carries everything before +it, like a river in full flood. Its nature is well expressed in the +saying of the old huntsman, "Throw over your heart, and your horse will +soon follow." + +Earnestness is not to be confounded with noise, vehemence, or outward +demonstration.--It is often exceedingly quiet and undemonstrative. +Notice when the machinery of an engine is standing still, how the steam +makes a great noise as it issues from the safety-valve, but when the +vapor is turned into the cylinder and is used in driving the engine all +that thundering sound disappears. It does not follow that there is no +steam. It is going in another direction, and doing its appropriate +work. It is a great mistake to imagine that enthusiasm and what is +called _fuss_ are identical. The most enthusiastic men are often the +quietest. No one can doubt the enthusiasm of a man like Livingstone. +He had enthusiasm for science, for philanthropy and for religion. It +was unflagging; yet not a boast, not a murmur escaped his lips. He did +the thing he meant to do, and made no noise in doing it. + +Earnestness is often regarded with suspicion and condemned.--It is the +fashion with many to sneer at it. It is often alone, and then it is +not respectable. It is often in excess, and is therefore ineffective. +It is often disturbing to the sleepiness of others, and is therefore +hated by them. Our Lord was an enthusiast in the eyes of the +Pharisees. St. Paul was an enthusiast to Festus. The early Christians +were enthusiasts to the pagan world because they turned it upside down. +The martyrs and confessors of all times have been regarded as +enthusiasts by those of their own time who were not in sympathy with +them. An enthusiast is called by many a fanatic, and a fanatic in the +eyes of some is a most dangerous member of society. + +All the great leaders of the world have been men in earnest.--Emerson +says truly that "every great and commanding movement in the annals of +the world is the triumph of enthusiasm." Our civil and religious +liberties we owe to enthusiasts for freedom. The enthusiasm of +Columbus gave us America; the enthusiasm of Knox reformed Scotland; the +enthusiasm of Wesley regenerated English religious life; the enthusiasm +of men like Garibaldi and Cavour and Mazzini has made in our own time a +new Italy. These men were all denounced in their day, cold water was +thrown on all their projects, but their burning earnestness carried +them on to triumph. The scorned enthusiast of one generation is the +hero of the next. + +Earnestness is a great element in securing success in life.--A +well-known writer and preacher, Dr. Arnot, tells that he once heard the +following conversation at a railway station between a farmer and the +engineer of a train: "What are you waiting for so long? Have you no +water?" "Oh, yes, we have plenty of water, but it is not boiling." So +there may be abundance of intelligence and splendid machinery, and all +the appliances that help to success, but what is wanted is intense +boiling earnestness. We have a good illustration of the power of +earnestness in speaking. One man may say the right thing, and say it +in a pleasing and cultured manner; every phrase may be well placed, +every sentence polished, every argument in its proper place. Another +man may have no elegance of diction, his words may be unpolished, his +sentences even ungrammatical, and yet he may move a great multitude, as +the leaves of the trees are moved by the wind, through the intense +earnestness and enthusiasm by which he is possessed. We see the same +thing in Christian effort. The organization of a church may be +perfect, its resources may be large, and it may have in its service an +army of able and well-disciplined men; but without enthusiasm and +burning zeal its efforts are powerless and come to nothing. When, as +at Pentecost, the Holy Spirit descends upon a church in tongues of +fire, then there is quickening, and souls are gathered in. No man has +ever had a supreme influence over others without more or less +enthusiasm in his nature. + +There are three directions we may give in regard to earnestness or +enthusiasm. + +1. _Respect it in others_.--Do not join with those who regard it as +something that is not respectable. It is always preferable to what is +cold and formal. Life is better than death, and when there is life +there is energy and earnestness. Even when enthusiasm takes forms that +we cannot altogether approve of, it is worthy of respect. "Next to +being Servetus who was burnt," said one, "I would have been Calvin who +burnt him." That was a strong way of saying that zeal is a beautiful +thing in itself, though "zeal that is not according to knowledge" is +not good. We may not approve of many of the opinions and methods of +Francis Xavier, the great missionary and saint of the Roman Church, but +we cannot fail to admire his burning zeal in the cause of Christ, and +look with something like awe on his high-souled devotion to the work of +an evangelist. He was swept on by an enthusiasm that never failed, and +which carried him over obstacles that would have daunted any ordinary +man. The Puritans were denounced by many good people of their time, +and the great preacher, Dr. South, delivered a sermon against them, +entitled "Enthusiasts not led by the Spirit of God." But we all know +how great the men were, and how great a work they did through the very +enthusiasm that he condemned. "It is better," according to the +proverb, "that the pot should boil over than not boil at all." The +word enthusiasm literally means filled, or inspired, by God, and the +meaning of the word may teach us how noble a thing enthusiasm is in +itself, and how worthy it is of admiration and respect. + +2. _We should cultivate it in ourselves_.--It is a virtue, like all +others, that can be cultivated. (_a_) By resolutely setting our face +against doing anything in a languid and half-hearted way. If a thing +is worth doing, it should be done "with all our might." (_b_) By +studying the lives of great men. When we do so we catch something of +the earnestness that inspired them. This is perhaps the best result of +reading biography. We feel how noble was the enthusiasm of the heroes +of the past, and how, by means of it, they were able to do great +things, and to march on to victory. (_c_) By associating with those +who are in earnest. There is nothing so contagious as enthusiasm, and +when we come in contact with those who live under the impulse of grand +ideas, something of their force and power is conveyed to ourselves. +The great soul strengthens the weak soul. While the solitary coal on +the hearth will go black out, when it is heaped up with others it +springs into a blaze. + + O ever earnest sun! + Unwearied in thy work, + Unhalting in thy course, + Unlingering in thy path, + Teach me thy earnest ways, + That mine may be a life of steadfast work and praise. + + O ever earnest stars! + Unchanging in your light, + Unfaltering in your race, + Unswerving in your round, + Teach me your earnest ways, + That mine may be a life of steadfast work and praise. + + O ever earnest flowers! + That with untiring growth + Shoot up and spread abroad + Your fragrance and your joy, + Teach me your earnest ways, + That mine may be a life of steadfast work and praise. + + O ever earnest sea! + Constant in flow and ebb, + Heaving to moon and sun, + Unchanging in thy change, + Teach me thy earnest ways, + That mine may be a life of steadfast work and praise. + HORATIUS BONAR. + +3. _We should carry earnestness into our religious life_.--This above +all. There are many who tolerate earnestness in other things, but who +look upon it as dangerous in connection with religion. It is regarded +as of very questionable value, and spoken of with doubt and suspicion. +Let a man become earnest in prayer, earnest in work, or rise in any way +above the dead level in which so many are content to rest, and he will +be often spoken of in tones of pity, sneered at as a fanatic, or +denounced as an impostor. This suspicion with which earnestness in the +Church of Christ is often regarded may be accounted for. (_a_) There +has been a vast deal of zeal in the Church about religion which has not +been zeal for religion: about matters of ritual, Church government, and +the like. (_b_) Zeal has been often expended in contentions about +small points of doctrine; often about those very points which are +shrouded in mystery. (_c_) Zeal has been often manifested in the +interest of sect and party rather than of Christ. (_d_) Zeal has often +taken persecution for her ally, and wielded among men the weapons of +earthly warfare. For these reasons its appearance in the Church is +often regarded as we might regard the erection in a town of a gunpowder +magazine which, at any moment, might produce disorder, ruin, and death. + +_Yet Scripture regards earnestness in religion as +essential_.--Indifference and lukewarmness it regards as hateful (Rev. +iii. 15, 16). It calls us to a solemn choice and to a lifelong +service. Its heroes are those who lived in the spirit of Brainerd's +prayer, "Oh, that I were a flaming fire in the service of my God." +There is an allegory of Luther which may be quoted here. "The devil," +he says, "held a great anniversary, at which his emissaries were +convened to report the results of their several missions. 'I let loose +the wild beasts of the desert,' said one, 'on a caravan of Christians, +and their bones are now bleaching on the sands.' 'What of that?' said +the devil; 'their souls were all saved.' 'I drove the east wind,' said +another, 'against a ship freighted with Christians, and they were all +drowned.' 'What of that?' said the devil; 'their souls were all +saved.' 'For ten years I tried to get a single Christian asleep,' said +a third, 'and I succeeded, and left him so.' Then the devil shouted, +and the night stars of hell sang for joy." + +There are three spheres of religious life in which earnestness should +be specially shown. + +1. _In prayer_.--This is specially inculcated in the two parables of +our Lord, the "unjust judge" and "the friend at midnight," and in His +own words, "Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; +knock, and it shall be opened unto you." One, it is said, came to +Demosthenes, the great orator, and asked him to plead his cause. He +heard him without attention while he told his story without +earnestness. The man saw this, and cried out anxiously that it was all +true. "Ah!" said Demosthenes, "I believe you _now_." The earnest +prayer is the prevailing prayer. + +2. _In sacrifice_.--This is in all life the test of earnestness. The +student giving up time for the acquisition of knowledge; the merchant +giving up his hours to the pursuit of business; the explorer braving +the heat of the tropics and the cold of the arctic regions in his zeal +for discovery. It is the same in religion. We must count all things, +with St. Paul, "as loss, that we may win Christ, and be found in Him." + +3. _In impressing others_.--It is "out of the heart that the mouth +speaketh," and power to impress others is given only to those who do so +with a full heart, and who are consumed with a burning zeal for the +salvation of souls. These are they whom God has, in all ages, blessed +in the conversion of men. + + + + +CHAPTER X. + +MANNERS. + +The word manners comes from the Latin _manus_, the hand, and literally +means the mode in which a thing is handled--behavior, deportment. +Manners may be defined as the pleasing or unpleasing expression of our +thoughts and intentions, whether in word or action. We may say or do a +thing in an agreeable or a disagreeable way. According as we choose +the one or the other, our manners may be said to be good or bad. + +Good manners are the result of two things.--(_a_) Self-respect and +(_b_) consideration for the feelings of others. The man who respects +himself will be careful to say or do nothing that may seem to others +degrading or unworthy. The man who has consideration for the feelings +of others will be equally careful to do or say nothing that may give +them pain, or be offensive to them. + +Good manners beautify character.--It was a celebrated saying of an old +bishop, William of Wykeham, "Manners maketh man." This is, however, +only partially true. Manners do not make a man any more than good +clothes make a man, but if he _is made_ they greatly improve him. Some +have been truly excellent who have had an uncouth and unpolished +address, but that was rather to their disadvantage than otherwise. +"Rough diamonds" are always precious, but a diamond that is cut and +polished, while it retains its value, is much more beautiful. Civility +of speech, politeness of address, courtesy in our dealings with others, +are qualities that adorn a man, whilst rudeness, incivility, roughness +in behavior, detract greatly from his value, and injure his usefulness. +Tennyson's words are true: + + Manners are not idle, but the fruit + Of noble nature and of loyal mind. + + +Good manners tend greatly to success in life.--Coarseness and gruffness +lock doors, gentleness and refinement open them, while the rude, +boorish man is shunned by all. Take the case of a speaker addressing a +public meeting. What he says is weighty and important. His arguments +are powerful and well marshalled, but his speech is uncouth and +disagreeable. He says things that are coarse and vulgar. His bad +manner vastly takes away from the impression which he desires to make, +and which, if his manner had been different, he would have made. +Again, two young men serve in a place of business. The one is gentle +in his demeanor, meets his customers with a pleasant smile, is always +polite. The other is rough in his deportment, apparently does not care +whether those he deals with are pleased or not. The one is a favorite +with everybody; the other, who may be equally worthy as far as +character is concerned, is disliked. + +Good manners often disarm opposition.--People may have a prejudice +against ourselves personally, or against the cause we represent. It is +wonderful, however, how much may be done to soften them by habitual +courtesy towards them, and by studiously avoiding anything calculated +to offend them or rouse their anger. A wise man will always endeavor +to be specially civil towards any one who differs from him. It is +related that in the early days of the Abolition movement in the United +States, two men went out preaching: one, a sage old Quaker, brave and +calm; the other, a fervid young man. When the Quaker lectured, the +audience were all attention, and his arguments met with very general +concurrence. But when it came to the young man's turn, a tumult +invariably ensued, and he was pelted off the platform. Surprised by +their different receptions, the young man asked the Quaker the reason. +"Friend," he said, "you and I are on the same mission; we preach the +same things; how is it that while _you_ are received so cordially, I +get nothing but abuse?" "I will tell thee," replied the Quaker; "thee +says, 'If you do so and so, you shall be punished,' and I say, 'My +friends, if you will _but_ do so and so, you shall not be punished.' +It is not what we say, but how we say it." [1] In _The Memorials of a +Quiet Life_ it is said of Augustus Hare that, on a road along which he +frequently passed, there was a workman employed in its repair who met +his gentle questions and observations with gruff answers and sour +looks. But as day after day the persevering mildness of his words and +manner still continued, the rugged features of the man gave way, and +his tone assumed a softer character. Politeness is the oiled key that +will open many a rusty lock. + +Good manners may be summed up in the one word, Gentleman.--That term +implies all that good-manners ought to be. The original derivation of +the word is from the Latin _gentilis_, belonging to a tribe or _gens_; +and in its first signification it applies to those of noble descent or +family; but it has come to mean something far wider, and something +which every man, however humble, may be--a man of high courtesy and +refinement, to whom dishonor is hateful. "What is it," says Thackeray, +"to be a gentleman? It is to be honest, to be gentle, to be generous, +to be brave, to be wise, and, possessing all these qualities, to +exercise them in the most graceful outward manner." It was said of our +Lord by one of the early English poets, that he was + + The first true gentleman that ever breathed. + +To be a gentleman in all circumstances is the highest idea we can form +of good manners. It is what, in our intercourse with others, we should +strive to be--to have "high thoughts," as Sir Philip Sidney expresses +it, "seated in a heart of courtesy." In Bishop Patteson's life is +given the estimate of him, as a true gentleman, by a New Zealand +native: "Gentleman-gentleman thought nothing that ought to be done too +mean for him. Pig-gentleman never worked." The savage knew by +instinct that the good Bishop who came to live among them that he might +teach them to be better, who treated them with invariable courtesy and +consideration, was a true gentleman, though he had to clean his own +hut, to cook his own food, and to mend his own kettles. And he knew +also that the man who made others work for him without doing them any +good in return, who swore at them and abused them, was only a +pig-gentleman, however rich or high in station he might be. + +A few advices on the subject of this chapter may be given. + +1. _Cultivate a pleasing manner_.--Any one can be civil and polite if +he sets himself to be so. Some suppose that it is unworthy of a robust +character to be gentle in demeanor, that it indicates a certain amount +of effeminacy, and that strength and gruffness go together. We hear +men spoken of sometimes approvingly as "rough diamonds." But history +tells us that the noblest and strongest have been the most tender and +courteous. King Robert the Bruce was "brave as a lion, tender-hearted +as a woman." "Sir Walter Raleigh was every inch a man, a brave +soldier, a brilliant courtier, and yet a mirror of courtesy. Nobody +would accuse Sir Philip Sidney of having been deficient in manliness, +yet his fine manners were proverbial. It is the courtesy of Bayard, +the knight, _sans peur et sans reproche_, which has immortalized him +quite as much as his valor." [2] It is not beneath us to study good +manners. To a great extent they come naturally from refinement of +disposition and inborn delicacy of feeling. But they may also, to a +great extent, be learned and acquired. "Watch," it has wisely been +said, "those of excellent reputation in manners. Catch the temper of +the great masters of literature--the nobility of Scott, the sincerity +of Thackeray, the heartiness of Dickens, the tenderness of Macdonald, +the delicacy of Tennyson, the grace of Longfellow, the repose of +Shakespeare." It is well worth while for every young man beginning +life to form a true idea of what good manners are, and to make it his +constant effort to acquire them. + +2. _Avoid eccentricity_.--Eccentricity is the deliberate endeavor to +make ourselves different from those around us. (_a_) Some show it in +their dress by wearing garments often of outrageous shape and hue. +(_b_) Some show it in their speech by striving to say things that they +think especially smart. (_c_) Some show it in their actions by +striking forced attitudes, and putting themselves in grotesque +positions. It all springs from love of notoriety and desire to be +thought different from their neighbors. It is the mark, as a rule, of +fops and fools, and an indication of weakness of character. It is +fundamentally inconsistent with good manners. Johnson was called _ursa +major_, or big bear, from the gruffness of his manner. This was +probably natural to him, but many affect a similar manner from a desire +to be eccentric. The "big bears" of society are odious. Johnson's own +words are applicable to such: "A man has no more right to say an +uncivil thing than to act one--no more right to say a rude thing to +another than to knock him down." Those also who are ever trying to say +things which they think smart, but which are often impudent, and meant +to give annoyance, ought to receive no countenance. "Sir," said one +such person in his Irish brogue to Dean Swift, "I _sit_ (set) up for +being a wit." "Then, sir," said the Dean, "I advise you to sit down." +Similar people should be treated in the same way. + +3. _Try to conquer shyness_.--This is constitutional with some, but +even when this is the case it can be overcome by taking pains. The shy +man is often awkward in manner; and, what is worse, he often gives the +impression to others of being rude, when he has no intention to be so. +There are those who, in their own family and among their own friends, +are known to be warm-hearted, kind and gentle, but who, from this +defect of which we speak, have a reputation far from enviable. Any +young man who is afflicted with it should set himself resolutely to get +the better of it. + +4. _We should be especially courteous to those below us in +station_.--To servants in our house, to those in our employ, to the +poor, we should be marked in our civility. "It is the very essence of +gentlemanhood that one is polite to the weak, the poor, the friendless, +the humble, the miserable, the degraded." The conduct of our Lord to +such is ever worthy of our imitation. Indeed, as it has been well +remarked, the character of men and women is perhaps better known "by +the treatment of those below them than by anything else; for to them +they rarely play the hypocrite." The man who is a bully and abusive to +those weaker or less fortunate than himself, is at heart a poor +creature; though, in company of his equals, he may be affable and +polished enough. For example, Kingsley mentions regarding Sir Sydney +Smith that "the love he won was because, without any conscious +intention, he treated rich and poor, his own servants, and the +noblemen, his guests, alike courteously, cheerfully, considerately, +affectionately, bearing a blessing and reaping a blessing wherever he +was." When a celebrated man returned the salute of a negro, he was +reminded that he had done what was very unfashionable. "Perhaps so," +he replied, "but I would not be outdone in good manners by a negro." + +"Good words," says holy George Herbert, "are worth much, and cost +little." The same may be said of good manners. + + + +[1] _The Secret of Success_. + +[2] _Plain Living and High Thinking_. + + + + +CHAPTER XI. + +TEMPER.[1] + +Temper is the harmonious and well-balanced working of the different +powers of the mind. Good temper is when harmony is maintained; bad +temper when it is violated. "Temper," it was said by an English +bishop, "is nine-tenths of Christianity." We may think this an +exaggerated statement, but there is much to commend it. The fruit of +the Spirit of God is peace, and peace is the condition of a heart which +is at rest--in harmony with God and man. Peace may be taken as the +Scriptural word for temper. + +Good temper is a sign that the different powers of the soul are working +in harmony.--For instance, the atmosphere is well tempered when it is +neither too hot nor too cold, neither too dry nor too moist, having +neither too much electricity nor too little. Then the weather is +called fine. It is a pleasure to live. When the weather is bad, the +balance of the elements is broken, and life is disagreeable and +unpleasant. The body is well tempered when the nervous system and the +blood and the nutritive system all work in due harmony. When these +three great constituents of the body are well balanced against each +other, the result is health. The body is not well tempered in a +student who takes no exercise, and where everything goes to feed the +brain; nor in a pugilist in training, where everything goes to feed the +muscles. The result is disease. We all know the musical instrument +called the harp. All the strings are tuned into perfect harmony. If +there is a false note struck, that is a sign to the musician that there +is something wrong, and that the instrument needs to be tuned. The +discord is a symptom, that some cords are out of order. So, bad temper +is a sign that some string in our moral constitution is out of harmony +and needs to be tuned. + +Good temper can be acquired.--It is the result of culture. There are +two things often confounded with it--(_a_) good nature and (_b_) good +humor. Good nature is something born with us--an easy, contented +disposition, and a tendency to take things quietly and pleasantly. We +inherit it. There is little merit in possessing it. Good humor is the +result of pleasant surroundings and agreeable circumstances. A +good-humored man is so when everything goes right; when things go +wrong, his good humor departs and bad humor takes its place. But good +temper results from training and self-control--keeping constant watch +over our passions and feelings, and above all being in constant harmony +with God; for he who is at peace with God is at peace with man, and +will keep the "even tenor of his way." + +There are various signs or forms of ill-temper that may be adverted to. + +One form of ill-temper is irritability.--We perhaps know what it is to +have a tooth where the nerve is exposed. Everything that touches it +sends a thrill of pain through us. Some people get into a moral state +corresponding to that. The least thing puts them out, vexes them, +throws them into a disagreeable frame of mind. When one gets into that +state, he should feel that there is something wrong with him--something +is off the balance, some nerve is exposed. He had better look to it +and go off to the dentist. + +Another form of ill-temper is readiness to find fault.--This is a sure +sign of a screw being loose somewhere. An ill-tempered person is +always making grievances, imagining himself ill-used, discontented with +his position, dissatisfied with his circumstances. He never blames +himself for anything wrong; it is always someone else. He is like a +workman who is always excusing himself by throwing the blame on his +tools; like a bad driver who is always finding fault with his horses. + + Some fretful tempers wince at every touch, + You always do too little or too much; + He shakes with cold; you stir the fire and strive + To make a blaze; that's roasting him alive. + Serve him with venison, and he chooses fish; + With sole; that's just the sort he would not wish. + Alas! his efforts double his distress, + He likes yours little, and his own still less. + Thus, always teasing others, always teased, + His only pleasure is--to be displeased. + +If we find ourselves getting into this state of mind, it is high time +to inquire what is wrong with us. + +Another form of ill-temper is passion.--Some people are very subject to +this development. They are "gunpowdery," and when a small spark +touches them they fly out, and there is a blaze. It is a very unlovely +feature of a man's character, and if people in a passion could only see +themselves in a glass, their eyes flashing, their brow contracted and +their features distorted, they would feel that they have cause to be +ashamed of themselves. After having been in what is called "a towering +rage," there often comes to a man the feeling expressed in the words, +"I have made a great ass of myself." If we have done so, we should +resolve never to make ourselves ridiculous again. + +Perhaps the worst form of ill-temper is sulkiness.--This is passion not +dying out, but continuing to smoulder like the embers of a fire where +there is no flame. A sullen disposition is as bad a sign of something +being wrong as there could well be. It is like what the doctors call +"suppressed gout." The disease has got driven into the system, and has +taken so firm a hold that it cannot easily be dislodged. Better a man +whose temper bubbles over and is gone, than the man who cherishes it in +his bosom and allows, not the sun of one day, but of many days, to go +down on his wrath. + +A word or two is perhaps necessary, in addition to what has been said, +as to the means by which good temper is to be preserved and bad temper +avoided. + +I. _We should cherish a deep and strong detestation of the evil +effects of bad temper in all its forms_.--(_a_) It has a bad effect +physically. It produces consequences injurious to health. The man who +indulges in it habitually cannot do so with impunity. Doctors +constantly warn their patients to refrain from irritating disputes, and +to avoid men and things likely to provoke their anger. (_b_) It has a +bad effect socially. The bad-tempered man is seldom a favorite with +society. Men eventually dislike him and shun him as a nuisance. His +family, if he has one, come to regard him with dread rather than love. +(_c_) It has a bad effect as regards success in life. "Everything," +the proverb says, "comes to him who waits." The patient and forbearing +man attains his object much sooner than the man of passion and abuse. +Such a person is continually thwarted in his plans. People refuse to +be bullied into acquiescence; and threats, which have well been called +"the arguments of a coward," raise rather than disarm opposition. +(_d_) It has a bad effect spiritually. (1) The man of evil temper +wants the calm disposition of soul necessary to communion with God. +The glass through which he looks into the spiritual world is clouded +and gives a distorted vision. He whose soul is filled with anger and +clouded by passion cannot pray. Before he lays his gift upon the +altar, he must be reconciled to his brother. (2) Scripture is full of +warnings against evil temper: "He that is soon angry dealeth +foolishly." "Make no friendship with an angry man, and with a furious +man thou shalt not go, lest thou learn his ways and get a snare to thy +soul." "An angry man stirreth up strife, and a furious man aboundeth +in transgression." "Be ye angry and sin not; let not the sun go down +upon your wrath." "Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and +clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice; and be +ye kind one to another, tender hearted, forgiving one another, even as +God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you." The example of our blessed +Lord specially teaches the same lessen. Calmly and peacefully He +pursued His divine work. "When reviled he reviled not again, but +committed himself to him that judgeth righteously." Before the High +Priest, Pilate and Herod, His indignant silence was more eloquent than +scorching words. + +II. _We should deliberately cultivate self-control_.--If a railway +train is going swiftly along, and the driver sees something on the +track, he applies the brake, and thus avoids collision. In regard to +temper, self-control is like the brake, and we should be ever ready to +put it on. A person can come, in time, to get a wonderful control over +his temper if he watches against it. The writer knew a young man who +was at one time of an ungovernable temper; he used to be at times like +"one possessed." But by watching and resolutely putting on the brake +he grew up one of the sweetest-tempered and most lovable of men. He +fought the wild beast within him, lashed it and kept it down. A +merchant had passionately abused a Quaker, who received his outburst of +ill-temper in silence. Being afterwards ashamed of himself, he asked +the other how he was able to show such patience. "Friend," replied the +Quaker, "I will tell thee. I was naturally as hot and violent as thou +art. I knew that to indulge temper was sinful, and I found it was +imprudent. I observed that men in a passion always spoke loud, and I +thought if I could control my voice I should repress my passion. I +have therefore made it a rule never to allow my voice to be above a +certain key, and by a careful observance of this rule I have, by the +blessing of God, mastered my natural temper." Strong resolution can do +much. "If the pot boils," says the proverb, "take it off the fire." A +little care, a word swallowed, a rising sentence struck down in us by a +simple rule, may save us humiliation. "By reflection, by restraint and +control a wise man can make himself an island which no floods can +overwhelm. He who is tolerant with the intolerant, mild with the +fault-finders, and free from passion with the passionate, him I indeed +call a wise man."--Buddhist saying. + +III. But while an act of self-control can restore the proper temper +and balance to the mind when it is in danger, _the best way is to keep +it so that it will not go off the balance_. You know that if a clock +stops, we may perhaps make it go again by a shake; if it does not keep +time, we can often put the hands right; but the best way is to keep the +machinery always so well balanced and adjusted that it will not stop or +go wrong. We may watch and control the temper when it breaks out; but +the better way is to keep it so well balanced that it will not break +out. The soul that is in harmony with God, that is full of the spirit +of Christ, will ever be peaceful and serene. If ill-temper is our +besetting sin, God's grace, if we ask it, will give us power to conquer +it While we watch against it, we should pray against it also. The +beautiful words of Thomas à Kempis point out to us the secret of the +well-tempered and well-balanced mind: "First keep thyself in peace, and +then thou wilt be able to bring others to peace." If "the peace of God +which passeth all understanding" keep our hearts and minds, through +Christ Jesus, our life will never have its serenity disturbed by +ill-temper. + + + +[1] I wish to acknowledge my indebtedness for some hints in this +chapter to an interesting work on "Self-Culture," by James Freeman +Clarke. + + + + +CHAPTER XII. + +RECREATION. + +Recreation is another name for amusement. Both words express the same +idea. Recreation means to create over again, the building up of the +system when it is exhausted. Amusement primarily is said to be derived +from the halt which a dog makes in hunting, when he pauses to sniff the +air in order to see in which way the scent lies. Having done this, he +starts off again with redoubled speed. Both these words in themselves +suggest the place that the things which they signify should occupy in +life. They are for the refreshing of our strength, in order to renewed +effort. + +Recreation is a necessary part of life.--There are two great laws under +which we live: the law of work and the law of recreation. Man has to +work, and to work hard, in order to live. Work also is necessary to +happiness. "He that labors," says the Italian proverb, "is tempted by +one devil; he that is idle, by a thousand." The industrious life, it +is perfectly plain (as we have shown in a previous chapter), is that +which we should all follow. But recreation is as needful in its place +as work. (_a_) This is the teaching of nature. God has made us +capable of enjoying ourselves, just as He has made us able to think, or +talk, or work with our hands. The first sign of intelligence in the +infant is a smile. The child's nature unfolds itself in play, and as +man grows up, it develops itself in many forms. The universe also is +full of joy and gladness. The sky is blue, the sea glistens, the +flowers are strewn over the earth. We speak of the waves playing on +the shore, of the shadows playing on the mountain side. All this +indicates that there is "a certain play element" that rejoices in the +world around us. (_b_) This is the teaching of experience. Unvaried +and unbroken toil becomes a sore burden; it breaks the spirit, weakens +energy, and saddens the heart. "All work and no play," according to +the proverb, "makes Jack a dull boy." There are men around us working +so hard that they have no family life, no social life, no time for +thought or for culture. They are simply cogs in a great wheel that is +ceaselessly turning round and round--wearing themselves out before +their time by excess of labor. This cannot be right. There is an +interesting tradition of St. John, the disciple of our Lord, that while +amusing himself with a tame partridge he was asked by a huntsman how he +could spend his time in so unprofitable a manner. St. John replied, +"Why dost thou not carry thy bow always bent?" "Because," answered the +huntsman, "if it were always bent, I fear it would lose its spring and +become useless." "Be not surprised then," replied the apostle, "that I +should sometimes remit a little of my close attention of spirit to +enjoy a little recreation, that I may afterwards employ myself more +fervently in divine contemplation." It is said also of a most saintly +man, Carlo Borromeo, that while engaged with some friends in a game of +chess, the question was started, what they would do if they knew they +were to die within the hour. "I would," said Borromeo, "go on with my +game." He had begun it for God's glory, and in order to fit himself +for God's work, and he would finish it. These anecdotes illustrate the +truth that recreation is a necessary part of life, and may be engaged +in with the highest object. + +Recreation, therefore, is not to be regarded as an evil in itself--Men +at different times have so regarded it. (_a_) Those who have been +termed ascetics in the Church of Rome looked upon every form of +amusement as sinful. Even to smile or laugh was a fault needing severe +penance. They were "cruel to themselves," denied themselves all +earthly joy, and placed vice and pleasure in the same category. (_b_) +The Puritans also, in the time of the Stuarts, set their faces strongly +against games and recreation of every kind. They denounced all public +amusements, as Macaulay tells us, "from masques, which were exhibited +at the mansions of the great, down to the wrestling matches and +quoiting matches on the village green." (_c_) In all ages there have +been good men animated by the same feeling. Life has seemed to them so +serious as to have no place in it for mirth. Even one so saintly as +Archbishop Leighton said that "pleasures are like mushrooms--it is so +difficult to distinguish those that are wholesome from those that are +poisonous, that it is better to abstain from them altogether." Those +views have something noble in them. They spring from hatred of sin and +from realizing intensely that + +Recreation is liable to abuse.--It often leads to evil. It was the +unbridled gaiety of the age, with its selfishness and sensuality, that +made the Puritans denounce amusement, though the austerity they +enforced led to dreadful consequences. Repression passed into excess. +"It was as if the pent-up sewerage of a mud volcano had been suddenly +let loose. The unclean spirit forcibly driven out by the Puritans +returned with seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and the +last state of Stuart England was worst than the first." The history of +that period shows us the mistake religion makes by frowning down all +amusements as sinful. But that some may be so is equally clear. They +are so (_a_) when they are contrary to the express commands of the Word +of God. There are pleasures which are in themselves unlawful, and +which are condemned by the divine law. These, God's children will +shun. They are forms of wickedness which they will ever hold in +abhorrence. "The lust of the flesh, the lust of the eye, and the pride +of life," with all that the words mean, though the world may regard +them as pleasures, and engage in them as amusements, are evil before +God. But not to dwell on this, which is evident, amusements are evil +(_b_) when they unfit for work. "The end of labor," said the Greek +philosopher Aristotle, "is to rest." It is equally true that "the end +of rest is to labor." Pleasures that tempt us from daily duty, that +leave us listless and weary, are pernicious. Outdoor games, for +instance, ought to strengthen the physical frame, they ought to make us +healthy and strong and ready for work. But when carried to excess they +often produce the opposite result, and become positively hurtful. If +the Saturday's play unfit for the worship and rest of the Lord's day; +if an employer, as has been stated, has been obliged to dismiss his +clerks more than once because of their incapacity for work owing to +football matches, cricket matches, and sports generally, it is clear +that these have not been for their good; and the same may be said of +the effect of other forms of amusement, especially when carried to +excess. The amusements that send us back to toil with a lightened +heart and a vigorous mind are those only that we should engage in; all +others are detrimental, and should be shunned. (_c_) It is necessary +to say also that amusement in any form followed as the end of life +becomes specially sinful. Even the heathen moralist, Cicero, could say +"that he is not worthy to be called a man who is willing to spend a +single day wholly in pleasure." How much more truly may a Christian +feel that he "who liveth in pleasure is dead while he liveth." A life +that is simply play, that is simply amusement, is no life at all. It +is only a contemptible form of existence. "A soul sodden with +pleasure" is a lost soul. To be a mere pleasure-seeker is not the +chief end of man. Nothing grows more wearying than continuous +amusement, and no one needs amusement so much as he who is always at +it. He loses the power of real enjoyment. He has, like Esau, bartered +his birthright for a mess of pottage. He is useless to man and guilty +before God. + +It is not easy to lay down distinct and definite rules in regard to +recreation--to set down and catalogue those amusements which it is safe +for us to follow, and those from which we should refrain. This has +been attempted, but not successfully! and the reason is evident. What +may be safe for one person may not be safe for another. If we are told +that an amusement has been held to be wrong, we are ready to reply that +the mere opinion of others is not binding upon us; and perhaps in our +contempt for views which appear to us bigoted and straitlaced, we rush +into the opposite extreme. The true guide in recreation is a Christian +spirit. He who possesses it will need no list of what are lawful and +unlawful made out for him. He will be better guided than by any +carefully compiled code of duty set before him. All, therefore, that +shall be attempted in this direction is to give a few general counsels +which may be serviceable. + +1. We should exercise our own judgment as to what amusements are +helpful or the reverse. It has been said, "When you are in Rome, do as +the Romans do." We would rather put the adage thus, "When you are in +Rome, do _not_ as the Romans do." There are questions which majorities +may decide for us, and there are questions which every soul must decide +for itself. That everybody goes to bull-fights in Spain does not make +bull-fighting right; neither is an amusement right because it is +popular. In this, as in other matters, we must dare sometimes to be +singular. Follow not a multitude to do evil. + +2. What is one man's meat is another man's poison. We are not a law +to our neighbor, neither is our neighbor a law to us. The amusement +that we find injures us, lowers our moral and spiritual tone, and +unfits us for the serious business of life, is the thing for us to +avoid, as we avoid food which some men can take with impunity, but +which does harm to us. + +3. Keep on the safe ground of certainty. Whatever is doubtful is +dangerous, and had best be left alone. If we go skating, and have a +suspicion that the ice in a certain spot is weak, that is sufficient to +make us avoid it. Possibly we might pass over it without danger, but +the thought that it may be dangerous leads us to give it a wide berth. +"If you do not wish to hear the bell ring," says the proverb, "keep +away from the bell rope." There is a sufficiency of amusements which +are beyond doubt safe and satisfying, without our trying those that may +be dangerous. The best recreation often comes from change of +occupation, and there is none better than the companionship of books, +the sweet solace of music, the softening influence of art, or the +contemplation of the beauties of nature, "the melody of woods and winds +and waters." There are fountains of joy open on every side of us, from +which we may quaff many an invigorating draught, without drinking from +those which are often poisoned and polluted. + +4. The pleasure that is more congenial than our work is to be taken +with caution. So long as a man enjoys his work more than his +amusement, the latter is for him comparatively safe. It is a +relaxation and refreshment, and he goes from it all the better for it; +but if a man likes his pleasure better than the duties to which God has +called him in the world, it is a sign that he has not realized, as he +ought to realize, the object for which life was given him. + +5. For the question, What is the harm? substitute, What is the good? +The former is that which many ask in regard to amusements, and the very +asking of the question shows that they feel doubtful about them and +should avoid them. But when we ask, What is the good? it is a sign +that we are anxious to know what benefit we may derive from them, and +how far they may help us. That is the true spirit in which we should +approach our amusements, seeking out those that recruit and refresh us +mentally, morally, and physically. + +Those are hints[1] which may be found useful. "Religion never was +designed," it is said, "to make our pleasures less." Religion also, if +we know what it means, will ever lead us to what are true, innocent, +and elevating pleasures, and keep us from those that are false, bad in +their influence, and which "leave a sting behind them." "Rejoice, O +young man, in thy youth, and let thy heart cheer thee in the days of +thy youth, and walk in the ways of thine heart and in the sight of +thine eyes: but know thou, that for all these things God will bring +thee into judgment." Let those who practise the first part of that +text not forget the second. + + + +[1] I am indebted for some of them to an article in _The Christian +Union_. + + + + +CHAPTER XIII. + +BOOKS. + +Books have an influence on life and conduct the extent of which it is +impossible to estimate. "The precepts they inculcate, the lessons they +exhibit, the ideals of life and character which they portray, root +themselves in the thoughts and imaginations of young men. They seize +them with a force which, in after years, appears scarcely possible." +These words of Principal Tulloch will not appear too strong to any one +who can look back over a long period of life. Such must ever feel that +books have had a powerful effect in making them all that they are. +There are many considerations that go to show the importance of books. + +Books are the accumulated treasures of generations.--They are to man +what memory is to the individual. If all the libraries in the world +were burned and all the books in the world destroyed, the past would be +little more than a blank. It would be a calamity corresponding to that +of a man losing by a stroke the memory of past years. The literature +of the world is the world's memory, the world's experience, the world's +failures. It teaches us where we came from. It tells us of the paths +we have travelled. Almost all we know of the history of this world in +which God has placed us we know from books. "In books," as Carlyle +says, "lie the creative Phoenix ashes of the whole past--all that men +have desired, discovered, done, felt, or imagined, lie recorded in +books, wherein whoso has learned the mystery of spelling printed +letters may find it and appropriate it." + +Books open to us a society from which otherwise we would be +excluded.--They introduce us into a great human company. They enable +us, however humble we may be, to hold converse with the great and good +of past ages and of the present time--the great philosophers, +philanthropists, poets, divines, travellers. We know their thoughts, +we hear their words, we clasp their hands. The chamber of the solitary +student is peopled with immortal guests. He has friends who are always +steadfast, who are never false, who are silent when he is weary, who go +forth with him to his work, who await his return. In the literature of +the world a grand society is open to all who choose to enter it. + +Books are the chief food of our intellectual life.--There are men that +have, indeed, done great things who have read but little. These have +had their want of mental training compensated by their powers of +observation and experience of life. But they have been for the most +part exceptional men, and it is possible they might have done better if +they had studied more. To the great majority of men books are the +great teachers, the chief ministers to self-culture. Books in a +special manner represent intellect to those who can appreciate them. +We cannot estimate in this aspect their importance. They are in regard +to self-culture what Montaigne calls "the best viaticum for the journey +of life." When we think of what we owe to them, we may enter into the +feelings of Charles Lamb, who "wished to ask a grace before reading +more than a grace before meat." + +In regard to books, the practical questions that present themselves +are, what we should read, and how we should read. The first question +cannot be answered in any definite manner. (_a_) The enormous number +of books in the world forbids this. Let any one enter a library of +even moderate size, and he will feel how almost hopeless it would be, +even if it were profitable, to draw out a practicable list of what may +be advantageously chosen for reading and what may well be cast aside. +(_b_) Still more does the infinite variety of tastes, circumstances: +and talents, forbid the laying down of definite rules. Reading that +might be profitable for one might not be so for another. Reading that +would be pleasant to one would be to another weariness. Every class of +mind seeks naturally its own proper food, and the choice of books must +ultimately depend upon a man's own bias--on his natural bent and the +necessities of his life. There are, however, one or two directions +that may be given, and which may be profitable to young men. + +_First_, We should read, as far as possible, _the great books of the +world_. In the kingdom of literature there are certain works that +stand by themselves and tower in their grandeur above all others. They +are referred to by Bacon, in his weighty way, when he says: "Some books +are to be tasted, others to be swallowed, some few to be chewed and +digested." This last class of books may be still spoken of as few. +Various lists have lately been published of the best hundred books, +according to the opinion of some of the greatest men of our time. +There is considerable agreement among the writers as to what they +consider the best books, and there is considerable difference also. It +is easy to see how those who compiled these lists have been largely +influenced in making their selection by their own peculiar tastes and +fancies. Probably there is not one of their lists which any young man +would care to follow out in its entirety. We give elsewhere the one +which seems most likely to be useful to those into whose hands this +text-book may probably come,[1] though it is evident that many young +men might profitably leave out some of the books mentioned and +substitute others. Still one thing is clear, that it is possible to +make a selection of outstanding works in literature. After +consultation with others better informed than himself, a young man can +make a list suitable to his capacities and tastes, of books that really +are _great_ books, and in this way he may acquire knowledge that is +worth having, and which will furnish a good and solid foundation for +his intellectual culture. It is with books of this kind that he should +begin, and a few such books thoroughly mastered will probably do him +more good than all others that he may afterwards read. + +It is hardly necessary to say that there is _one_ book that may be +termed specially great, and which all young men should make the special +subject of their study. (_a_) The Bible, even as a means of +intellectual culture, stands alone and above all others. "In the +poorest cottages," says Carlyle, "is one book wherein for several +thousands of years the spirit of man has found light and nourishment, +and an interpreting response to whatever is deepest in him." No man +can be regarded as an educated man unless he is familiar with this +book. To understand its history and position in the world is in itself +a liberal education. Those who have been indifferent to its spiritual +power and divine claims have acknowledged its great importance in +regard to self-culture. "Take the Bible," says Professor Huxley, "as a +whole, make the severest deductions which fair criticism can dictate +for shortcomings and for positive errors, and there still remains in +this old literature a vast residuum of moral beauty and grandeur; and +then consider the great historical fact that for three centuries this +book has been woven into the life of all that is best and noblest in +English history; that it has become the national epic of Britain, and +is familiar to noble and simple from John o' Groat's house to Land's +End; that it is written in the noblest and purest English, and abounds +in exquisite beauties of a mere literary form; and finally, that it +forbids the merest hind who never left his village to be ignorant of +the existence of other countries and other civilizations, and of a +great past, stretching back to the furthest limits of the oldest +nations of the world. By the study of what other book could children +be so much humanized?" In these words we have a noble tribute to the +intellectual greatness of the Bible. (_b_) But it has other claims +upon us than its power to stimulate mental culture. It is inspired by +God. "It is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for +instruction in righteousness." It is man's guide through the +perplexities of life to the glory of heaven, "Wherewithal shall a young +man cleanse his way? By taking heed thereto according to thy word." + +Read then the great books of the world, and this book, the greatest of +all. + +_Second_, Another suggestion that we may make in regard to the use of +books is that _we should read from some centre or standpoint_. A +person takes a house in the country. This he makes the centre of many +excursions. One day he climbs the mountain, another day he walks by +winding stream, on another he sails along the shore. In this way he +explores the surrounding country by degrees, coming back each night to +the place he started from. We may do much the same thing with profit +in our excursions among books. For instance, we may take the +starting-point of our _profession_, and read all we can in regard to +it. A farmer should read about farming, a lawyer about law, a divine +about theology. Or we may take the starting-point of our _physical +frame_, and read steadily all we can as to our bodily organisation and +its laws; or we may take as our starting point the _land_ we dwell in, +or even the locality where we live, and seek to learn all we can +regarding its history. In this way distinct lines of study are opened +up to us, and we are saved the evil of desultory reading, which too +often fills the mind only with a jumble of facts undigested and +unarranged, and therefore of but little value. The writer knew a young +minister in a Scottish manse who had among the few books in his library +the _Encyclopaedia Britannica_. In this work he took up distinct +courses of reading--a course of biography, a course of history, a +course of geography--and in this way he acquired knowledge well +systematized, which was of great value to him in his after life. We +should endeavor, according to some such method as we have indicated, to +carry on our reading. "Every man and every woman who can read at all +should adopt some definite purpose in their reading, should take +something for the main stem and trunk of their culture, whence branches +might grow out in all directions, seeking air and light for the parent +tree, which it is hoped might end in becoming something useful and +ornamental, and which at any rate all along will have had life and +growth in it." These words of Sir Arthur Helps put very tersely the +point on which we have been insisting. + +_Third_, We should read books _on the same principle as we associate +with men_. We only admit to our society those whom we deem worthy of +our acquaintance, and from whose intercourse we are likely to derive +benefit. We should do the same in regards to books. There are people +who read books which, if they took to themselves bodily form and became +personified, would be kicked out of their houses. Readers often +associate in literature with what is vile and contemptible, who would +never think of associating with people possessing a similar character. +Yet the society of a weak or bad book is just as harmful to us in its +way, and should be as little tolerated by us as the society of a weak +or bad man. Indeed, between an author and a careful reader there is an +intimacy established even closer than is possible in the intercourse of +life, and evil books poison the springs of thought and feeling much +more thoroughly than an evil acquaintanceship could do. We cannot be +too strict, therefore, in applying to books the rules we follow in +regard to society, and refusing our acquaintance to those books +unworthy of it. (_a_) Such books may be known by reputation. We would +not associate with a man of bad reputation, neither should we read a +book of which the reputation is evil. (_b_) They may be judged of also +by very slight experience. Very little tells us whether a man is +worthy to be admitted to companionship, and very slight acquaintance +with a book is sufficient to tell us whether it is worth reading. +(_c_) But especially by beginning with those great authors that are +beyond doubt high toned, "the master-spirits of all time," we shall +acquire a power of discrimination. We shall no more care to read foul, +impure, and unwholesome literature than a man brought up in the society +of honorable men would choose to cast in his lot with thieves and +blacklegs and the offscourings of society. + +We have anticipated much that might be said in answer to the question +_how_ to read, and only a few words need be written in regard to it. +(1) Read with interest. Unless a book interests us we do not attend to +it, we get no benefit whatever from it, and may as well throw it aside. +(2) Read actively, not passively, putting the book under +cross-examination as we go along--asking questions regarding it, +weighing arguments. Mere passive reading may do no more good than the +stream does to the iron pipe through which it flows. Novel-readers are +often mere passive recipients of the stories, and thus get no real +benefit from them. (3) Read according to some system or method. (4) +Read not always for relaxation, recreation, and amusement, but chiefly +to enable you to perform the duties to which God has called you in +daily life. + + + +[1] See Appendix. + + + + +CHAPTER XIV. + +FAMILY LIFE. + +The words Family--Home--Household--all express one idea. They imply a +relationship existing between certain individuals, a circle or sphere +separate from the mass of human beings, within which there are special +duties to be performed and a special life has to be lived. It is not +necessary to define particularly what is meant by the word Family, for +it is well understood by all of us. + +Family life is peculiar to man.--The lower animals have nothing in all +respects resembling it. In some particulars their mode of life +occasionally approaches it, but not in all. The birds of the air, for +instance, care tenderly for their offspring, but when these come to +maturity the relation between them and their parents comes to an end. +The family relation on the other hand lasts through life, and is only +broken by the hand of death, if even then. The family has been +instituted by God for the welfare of man. The condition in which we +come into the world requires it--our training for the work of life +demands it--it is specially adapted to promote the great ends of human +existence. + +Family life is that which most truly leaves its mark upon us.--In the +family habits are formed which make us what we are for the rest of our +life. Home influences accompany us to the very end of our journey. +Let any one ask himself what are the chief sources of his virtues, and +he will feel that a large proportion of them are derived directly or +indirectly from association with his fellow-creatures in the family. +The training of parents, the affection and influence of mothers and +sisters, powerfully and lastingly affect our intellectual and moral +nature. From a wise father we learn more than from all our teachers. +When a celebrated artist, Benjamin West, was asked "What made him a +painter?" his reply was, "It was my mother's kiss." "I should have +been an atheist," said a great American statesman, "if it had not been +for one recollection, and that was the memory of the time when my +departed mother used to take my little hand in hers, and caused me on +my knees to say, 'Our Father, who art in heaven.'" On the other hand, +those who have been so unfortunate as to have had an unhappy home +rarely emancipate themselves from the evil effects of their upbringing. +If they do, it is after the severest struggle. "The child," it has +been said, "is the father of the man," and it is in the family the +child receives his first impressions for good or for evil. The world +he first lives in is his home. + +Family life supplies a great test of character.--When Whitefield was +asked whether a certain person was a Christian, he replied, "I do not +know. I have never seen him at home." People are often one thing in +the world and another in their own family. In the close intercourse of +the home circle they exhibit themselves in their true colors. A man +who is a good son or a good brother is generally found to be a good +man. If he is a source of evil in his own home, in his intercourse +with the world he will, sooner or later, be found wanting. + +It is beyond the scope of this book to dwell at length upon the duties +incumbent on the various members of a family. It may be sufficient to +indicate generally the feelings which should animate the young persons +who belong to it. Probably most of those into whose hands this manual +will come are members of a family. What should therefore be their +conduct at home is a question that well deserves their consideration. + +1. _Obedience_ is the fundamental principle of family life. Every +family has a head, and that head must rule. "Order is heaven's first +law." Where there is no obedience there can be no order in a family. +The first form of authority which is placed before the child is that of +the parent, and to the parent he has to be subject. "Children," says +the apostle, "obey your parents in all things, for this is well +pleasing unto the Lord." Even for those members of a family who have +grown out of the state of childhood obedience must be the rule, though +in their case it is not to be, as in the case of the child, +unquestioning obedience, but is to be founded on reason, affection and +gratitude. With them obedience takes the form of reverence, or, to use +a more familiar word, respect. The child is bound to obey his parent +without hesitation or reply; the young man who has entered into greater +liberty than the child will still respect his parents' wishes and +cherish reverence for their authority. This feeling on his part is +termed in the Scriptures _Honor_. "Honor thy father and thy mother" is +one of the Ten Commandments, and can never cease to be included among +moral and religious obligations. It is opposed to everything like +unseemly familiarity, discourtesy of treatment, insolence in reply, or +deliberate defiance. It implies respect for age and experience, and a +sense of the great sacrifices a parent has made for his children's +welfare. It is said that in our time the bonds of parental authority +are being loosened, and that young men do not regard their parents with +the deference that once was invariably shown towards them; that they do +little to smooth the path of life for them when they grow old and weak, +and are more ready to cast them on the public charity than to +contribute to their support. Such a state of things would be shameful, +if true. It would indicate a corruption of social life at the +fountain-head that must lead to serious consequences. The family is +the nursery both of the State and of the Church, and where the purity +and well-being of family life is impaired, both State and Church are +sure to suffer. There should be therefore an earnest and prayerful +endeavor upon the part of the young to cherish towards their parents +that loving sense of their superiority which is implied in the word +Honor. "Let them learn first," says St. Paul (1 Tim. v. 4), "to show +piety at home, and to requite their parents; for that is good and +acceptable before God." There can be no more pleasing memory for a +young man to have than this, that he has been a dutiful son; none more +bitter than this, that he has set at defiance, or neglected, those to +whom he owes so much. + +2. _Affection_ is the atmosphere that should pervade the household. +"Without hearts," it has been truly said, "there is no home." A +collection of roots, and trunk, and branches, and leaves, do not make a +tree; neither do a number of people dwelling together make a home. "A +certain number of animal lives that are of prescribed ages, that eat +and drink together, by no means makes a family. Almost as well might +we say that it is the bricks of a house that make a home. There may be +a home in the forest or in the wilderness, and there may be a family +with all its blessings, though half its members be in other lands or in +another world. It is the gentle memories, the mutual thought, the +desire to bless, the sympathies that meet when duties are apart, the +fervor of the parents' prayers, the persuasion of filial love, the +sister's pride and the brother's benediction, that constitute the true +elements of domestic life and sanctify the dwelling." [1] These +beautiful words are true. It is love that makes home. The dweller, in +a distant land sends again and again his thoughts across the sea, and +reverts with fond affection to the place of his birth. It may be a +humble cottage, but to him it is ever dear because of the love which +dwelt there and united those who dwelt there by ties that distance +cannot sever. Even the prodigal in the matchless parable of our Lord, +herding with the swine and eating of their husks, was led to a higher +and a better life by the remembrance of his father's house. A home +without love is no home, any more than a body without a soul is a man. +It is only a corpse. + +3. _Consideration_ for those with whom we live in the family is the +chief form which affection takes. Each member has to remember, not his +own comfort and wants, but the comfort and wants of those with whom he +dwells. His welfare as an individual he must subordinate to the +welfare of the household. There are various forms which want of +consideration takes, and all of them are detestable. (_a_) Tyranny, +where the strong member of a family insists on the service of those +weaker than himself. (_b_) Greed, where one demands a larger share of +comfort, food, or attention than that which falls to the others. (_c_) +Indolence, where one refuses to take his proper part in the maintenance +of the family, spending his wages, perhaps, on his own pleasures, and +yet expecting to be provided for by the labor of the rest. (_d_) +Discourtesy, where, by his language and manners, he makes the others +unhappy, and, perhaps, by his outbursts of temper fills the whole house +with sadness. (_e_) Obstinacy, which will have its own way, whether +the way be good or not. All these forms of selfishness are violations +of the true law of family life, and render that life impossible. In +the family, more than in any other sphere, everyone should bear the +burdens of others. Everyone should seek, not his own, but another's +welfare, and the weak and feeble should receive the attention of all. + +4. _Pleasantness_ should be the disposition which we should specially +cultivate at home. If we have to encounter things that annoy and +perhaps irritate us in the outer world, we should seek to leave the +irritation and annoyance behind when we cross the threshold of our +dwelling. Into it the roughness and bluster of the world should never +be permitted to come. It should be the place of "sweetness and light," +and every member may do something to make it so. It is a bad sign when +a young man never cares to spend his evenings at home--when he prefers +the company of others to the society of his family, and seeks his +amusement wholly beyond its circle. There is something wrong when this +is the case. "I beseech you," said one addressing youth, "not to turn +home into a restaurant and a sleeping bunk, spending all your leisure +somewhere else, and going home only when all other places are shut up." +A young man, it is admitted, may find his home uninviting through +causes for which he has not himself to blame. Still, even then he may +do much to change its character, and by his pleasant and cheerful +bearing may bring into it sunshine brighter than the sunshine outside. + +5. The highest family life is that consecrated by _Religion_. The +household where God is acknowledged, from which the members go +regularly together to the house of God, within whose walls is heard the +voice of prayer and praise, is the ideal Christian family. In such a +family the father is the priest, daily offering up prayers for those +whom God has given him, at the family altar. He makes it his duty, and +regards it as his privilege to bring up his children in "the nurture +and admonition of the Lord," and by personal example and teaching to +train them up as members of the household of faith. Unlike those who +leave the religious instruction of their children entirely to others, +he loves to teach them himself. A household thus pervaded by a +Christian atmosphere is a scene of sweet and tender beauty. Such a +household is well depicted by our Scottish poet, Robert Burns, in his +"Cotter's Saturday Night." There we see how beautiful family life may +be in the humblest dwelling. + + From scenes like these old Scotia's grandeur springs, + That makes her lov'd abroad, rever'd at home. + + + +[1] Dr. James Martineau. + + + + +CHAPTER XV. + +CHURCH.[1] + +The word church is derived from the Greek word _Kuriakon_, the Lord's +(from _Kurios_, the Lord), and it has various significations. (_a_) +Sometimes it means the whole body of believers on earth--"the company +of the faithful throughout the world"--"the number of the elect that +have been, are, and shall be gathered into one, under Christ the Head +thereof; and is the spouse, the body and the fulness of Him that +filleth all in all." [2] (_b_) Sometimes it is applied to a body of +Christians differing from the rest in their constitution, doctrines, +and usages; as, for example, the Church of Rome, the Greek Church, the +Reformed Church. (_c_) Sometimes it refers to the Christian community +of a country or its established religion, as when we speak of the +Gallican Church, the Swiss Church, the Church of England, the Church of +Scotland. (_d_) It is used in a still more limited sense to represent +a particular congregation of Christians who associate together and +participate in the ordinances of Christianity, with their proper +pastors or ministers. (_e_) It is applied also to the building in +which the public ministrations of religion are conducted, as when we +speak of the church in such a street, St. James' church, St. Peter's +church, etc. + +In this chapter we use the word church in the fourth sense, as +representing a particular congregation of Christians. To such a +community every young man should belong, and in connection with it he +is called to discharge certain special duties. There are four aspects +in which the life of the Church, in this sense, may be regarded. + +I. It represents Christian worship.--(_a_) Public worship seems +essential to the very existence of religion. At least, every religion +the world has seen has had its meetings for public rites and +ceremonies. Faith unsupported by sympathy, as a rule, languishes and +dies out in a community. Were our churches to be shut Sunday after +Sunday, and men never to meet together as religious beings, it would be +as though the reservoir that supplies a great city with water suddenly +ran dry. Here and there a few might draw water from their own wells, +but the general result would be appalling. (_b_) Public worship also +strengthens and deepens religious feeling. A man can pray alone and +praise God alone; but he is, beyond all doubt, helped when he does so +in the company of others. He is helped by the conditions of time and +place; and the presence and sympathy of his fellow-worshippers have +upon him a mighty uplifting influence. (_c_) Above all, public worship +is the channel through which we receive special blessings from God. +There is communion in the sanctuary between us and Him. "The true +worshippers shall worship the Father in spirit and in truth, for the +Father _seeketh_ such to worship him." God desires our worship, and +blesses it to us. That He does so has been the experience of +Christians in all ages. They have found in the house and worship of +God a strength and power that supported and blessed their life. They +have realized that the promise of Christ is still fulfilled, "Where two +or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of +them." (Matt. xviii. 20.) + +II. The Church represents Christian teaching.--In the congregation the +Word of God is read and preached. (_a_) Preaching has always formed +part of the service of the Christian Church from the very earliest +times. In the second century Justin Martyr says: "On the day called +Sunday, all who live in the cities or in the country gather into one +place, and the memoirs of the apostles and the writings of the prophets +are read as time permits; then when the reader has ceased, the +president verbally instructs and exhorts to the imitation of these good +things." This description of an early Christian service is applicable +still. Wherever the Church meets there is religious teaching. (_b_) +And it is the only such teaching that multitudes receive. Without it +they would be left to grope their way alone. (_c_) Whenever, +therefore, there has been a revival of life in the Church, great stress +has been laid upon the preaching of the Word of God, and God has +specially blessed it to the conversion of sinners and the edification +of His people. + +III. The Church represents Christian fellowship.--(_a_) It keeps up +the idea of brotherhood in the world. It brings people of different +ranks and classes together, and that under most favorable +circumstances. Whatever a man is in the world, in the Church he is +made to feel that in the eye of God he is a member of one family, +having the same weaknesses, the same sorrows, the same needs, the same +destiny before him as those around him. In the Church "the rich and +poor meet together" in equality before the same God, who is the Maker +of them all. (_b_) But especially in its worship is the Church a +common bond between _believers_. On one day of the week men of all +nations, kindreds, peoples and tongues, a multitude whom no man can +number, unite in spirit together. Their prayers and praises ascend in +unison to the Throne of Grace. They enter into the "communion of +saints." They belong to one holy fellowship. (_c_) At the table of +the Lord they take their places as partakers of one life--as one in +Christ. "The cup of blessing which we bless, is it not the communion +of the blood of Christ? The bread which we break, is it not the +communion of the body of Christ? For we being many are all partakers +of that one bread." (1 Cor. x. 16, 17.) + +IV. The Church represents Christian Work.--It is not merely a society +for instruction or for the cultivation of devout feelings. It is an +aggressive society. Every congregation of believers is a branch of the +great army which is warring against the kingdom of darkness. Every +individual is called upon to be a "fellow-laborer with Christ," and not +merely to work out his own salvation, but to work for the salvation of +others. The motto of every true Christian Church should be, "Work for +everybody, and everybody at work." Those who may be able to do little +as isolated individuals may do much by combining their efforts with +those of others. The Church gives them the power and the opportunity. + +We may now glance at some of the special duties incumbent upon those +who are connected with the Church, and particularly upon young men. + +1. We should be regular in availing ourselves of the means of grace +which the Church affords. If it be the home of worship, of teaching, +of fellowship, and of work, it is a home from which we should not make +ourselves strangers. There is a blessing to be found there, and we are +remiss if we do not seek it. Every young man should be a regular +attendant on the ministrations of religion. He should be so (_a_) for +his own sake, and (_b_) for the sake of others. He may perhaps have at +times the feeling, I can get my worship in the fields and my teaching +from my books; I can get along without the Church. But surely he +undervalues the promised blessing to those who "forsake not the +assembling of (themselves) together." Surely he undervalues the power, +and strength, and comfort, that come from association with believers. +But even if he could get on without the Church, is he not bound to +consider others? Has any man in a world like ours, where all are bound +together and are dependent on one another, any right to consider as to +whether he can get on alone? Is he not bound to consider those around +him? We must all feel that it would be a great calamity to a nation +were public worship given up, churches closed, and Sunday made a day of +recreation. But those who absent themselves from public worship are +undoubtedly using their influence in that direction. If it be right +for them to absent themselves, it must be right also for others to +imitate them, and it is easy to see how disastrous generally such +imitation would be. + +Especially should every young man become _a communicant_ at the table +of the Lord. Besides the many spiritual benefits of which the +sacrament is the channel to every devout believer, it is an ordinance +which is particularly helpful to the young. It leads them to make a +decision, and decision gives strength. From the moment they +deliberately and solemnly make their choice, there is a power imparted +to their life that it had not before. In the life of the well-known +Scotsman, Adam Black, it is said that shortly after he went up to +London he became a communicant in the Church to which he belonged. "I +found," he says, "this step gave a stability to my character, and +proved a defence from follies and vices, especially as a young man in +London, entirely my own master, with no one to guide or check me." + +2. We should take each of us our full share in the work of our Church. +It is a poor sign of a church when all the work done is by the +minister, or by the office-bearers alone, and it is a still poorer sign +of those who belong to it. It is a sign that they have not felt the +power of that grace which ever leads the soul to put the question, +"What wilt thou have me to do?" There are none who cannot do +something. The writer read lately of a church in England, the grounds +of which were regularly tended and made beautiful by the young men +belonging to it. That may seem a small service, but it was something. +It showed a good spirit. If we are to get the most out of the Church, +we must help it to do its work--charitable, missionary, Sunday School, +Young Men's Guild. If the best heart and talent of young men were put +into these and other agencies, the power of the Church for good would +be increased immeasurably, and not the least of the advantage would +come to the workers themselves. Let each do his own part. There is +one way, we need scarcely say, in which we can all help the Church's +work: by giving to it "as the Lord hath prospered us." Under the Old +Testament dispensation every one was under strict obligation to give a +fixed proportion of his substance for religious purposes. Surely we +should not be less liberal when the proportion is left to our own sense +of duty. Freely we have received. Let us also freely give. + +3. While loyal to our own Church, we should cherish towards all +Christians feelings of charity and good-will. Many of us, probably +most of us, belong to the Church to which our parents belonged; and so +long as we feel it ministers to our spiritual benefit we should keep by +it and work with it. There is little good obtained by running from +church to church, and those who sever themselves from their early +religious associations are often anything but gainers. But while we +are loyal to our own regiment in the Christian army, and proud, so far +as a Christian may be so, of its traditions and achievements, let us +ever feel that the army itself is greater than our own regiment, and +not only cherish good-will and brotherly love towards those who fight +in that army, but be ready at all times to co-operate with them, and to +fight with them against the common enemy. It is well to be a good +churchman, it is infinitely better to be a good Christian. It is best +when one is both; for indeed he is the best Christian who is the best +churchman, and he is the best churchman who is the best Christian. + + + +[1] The subject of "The Church, Ministry and Sacraments" is to be fully +dealt with in a Guild text-book by the Rev. Norman Macleod, D. D. We +only refer in this chapter to those phases of Church life that are more +immediately connected with Life and Conduct. + +[2] _Confession of Faith_. + + + + +CHAPTER XVI. + +CITIZENSHIP. + +Citizenship is derived from the Latin word _civitas_, the state, and +comprehends the duties that are binding upon us as members of the +state. The first question then that arises in considering these is, +What do we mean by the state? + +The state may be defined as the larger family.--The family is the +origin of the state. (_a_) In early times government was of the simple +kind that prevails in a family. The father was the head of the +household and ruled over his children. As these grew up and had +families of their own, they naturally looked to the aged head of the +family, listened to his counsels, and were guided by his wisdom. Hence +the first form of the state was the tribe or clan, and the first form +of government was _patriarchal_. The head of the family governed the +tribe. (_b_) On the death of the patriarch it was necessary that a +successor should be appointed. Sometimes he was the son of the +patriarch or his nearest descendant. Sometimes he was chosen by the +tribe as the strongest and bravest man and most competent to lead them +against their enemies. Often tribes combined for mutual protection. +Thus nations were formed, and the government passed from the +patriarchal to the _monarchical_ form. The head was called the _king_, +which literally means the "father of a people." We trace this growth +in government in the history of the Israelites. First, we have the +family of Israel in immediate relation with the patriarchs. As the +Israelites grew and multiplied, they came under the leadership of +Moses, who governed the tribes. Finally, when they settled in the land +of Canaan, they became a nation, and were governed by a king. The +kingdom was the expansion of the family. (_c_) In modern times there +has been a further development. Government by a king or monarch was in +the first instance _despotic_. It is so in some cases--as in Russia at +the present day. The will of the sovereign is the law by which the +people are ruled. But just as a wise father relaxes his control over +his full-grown sons, and admits them to a share in the government of +the household with himself, so the people have in modern times been +permitted to exercise power in the state. The head of the state +remains, but the main power of government lies with the people. This +form of government is called _constitutional_. In Great Britain we +have a _limited monarchy_; the power of the sovereign is controlled by +the will of the people, who have a large share in making the laws. In +the United States of America, in France, and in other countries, we +have _republics_, where the voice of the people is supreme, though at +the head of the state is a president, elected by the people, and bound +to carry out their wishes. + +As the state is the larger family, the duties of those who compose it +correspond with those belonging to the members of a household. + +1. There is the duty of loyalty or patriotism. The first duty of the +member of a family is love of home and of those who belong to it. +However poor or humble it may be, he feels bound to it by no ordinary +ties. He defends its interests. Above all other households, he loves +his own the best. The first duty of the citizen is of the same kind. +He loves his land; his own country is dearer to him than any other on +earth. He is ready to defend it even with his life. The words of Sir +Walter Scott, as of many another poet, express this patriotic feeling: + + Breathes there the man with soul so dead, + Who never to himself hath said, + This is my own, my native land, + Whose heart hath ne'er within him burned, + As home his footsteps he hath turned, + From wandering on a foreign strand. + +Many have died for their country's sake, and in all ages this has been +thought a specially noble death. History records with affection the +names of such men as Wallace, Bruce, William Tell, and Garibaldi, who +sacrificed very much for the land they loved. And as "peace has its +victories no less renowned than those of war," it has been the pride of +others to serve their country by guarding its liberties, increasing its +happiness, diminishing its evils, reforming its laws. The _flag_ of a +country is the symbol, to those who belong to it, of their common +inheritance. Brave men will follow it through the shot and shell of +battle. Men have wrapt it round their breasts, and have dyed its folds +with their heart's blood to save it from the hands of the enemy; and +wherever it waves it calls forth feelings of loyalty and allegiance. + +2. Another primary duty of citizenship is obedience to the law. Here +again we have the rule of the family extended to the state. The child +is bound to obey his parents unless they bid him do what his conscience +clearly tells him is wrong; so, a good citizen will obey the laws of +his country, unless these laws are so evidently unjust that the good of +all demands that they should be resisted. Whatever the law is, he will +endeavor to respect and obey it. If he believes it to be an unjust or +unrighteous law, he will do his best to get it amended or abolished. +It is only in an extreme case, though this opens a subject on which we +cannot enter, that he can be justified in refusing obedience. "Let +every soul," says Scripture, "be subject unto the higher powers. For +there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God. +Whosoever therefore resisteth the power, resisteth the ordinance of +God; and they that resist shall receive to themselves condemnation. +For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to the evil. . . . +Wherefore, ye must needs be subject, not only for wrath, but also for +conscience sake." + +3. It is a duty of citizenship to see that the laws are reasonable and +just. In a family, the grown-up members will use their legitimate +influence to promote the wise regulation of the household, that there +may be peace and harmony. The same desire will animate the members of +the state. (_a_) This is specially incumbent upon those who, like +ourselves, live under constitutional government. With us, government +is not the prerogative of the Crown, or of a few families; or of men of +rank or wealth. It is not _despotic_, or _aristocratic_, or +_plutocratic_, but _democratic_--that is to say, it is in the hands of +the people, or of those of the people to whom it has been entrusted, +and who form a large proportion of the male inhabitants of the country; +on them devolves the making of the laws by which the country is +governed. They are bound to do their best to see that these laws are +what they should be--equitable and righteous, and for the interest of +the whole community. (_b_) This they can only do through their +representatives. We could conceive of a state so small that each of +its members could take a direct part in its government. That is not +the case with us, and the people can only exercise their control +through those they authorise to represent them. These they elect, and +in electing them are bound to see that they are men who are worthy of +the trust committed to them, who will make laws good for every class. +This applies not only to the election of members of Parliament, but +wherever the representative principle is carried out, as in the case of +councils, school boards, and other forms of local government. Wherever +a man exercises the privilege of choosing a representative, he is bound +to do so conscientiously, and with an earnest desire to perform what is +right. It is a maxim in law that what we do by another we do +ourselves. We are responsible for those whom we choose to make our +laws, and if we help to choose unworthy men we cannot be held blameless +of the consequences that may follow. (_c_) As it is our duty to +exercise this privilege of citizenship rightly, we are also bound not +to refrain from exercising it. We hear people say sometimes that they +have nothing to do with politics. But by keeping altogether aloof they +cannot rid themselves of their responsibility. By abstaining they may +do almost as much to further the views they disapprove of as by taking +an active part in promoting them. If there are evils in connection +with government, the best way to get rid of them is for good men to +take a part in public life, and try to bring about a better state of +things. In a free country no man can shake off his obligations by +refraining from taking part in public affairs. The talent that is +entrusted to us we are bound to use for the glory of God and the good +of man. Our political power, however small, is such a talent, and we +are responsible for its proper employment. + +4. It is a duty of citizenship to take direct part in all that we +believe is for the good of the state. We say a direct part, as +distinguished from the indirect part we take in government through +representatives. A man's duty as citizen does not end with the +ballot-box, or with the election of members either to the national or +local council. A great part of the business of the nation is carried +on by the voluntary efforts of its members. There are men and women +that have no part in representative government, who yet can discharge +nobly the duties of citizenship. (_a_) All can take a part in forming +a healthy public opinion. This is done in all free countries in +various ways: through the press, through public meetings, and by means +of the speech and communications of everyday life. If our views are +those of a minority, we may help, by our influence, our example, the +fearless expression of our convictions, to turn the minority into a +majority; and in a democratic country the views of the majority will +ultimately prevail. (_b_) We can also take direct part in promoting +objects that tend to the well-being of society. Much is left by the +state to voluntary effort by its members. The state undertakes the +defence of the country by the army and navy, the relief of the poor, +and the elementary education of the people; but beyond these and other +instances of direct state action there is much left to be done by the +people themselves, and for themselves. The Volunteer movement, in +which men take part of their own free will, and which has been of so +much benefit to the country; the erection and support of hospitals, +libraries, art galleries, colleges and universities; the furnishing of +the people with amusement and recreation--are illustrations of what may +be done by members of the community directly. All such efforts tend to +the welfare of the state. All its members reap benefit from them. He +who does not help and encourage them is as mean as the man who would go +to an hotel and take its entertainment, and then sneak away without +paying the reckoning. Whatever we can do to benefit society benefits +ourselves, and in throwing ourselves heart and soul into any of those +enterprises that benefit society we are discharging in a very special +way the duties of good citizenship. + +It only remains to say in a word that our citizenship should be the +outcome of our religion. Without that, citizenship loses its high +position. He who fears God will honor the king, and he who "renders to +God the things that are God's" will "render to Caesar the things that +are Caesar's." He will give "to all their dues: tribute to whom +tribute is due; custom to whom custom; fear to whom fear; honor to whom +honor." Religion thus becomes the strength of the state, and +"righteousness exalteth a nation." + + + + +APPENDIX. + +The following is the list of the best hundred books referred to in +Chapter XIII. It is by Professor Blackie, Edinburgh, author of +Self-Culture, and is given with his kind consent. + + +I. + +HISTORY AND BIOGRAPHY. + + The Bible. + Homer. + Wilkinson's Ancient Egyptians. + Max Von Dunche's History of the Ancient World. + Plutarch's Lives. + Herodotus. + History of Greece--_Grote_ or _Curtius_. + History of Rome--_Arnold_ or _Mommsen_. + Menzel's History of the Germans. + Green's History of the English People. + Life of Charlemagne. + Life of Pope Hildebrand. + The Crusades. + Sismondi's History of the Italian Republics. + Prescott's America. + Prescott's Ferdinand and Isabella. + Italy, by _Professor Spalding_. + Chronicles, by _Froissart_. + The Normans--_Freeman_ and _Thierry_. + Motley's Dutch Republic. + Life of Gustavus Adolphus. + The French Revolution--_Thiers, Carlyle, Alison_. + Bourrienne's Life of Napoleon. + Wellington's Peninsular Campaign. + Southey's Life of Nelson. + America--_Bancroft_. + The Stuart Rising of 1745, by _Robert Chambers_. + Carlyle's Life of Cromwell. + Foster's Statesmen of the Commonwealth. + Life of Arnold--_Stanley_. + Life of Dr. Norman Macleod. + Life of Baron Bunsen. + Neander's Church History. + Life of Luther. + History of Scottish Covenanters--_Dodds_. + Dean Stanley's Jewish Church. + Milman's Latin Christianity. + + +II. + +RELIGION AND MORALS. + + The Bible. + Socrates or Plato and Xenophon. + Marcus Aurelius Antoninus' Meditations. + Epictetus Seneca. + The Hitopadion and Dialogues of Krishna. + St. Augustine's Confessions. + Jeremy Taylor. + Bunyan's Pilgrim's Progress. + Martineau. + Aesop's Fables. + + +III. + +POETRY AND FICTION. + + Homer. + Virgil. + Dante. + The Niebelungen Lay. + The Morte D'Arthur. + Chaucer. + Shakespeare. + Spenser. + Goethe--Faust, Meister, and Eckermann's Conversations. + Milton. + Pope. + Cowper. + Campbell. + Wordsworth. + Walter Scott. + Burns. + Charles Lamb. + Dean Swift, "Tale of a Tub" and "Gulliver's Travels." + Tennyson. + Browning. + Don Quixote. + Goldsmith, "Vicar of Wakefield." + George Eliot. + Dickens. + Robinson Crusoe. + Andersen's Fairy Tales, "Mother Bunch." + Grimm's Popular Songs and Ballads, especially + Scotch, English, Irish and German. + + +IV. + +FINE ARTS. + + Ferguson's History of Architecture. + Ruskin. + Tyrwhitt. + + +V. + +POLITICS AND POLITICAL ECONOMY. + + De Tocqueville. + John Stuart Mill. + Fawcett. + Laveleye. + Adam Smith. + Cornewall Lewis. + Lord Brougham. + Sir J. Lubbock. + + +VI. + +SCIENCE AND PHILOLOGY. + + J. G. Wood's Books on Natural History. + White's Natural History of Selbourne. + Geology--_Hugh Miller, Ramsey, Geikie, Ansted_. + Botany--General Elements of British. + Science of Language--_Trench_ and _Farrar, Max Müller_. + Taylor's Words and Places. + + +VII. + +VOYAGES AND TRAVEL. + +In every variety; especially the old collections. + + + + +LIST OF WORKS. + +The following is a list of works upon topics treated in this text-book, +which have been consulted in its preparation, and which may be useful +to students: + +_Self-Culture_, by John Stuart Blackie. Edinburgh: David Douglas. +Twentieth edition. 1892. + +_Plain Living and High Thinking, or Practical Self-Culture--Moral, +Mental and Physical_, by W. H. Davenport Adams. London: John Hogg, +Paternoster Row. 1880. + +_The Secret of Success_, by W. H. Davenport Adams. London: John Hogg, +Paternoster Row. 1880. + +_The Threshold of Life_, by W. H. Davenport Adams. T. Nelson & Sons, +Paternoster Row. 1876. + +_On the Threshold_, by Theodore T. Munger. London: Ward, Lock & Co. +1888. + +_Beginning Life_, by John Tulloch, D.D. London: Chas. Burnet & Co. +1883. + +_Life: a Book for Young Men_, by J. Cunninghame Geikie. London: +Strahan & Co. 1870. + +_The Gentle Life_, by J. Hain Friswell. London: Sampson Low & Marston. +1870. + +_Self-Culture_, by James Freeman Clarke. Boston: J. R. Osgood & Co. +1881. + +_Life Questions_, by M. J. Savage. Boston: Lockwood, Brooks & Co. +1879. + +_Elements of Morality, for Home and School Teaching_, by Mrs. Chas. +Bray. London: Longmans, Green & Co. 1863. + +_The Family and its Duties_, by Robert Lee, D.D. London: Longmans, +Green & Co. 1863. + +_Christianity in its Relation to Social Life_, by Rev. Stephen J. +Davis. London: Religious Tract Society. + +_Home Life_, by Marianne Farningham. London: James Clarke & Co. + +_The Domestic Circle_, by the Rev. John Thomson. 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You may copy it, give it away or +re-use it under the terms of the Project Gutenberg License included +with this eBook or online at www.gutenberg.org + + + + + +Title: Life and Conduct + + +Author: J. Cameron Lees + + + +Release Date: July 11, 2007 [eBook #22050] + +Language: English + +Character set encoding: ISO-646-US (US-ASCII) + + +***START OF THE PROJECT GUTENBERG EBOOK LIFE AND CONDUCT*** + + +E-text prepared by Al Haines + + + +LIFE AND CONDUCT + +by + +J. CAMERON LEES, D.D., LL.D., + +Edinburgh. + + + + + + + +Toronto: +William Briggs, +Wesley Buildings. +Montreal: C. W. Coates. +Halifax: S. F. Huestis. +1896. + +Entered, according to Act of the Parliament of Canada, in the year one +thousand eight hundred and ninety-six, by WILLIAM BRIGGS, at the +Department of Agriculture. + + + + +INTRODUCTION. + +This book has been selected from the "Guild Series" for young people, +published in Scotland, and reprinted in Canada by permission. + +The wise counsels and practical suggestions with which this book +abounds make it eminently suitable for the Epworth League Reading +Course. We commend it to all young people who are desirous to form +their character on the Christian model and to carry religious principle +into the practical affairs of common life. + +Some of the chapters will furnish material for interesting programmes +in the Literary Department. + + + + +PREFACE. + +This hand-book has been written at the request of the Christian Life +and Work Committee of the Church of Scotland as one of a series of +volumes which it is at present issuing for the use of Young Men's +Guilds and Bible Classes. + +The object of the writer has been to show how the principles of +religion may be applied to the conduct of young men, and in the +practice of everyday life. In doing this he has endeavored to keep +steadily in view the fact that the book is designed chiefly as a manual +of instruction, and can only present the outlines of a somewhat wide +subject. His language has been necessarily simple, and he has been +often obliged to put his statements in an abbreviated form. + +Most of the contents of this book have been drawn from a long and +somewhat varied experience of life; but the author has also availed +himself of the writings of others who have written books for the +special benefit of young men. He has appended a list of works which he +has consulted, and has endeavored to acknowledge his indebtedness for +any help in the way of argument or illustration that they have afforded +him. + +It will be a great gratification to him to learn that the book has been +in any way useful to the young men, of whose position, duties, and +temptations he has thought much when writing it; and he sends it forth +with the earnest prayer that the Spirit of God may bless his endeavors +to be of service to those whose interests he, in common with his +brethren in the ministry, regards as of paramount importance. + +EDINBURGH, + _28th June, 1892._ + + + + +CONTENTS. + + +CHAP. + + I. CHARACTER + II. SUCCESS IN LIFE + III. PERSONAL INFLUENCE + IV. FRIENDS + V. MONEY + VI. TIME + VII. COURAGE + VIII. HEALTH + IX. EARNESTNESS + X. MANNERS + XI. TEMPER + XII. RECREATION + XIII. BOOKS + XIV. FAMILY LIFE + XV. CHURCH + XVI. CITIZENSHIP + + APPENDIX + LIST OF WORKS + + + + +LIFE AND CONDUCT. + + +CHAPTER I. + +CHARACTER. + +Everything in the practical conduct of life depends upon character. + +What is character? What do we mean by it? As when we say such a man +is a bad character, or a good character, or when we use the words, "I +don't like the character of that man." + +By character we mean what a man really is, at the back of all his +actions and his reputation and the opinion the world has of him, in the +very depth of his being, in the sight of God, "to whom all hearts are +open, all desires known, and from whom no secrets are hid." + +It is said of Burns, the poet, that walking along the streets of +Edinburgh with a fashionable acquaintance, he saw a poorly-dressed +peasant, whom he rushed up to and greeted as a familiar friend. His +companion expressed his surprise that he could lower himself by +speaking to one in so rustic a garb. "Fool!" said the poet, with +flashing eye; "it was not the dress, the peasant's bonnet and hodden +gray, I spoke to, but the man within--the man who beneath that bonnet +has a head, and beneath that hodden gray a heart, better than a +thousand such as yours." What the poet termed the "man within," what +the Scripture calls the "hidden man of the heart," is character--the +thing a man really is. Now, there are five things to be remembered +about _character_. + +I. Character is a growth.--As the man without grows, so the man within +grows also--grows day by day either in beauty or in deformity. We are +becoming, as the days and years pass on, what we shall be in our future +earthly life, what we shall be when that life is ended. No one becomes +what he is at once, whether what he is be good or bad. You may have +seen in the winter-time an icicle forming under the eaves of a house. +It grows, one drop at a time, until it is more than a foot long. If +the water is clear, the icicle remains clear and sparkles in the sun; +but if the water is muddy, the icicle looks dirty and its beauty is +spoiled. So our characters are formed; one little thought or feeling +at a time adds its influence. If these thoughts and feelings are pure +and right, the character will be lovely and will sparkle with light; +but if they are impure and evil, the character will be wretched and +deformed. + +Fairy tales tell us of palaces built up in a night by unseen hands, but +those tales are not half so wonderful as what is going on in each of +us. Day and night, summer and winter, a building is going up within +us, behind the outer screen of our lives. The storeys of it are being +silently fashioned: virtue is being added to faith, and to virtue is +being added knowledge, and to knowledge is being added brotherly +kindness, and to brotherly kindness charity; or meanness is being added +to selfishness, and greed to meanness, and impurity, malice and hatred +become courses in the building. A wretched hovel, a poor, mean, +squalid structure, is rising within us; and when the screen of our +outward life is taken from us, this is what we shall be. + +II. Character is independent of reputation and circumstances.--A man +may be held in very high esteem by the world, and yet may be a very +miserable creature so far as his character is concerned. The rich man +of the parable was well off and probably much thought of, but God +called him a fool. Here is a man who is greatly esteemed by the +public; he is regarded in every way as admirable. Follow him home, and +you find him in his family a mean and sordid soul. There you have the +real man. We cannot always judge a man by what he has, or by what he +appears to us; for what he is may be something very different. "These +uniforms," said the Duke of Wellington, "are great illusions. Strip +them off, and many a pretty fellow would be a coward; when in them he +passes muster with the rest." We must not confound the uniform with +the man: we are often too ready to do so. _To a certain extent_ we can +form an idea what a man is from the outside. The horny hand tells of +the life of labor; the deep-set brow tells of the thinker. In other +words we have a right to judge a man by his habitation. If the fences +are broken down, the paths are unkept, the flower-beds full of weeds, +we may be pretty sure the inhabitants are idle, thriftless, perhaps +intemperate. So a clear eye, a firm step, an open countenance, tell of +a pure, good soul within. For example, a man of cold exterior or of +formal manner may often have a warm heart under it all; a man of rough +manners may have kindly feelings that he cannot express. We are often +long in the company of men before we really know them, and then the +discovery of what they are comes on us by surprise. + +III. Character cannot be always hidden.--There are those who seem to +think that they can have one set of principles for themselves and +another for the outward world; that they can be in their heart one +thing and in society another; that they can have one character and +another reputation. They may be proud, but they can so hide their +pride as to have the reputation of being humble; they can lie, but +still have the reputation of always speaking the truth; they can be +impure, and yet have the reputation of being virtuous. But sooner or +later what they really are generally becomes manifest. Reputation and +character come to be one. That which they would keep secret cannot be +concealed. The mask which men would wear slips aside and discloses the +face beneath it. (1) Time reveals character. As the years pass along, +a man generally gets to be known for what he is. For example, if a man +is a coward and enlists in the army, he may swagger about and look like +a real soldier, but a time will come when the spirit of the man will +show itself, and he will be set down at his real value. Or a young man +in an office may act dishonestly and go on perhaps for long doing so, +and thinking he is carefully concealing his frauds, but, when least +expected, discovery takes place, and ruin and disgrace follow. (2) +Sorrow reveals character. Nothing more truly shows what a man is than +his bearing under the sorrows of life. When the flag is wrapped around +the flag-staff on a calm day, when no breath of wind is moving, we +cannot read the device that is upon it, but when the storm unfurls the +flag, we can read it plainly enough. In the same way when the troubles +of life beat upon men we can read clearly what they are. Again, when +we go along the road on a summer day we often cannot see the houses +that are concealed by the foliage of the trees; but in winter-time, +when the trees are bare and leafless, we know what kind of houses are +there, whether they are squalid cottages or grand mansions. So in the +winter-time of life, when the leaves are blown away, men come out and +we know what kind of character they have been building up behind the +screen of their life. (3) If time and sorrow do not reveal character, +eternity will. We will appear then, not as we seem, but as we are. +Christ is to be our judge. Consider what a striking thing it is in the +life of Christ that His searching glance seemed to go right to the +heart, to the hidden motive, to the man within. "He knew what was in +man." A poor woman passed by Him as He sat in the temple. She was +poverty-stricken in her garb, and she stole up to the contribution-box +and dropped in her offering. Christ's glance went right beyond her +outward appearance, and beyond her small and almost imperceptible +offering, to the motive and character. "She hath given more than they +all." All sorts of people were around Him: Pharisees, with their +phylacteries; Scribes, with their sceptical notions; Samaritans, with +their vaunted traditions: but He always went right beyond the outward +show. The Samaritan was good and kind, though he got no credit for +piety; the Pharisee was corrupt and self-seeking, though he got no +credit for piety; the Publican was a child of God, though no one would +speak to him. Christ reversed the judgment of men on those people whom +they thought they knew so well, but did not know at all. So it shall +be at the last; we shall be judged by what we are. + +IV. Character alone endures.--What a man has he leaves behind him; +what a man is he carries with him. It is related that when Alexander +the Great was dying he commanded that his hands should be left outside +his shroud, that all men might see that, though conqueror of the world +he could take nothing away with him. Before Saladin the Great uttered +his last sigh he called the herald who had carried his banner before +him in all his battles, and commanded him to fasten to the top of the +spear a shroud in which he was to be buried, and to proclaim, "This is +all that remains to Saladin the Great of all his glory." So men have +felt in all ages that death strips them, and that they take nothing +with them of what they have gained. But what we are ourselves we take +with us. All that time has made us, for good or evil, goes with us. +We can lay up treasures in ourselves that neither moth nor rust can +corrupt, and which thieves cannot steal away. "The splendid treasures +of memory, the treasures of disciplined powers, of enlarged capacities, +of a pure and loving heart, all are treasures which a man can carry in +him and with him into that other world." + + We are but farmers of ourselves, yet may, + If we can stock ourselves and thrive, uplay + Much good treasure for the great rent-day.--DONNE. + + +"All the jewels and gold a man can collect he drops from his hand when +he dies, but every good action he has done is rooted into his soul and +can never leave him."--Buddhist saying. + +V. The highest character a man can have is the Christian +Character.--(1) Christ is the giver of a noble character. It is +possible to be united to Christ as the branch is united to the tree; +and when we are so, His life passes into ours: a change in character +comes to us; we are renewed in the inward man, old things pass away, +and all things become new. In the life of St. Paul we have a striking +instance how coming to Christ effects a change in character. He became +a different man from what he was; he received a new inward life; a +transfiguring change passed over the entire character; the life he +lived in the flesh became a life of faith in the Son of God; and his +experience has been the experience of many. The source of the highest +and noblest character is Christ. (2) Christ is also the _standard_ of +a noble character; the true ideal of manhood is found in Him: "the +stature of the fulness of Christ." Take the following illustration: +"In Holland we travel with Dutch money, in France with French money, in +Germany with German money. The standard of the coinage varies with +every state we go into. In Britain there is one standard of coinage; +we may get some corrupted money or some light coin, but the standard of +coinage is the same. The standard for the Christian is the same +throughout the years and in all places: the one perpetual standard of +the life of Christ." The best men are those who come the nearest to +it. Those who come nearest to it are those who will do best in the +practical conduct of life. + + + + +CHAPTER II. + +SUCCESS IN LIFE. + +We often hear the word success used. The great wish that most have in +beginning life is that they may be successful. One man constantly asks +another the question regarding a third, How has he succeeded? + +What is success in life? It may perhaps be defined in this way: It is +to obtain the greatest amount of happiness possible to us in this world. + +There are two things to be borne in mind in estimating what success is: + +I. Lives which according to some are successful must in the highest +sense be pronounced failures.--The idea of many is that success +consists in the gaining of a livelihood, or competency, or wealth; but +a man may gain these things who yet cannot be said to have succeeded. +If he gets wealth at the expense of health, or if he gets it by means +of trickery and dishonest practices, he can hardly be said to have +succeeded. He does not get real happiness with it. If a man gains the +whole world and loses his own soul, he cannot be said to have +succeeded. True success in life is when a fair share of the world's +good does not cost either physical or intellectual or moral well-being. + +II. Lives which according to some are failures must in the highest +sense be pronounced successful.--The life of our blessed Lord, from one +point of view, was a failure. It was passed in poverty, it closed in +darkness. We see Him crowned with thorns, buffeted, spit upon; yet +never was Christ so successful as when He hung upon the cross. He had +finished the work given Him to do. He "saw of the travail of His soul +and was satisfied." + +Milton completed his _Paradise Lost_ and a bookseller only gave him +fifteen pounds for it, yet he cannot be said to have failed. + + Speak, History, who are life's victors? unroll thy long + annals and say, + Are they those whom the world calls victors, who won + the success of the day, + The martyrs or Nero? The Spartans who fell at + Thermopylae's tryst + Or the Persians or Xerxes? His judges or Socrates? + Pilate or Christ? + + +What may seem defeat to some may be in the truest sense success. + +_There are certain things which directly tend to success in life:_ + +The first is Industry.--There can be no success without working hard +for it. There is no getting on without labor. We live in times of +great competition, and if a man does not work, and work hard, he is +soon jostled aside and falls into the rear. It is true now as in the +days of Solomon that "the hand of the diligent maketh rich." + +(_a_) There are some who think they can dispense with hard work because +they possess great natural talents and ability--that cleverness or +genius can be a substitute for diligence. Here the old fable of the +hare and the tortoise applies. They both started to run a race. The +hare, trusting to her natural gift of fleetness, turned aside and took +a sleep; the tortoise plodded on and won the prize. Constant and +well-sustained labor carries one through, where cleverness apart from +this fails. History tells us that the greatest genius is most diligent +in the cultivation of its powers. The cleverest men have been of great +industry and unflinching perseverance. No truly eminent man was ever +other than an industrious man. + +(_b_) There are some who think that success is in the main a matter of +what they call "luck," the product of circumstances over which they +have little or no control. If circumstances are favorable they need +not work; if they are unfavorable they need not work. So far from man +being the creature of circumstances he should rather be termed the +architect of circumstances. From the same materials one man builds +palaces and another hovels. Bricks and mortar are mortar and bricks +till the architect makes something out of them. In the same way, out +of the same circumstances one man rears a stately edifice, while +another, idle and incompetent, lives for ever amid ruins. +Circumstances rarely conquer a strong man; he conquers them. He + + Breaks his birth's invidious bar + And grasps the skirts of happy chance, + And breasts the blows of circumstance, + And grapples with his evil star.--TENNYSON. + + +Against all sorts of opposing obstacles the great workers of the world +fought their way to triumph. Milton wrote _Paradise Lost_ in blindness +and poverty. Luther, before he could establish the Reformation, had to +encounter the prestige of a thousand years, the united power of an +imperious hierarchy and the ban of the German Empire. Linnaeus, +studying botany, was so poor as to be obliged to mend his shoes with +folded paper and often to beg his meals of his friends. Columbus, the +discoverer of America, had to besiege and importune in turn the states +of Genoa, Portugal, Venice, France, England, and Spain, before he could +get the control of three small vessels and 120 men. Hugh Miller, who +became one of the first geological writers of his time, was apprenticed +to a stonemason, and while working in the quarry, had already begun to +study the stratum of red sandstone lying below one of red clay. George +Stephenson, the inventor of the locomotive engine, was a common collier +working in the mines. James Watt, the inventor of the steam-engine, +was a poor sickly child not strong enough to go to school. John +Calvin, who gave a theology to the seventeenth and eighteenth +centuries, which has not yet been outgrown, was tortured with disease +all his days. When were circumstances favorable to any great or good +attempt, except as they were compelled by determination and industry to +become favorable? + +(_c_) Even if circumstances seem in every way favorable, industry is +necessary to success. Though we be born, as the saying is, "with a +silver spoon in our mouth," we cannot afford to dispense with work. +Unless we are hard-working, life will become a weariness to us. Work +keeps life full and happy; it drives all diseased fancies out of the +mind; it gives balance and regularity to all movements of the soul. + +If then we expect to succeed in life we must make up our mind to work +hard. We must not let it be our notion of a fine lady or gentleman to +do nothing. The idle life is a miserable life; it is bound to be so. +God has promised many a blessing to industry; He has promised none to +indolence. God himself works, and He wants His children to work. + +_The second thing that tends directly to success in life is a distinct +Aim_.--A man may run very hard in a race, the perspiration may stream +from his brow and every muscle be strained, but if he is not running in +a right direction, if he is running away from the goal, all his +activity will not help him. So, industrious habits are not sufficient, +unless we have a distinct idea of what we are aiming at. The world is +full of purposeless people, and such people come to nothing. Those who +have succeeded best have chosen their line and stuck to it. + + One great aim, like a guiding-star above, + Which tasked strength, wisdom, stateliness, to lift + Their manhood to the height that takes the prize. + BROWNING. + + +(_a_) The choice of a trade or profession is of enormous importance in +settling our aim in life. Men often fail from having adopted a calling +for which they are entirely unfitted. The round man in the square hole +is a pitiful spectacle. It is difficult to lay down any special rule +in regard to the choice of a profession or business. Some are obliged +to take whatever opportunity offers, and others have to begin work at +too early an age to permit them to form a true idea of what they are +best fitted for, and are obliged to follow the wishes of others rather +than their own. This only we can say, that so far as we have a choice +we should adopt the calling that is most congenial to us and suits our +inclinations. "Grasp the handle of your being" was the direction given +by a wise counsellor to one who sought advice as to what calling he +should follow. Everyone has certain aptitudes, and as far as he is +able should keep them in view. There is often a distinct indication at +a very early period of life for what we are best fitted. "The tastes +of the boy foreshadow the occupations of the man. Ferguson's clock +carved out of wood and supplied with rudest mechanism; Faraday's tiny +electric machine made from a common bottle; Claude Lorraine's pictures +in flour and charcoal on the walls of the bakers' shops; Canova's +modelling of small images in clay; Chantrey's carving of his +school-master's head in a bit of pine wood,--were all indications clear +and strong of the future man." + +(_b_) Whatever you resolve upon, keep to it. "One thing I do," is a +great rule to follow. It is much better to do one thing well than many +things indifferently. It may be well to have "many strings to our +bow," but it is better to have a bow and string that will every time +send the arrow to the target. A rolling stone gathers no moss. He +that is everything by turns and nothing long comes to nothing in the +end. + + If thou canst plan a noble deed + And never flag till it succeed, + Though in the strife thy heart should bleed, + Whatever obstacles contend, + Thine hour will come, go on, thou soul! + Thou'lt win the prize, thou'lt reach the goal. + CHAS. MACKAY. + + +(_c_) The higher our purpose is, the greater our attainment is likely +to be. The nobler our ideal, the nobler our success. It seems +paradoxical to say it, but it is true, that no one ever reached a goal +without starting from it; no one ever won a victory without beginning +the battle with it; no one ever succeeded in any work without first +finishing it in his own mind. + + Pitch thy behavior low, thy projects high, + So shalt thou humble and magnanimous be. + Sink not in spirit; who aimeth at the sky + Shoots higher much than he who means a tree. + G. HERBERT. + +When we go forward to life we should make up our mind what we intend to +make of life. Make up your mind after prayer to God, and work for that. + +_The third essential to success in life is Moral Character_, in its +various elements of honesty, truthfulness, steadiness, temperance. +"Honesty is the best policy" is one of those worldly maxims that +express the experience of mankind. A small leak will sink a great +ship. One bad string in a harp will turn its music into discord. Any +flaw in moral character will sooner or later bring disaster. The most +hopeless wrecks that toss on the broken waters of society are men who +have failed from want of moral character. There are thousands of such +from whom much was expected but from whom nothing came. It is told of +a distinguished professor at Cambridge that he kept photographs of his +students. He divided them into two lots. One he called his basket of +adled eggs: they were the portraits of men who had failed, who had come +to nothing though they promised much. What brought most of them to +grief was want of character, of moral backbone. Some of them--a good +many of them--went to drink, others to love of pleasure, others to the +bad in other ways. Good principle counts for more than can be +expressed; it is essential. Many things may hinder a man from getting +on--slowness, idleness, want of ability, trifling, want of interest in +his vocation. Many of these faults may be borne with long by others, +and may be battled with earnestly by ourselves; but a flaw in character +is deadly. To be unsteady, dishonest, or untruthful is fatal. Before +God and man an unfaithful servant is worthless. We may have other +qualifications that go to command success, such as those we have +noticed,--industry and a distinct aim,--but want of principle will +render them useless. Slow and sure often go together. The slow train +is often the safest to travel by, but woe be to it and to us if we do +not keep upon the rails. + +_The last essential to success in life is Religious +Hopefulness_.--(_a_) Our industry, our purpose, our principles may be +all they ought to be, yet the "race is not always to the swift nor the +battle to the strong." But when we find the race going from us and the +battle going against us, if we have trust in God and the hopefulness +that comes from religion, we will find heart to try again: we will not +be utterly cast down. Christian faith keeps men in good heart amid +many discouragements. (_b_) Even if a man or woman become rich or +clever and have life pleasant around them, they cannot feel at the +close of life that they have succeeded if the future is dark before +them. When Cardinal Wolsey, who had been the favorite of the king and +had long held the government of England in his hand, fell from power, +he said, "If I had served my God as truly as I served my king He would +not have forsaken me in my gray hairs." The world is a poor comforter +at the last. No man or woman has become successful until their +essential happiness is placed beyond the reach of all outward +fluctuation and change. Faith in Christ, the faith that penetrates the +future and brings down from heaven a bright and blessed hopefulness, +which casts its illumination over the present scene and reveals the +grand object of existence, is essential to true success. + +We cannot sum up the teachings of this chapter better than in the words +of a poem of which we should try to catch the spirit: they express the +very philosophy of success in life: + + Courage, brother! do not stumble, + Though thy path be dark as night; + There's a star to guide the humble;-- + Trust in God, and do the right. + + Let the road be rough and dreary, + And its end far out of sight, + Foot it bravely! strong or weary, + Trust in God, and do the right. + + Perish policy and cunning, + Perish all that fears the light! + Whether losing, whether winning, + Trust in God, and do the right. + + Trust no party, sect, or faction; + Trust no leaders in the fight; + But in every word and action + Trust in God, and do the right. + + Trust no lovely forms of passion,-- + Fiends may look like angels bright: + Trust no custom, school, or fashion-- + Trust in God, and do the right. + + Simple rule, and safest guiding, + Inward peace and inward might, + Star upon our path abiding,-- + Trust in God, and do the right. + + Some will hate thee, some will love thee, + Some will flatter, some will slight: + Cease from man, and look above thee,-- + Trust in God, and do the right. + NORMAN M'LEOD. + + +That is the way to succeed in life. + + + + +CHAPTER III. + +PERSONAL INFLUENCE. + +We are all of us in close relations to one another. We are bound +together in numberless ways. As members of the same family, as members +of the same community, as members of the same Church--we are bound so +closely together that what any one of us does is certain to tell upon +others. It is out of this close connection with others that influence +comes. Just as one man in a crowd sends by his movements a certain +impulse throughout the whole, just as the stone thrown into a pond +causes waves that move far away from where the stone fell and that +reach in faint ripples to the distant shore, so our very existence +exercises influence beyond our knowledge and beyond our calculation. + +_Influence is of two kinds, Direct and Indirect_--Conscious and +Unconscious,--The first is influence we deliberately put forth, as when +we meet a man and argue with him, as when the orator addresses the +multitude, or the politician seeks to gain their suffrages. The second +is the influence which radiates from us, whether we will it or not, as +fire burning warms a room, or icebergs floating down from the frozen +north change the temperature where they come. There is a passage in +Scripture where both kinds of influence are illustrated. "Iron +sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend. As +in water face answereth to face, so the heart of man to man." The +first part of the proverb refers to direct influence: as "iron +sharpeneth iron," so one man applying to another his powers of +persuasion, his motives in the shape of money or some other inducement, +moulds, fashions, sharpens him to his liking. "As in water face +answereth to face:" this is the silent influence which we have on +others. There is no conscious exercise of power, there is no +deliberate putting forth of strength, there is no noise as of iron +against iron; but as our shadow is silently reflected in the still +water, so our life and character silently reflect themselves in others, +and other hearts answer to the feelings that sway our own. + +I. Direct or conscious influence.--In regard to this everyone must +choose his own line of action. Everyone has his own special gift, and +everyone has his own special opportunities. There are, however, +certain lines of direct influence that may be indicated, and which lie +open to all. + +(_a_) Keeping others in the right path. We constantly meet with people +who are evidently taking a wrong road; it is our duty to try and show +them the right one, and to persuade them to walk in it. We see men +taking up with evil habits, evil companions, or evil opinions; we are +bound to remonstrate with them and endeavor to warn them timeously. +This of course needs to be wisely done, and after prayer to God to +guide us rightly; but we ought to do it. "A word spoken in due season +how good is it." Such a word has often been blessed and made +effectual, and we should not shrink from speaking it. The right time +for speaking it should be chosen, but it should not be left by us +unsaid. When Paley the great moralist was a student at Cambridge he +wasted his time in idleness and frivolity, and was the butt of his +fellow-students. One of them, however, took courage to remonstrate +with him, and did so with good effect. One morning he came to his +bedside and said to him earnestly, "Paley, I have not been able to +sleep for thinking about you. I have been thinking what a fool you +are! I have the means of dissipation, and could afford to be idle; you +are poor and cannot afford it. I could do nothing probably even if I +were to try; you are capable of doing anything. I have lain awake all +night thinking about your folly, and I have now come solemnly to warn +you. Indeed, if you persist in your indolence and go on in this way, I +must renounce your society altogether." The words took effect. Paley +became a changed man, and his after success sprang from his friend's +warning. This incident illustrates what may be the influence in this +form of one man upon another. + +(_b_) Bearing testimony against evil. This is another line of direct +influence open to all. It is a precept of the book of Leviticus, "If a +soul sin, and hear the voice of swearing, and is a witness, whether he +hath seen or known of it; if he do not utter it, then he shall bear his +iniquity." If he does not give evidence against evil, even to his own +hurt he sins. We are bound to protest against wrongdoing in any form; +and our protest, if distinct and well directed, always tends to good. +To be silent in certain circumstances makes us the accomplice of sin; +to speak out frees us from responsibility. To be the dumb auditor of a +shameful story, or to listen silently to the relation of a deed of +wickedness, and not be honest and resolute in expressing our disgust +and disapproval is to condone what no good man should condone. The +outspoken testimony against evil is incumbent on all Christian men. + +(_c_) Taking part in Christian and benevolent work. There are many +ways, it is evident, in which we may do so _individually_. "The +greatest works that have been done have been done by the ones." No +learned society discovered America, but one man, Columbus. No +parliament saved English liberties, but one man, Pym. No confederate +nations rescued Scotland from her political and ecclesiastical enemies, +but one man, Knox. By one man, Howard, our prisons were purified. By +one woman, Miss Nightingale, our disgraceful nursing system was +reformed. By one Clarkson the reproach of slavery was taken away. God +in all ages has blessed individual effort, and if we are strong enough +to take up any special line of benevolent and Christian work that seems +open to us we should not shrink from it. We should be on the lookout +for it. But many from their circumstances are not able to do so, and +such can find their best opportunity by _combining their own effort +with the efforts of others_. There are many agencies at work in every +community for the helping of man, and they afford to all the +opportunity of wisely using their power of influence. This is true +especially of the Christian Church. It has been defined as "a society +for doing good in the world." In many ways it carries on work for the +benefit of others. In every Christian congregation there ought to be +some work in which each of its members, however few his talents may be, +can engage; and in lending a helping hand each of them may do something +directly towards making society sweeter and better. + +II. Indirect or unconscious influence.--There is an imperceptible +personal atmosphere which surrounds every man, "an invisible belt of +magnetism" which he bears with him wherever he goes. It invests him, +and others quickly detect its presence. Take some of its simplest +phases. + +(_a_) Think of the influence of a _look_. When Christ stood in the +courtyard of the palace of the High Priest over against His weak and +erring disciple, whom He heard denying Him with oaths, it is said, "The +Lord looked upon Peter." No more than that, and it reached right down +into his heart. It touched him as nothing else could have touched him. +"He went out and wept bitterly." It was said of Keble the poet that +"his face was like that of an illuminated clock, beaming with the +radiance of his poetry and wisdom"; and it is written of one of the +most spiritually-minded of Scotchmen, Erskine of Linlathen, that "his +looks were better than a thousand homilies." There was something in +the very expression of his countenance that spoke to men of an inner +life and of a spiritual dwelling in God. + +(_b_) Think of the influence of a _smile_: the smile of welcome when we +call at a friend's house; the smile of recognition when we meet him in +the street; the smile of pleasure which the speaker sees in his +audience; the smile of satisfaction in one to whom we have done an act +of kindness. By the very expression of the countenance we can +influence others, make their life more pleasant or more painful. There +are those who by the sweetness of their demeanor are in a household +like fragrant flowers. They are like the sweet ointment of spikenard +which the woman poured upon Christ--the sweet perfume of it "filled the +whole house." + +(_c_) Think of the influence of _sympathy_. There are some natures +that are gifted with a blessed power to bring consolation to men. It +is not that they are glib of tongue or facile of speech, but somehow +the very pressure of their hand is grateful to the saddened heart. The +simple and kindly action, of which we think nothing, may tell +powerfully on others, and unclose fountains of feeling deep down in the +heart. + +(_d_) Think of the influence of _example_: the simple doing of what is +right, though we say nothing about it; the upright life of a father or +mother in a household; the steady conduct of a soldier in his company; +the stainless character of a workman among his comrades, or a boy in +his school. It is bound to tell. "Example," says Dr. Smiles, "is one +of the most potent instructors, though it teaches without a tongue. It +is the practical school of mankind working by action, which is always +more forcible than words. Precept may point to us the way, but it is a +silent continuous example conveyed to us by habits, and living with us +in fact, that carries us along. Good advice has its weight, but +without the accompaniment of a good example it is of comparatively +small influence, and it will be found that the common saying of 'Do as +I say, not as I do' is usually reversed in the actual experience of +life." Goodness makes good. As a man who trims his garden in a +straight row and makes it beautiful will induce in time all his +neighbors to follow him, or at least to be ashamed of their ragged and +ill-kept plots in contrast with his own, so is it that the upright, +good life of a sincere Christian man will silently tell upon others. + +These are some illustrations of the power of influence unconsciously +exercised, and the whole subject teaches us (1) Our responsibility. If +we are ready to ask, "Am I my brother's keeper?" the answer is, you +cannot help being so. It is as easy to evade the law of gravitation as +the law of responsibility. A man was lately prosecuted for having +waited on his customers in clothes he had worn when attending his +children during an infectious complaint. It was proved that he had +sown broadcast germs of the disease. It would have been no +justification for him to say, What has anyone to do with the clothes I +wear? It is my own business. He was a member of the community. His +action was silently but surely dealing out death to others. He was +punished, and justly punished. We cannot live without influencing +others. We say perhaps that "we mean well," or at least we mean to do +no one any harm, but is our influence harmless? It is going from us in +forms as subtle as the germs of an infectious disease. + + Say not, "It matters not to me, + My brother's weal is _his_ behoof," + For in this wondrous human web, + If your life's warp, his life is woof. + + Woven together are the threads, + And you and he are in one loom, + For good or ill, for glad or sad, + Your lives must share one common doom. + + Then let the daily shuttle glide, + Wound full of threads of kindly care, + That life's increasing length may be + Not only strongly wrought, but fair. + + So from the stuff of each new day + The loving hand of Time shall make + Garments of joy and peace for all, + And human hearts shall cease to ache. + M. J. SAVAGE. + +(2) The power all have to do good. There are some who think they can +only serve God and man in a direct and premeditated way, by taking up +some branch of Christian work and devoting themselves to it; and if +they have no gift in any special direction, they think they are outside +of the vineyard altogether. But it is not so. The sphere of quiet and +unassuming Christian life is open to all. It is impossible to measure +the extent of our influence. Its + + Echoes roll from soul to soul, + And grow for ever and for ever. + +Like those of the Alpine horn in the solitudes of the mountains, long +after the voice that caused them has ceased, they reverberate far and +wide. No man lives to himself. He could not do so if he would. (3) +The secret of good influence is to be influenced for good ourselves. +Our lamp must be first lit if it is to shine, and we must ourselves be +personally influenced by coming to the great source of spiritual power. +If Christ is in a man, then, wherever he may be, there will radiate +from him influences that can only be for good. Out of the life that is +in him "will flow rivers of living water." + + Thou must be true thyself + If thou the truth wouldst teach. + Thy soul must overflow if thou + Another soul wouldst reach. + It needs the overflowing heart + To give the lips full speech. + Think truly, and thy thought + Shall the world's famine feed. + Speak truly, and thy word + Shall be a fruitful seed. + Live truly, and thy life shall be + A great and noble creed. + + + + +CHAPTER IV. + +FRIENDS. + +By friends we mean those whom we admit to the inner circle of our +acquaintance.--All of us know many people. We are bound to do so; to +meet with men of all classes, sects, beliefs, opinions. But with most +of us there are a few persons who stand to us in a different relation +from the rest. We are intimate with them. We take pleasure in their +company; we tell them our thoughts: we speak to them of things we would +not speak of to others; we confide in them, and in joy and in sorrow it +is to them we go. It is of this inner circle, and of those we ought to +admit to it, that we have now to speak. + +Friendship has been regarded in all ages as one of the most important +relationships of life.--Cicero, who dedicates an essay to it says that +"it is the only thing on the importance of which mankind are agreed." +It has been defined by Addison, the great English writer, as "a strong +habitual inclination in two persons to promote the good and happiness +of each other." It has been termed by another "the golden thread that +ties the hearts of the world." "A faithful friend" has been called +"the medicine of life." Ambrose, one of the Christian Fathers, says, +"It is the solace of this life to have one to whom you can open your +heart, and tell your secrets; to win to yourself a faithful man, who +will rejoice with you in sunshine, and weep in showers. It is easy and +common to say, 'I am wholly thine,' but to find it true is as rare." +And Jeremy Taylor, the great preacher, calls friendship "the ease of +our passions, the discharge of our oppressions, the sanctuary to our +calamities, the counsellor of our doubts, the charity of our minds, the +emission of our thoughts, the exercise and improvement of what we +meditate." The great preachers, philosophers and poets of all time +have dwelt on the importance and sweetness of friendship. The _In +Memoriam_ of Tennyson is a glorification of this relationship. + +The highest of all examples of friendship is to be found in +Christ.--"His behaviour in this beautiful relationship is the very +mirror in which all true friendship must see and mirror itself." [1] +In His life we see the blessings of companionship in good. "He loved +Martha, and her sister, and Lazarus." He had intimate friends in His +group of disciples. Peter and James and John stood to Him in this +relation. They were taken by Him into scenes which the rest of the +disciples did not behold. They knew a friendship with Him unenjoyed by +the others. And of that inner circle there was one to whom the soul of +Jesus clung with peculiar tenderness--the beloved disciple. Human +friendship has been consecrated for us all by this example of Christ. +He offers himself to every one of us as a _friend_: "Ye are my friends +if ye do whatsoever I command you." + +There are two things which specially show the importance of friendship: + +(_a_) It is regarded by others _as a test of our character_. The worth +of a man will always be rated by his companions. The proverbs of all +nations show this. "A man is known by the company he keeps." "Like +draws to like." "Birds of a feather flock together." If our +companions are worthless, the verdict of society regarding us will be +that we are worthless ourselves. This verdict may not in all cases be +true, but the probability is that it will be true. If we are admitted +to the friendship of men of honor, integrity and principle, people will +come to believe in us. We would not, they will feel, be admitted into +that society unless we were in sympathy with those who compose it. If +we wish, therefore, that a good opinion should be formed regarding us +by others, we need to be especially careful as to those with whom we +associate closely and whom we admit to intimate friendship. + +(_b_) Friends have a special power in _moulding our character_. George +Herbert's saying is true, "Keep good company, and you shall be of their +number." It is difficult, on the other hand, to be much with the silly +and foolish without being silly and foolish also. It is the common +explanation of a young man's ruin that he got among bad companions. We +may go into a certain society confident that we will hold our own, and +that we can come out of it as we go in; but, as a general rule, we will +find ourselves mistaken. The man of the strongest individuality comes +sooner or later to be affected by those with whom he is intimate. +There is a subtle influence from them telling upon him that he cannot +resist. He will inevitably be moulded by it. Here also the proverbs +of the world point the lesson. "He who goes with the lame," says the +Latin proverb, "will begin to limp." "He who herds with the wolves," +says the Spanish, "will learn to howl." "Iron sharpeneth iron," says +the scriptural proverb, "so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his +friend." The rapidity of moral deterioration in an evil companionship +is its most startling feature. It is appalling to see how soon an evil +companionship will transform a young man, morally pure, of clean and +wholesome life, into an unclean, befouled, trifling good-for-nothing. +Lightning scarcely does its work of destruction quicker, or with more +fell purpose. + +It is difficult to give precise rules in regard to the formation of +friendship. "A man that hath friends," says Solomon, "must show +himself friendly." The man of a generous and sympathetic nature will +have many friends, and will attract to himself companions of his own +character. A few suggestions, however, founded on practical +experience, may be offered for our guidance. + +I. We should be (_a_) slow to make friendships, and (_b_) slow to +break them when made.--(_a_) It is in the nature of some to take up +with people very readily. Some young men are like fish that rise +readily to a gaudy and many-colored fly. If they see anything that +attracts them in another they admit him at once to their confidence. +It should not be so. Among the reported and traditional sayings of +Christ, there is one that is full of wisdom: "Be good money changers." +As a money changer rings the coin on his counter to test it, so we +should test men well before we make them our friends. There should be +a narrow wicket leading into the inner circle of our social life at +which we should make them stand for examination before they are +admitted. An old proverb says, "Before you make a friend, eat a peck +of salt with him." We should try before we trust; and as we should be +careful whom we receive, we should be equally careful whom we part +with. "Thine own friend, and thy father's friend, forsake not." With +some, very little severs the bond of friendship. They are always +changing their companions. They are "Hail fellow, well met," with one +to-day, and cold and distant to-morrow. Inconstancy in friendship is a +bad sign. It generally arises from readiness to admit to intimacy +without sufficient examination. The friendship that is quickly +cemented is easily dissolved. Fidelity is the very essence of true +friendship; and, once broken, it cannot be easily renewed. Quarrels +between friends are the bitterest and the most lasting. Broken +friendship may be soldered, but never made sound. + + Alas! they had been friends in youth, + But whispering tongues can poison truth. + * * * * + They parted, ne'er to meet again, + But never either found another + To free the hollow heart from paining. + They stood aloof, the scars remaining, + Like cliffs which had been rent asunder; + A dreary sea now flows between. + COLERIDGE. + + +Shakespeare gives this rule for friendship in his own wonderful way. +It could not be better stated-- + + The friends thou hast, and their adoption tried, + Grapple them to thy soul with hooks of steel; + But do not dull thy palm with entertainment + Of each new-hatched, unfledged comrade. + + +II. We should refuse friendship with those whose standard of right is +below our own.--Anything in a man or woman that indicates low moral +tone, or want of principle, should debar them at once from our +friendship. It is not easy to say in so many words what want of +principle is, but we all know what is meant by it. It corresponds to a +constitutional defect in the physical system. A person may have +ailments, but that is different from a weak and broken constitution. +So a person may have faults and failings, but a want of principle is +more serious. It is a radical defect which should prevent friendship. +A small thing often shows us whether a person wants principle. The +single claw of a bird of prey tells us its nature. According to the +familiar saying, "We don't need to eat a leg of mutton to know whether +it is tainted; a mouthful is sufficient." So a single expression may +tell us whether there is a want of moral principle. A word showing us +that a person thinks lightly of honesty, of purity in man, of virtue in +woman, should be sufficient to make us keep him at a distance. We may +be civil to him, try to do him good, and lead him to better things, but +he is not one to make our friend. Cowper the poet says: + + I would not enter on my list of friends, + Though graced with polished manners and fine sense, + Yet wanting sensibility, the man + Who needlessly sets foot upon a worm. + +We may think it a small thing to set the foot upon a worm, but to do so +needlessly and wantonly indicates a hard and cruel nature, and a man +with such a nature is not a safe friend. + +III. There should be equality in friendship.--Equality of station, of +circumstances, of position. It does not do to lay down a hard and fast +line as to this. For instance, in a "young men's guild" men of all +stations and social conditions meet on an equality. They are a +brotherhood bound together by ties of a very close description. To +them this rule does not apply. Among members of such an association, a +young man may always fitly find a friend. It is friendships formed +outside such a circle, and in general society, that we have in view; +and, in regard to such society, we are probably not far wrong in saying +that we do well to choose our intimate friends from those who are +neither much above us nor beneath us. If a man is poor, and chooses as +a friend one who is rich, the chances are either that he becomes a +toady and a mere "hanger-on," or that he is made to feel his +inferiority. Young men in this way have been led into expenses which +they could not afford, and into society that did them harm, and into +debts sometimes that they could not pay. Making friends of those +beneath us is often equally a mistake. We come to look upon them with +patronizing affability. "It is well enough to talk of our humble +friends, but they are too often like poor relations. We accept their +services, and think that a mere 'thank you,' a nod, a beck, or a smile +is sufficient recompense." [2] Either to become a toady or a patron is +destructive of true friendship. We should be able to meet on the same +platform, and join hands as brothers, having the same feelings, the +same wants, the same aspirations. We should be courteous to the man +above us, and civil to the man beneath us; but if we value our +independence and manhood we will not try to make a friend of either. + +IV. We should not make a friend of one who is without reverence for +what we deem sacred and have been taught to deem sacred.--The want of +"reverence for that which is above us" is one of the most serious +defects in man or woman. We should be as slow to admit one to our +friendship who has this defect as we would be if we knew he had entered +into a church and stolen the vessels of the sanctuary. We should +consort only with those who honor the sacred name we bear, and treat it +with reverence. We should especially beware of admitting to intimacy +the sceptic and infidel. There are those who have drifted away from +the faith of Christ, and to whom God and eternity are mere names. Such +are deserving of our most profound pity and sorrow, and we should do +all in our power to lead them back to the Father's house from which +they have wandered. But we should never make them our friends. We +cannot dwell in an ill-ventilated and ill-drained house without running +the risk of having our own constitution lowered. We cannot associate +in close companionship with the infidel and the sceptic without +endangering our own spiritual life. Doubt is as catching as disease. +"Take my word for it," said the great Sir Robert Peel, who was a close +observer of men, "it is not prudent, as a rule, to trust yourself to +any man who tells you he does not believe in God, and in a future life +after death." We should choose our friends from those who have chosen +the better part, and day by day we shall feel the benefit of their +companionship in making us stronger and better. + +These are some plain rules drawn from long experience of life which may +be helpful to some. We may conclude by quoting the noble lines of +Tennyson in which he draws the picture of his friend, Arthur Hallam, +and the inspiration he drew from him: + + Thy converse drew us with delight, + The men of rathe and riper years: + The feeble soul, a haunt of fears, + Forgot his weakness in thy sight. + + On thee the loyal-hearted hung, + The proud was half disarm'd of pride, + Nor cared the serpent at thy side + To flicker with his double tongue. + + The stern were mild when thou wert by, + The flippant put himself to school + And heard thee, and the brazen fool + Was soften'd, and he knew not why; + + While I, thy nearest, sat apart, + And felt thy triumph was as mine; + And loved them more, that they were thine, + The graceful tact, the Christian art; + + Nor mine the sweetness or the skill, + But mine the love that will not tire, + And, born of love, the vague desire + That spurs an imitative will. + TENNYSON. + + +Happy are those whose friends in some degree approach the character +here delineated. + + + +[1] Stalker's _Imago Christi_. + +[2] Hain Friswell, _The Gentle Life_. + + + + +CHAPTER V. + +MONEY. + +Money has been defined as _the measure and standard of value, and the +medium of exchange_. It represents everything that may be purchased. +He who possesses money has potentially in his possession everything +that can be bought with money. Money is thus power. It seems to have +in itself all earthly possibilities. + +There are three things which should be borne in mind in regard to money: + +I. Money itself is neither good nor bad.--It is simply force. It is +like the lightning or the sunlight: it withers or nourishes; it smites +or does other bidding; it devastates or fertilizes, according as it is +used by us. Whether money is good or bad depends on whether it is +sought for in right or wrong ways, used wisely or unwisely, squandered +where it does harm, or bestowed where it does good. (_a_) That it may +be a power for good is evident to all. It enables men to benefit their +fellow-creatures; it gives a man independence; it procures him comforts +he could not otherwise have obtained. It is, as it has well been +termed, "the lever by which the race has been lifted from barbarism to +civilization. So long as the race could do nothing but barely live, +man was little more than an animal who hunted and fought for his prey. +When the race began to think and plan and save for tomorrow, it +specially began to be human. There is not a single feature of our +civilization to-day that has not sprung out of money, and that does not +depend on money for its continuance." (_b_) That money may be a power +for evil is equally evident. Much of the crime and sin and sorrow of +the world spring from its misuse. "The love of money," as Scripture +says, "is a root of all evil." In the haste to be rich men too often +lose their very manhood. Money, it is often said, does wonders, but +"the most wonderful thing that it does is to metalize the human soul." + +II. Money and our relation to it is a test of character--The making +and the using of it is an education. If we know how one gets and +spends money, we know what a man is. "So many are the bearings of +money upon the lives and characters of mankind, that an insight which +would search out the life of a man in his pecuniary relations would +penetrate into almost every cranny of his nature. He who, like St. +Paul, has learnt how to want and how to abound, has a great knowledge; +for if we take account of all the virtues with which money is mixed +up--honesty, justice, generosity, charity, frugality, forethought, +self-sacrifice, and their correlative vices--it is a knowledge which +goes to cover the length and breadth of humanity, and a right measure +and manner in getting, saving, spending, taking, lending, borrowing and +bequeathing would almost argue a perfect man." [1] Nearly all the +virtues and all the vices are connected with money. Its acquisition +and its distribution are almost certain indications of what we are +morally. + +III. There are some things that are better than money, and that cannot +be purchased with it--These are indeed the best things. All that can +be bought money possesses actually or potentially, but there are some +things that cannot be bought. Love, friendship, nobleness of soul, +genius, cannot be purchased. We must estimate rightly the power of +money. It is great, but it may be exaggerated, (_a_) _Honesty_ is +better than money. If a man gains money at the expense of honesty and +integrity, he pays too great a price. He is like a savage who barters +jewels for a string of beads. (_b_) _Home_ is better than money. If a +man, struggling and striving to be rich, has no time for the joys of +family and the rich blessings that circle round the fireside, if he +knows nothing of the charm of love and the pleasures that spring from +the affections, he pays too great a price--"a costly house and +luxurious furnishings are no substitute for love in the home." (_c_) +_Culture_ is better than money. If a man grows up in ignorance and +vulgarity, shut out from the world of art, literature and science, and +all that refines and elevates the mind--a rude, uncultured boor--he +pays too great a price for any money he may scrape together. (_d_) +_Humanity_ is better than money. The rich man who leaves Lazarus +untended at his gates, who builds about him walls so thick that no cry +from the suffering world ever penetrates them, who becomes mean and +stingy, close-fisted and selfish, pays too great a price. Of such a +man it is said in Scripture that "in hell he lifted up his eyes." +Surely he made a bad bargain, (_e_) _Spirituality_ is better than +money. He who has made an idol of his wealth, who in gaining it has +lost his soul, who has allowed money to come between him and God, has +paid too great a price for it. He has well been depicted by John +Bunyan as the man with the muck-rake gathering straws, whilst he does +not see the golden crown that is held above him. Christ tells us God +regards such a man as a fool. + +There are certain rules of conduct which may be laid down, drawn both +from Scripture and experience, in regard to money. + +1. _We are especially to remember our stewardship_.--Money is a trust +committed to us, for which we are to give account unto God. We are +answerable to Him for the use we make of it. If we have amassed +wealth, from God has come the power that enabled us to do so. All we +have is His--not our own. To each of us shall be addressed the words, +"Give an account of thy stewardship, for thou mayest be no longer +steward." If we remember this great truth we shall be rightly guided, +both in regard to the accumulation and the distribution of money. We +shall not inordinately desire it, for we shall feel that with its +increase comes new responsibility; and we shall be careful how we spend +it, for the question will ever be present to our minds, What would the +great Master, to whom we have to give account, wish us to do with it? +Those who have most wisely used their money are the men who have +realized most intensely the thought of their stewardship. In the "Life +of Mr. Moore," the successful merchant, by Smiles, this is most +admirably shown. He amassed, by industry and by enterprise, great +wealth; he lived a noble and benevolent life; he was honored by all men +for his character and his generosity. But at the root and foundation +of his life was the thought that all he had was a trust committed to +him by God. + +2. _We should do good as we go_.--There are those who allow that they +should do good with their money, but they defer carrying out their +intention till they have accumulated something that they think +considerable. If they ever become rich, then they will do great +things. The folly of this is apparent, (_a_) They lose the happiness +which the humblest may daily reap from small deeds of kindness; and +(_b_) they lose the power which will enable them to do anything if the +great opportunity they desire comes. "Doing good," it has been well +said, "is a faculty, like any other, that becomes weak and atrophied, +palsied for lack of use. You might as well stop practising on the +piano, under the impression that in a year or two you will find time to +give a month to it. In the meantime, you will get out of practice and +lose the power. Keep your hand and your pocket open, or they will grow +together, so that nothing short of death's finger can unloose them." +[2] However little money we may have, we should use a portion of it in +doing good. The two mites of the widow were in the eye of Christ a +beautiful offering. Giving should always go with getting. Mere +getting injures us, but giving brings to us a blessing. "Gold," says +holy George Herbert, "thou mayest safely touch; but if it stick it +wounds thee to the quick." George Moore, to whom we have referred, +wrote yearly in his diary the words of wisdom-- + + What I saved I lost, + What I spent I had, + What I gave I have. + +What proportion of our money we should give every one must determine +for himself, but we are not safe spiritually unless we cultivate the +habit of generosity. "The Lord loveth a cheerful giver." "There are +many," it has been satirically said, "who would be Good Samaritans +without the oil and the two pence." All of us, however humble our +station, are bound to give "as God hath prospered us" for the help of +man and the cause of Christ; and the discharge of the obligation will +become to us one of the greatest pleasures in life. + +3. _We should cultivate thrift_.--Thrift is just forethought. It is +reasonable prudence in regard to money. It provides for "the rainy +day." If poverty be our lot, we must bear it bravely; but there is no +special blessing in poverty. It is often misery unspeakable. It is +often brought upon us by our self-indulgence, extravagance and +recklessness. We are to use every means in our power to guard against +it. The words of the poet Burns are full of common-sense: + + To catch Dame Fortune's golden smile, + Assiduous wait upon her, + And gather gear by every wile + That's justified by honor; + Not for to hide it in a hedge, + Nor for a train attendant, + But for the glorious privilege + Of being independent. + +The squalor and wretchedness which often fall upon people come from +their not having exercised a little thought in the use of their money. +A little self-denial would have saved them, and those depending on +them, from many sorrows. A saving habit is good. "It is coarse +thinking to confound spending with generosity, or saving with +meanness." The man who puts by a little week by week or year by year, +against possible contingencies is wise. However small may be our +salary and limited our income, we should try and save part of it. +Every young man should be a member of a savings bank, or a benefit +club, by means of which he can make provision for the future. The +honest endeavor to make such provision is in itself an education. + +4. _We should earnestly endeavor to avoid debt_.--Debt means slavery. +It is loss of independence. It is misery. "He" (says a Spanish +proverb) "that complains of sound sleep, let him borrow the debtor's +pillow." Every shilling that we spend beyond our income means an +addition to a burden that may crush us to the ground. "Pay as you go," +is a good rule. "Keep a regular account of what you spend," is +another. "Before you buy anything, think whether you can afford it," +is a third. But whatever rule we follow in regard to our expenditure, +let us see that it does not exceed our income. The words of Horace +Greeley, a great American writer and politician who had a large +experience of life, are not too strong: "Hunger, cold, rags, hard work, +contempt, suspicion, unjust reproach, are disagreeable, but debt is +infinitely worse than them all. Never run into debt! Avoid pecuniary +obligation as you would pestilence or famine. If you have but fifty +cents and can get no more a week, buy a peck of corn, parch it, and +live on it, rather than owe any man a dollar." + +5. _We should resolutely set our face against gambling_.--Gambling is +one of the curses of our time. It is the endeavor to get money by +dispensing with labor, to make it without honestly working for it. It +entails widespread ruin and degradation. Its consequences are often of +the most appalling character. When the gambling spirit is once +aroused, like drunkenness, it becomes an overpowering appetite, which +the victim becomes almost powerless to resist. Gambling is in itself +evil, apart from its deadly effects. (_a_) It proposes to confer gain +without merit, and to reward those who do not deserve a reward, (_b_) +It proposes to benefit us while injuring our neighbor. "Benefit +received," says Herbert Spencer in his _Sociology_, referring to +gambling, "does not imply effort put forth; but the happiness of the +winner involves the misery of the loser. This kind of action is +therefore essentially anti-social, sears the sympathies, cultivates a +hard egoism, and produces general deterioration of character and +conduct." The young should specially guard against this vice, which +has been a rock upon which many a promising life has made disastrous +shipwreck. + + + +[1] Sir Henry Taylor, _Notes from Life_. + +[2] _Life Questions_, by M. J. Savage. + + + + +CHAPTER VI. + +TIME. + +"Time," it is said, "is money." So it is, without doubt. But to the +young man or young woman who is striving to make the most of himself or +herself time is more than money, it is character and usefulness. They +become great and good just as they learn how to make the best use of +their time. On the right employment of it depends what we are to be +now, and what we are to be hereafter, "We all complain," says the great +Roman philosopher Seneca, "of the shortness of time, and yet we have +more than we know what to do with. Our lives are spent either in doing +nothing at all, or in doing nothing to the purpose, or in doing nothing +that we ought to do. We are always complaining that our days are few, +and acting as though there would be no end of them." + +In regard to the right use of time--how to make the most of it and to +get the most out of it--there are certain things that we should bear in +mind and keep in constant remembrance. We may arrange them for +convenience under four heads: _Economy, System, Punctuality and +Promptitude_. + +I. Economy.--We all know what economy is. In regard to money, in +connection with which the word is chiefly used, it is keeping strict +watch over our expenditure, and not spending a penny without good +reason. According to the oft-quoted proverb, "Take care of the pence +and the pounds will take care of themselves." Economy, in regard to +time, is to watch over the minutes, hours and days, and the years will +take care of themselves. It is, to let every moment of time be well +employed; to let every hour of the day as it passes be turned to use; +to let none be spent in idleness or folly. It is a good advice that of +the poet-- + + Think nought a trifle though it small appears, + Sands make the mountain, moments make the years, + And trifles life. + +In the mint, where money is coined, when the visitor reaches the room +where the gold coins are cast, it is said that the floor is a network +of wooden bars to catch all the particles of the falling metal. When +the day's work is done, the floor is removed and the golden dust is +swept up to be melted again. In the same way we should economize time: +gather up its golden dust, let none of its moments be lost. Be careful +of its spare minutes, and a wealth of culture will be the result. It +is said of a European cathedral that when the architect came to insert +the stained-glass windows he was one window short. An apprentice in +the factory where the windows were made came forward and said that he +thought he could make a window from the bits of glass cast aside. He +went to work, collected the fragments, put them together, and produced +a window said to be the finest of all. In the same way men have made +much out of the bits of time that have been, so to speak, broken from +the edges of a busy life. + +Many illustrations might be given from history of what men have been +able to do by a wise economy of time. Sir Humphry Davy established a +laboratory in the attic of his house, and when his ordinary day's work +was done began a course of scientific studies that continued throughout +his memorable life. Cobbett learned grammar when a soldier, sitting on +the edge of his bed. Lincoln, the famous president of America, +acquired arithmetic during the winter evenings, mastered grammar by +catching up his book at odd moments when he was keeping a shop, and +studied law when following the business of a surveyor. Douglas +Jerrold, during his apprenticeship, arose with the dawn of day to study +his Latin grammar, and read Shakespeare and other works before his +daily labor began at the printing office. At night, when his day's +work was done, he added over two hours more to his studies. At +seventeen years of age he had so mastered Shakespeare that when anyone +quoted a line from the poet he could give from memory that which came +next. While walking to and from his office Henry Kirke White acquired +a knowledge of Greek. A German physician, while visiting his patients, +contrived to commit to memory the _Iliad_ of Homer. Hugh Miller, while +working as a stonemason, studied geology in his off hours. Elihu +Burritt, "the learned blacksmith," gained a mastery of eighteen +languages and twenty-two dialects by using the odds and ends of time at +his disposal. Franklin's hours of study were stolen from the time his +companions devoted to their meals and to sleep.[1] Many similar +instances might be added to show what may be done by economising time +and strictly looking after those spare minutes which many throw away. +The great rule is, never to be unemployed, and to find relief in +turning from one occupation to another, due allowance of course being +made for recreation and for rest. The wise man economises time as he +economises money. + +II. System.--It is wonderful how much work can be got through in a day +if we go by rule--if we map out our time, divide it off and take up one +thing regularly after another. To drift through our work, or to rush +through it in _helter skelter_ fashion, ends in comparatively little +being done. "One thing at a time" will always perform a better day's +work than doing two or three things at a time. By following this rule +one person will do more in a day than another does in a week. "Marshal +thy notions," said old Thomas Fuller, "into a handsome method. One +will carry twice as much weight trussed and packed as when it lies +untoward, flapping and hanging about his shoulders." Fixed rules are +the greatest possible help to the worker. They give steadiness to his +labor, and they enable him to go through it with comparative ease. +Many a man would have been saved from ruin if he had appreciated the +value of method in his affairs. In the peasant's cottage or the +artisan's workshop, in the chemist's laboratory or the shipbuilder's +yard, the two primary rules must be, "For every one his duty," and, +"For everything its place." + +It is a wise thing to begin the day by taking a survey in thought of +the work we have to get through, and thus to divide it, giving to each +hour its own share. The shortest way to do many things is to do one +thing at a time. Albert Barnes was a distinguished American theologian +who wrote a valuable commentary on the Bible amid the work of a large +parish. He accomplished this by systematic arrangement of his time. +He divided his day into parts. He devoted each part to some duty. He +rigidly adhered to this arrangement, and in this way was able to +overtake an amount of work that was truly wonderful. In the life of +Anthony Trollope, the great novelist, we are told that he kept +resolutely close to a rule he laid down for himself. He wrote so many +pages a day of so many lines each. He overtook an immense amount of +work in the year. He published many books, and he made a great deal of +money. The great English lawyer Sir Edward Coke divided his time +according to the well-known couplet-- + + Six hours in sleep, in law's grave study six, + Four spend in prayer, the rest on nature fix. + +Sir William Jones, the famous Oriental scholar, altered this rule to +suit himself. + + Seven hours to law, to soothing slumber seven, + Ten to the world allot, and all to Heaven. + +Benjamin Franklin's system of working is given in his "Life." Each day +was carefully portioned off. His daily programme was the following: + + + Morning. ) Rise, wash, and address the + 5 ) Almighty Father; contrive + [Question, What good 6 ) the day's business and take + shall I do this day?] 7 ) the resolution of the day; + ) prosecute the present study, + ) breakfast. + + 8 ) + to ) Work + 11 ) + + 12 ) Read or look over accounts and + Noon. to ) dine. + 1 ) + + 2 ) + Afternoon, to ) Work + 5 ) + + 6 ) Put things in their place; + Evening to ) supper; music or diversion or + [Question, What good 9 ) conversation; examination of + have I done to-day?] ) the day. + + 10 ) + Night to ) Sleep. + 4 ) + + +It is evident that a scheme of life like this could not suit everyone. +It is given as an illustration of the value of adhering to method in +our work. "Order," the poet Pope says, "is Heaven's first law," and +time well ordered means generally work well and thoroughly done. + +III. Punctuality.--This means keeping strictly as to time by any +engagement we make either with ourselves or with others. If we resolve +to do anything at a certain time, we should do it neither before nor +after that time. It is better to be before than after. But it is best +to be at the very minute. If we enter into an engagement with others +for a certain time, we should be precise in keeping it. In a letter +from a celebrated merchant, Buxton, to his son, he says, "Be punctual; +I do not mean merely being in time for lectures, but mean that spirit +out of which punctuality grows, that love of accuracy and precision +which mark the efficient man. The habit of being punctual extends to +everything--meeting friends, paying debts, going to church, reaching +and leaving place of business, keeping promises, retiring at night and +rising in the morning." We may lay down a system or method of work for +ourselves, but it will be of little service unless we keep carefully to +it, beginning and leaving off at the appointed moment. If the work of +one hour is postponed to another, it will encroach on the time allotted +to some other duty, if it do not remain altogether undone, and thus the +whole business of the day is thrown into disorder. If a man loses half +an hour by rising late in the morning, he is apt to spend the rest of +the day seeking after it. Sir Walter Scott was not only methodical in +his work, he was exceedingly punctual, always beginning his allotted +task at the appointed moment. "When a regiment," he wrote, "is under +march, the rear is often thrown into confusion because the front does +not move steadily and without interruption. It is the same thing in +business. If that which is first in hand be not instantly despatched, +other things accumulate betimes, till affairs begin to press all at +once, and no brain can stand the confusion." We should steadily +cultivate the habit of punctuality. We can cultivate it until it +becomes with us a second nature, and we do everything, as the saying +is, "by clockwork." In rising in the morning and going to bed, in +taking up different kinds of work, in keeping appointments with others, +we should strive to be "to the minute." The unpunctual man is a +nuisance to society. He wastes his own time, and he wastes the time of +others; as Principal Tulloch well says, "Men who have real work of +their own would rather do anything than do business with him." [2] + +IV. Promptitude.--By this we mean acting at the present moment--all +that is opposed to procrastination, putting off to another time, to a +"convenient season" which probably never comes--all that is opposed +also to what is called "loitering" or "dawdling." There is an old +Latin proverb, "_Bis dat qui cito dat,_"--he gives twice who gives +quickly. The same thing may be said of work, "He works twice who works +quickly." In work, of course, the first requirement is that it should +be well done; but this does not hinder quickness and despatch. There +are those who, when they have anything to do, seem to go round it and +round it, instead of attacking it at once and getting it out of the +way; and when they do begin it they do so in a listless and +half-hearted fashion. There are those who look at their work, +according to the simile of Sidney Smith, like men who stand shivering +on the bank instead of at once taking the plunge. "In order," he says, +"to do anything that is worth doing in this world, we must not stand +shivering on the bank thinking of the cold and the danger, but jump in +and scramble through as well as we can. It will not do to be +perpetually calculating and adjusting nice chances; it did all very +well before the Flood, when a man could consult his friends upon an +intended publication for a hundred and fifty years, and then live to +see its success for six or seven centuries afterwards, but at present a +man doubts, and waits, and hesitates, and consults his brother, and his +uncle, and his first cousin, and his particular friends, till one day +he finds that he is sixty-five years of age, that he has lost so much +time in consulting first cousins and particular friends that he has no +time to follow their advice." This is good sense, though humorously +put. Promptitude is a quality that should be assiduously cultivated. +Like punctuality, it becomes a most valuable habit. "Procrastination," +it is said, "is the thief of time," and "hell is paved with good +intentions." These proverbs are full of wisdom. When we hear people +saying, "They are going to be this thing or that thing; they _intend_ +to look to this or to that; they will by and by do this or that," we +may be sure there is a weakness in their character. Such people never +come to much. The best way is not to _speak_ about doing a thing, but +_to do it_, and to do it _at once_. + +To these thoughts on the use of time we may fitly add the great words +of Scripture, "So teach us to number our days that we may apply our +hearts unto wisdom," Ps. xc. 12. "Redeeming the time, because the days +are evil," Ephes. v. 16. We transform time into eternity by using it +aright. + + + +[1] These illustrations are given by Mr. Davenport Adams. + +[2] _Beginning Life_. + + + + +CHAPTER VII. + +COURAGE. + +We all know what is meant by courage, though it is not easy to define +it. It is the determination to hold our own, to face danger without +flinching, to go straight on our way against opposing forces, neither +turning to the right hand nor the left. + +It is a quality admirable in the eyes of all men, savage and civilized, +Christian and non-Christian--as admirable as cowardice, the opposite +quality, is detestable. The brave man is the hero of the savage. +Bravery, or, as the Scriptures term it, _virtue_, is a great requisite +in a Christian. If it is not the first, it is the second +characteristic of a Christian life. "Add," says St. Paul, "to your +faith virtue," that is to say, courage. + +It is the very glory of youth to be courageous.--The "sneak" and the +"coward" are the abhorrence of youth. It is youth which climbs "the +imminent deadly breach" and faces the deadly hail of battle, which +defies the tyranny of custom and the hatred of the world. One may have +compassion for age, which is naturally timid and sees fears in the way, +but youth which is cowardly is contemptible. + +There are two kinds of courage--the one of a lower, the other of a +higher type. (_a_) The first, the lower kind of courage, is that which +has its root and foundation in our physical nature. It is +constitutional; there is little or no merit in it. Some men are born +to know no fear--men of strong nerve, of iron constitution, and +powerful physique. Such men laugh at danger and scorn opposition. +Theirs is the courage of the lion or the bull-dog, and there is no +virtue about it. They cannot help being what they are. (_b_) But +there is another kind of courage which is not so much physical as +_moral_. It has its foundation not in man's bodily constitution so +much as in his higher nature. It draws its power from the invisible. +"Are you not afraid," was a question put by a young and boastful +officer to his companion whose face was blanched and pale, as they +stood together amid the thickly falling shot of a battle-field. "I +_am_ afraid," he replied, "and if you were half as afraid as I am, you +would run." In his case there was little physical courage, but there +was the higher courage drawn from a sense of duty which made him stand +firm as a rock. When our Lord knelt in His mysterious anguish in +Gethsemane, His whole physical nature seemed broken down, "His sweat +was as it were great drops of blood falling down to the ground." +"Suffer," He said, "this cup to pass from me"; and His strength came +from the invisible. "Not my will," He cried, "but thine be done." +With that sublime trust in God strengthening Him, He shrank not back +for a moment; He took the cup and drained it to the dregs. This is the +highest form of courage that there is. The weakest women have +displayed it in face of appalling dangers. It is the courage of the +martyr, the patriot, the reformer. There is a glory and beauty in it +before which all men bow. + +There are three chief forms which this moral courage takes in ordinary +life. + +_First, there is the courage of our opinions_.--Many people, perhaps +the majority, do not have opinions. They have simply notions, +impressions, sentiments, prejudices, which they have imbibed from +others. They may be said to be like looking-glasses, which have a +shadow of whatever stands before them. So long as they are in company +with a positive person who believes something, they have an opinion. +When he goes the shadow on the looking-glass goes also. They are like +the sand on the seashore--the last person who comes the way makes a +track and the next wave washes it away and leaves the sand ready for +another impression. How many are there who, when any important +question comes up, have no opinion about it, until they read their +paper or hear what other people are saying. There is no sort of +courage more needed than the courage to form an opinion and keep by it +when we have formed it. There is no more contemptible form of +cowardice than to do a thing merely because others do it. The grand +words of President Garfield of the United States are worthy of +remembrance: "I do not think what others may say or think about me, but +there is one man's opinion about me which I very much value, that is +the opinion of James Garfield; others I need not think about. I can +get away from them, but I have to be with him all the time. He is with +me when I rise up and when I lie down, when I go out and when I come +in. It makes a great difference whether he thinks well of me or not." +To this noble utterance we may add the words of the poet Russell Lowell: + + They are slaves who will not choose + Hatred, scoffing, and abuse, + Rather than in silence shrink + From the truth they needs must think. + They are slaves who dare not be + In the right with two or three. + + +_Second, there is the courage of resistance_.--This is the chief form +courage should take in the young. They are surrounded on every side by +strong temptations--temptations addressed to their lower nature, to +vanity, to indolence, to scepticism, to impurity, to drunkenness. +There is many a young man beset by temptation who has in reality to +fight far harder if he will maintain his integrity than any soldier +belonging to an army making its way through an enemy's country. He +does not know when an ambush may be sprung upon him, or from what side +the attack may come. In an old tower on the Continent they show you, +graven again and again on the stones of one of the dungeons, the word +_Resist_. It is said that a Protestant woman was kept in that hideous +place for forty years, and during all that time her employment was in +graving with a piece of iron, for anyone who might come after her, that +word. It is a word that needs to be engraven on every young man's and +young woman's heart. It represents the highest form of courage which +to them is possible--the power to say "No" to every form of temptation. + +_Third, there is the courage of endurance_.--This is really the noblest +form of courage. There is no excitement in it; nothing to be won by +it. It is simply to bear without flinching. In the buried city of +Herculaneum, near Vesuvius, now uncovered, after the guide has shown +the visitor the wonders of the place he takes him to the gate and +points out the stone box where were found, buried in ashes, the rusted +remains of the helmet and cuirass of the Roman sentinel. When the +black cloud rose from the mountain, and the hot ashes fell around him, +and the people rushed out at the gate, he stood there immovable, +because it was his duty, and died in his place, suffocated by the +sulphury air. It was a grand instance of courage, but it is seen again +and again equalled in common life. In men and women stricken down by +fell disease; in those on whom adverse circumstances close like the +walls of an iron chamber; in people for whom there was no possible +escape, who could only bear, but who stood up firm and erect in their +weakness, whose cross, instead of crushing them to the earth, seemed +only to lift them up. We are told that Robert Hall, the great +preacher, suffered much from disease. He was forced often to throw +himself down and writhe on the ground in paroxysms of pain. From these +he would rise with a smile, saying, "I suffered much, but I did not cry +out, did I? did I cry out?" + +These are the chief forms of moral courage in ordinary life. We have +now to point out what are the sources of such courage. + +The first source of courage is conviction--the feeling that we are in +the right, the "testimony of a good conscience." Nothing can make a +man brave without that. "Thrice is he armed," we are told, "who hath +his quarrel just," and he is more than trebly armed who knows in his +heart that it is just. If we go over the roll of the strongest and +bravest men the world has seen we will find that at the root of their +courage there lay this fact of conviction. They _believed_, therefore +they spake, therefore they fought, therefore they bled and died. The +man of strong conviction is the strong man all the world over. If a +man wants that, he will be but a feeble character, a poor weakling to +the end of the chapter. Shakespeare says that "conscience makes +cowards of us all"; but it does something else when it makes us fear +evil--it lifts us above all other fear. So it raised Peter, who had +shortly before denied his Master, to such courage that he could say +before his judges, "Whether it be right in the sight of God to hearken +unto you more than unto God, judge ye. For we cannot but speak the +things which we have seen and heard." It has enabled men and women to +endure a martyr's death when one word, which they would not speak, +might have saved them. + +The second source of courage is faith.--We use the word in the +Christian sense of trust in God. When a man feels that God is with him +he can stand up against all the powers of earth and hell. "If God be +for us, who can be against us?" The heroes of the past, who subdued +kingdoms and wrought righteousness, have all been men of faith. Recall +Hebrews xi., the Covenanters, the Ironsides of Cromwell, the Huguenots, +Luther, Knox. Their faith may not have been so enlightened as it might +have been had their knowledge been wider. Their religious creeds may +have contained propositions that are no longer accepted, but they were +strong because of their undoubted faith in God. When His presence is +an abiding presence with us and in us, our + + Strength is as the strength of ten, + Because our hearts are pure. + +He who fears God will know no other fear. + +The third source of courage is sympathy.--A man who has God with him +will be brave if he stand alone, but he will be greatly helped if he is +in company with others like himself and knows that he has the sympathy +of good men. You remember St. Paul on his journey to Rome reaching a +little village about thirty miles from the great city. The look-out +for him was very depressing. He had appealed to Caesar, but what +likelihood was there of his obtaining justice in Caesar's capital. He +might be thrown to the lions, or made to fight for his life in the +Coliseum, a spectacle to the Roman multitude. Then it was that a few +Roman Christians who had heard of his approach came out to meet him, +and, it is said, "he thanked God and took courage." Such was the power +of sympathy. If we would be encouraged we will seek it. If we would +encourage others we will give it. + +We will only say in closing this chapter that its subject is most truly +illustrated by the life of our Lord himself. The mediaeval conception +of Christ was that He exhibited only the passive virtues of meekness, +patience, and submission to wrong. From the gospels we form a +different idea. He vanquished the devil in the wilderness; He faced +human opposition boldly and without fear; He denounced the hypocrisy of +the Pharisees, and encountered their rage and violence. He went calmly +along His appointed path, neither turning to the right hand nor to the +left. Scribes, Pharisees, Sadducees, could not deter Him from doing +His Father's work. Amid a tumultuous tempest of ill-will He moved +straight forward, foreseeing His death, "setting His face toward +Jerusalem," knowing all that awaited Him there. He went through +Gethsemane to Calvary with the step of a conqueror. Never was He more +truly a king than on the cross, and the grandest crown ever worn was +"the crown of thorns." In Him we have the highest example of courage, +as of all other virtues. + + + + +CHAPTER VIII. + +HEALTH. + +Health means soundness of body and of mind; the keeping of our physical +system in such a condition that it is able to do its work easily, +without disturbance, and without pain; the exercise of the mind so as +not to harm the body. There are certain preliminary considerations +that we should bear in mind in connection with this subject. + +I. The close connection between body and mind.--They are both related +to each other in some mysterious way. So close is the connection that +the one cannot be affected without the other. The well-being of the +one depends on the well-being of the other. The power which the mind +has over the body and the body over the mind has been well and tersely +described by a writer of our time. "Man," he says, "is one, however +compound. Fire his conscience, and he blushes; check his circulation, +and he thinks tardily or not at all; impair his secretions, and the +moral sense is dulled, discolored, or depraved, his aspirations flag, +his hope and love both reel; impair them still more, and he becomes a +brute. A cup of wine degrades his moral nature below that of the +swine. Again, a violent emotion of pity or horror makes him vomit; a +lancet will restore him from delirium to clear thought; excessive +thought will waste his energy; excess of muscular exercise will deaden +thought; an emotion will double the strength of his muscles; and at +last, a prick of a needle or a grain of mineral will in an instant lay +to rest forever his body and its unity." [1] When we consider the +close connection between mind and body, and how the state of the one +affects the other, we see how important it is that both should work +together in that harmonious action which is health, and how carefully +we should guard against anything by which that harmonious action may be +interrupted. + +II. Bodily health is almost essential to success in life.--It is not +_absolutely_ essential, but it is _almost_ essential. (_a_) Physical +health is not everything. "Give a man," it has been said, "a good deep +chest and a stomach of which he never knew the existence, and he must +succeed in any practical career." This has been said by a great +authority, Professor Huxley, but it is only partially true, for many +worthless people fulfil these conditions. They are, as Carlyle calls +them, only "animated patent digesters." (_b_) Great things also have +been done in the world by men whose health has been feeble. Calvin was +a man of sickly body; Pascal was an invalid at eighteen; Pope was weak +and deformed; William of Orange, a martyr to asthma; Hall, the famous +preacher, suffered great paroxysms of pain; Milton was blind; Nelson, +little and lame; St. Paul in bodily presence was weak. On the other +hand, some of these men might have done more if their health had been +better. Health is a splendid possession in the battle of life. The +men of great physical vitality, as a rule, achieve most; other things +being equal, their success in life is sure. Everything shows that the +greatness of great men is almost as much a bodily affair as a mental +one. It has been computed that the average length of life of the most +eminent philosophers, naturalists, artists, jurists, physicians, +musical composers, scholars and authors, including poets, is sixty-five +years. This shows that the most successful men on the whole have had +good bodies and been blessed with great vitality. + +III. The care of the body is a religious duty.--(_a_) It is so because +our spiritual feelings are largely dependent upon the state of our +health. "Certain conditions of body undeniably occasion, irritate and +inflame those appetites and inclinations which it is one great end of +Christianity to repress and regulate." The spirit has sometimes to +maintain a terrible struggle against the flesh. Intemperance is +largely the result of bad feeding. "It is easier for a camel to pass +through the eye of a needle," than for a dyspeptic person to be gentle, +meek, long-suffering. Dark views of God often come from the state of +the body. It would largely lift up the moral and spiritual condition +of men if their surroundings were such as tended to keep them in +health. To improve men's dwellings, to give them healthy homes, pure +air to breathe, and pure water to drink, would tend to help them +morally and spiritually, (_b_) God requires of us a certain amount of +service by and through our bodies. We cannot perform the work if we +destroy the machines by which the work is to be done. (_c_) Scripture +especially calls us to make the body the object of our reverent care. +"Your bodies are members of Christ." The body "is for the Lord, and +the Lord for the body." "Your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost, +which is in you, which ye have of God." "If any man defile the temple +of God, him will God destroy." Yield "your members as instruments of +righteousness unto God." Sin is not to "reign in your mortal body." +"Glorify God in your body." We are to "present our bodies a living +sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is our reasonable service." +(_d_) The body is a part of that humanity which Christ by His +_incarnation_ took, redeemed, sanctified and glorified. (_e_) Our +Lord's miracles were nearly all performed on the human body, for its +relief, cure, and restoration to life. + +IV. To a certain extent our health is in our own hands.--Not +altogether, for some are constitutionally defective, and subject to +infirmities with which they are born, and which they have perhaps +inherited. But a vast amount of disease is preventable, and comes from +causes over which we have direct control. "It is reckoned that a +hundred thousand persons die annually in England of preventable +diseases"--from disobedience to the laws of health, which are God's +laws, and the transgression of which, wilfully, is sin. Beyond all +doubt a vast amount of sickness comes from bad living, from +intemperance in eating and drinking, from breathing bad air, from +inhabiting ill-constructed houses. It is possible to live in +accordance with the laws of health so that life may be comparatively +free from disease and from pain. If Providence denies health, the want +of it must be patiently endured. If we have inherited weakness, we +must make the most of the strength we have. But if we lack health +through our own fault we are guilty of shameful sin. + +To discuss fully the subject and laws of health would require a whole +treatise, and would be beyond the scope of this text-book. There are, +however, some outstanding conditions for the preservation of health +which are plain to everyone, and which may be summed up in the three +words Temperance, Exercise, and Rest. These have been well termed the +three great physicians, whose prescriptions are painless and cost +nothing. + +1. _Temperance_.--Man needs a certain amount of food to sustain him, +but if that amount be increased beyond the proper quantity it is +dangerous to health. It overtasks the power of digestion and is +injurious. We need therefore to be constantly on our guard as to what +we eat and drink lest we run into excess. Every one must study his own +constitution, find out its need, and suit the supply of food to its +wants. According to the old proverb, "We should eat to live, not live +to eat." It is a great matter for health when we are able to strike +the proper medium and neither eat nor drink too much nor too little. +To lay down rules on this subject for the individual is impossible. +"One man's food is another man's poison." A man must determine from +his own experience what he ought to take, and how much, as well as what +he ought to avoid. The word intemperance is generally employed as +applying to the abuse of strong drinks. On this subject much has been +written, some advocating total abstinence and others judicious and +moderate use. Into this region of controversy we cannot enter. The +evils of drinking habits, as they are called, are plain to all. They +are a terrible curse to society, and a terrible danger to the +individual. They have ruined many a promising career. For many, +perhaps we may say for most, entire abstinence is their only safety. +He who finds that he can do his work well by drinking only water will +be wise if he drinks nothing else. That will never harm him, though +other liquids may. We must judge for ourselves, but "Temperance in all +things" is a rule binding on every Christian man. We cannot have +health unless we strictly and constantly practise temperance. + +2. _Exercise_.--This is as necessary to health as food. "Only by +exercise--physical exercise--can we maintain our muscles, organs and +nervous system in proper vigor; only by exercise can we equalise the +circulation and distribute the blood evenly over every part of the +body; only by exercise can we take a cheerful and wholesome view of +life, for exercise assists the digestion, and a good digestion is a +sovereign antidote to low spirits; only by exercise can the brain be +strengthened to perform the labor demanded of it." [2] No sensible man +will try to do without it. If any man does so he will pay the penalty. +As to the amount of exercise and the kind of exercise every man must +judge for himself. Some, from their occupation, need less than others; +the outdoor laborer, for instance, than the clerk who is most of the +day at the desk. One man may take exercise best by walking, another by +riding, another by following outdoor sports. Athletics, such as +football, and cricket, are a favorite form of exercise with the young, +and if not followed to excess are most advantageous. The walk in the +open air is life to many. But boy or man can never be what they ought +to be unless they take exercise regularly and judiciously, take it not +to exhaust but to refresh and stimulate. It strengthens the nerve and +clears the brain and fits for work. + +3. _Rest_.--Man needs a certain amount of repose to sustain his frame +in full vigor. Some need more, some need less. We must find out for +ourselves what we need and take it. Lack of sleep is especially a +great waste of vitality. Here also we must exercise our judgment as to +the amount of sleep we require. One needs a great deal; another can do +with very little. Early rising, which has been much recommended, is +only good for those who go early to bed. If one is compelled to sit up +late he should sleep late in the morning. It is no virtue on the part +of anyone to get up early unless he has slept enough. _That_ he must +do if he is to have health. A man who would be a good worker must see +to it that he is a good sleeper; and whoever, from any cause, is +regularly diminishing his sleep is destroying his life. Shakespeare +has well described the blessing of sleep when he says: + + Sleep that knits up the ravelled sleeve of care, + The death of each day's life, sore labor's bath, + Balm of hurt minds, great Nature's second course, + Chief nourisher in life's feast. + + +These are but _hints_ in connection with a great subject. A few brief +rules may be given of a general character: + +1. Take exercise every day in the open air if possible, and make it a +recreation and not merely a duty. + +2. Eat wholesome food, drink pure water. + +3. Let your house and room be well ventilated. + +4. Take time enough for sleep. Do not worry. + +5. Watch yourself, but not too closely, to find out what exercise, +air, diet, etc., agrees with you. No man can be a rule for another. + +6. If you consult a physician, it is better to do it before you are +unwell than later.[3] + +We close this chapter with the powerful words of Thomas Carlyle, +addressed to the students of the University of Edinburgh: "Finally, I +have one advice to give you which is practically of very great +importance. You are to consider throughout much more than is done at +present, and what would have been a very great thing for me if I had +been able to consider, that health is a thing to be attended to +continually; that you are to regard it as the very highest of all +temporal things. There is no kind of achievement you could make in the +world that is equal to perfect health. What to it are nuggets or +millions?" + + + +[1] Frederic Harrison, _Popular Science Monthly Supplement_. + +[2] _Plain Living and High Thinking_. + +[3] These rules are given by J. Freeman Clarke in his work on +Self-Culture. + + + + +CHAPTER IX. + +EARNESTNESS. + +Another word for earnestness is enthusiasm. The Scriptural equivalent +is zeal. It means putting our whole heart into whatever we are doing. +It is a sweeping, resistless energy, which carries everything before +it, like a river in full flood. Its nature is well expressed in the +saying of the old huntsman, "Throw over your heart, and your horse will +soon follow." + +Earnestness is not to be confounded with noise, vehemence, or outward +demonstration.--It is often exceedingly quiet and undemonstrative. +Notice when the machinery of an engine is standing still, how the steam +makes a great noise as it issues from the safety-valve, but when the +vapor is turned into the cylinder and is used in driving the engine all +that thundering sound disappears. It does not follow that there is no +steam. It is going in another direction, and doing its appropriate +work. It is a great mistake to imagine that enthusiasm and what is +called _fuss_ are identical. The most enthusiastic men are often the +quietest. No one can doubt the enthusiasm of a man like Livingstone. +He had enthusiasm for science, for philanthropy and for religion. It +was unflagging; yet not a boast, not a murmur escaped his lips. He did +the thing he meant to do, and made no noise in doing it. + +Earnestness is often regarded with suspicion and condemned.--It is the +fashion with many to sneer at it. It is often alone, and then it is +not respectable. It is often in excess, and is therefore ineffective. +It is often disturbing to the sleepiness of others, and is therefore +hated by them. Our Lord was an enthusiast in the eyes of the +Pharisees. St. Paul was an enthusiast to Festus. The early Christians +were enthusiasts to the pagan world because they turned it upside down. +The martyrs and confessors of all times have been regarded as +enthusiasts by those of their own time who were not in sympathy with +them. An enthusiast is called by many a fanatic, and a fanatic in the +eyes of some is a most dangerous member of society. + +All the great leaders of the world have been men in earnest.--Emerson +says truly that "every great and commanding movement in the annals of +the world is the triumph of enthusiasm." Our civil and religious +liberties we owe to enthusiasts for freedom. The enthusiasm of +Columbus gave us America; the enthusiasm of Knox reformed Scotland; the +enthusiasm of Wesley regenerated English religious life; the enthusiasm +of men like Garibaldi and Cavour and Mazzini has made in our own time a +new Italy. These men were all denounced in their day, cold water was +thrown on all their projects, but their burning earnestness carried +them on to triumph. The scorned enthusiast of one generation is the +hero of the next. + +Earnestness is a great element in securing success in life.--A +well-known writer and preacher, Dr. Arnot, tells that he once heard the +following conversation at a railway station between a farmer and the +engineer of a train: "What are you waiting for so long? Have you no +water?" "Oh, yes, we have plenty of water, but it is not boiling." So +there may be abundance of intelligence and splendid machinery, and all +the appliances that help to success, but what is wanted is intense +boiling earnestness. We have a good illustration of the power of +earnestness in speaking. One man may say the right thing, and say it +in a pleasing and cultured manner; every phrase may be well placed, +every sentence polished, every argument in its proper place. Another +man may have no elegance of diction, his words may be unpolished, his +sentences even ungrammatical, and yet he may move a great multitude, as +the leaves of the trees are moved by the wind, through the intense +earnestness and enthusiasm by which he is possessed. We see the same +thing in Christian effort. The organization of a church may be +perfect, its resources may be large, and it may have in its service an +army of able and well-disciplined men; but without enthusiasm and +burning zeal its efforts are powerless and come to nothing. When, as +at Pentecost, the Holy Spirit descends upon a church in tongues of +fire, then there is quickening, and souls are gathered in. No man has +ever had a supreme influence over others without more or less +enthusiasm in his nature. + +There are three directions we may give in regard to earnestness or +enthusiasm. + +1. _Respect it in others_.--Do not join with those who regard it as +something that is not respectable. It is always preferable to what is +cold and formal. Life is better than death, and when there is life +there is energy and earnestness. Even when enthusiasm takes forms that +we cannot altogether approve of, it is worthy of respect. "Next to +being Servetus who was burnt," said one, "I would have been Calvin who +burnt him." That was a strong way of saying that zeal is a beautiful +thing in itself, though "zeal that is not according to knowledge" is +not good. We may not approve of many of the opinions and methods of +Francis Xavier, the great missionary and saint of the Roman Church, but +we cannot fail to admire his burning zeal in the cause of Christ, and +look with something like awe on his high-souled devotion to the work of +an evangelist. He was swept on by an enthusiasm that never failed, and +which carried him over obstacles that would have daunted any ordinary +man. The Puritans were denounced by many good people of their time, +and the great preacher, Dr. South, delivered a sermon against them, +entitled "Enthusiasts not led by the Spirit of God." But we all know +how great the men were, and how great a work they did through the very +enthusiasm that he condemned. "It is better," according to the +proverb, "that the pot should boil over than not boil at all." The +word enthusiasm literally means filled, or inspired, by God, and the +meaning of the word may teach us how noble a thing enthusiasm is in +itself, and how worthy it is of admiration and respect. + +2. _We should cultivate it in ourselves_.--It is a virtue, like all +others, that can be cultivated. (_a_) By resolutely setting our face +against doing anything in a languid and half-hearted way. If a thing +is worth doing, it should be done "with all our might." (_b_) By +studying the lives of great men. When we do so we catch something of +the earnestness that inspired them. This is perhaps the best result of +reading biography. We feel how noble was the enthusiasm of the heroes +of the past, and how, by means of it, they were able to do great +things, and to march on to victory. (_c_) By associating with those +who are in earnest. There is nothing so contagious as enthusiasm, and +when we come in contact with those who live under the impulse of grand +ideas, something of their force and power is conveyed to ourselves. +The great soul strengthens the weak soul. While the solitary coal on +the hearth will go black out, when it is heaped up with others it +springs into a blaze. + + O ever earnest sun! + Unwearied in thy work, + Unhalting in thy course, + Unlingering in thy path, + Teach me thy earnest ways, + That mine may be a life of steadfast work and praise. + + O ever earnest stars! + Unchanging in your light, + Unfaltering in your race, + Unswerving in your round, + Teach me your earnest ways, + That mine may be a life of steadfast work and praise. + + O ever earnest flowers! + That with untiring growth + Shoot up and spread abroad + Your fragrance and your joy, + Teach me your earnest ways, + That mine may be a life of steadfast work and praise. + + O ever earnest sea! + Constant in flow and ebb, + Heaving to moon and sun, + Unchanging in thy change, + Teach me thy earnest ways, + That mine may be a life of steadfast work and praise. + HORATIUS BONAR. + +3. _We should carry earnestness into our religious life_.--This above +all. There are many who tolerate earnestness in other things, but who +look upon it as dangerous in connection with religion. It is regarded +as of very questionable value, and spoken of with doubt and suspicion. +Let a man become earnest in prayer, earnest in work, or rise in any way +above the dead level in which so many are content to rest, and he will +be often spoken of in tones of pity, sneered at as a fanatic, or +denounced as an impostor. This suspicion with which earnestness in the +Church of Christ is often regarded may be accounted for. (_a_) There +has been a vast deal of zeal in the Church about religion which has not +been zeal for religion: about matters of ritual, Church government, and +the like. (_b_) Zeal has been often expended in contentions about +small points of doctrine; often about those very points which are +shrouded in mystery. (_c_) Zeal has been often manifested in the +interest of sect and party rather than of Christ. (_d_) Zeal has often +taken persecution for her ally, and wielded among men the weapons of +earthly warfare. For these reasons its appearance in the Church is +often regarded as we might regard the erection in a town of a gunpowder +magazine which, at any moment, might produce disorder, ruin, and death. + +_Yet Scripture regards earnestness in religion as +essential_.--Indifference and lukewarmness it regards as hateful (Rev. +iii. 15, 16). It calls us to a solemn choice and to a lifelong +service. Its heroes are those who lived in the spirit of Brainerd's +prayer, "Oh, that I were a flaming fire in the service of my God." +There is an allegory of Luther which may be quoted here. "The devil," +he says, "held a great anniversary, at which his emissaries were +convened to report the results of their several missions. 'I let loose +the wild beasts of the desert,' said one, 'on a caravan of Christians, +and their bones are now bleaching on the sands.' 'What of that?' said +the devil; 'their souls were all saved.' 'I drove the east wind,' said +another, 'against a ship freighted with Christians, and they were all +drowned.' 'What of that?' said the devil; 'their souls were all +saved.' 'For ten years I tried to get a single Christian asleep,' said +a third, 'and I succeeded, and left him so.' Then the devil shouted, +and the night stars of hell sang for joy." + +There are three spheres of religious life in which earnestness should +be specially shown. + +1. _In prayer_.--This is specially inculcated in the two parables of +our Lord, the "unjust judge" and "the friend at midnight," and in His +own words, "Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; +knock, and it shall be opened unto you." One, it is said, came to +Demosthenes, the great orator, and asked him to plead his cause. He +heard him without attention while he told his story without +earnestness. The man saw this, and cried out anxiously that it was all +true. "Ah!" said Demosthenes, "I believe you _now_." The earnest +prayer is the prevailing prayer. + +2. _In sacrifice_.--This is in all life the test of earnestness. The +student giving up time for the acquisition of knowledge; the merchant +giving up his hours to the pursuit of business; the explorer braving +the heat of the tropics and the cold of the arctic regions in his zeal +for discovery. It is the same in religion. We must count all things, +with St. Paul, "as loss, that we may win Christ, and be found in Him." + +3. _In impressing others_.--It is "out of the heart that the mouth +speaketh," and power to impress others is given only to those who do so +with a full heart, and who are consumed with a burning zeal for the +salvation of souls. These are they whom God has, in all ages, blessed +in the conversion of men. + + + + +CHAPTER X. + +MANNERS. + +The word manners comes from the Latin _manus_, the hand, and literally +means the mode in which a thing is handled--behavior, deportment. +Manners may be defined as the pleasing or unpleasing expression of our +thoughts and intentions, whether in word or action. We may say or do a +thing in an agreeable or a disagreeable way. According as we choose +the one or the other, our manners may be said to be good or bad. + +Good manners are the result of two things.--(_a_) Self-respect and +(_b_) consideration for the feelings of others. The man who respects +himself will be careful to say or do nothing that may seem to others +degrading or unworthy. The man who has consideration for the feelings +of others will be equally careful to do or say nothing that may give +them pain, or be offensive to them. + +Good manners beautify character.--It was a celebrated saying of an old +bishop, William of Wykeham, "Manners maketh man." This is, however, +only partially true. Manners do not make a man any more than good +clothes make a man, but if he _is made_ they greatly improve him. Some +have been truly excellent who have had an uncouth and unpolished +address, but that was rather to their disadvantage than otherwise. +"Rough diamonds" are always precious, but a diamond that is cut and +polished, while it retains its value, is much more beautiful. Civility +of speech, politeness of address, courtesy in our dealings with others, +are qualities that adorn a man, whilst rudeness, incivility, roughness +in behavior, detract greatly from his value, and injure his usefulness. +Tennyson's words are true: + + Manners are not idle, but the fruit + Of noble nature and of loyal mind. + + +Good manners tend greatly to success in life.--Coarseness and gruffness +lock doors, gentleness and refinement open them, while the rude, +boorish man is shunned by all. Take the case of a speaker addressing a +public meeting. What he says is weighty and important. His arguments +are powerful and well marshalled, but his speech is uncouth and +disagreeable. He says things that are coarse and vulgar. His bad +manner vastly takes away from the impression which he desires to make, +and which, if his manner had been different, he would have made. +Again, two young men serve in a place of business. The one is gentle +in his demeanor, meets his customers with a pleasant smile, is always +polite. The other is rough in his deportment, apparently does not care +whether those he deals with are pleased or not. The one is a favorite +with everybody; the other, who may be equally worthy as far as +character is concerned, is disliked. + +Good manners often disarm opposition.--People may have a prejudice +against ourselves personally, or against the cause we represent. It is +wonderful, however, how much may be done to soften them by habitual +courtesy towards them, and by studiously avoiding anything calculated +to offend them or rouse their anger. A wise man will always endeavor +to be specially civil towards any one who differs from him. It is +related that in the early days of the Abolition movement in the United +States, two men went out preaching: one, a sage old Quaker, brave and +calm; the other, a fervid young man. When the Quaker lectured, the +audience were all attention, and his arguments met with very general +concurrence. But when it came to the young man's turn, a tumult +invariably ensued, and he was pelted off the platform. Surprised by +their different receptions, the young man asked the Quaker the reason. +"Friend," he said, "you and I are on the same mission; we preach the +same things; how is it that while _you_ are received so cordially, I +get nothing but abuse?" "I will tell thee," replied the Quaker; "thee +says, 'If you do so and so, you shall be punished,' and I say, 'My +friends, if you will _but_ do so and so, you shall not be punished.' +It is not what we say, but how we say it." [1] In _The Memorials of a +Quiet Life_ it is said of Augustus Hare that, on a road along which he +frequently passed, there was a workman employed in its repair who met +his gentle questions and observations with gruff answers and sour +looks. But as day after day the persevering mildness of his words and +manner still continued, the rugged features of the man gave way, and +his tone assumed a softer character. Politeness is the oiled key that +will open many a rusty lock. + +Good manners may be summed up in the one word, Gentleman.--That term +implies all that good-manners ought to be. The original derivation of +the word is from the Latin _gentilis_, belonging to a tribe or _gens_; +and in its first signification it applies to those of noble descent or +family; but it has come to mean something far wider, and something +which every man, however humble, may be--a man of high courtesy and +refinement, to whom dishonor is hateful. "What is it," says Thackeray, +"to be a gentleman? It is to be honest, to be gentle, to be generous, +to be brave, to be wise, and, possessing all these qualities, to +exercise them in the most graceful outward manner." It was said of our +Lord by one of the early English poets, that he was + + The first true gentleman that ever breathed. + +To be a gentleman in all circumstances is the highest idea we can form +of good manners. It is what, in our intercourse with others, we should +strive to be--to have "high thoughts," as Sir Philip Sidney expresses +it, "seated in a heart of courtesy." In Bishop Patteson's life is +given the estimate of him, as a true gentleman, by a New Zealand +native: "Gentleman-gentleman thought nothing that ought to be done too +mean for him. Pig-gentleman never worked." The savage knew by +instinct that the good Bishop who came to live among them that he might +teach them to be better, who treated them with invariable courtesy and +consideration, was a true gentleman, though he had to clean his own +hut, to cook his own food, and to mend his own kettles. And he knew +also that the man who made others work for him without doing them any +good in return, who swore at them and abused them, was only a +pig-gentleman, however rich or high in station he might be. + +A few advices on the subject of this chapter may be given. + +1. _Cultivate a pleasing manner_.--Any one can be civil and polite if +he sets himself to be so. Some suppose that it is unworthy of a robust +character to be gentle in demeanor, that it indicates a certain amount +of effeminacy, and that strength and gruffness go together. We hear +men spoken of sometimes approvingly as "rough diamonds." But history +tells us that the noblest and strongest have been the most tender and +courteous. King Robert the Bruce was "brave as a lion, tender-hearted +as a woman." "Sir Walter Raleigh was every inch a man, a brave +soldier, a brilliant courtier, and yet a mirror of courtesy. Nobody +would accuse Sir Philip Sidney of having been deficient in manliness, +yet his fine manners were proverbial. It is the courtesy of Bayard, +the knight, _sans peur et sans reproche_, which has immortalized him +quite as much as his valor." [2] It is not beneath us to study good +manners. To a great extent they come naturally from refinement of +disposition and inborn delicacy of feeling. But they may also, to a +great extent, be learned and acquired. "Watch," it has wisely been +said, "those of excellent reputation in manners. Catch the temper of +the great masters of literature--the nobility of Scott, the sincerity +of Thackeray, the heartiness of Dickens, the tenderness of Macdonald, +the delicacy of Tennyson, the grace of Longfellow, the repose of +Shakespeare." It is well worth while for every young man beginning +life to form a true idea of what good manners are, and to make it his +constant effort to acquire them. + +2. _Avoid eccentricity_.--Eccentricity is the deliberate endeavor to +make ourselves different from those around us. (_a_) Some show it in +their dress by wearing garments often of outrageous shape and hue. +(_b_) Some show it in their speech by striving to say things that they +think especially smart. (_c_) Some show it in their actions by +striking forced attitudes, and putting themselves in grotesque +positions. It all springs from love of notoriety and desire to be +thought different from their neighbors. It is the mark, as a rule, of +fops and fools, and an indication of weakness of character. It is +fundamentally inconsistent with good manners. Johnson was called _ursa +major_, or big bear, from the gruffness of his manner. This was +probably natural to him, but many affect a similar manner from a desire +to be eccentric. The "big bears" of society are odious. Johnson's own +words are applicable to such: "A man has no more right to say an +uncivil thing than to act one--no more right to say a rude thing to +another than to knock him down." Those also who are ever trying to say +things which they think smart, but which are often impudent, and meant +to give annoyance, ought to receive no countenance. "Sir," said one +such person in his Irish brogue to Dean Swift, "I _sit_ (set) up for +being a wit." "Then, sir," said the Dean, "I advise you to sit down." +Similar people should be treated in the same way. + +3. _Try to conquer shyness_.--This is constitutional with some, but +even when this is the case it can be overcome by taking pains. The shy +man is often awkward in manner; and, what is worse, he often gives the +impression to others of being rude, when he has no intention to be so. +There are those who, in their own family and among their own friends, +are known to be warm-hearted, kind and gentle, but who, from this +defect of which we speak, have a reputation far from enviable. Any +young man who is afflicted with it should set himself resolutely to get +the better of it. + +4. _We should be especially courteous to those below us in +station_.--To servants in our house, to those in our employ, to the +poor, we should be marked in our civility. "It is the very essence of +gentlemanhood that one is polite to the weak, the poor, the friendless, +the humble, the miserable, the degraded." The conduct of our Lord to +such is ever worthy of our imitation. Indeed, as it has been well +remarked, the character of men and women is perhaps better known "by +the treatment of those below them than by anything else; for to them +they rarely play the hypocrite." The man who is a bully and abusive to +those weaker or less fortunate than himself, is at heart a poor +creature; though, in company of his equals, he may be affable and +polished enough. For example, Kingsley mentions regarding Sir Sydney +Smith that "the love he won was because, without any conscious +intention, he treated rich and poor, his own servants, and the +noblemen, his guests, alike courteously, cheerfully, considerately, +affectionately, bearing a blessing and reaping a blessing wherever he +was." When a celebrated man returned the salute of a negro, he was +reminded that he had done what was very unfashionable. "Perhaps so," +he replied, "but I would not be outdone in good manners by a negro." + +"Good words," says holy George Herbert, "are worth much, and cost +little." The same may be said of good manners. + + + +[1] _The Secret of Success_. + +[2] _Plain Living and High Thinking_. + + + + +CHAPTER XI. + +TEMPER.[1] + +Temper is the harmonious and well-balanced working of the different +powers of the mind. Good temper is when harmony is maintained; bad +temper when it is violated. "Temper," it was said by an English +bishop, "is nine-tenths of Christianity." We may think this an +exaggerated statement, but there is much to commend it. The fruit of +the Spirit of God is peace, and peace is the condition of a heart which +is at rest--in harmony with God and man. Peace may be taken as the +Scriptural word for temper. + +Good temper is a sign that the different powers of the soul are working +in harmony.--For instance, the atmosphere is well tempered when it is +neither too hot nor too cold, neither too dry nor too moist, having +neither too much electricity nor too little. Then the weather is +called fine. It is a pleasure to live. When the weather is bad, the +balance of the elements is broken, and life is disagreeable and +unpleasant. The body is well tempered when the nervous system and the +blood and the nutritive system all work in due harmony. When these +three great constituents of the body are well balanced against each +other, the result is health. The body is not well tempered in a +student who takes no exercise, and where everything goes to feed the +brain; nor in a pugilist in training, where everything goes to feed the +muscles. The result is disease. We all know the musical instrument +called the harp. All the strings are tuned into perfect harmony. If +there is a false note struck, that is a sign to the musician that there +is something wrong, and that the instrument needs to be tuned. The +discord is a symptom, that some cords are out of order. So, bad temper +is a sign that some string in our moral constitution is out of harmony +and needs to be tuned. + +Good temper can be acquired.--It is the result of culture. There are +two things often confounded with it--(_a_) good nature and (_b_) good +humor. Good nature is something born with us--an easy, contented +disposition, and a tendency to take things quietly and pleasantly. We +inherit it. There is little merit in possessing it. Good humor is the +result of pleasant surroundings and agreeable circumstances. A +good-humored man is so when everything goes right; when things go +wrong, his good humor departs and bad humor takes its place. But good +temper results from training and self-control--keeping constant watch +over our passions and feelings, and above all being in constant harmony +with God; for he who is at peace with God is at peace with man, and +will keep the "even tenor of his way." + +There are various signs or forms of ill-temper that may be adverted to. + +One form of ill-temper is irritability.--We perhaps know what it is to +have a tooth where the nerve is exposed. Everything that touches it +sends a thrill of pain through us. Some people get into a moral state +corresponding to that. The least thing puts them out, vexes them, +throws them into a disagreeable frame of mind. When one gets into that +state, he should feel that there is something wrong with him--something +is off the balance, some nerve is exposed. He had better look to it +and go off to the dentist. + +Another form of ill-temper is readiness to find fault.--This is a sure +sign of a screw being loose somewhere. An ill-tempered person is +always making grievances, imagining himself ill-used, discontented with +his position, dissatisfied with his circumstances. He never blames +himself for anything wrong; it is always someone else. He is like a +workman who is always excusing himself by throwing the blame on his +tools; like a bad driver who is always finding fault with his horses. + + Some fretful tempers wince at every touch, + You always do too little or too much; + He shakes with cold; you stir the fire and strive + To make a blaze; that's roasting him alive. + Serve him with venison, and he chooses fish; + With sole; that's just the sort he would not wish. + Alas! his efforts double his distress, + He likes yours little, and his own still less. + Thus, always teasing others, always teased, + His only pleasure is--to be displeased. + +If we find ourselves getting into this state of mind, it is high time +to inquire what is wrong with us. + +Another form of ill-temper is passion.--Some people are very subject to +this development. They are "gunpowdery," and when a small spark +touches them they fly out, and there is a blaze. It is a very unlovely +feature of a man's character, and if people in a passion could only see +themselves in a glass, their eyes flashing, their brow contracted and +their features distorted, they would feel that they have cause to be +ashamed of themselves. After having been in what is called "a towering +rage," there often comes to a man the feeling expressed in the words, +"I have made a great ass of myself." If we have done so, we should +resolve never to make ourselves ridiculous again. + +Perhaps the worst form of ill-temper is sulkiness.--This is passion not +dying out, but continuing to smoulder like the embers of a fire where +there is no flame. A sullen disposition is as bad a sign of something +being wrong as there could well be. It is like what the doctors call +"suppressed gout." The disease has got driven into the system, and has +taken so firm a hold that it cannot easily be dislodged. Better a man +whose temper bubbles over and is gone, than the man who cherishes it in +his bosom and allows, not the sun of one day, but of many days, to go +down on his wrath. + +A word or two is perhaps necessary, in addition to what has been said, +as to the means by which good temper is to be preserved and bad temper +avoided. + +I. _We should cherish a deep and strong detestation of the evil +effects of bad temper in all its forms_.--(_a_) It has a bad effect +physically. It produces consequences injurious to health. The man who +indulges in it habitually cannot do so with impunity. Doctors +constantly warn their patients to refrain from irritating disputes, and +to avoid men and things likely to provoke their anger. (_b_) It has a +bad effect socially. The bad-tempered man is seldom a favorite with +society. Men eventually dislike him and shun him as a nuisance. His +family, if he has one, come to regard him with dread rather than love. +(_c_) It has a bad effect as regards success in life. "Everything," +the proverb says, "comes to him who waits." The patient and forbearing +man attains his object much sooner than the man of passion and abuse. +Such a person is continually thwarted in his plans. People refuse to +be bullied into acquiescence; and threats, which have well been called +"the arguments of a coward," raise rather than disarm opposition. +(_d_) It has a bad effect spiritually. (1) The man of evil temper +wants the calm disposition of soul necessary to communion with God. +The glass through which he looks into the spiritual world is clouded +and gives a distorted vision. He whose soul is filled with anger and +clouded by passion cannot pray. Before he lays his gift upon the +altar, he must be reconciled to his brother. (2) Scripture is full of +warnings against evil temper: "He that is soon angry dealeth +foolishly." "Make no friendship with an angry man, and with a furious +man thou shalt not go, lest thou learn his ways and get a snare to thy +soul." "An angry man stirreth up strife, and a furious man aboundeth +in transgression." "Be ye angry and sin not; let not the sun go down +upon your wrath." "Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and +clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice; and be +ye kind one to another, tender hearted, forgiving one another, even as +God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you." The example of our blessed +Lord specially teaches the same lessen. Calmly and peacefully He +pursued His divine work. "When reviled he reviled not again, but +committed himself to him that judgeth righteously." Before the High +Priest, Pilate and Herod, His indignant silence was more eloquent than +scorching words. + +II. _We should deliberately cultivate self-control_.--If a railway +train is going swiftly along, and the driver sees something on the +track, he applies the brake, and thus avoids collision. In regard to +temper, self-control is like the brake, and we should be ever ready to +put it on. A person can come, in time, to get a wonderful control over +his temper if he watches against it. The writer knew a young man who +was at one time of an ungovernable temper; he used to be at times like +"one possessed." But by watching and resolutely putting on the brake +he grew up one of the sweetest-tempered and most lovable of men. He +fought the wild beast within him, lashed it and kept it down. A +merchant had passionately abused a Quaker, who received his outburst of +ill-temper in silence. Being afterwards ashamed of himself, he asked +the other how he was able to show such patience. "Friend," replied the +Quaker, "I will tell thee. I was naturally as hot and violent as thou +art. I knew that to indulge temper was sinful, and I found it was +imprudent. I observed that men in a passion always spoke loud, and I +thought if I could control my voice I should repress my passion. I +have therefore made it a rule never to allow my voice to be above a +certain key, and by a careful observance of this rule I have, by the +blessing of God, mastered my natural temper." Strong resolution can do +much. "If the pot boils," says the proverb, "take it off the fire." A +little care, a word swallowed, a rising sentence struck down in us by a +simple rule, may save us humiliation. "By reflection, by restraint and +control a wise man can make himself an island which no floods can +overwhelm. He who is tolerant with the intolerant, mild with the +fault-finders, and free from passion with the passionate, him I indeed +call a wise man."--Buddhist saying. + +III. But while an act of self-control can restore the proper temper +and balance to the mind when it is in danger, _the best way is to keep +it so that it will not go off the balance_. You know that if a clock +stops, we may perhaps make it go again by a shake; if it does not keep +time, we can often put the hands right; but the best way is to keep the +machinery always so well balanced and adjusted that it will not stop or +go wrong. We may watch and control the temper when it breaks out; but +the better way is to keep it so well balanced that it will not break +out. The soul that is in harmony with God, that is full of the spirit +of Christ, will ever be peaceful and serene. If ill-temper is our +besetting sin, God's grace, if we ask it, will give us power to conquer +it While we watch against it, we should pray against it also. The +beautiful words of Thomas a Kempis point out to us the secret of the +well-tempered and well-balanced mind: "First keep thyself in peace, and +then thou wilt be able to bring others to peace." If "the peace of God +which passeth all understanding" keep our hearts and minds, through +Christ Jesus, our life will never have its serenity disturbed by +ill-temper. + + + +[1] I wish to acknowledge my indebtedness for some hints in this +chapter to an interesting work on "Self-Culture," by James Freeman +Clarke. + + + + +CHAPTER XII. + +RECREATION. + +Recreation is another name for amusement. Both words express the same +idea. Recreation means to create over again, the building up of the +system when it is exhausted. Amusement primarily is said to be derived +from the halt which a dog makes in hunting, when he pauses to sniff the +air in order to see in which way the scent lies. Having done this, he +starts off again with redoubled speed. Both these words in themselves +suggest the place that the things which they signify should occupy in +life. They are for the refreshing of our strength, in order to renewed +effort. + +Recreation is a necessary part of life.--There are two great laws under +which we live: the law of work and the law of recreation. Man has to +work, and to work hard, in order to live. Work also is necessary to +happiness. "He that labors," says the Italian proverb, "is tempted by +one devil; he that is idle, by a thousand." The industrious life, it +is perfectly plain (as we have shown in a previous chapter), is that +which we should all follow. But recreation is as needful in its place +as work. (_a_) This is the teaching of nature. God has made us +capable of enjoying ourselves, just as He has made us able to think, or +talk, or work with our hands. The first sign of intelligence in the +infant is a smile. The child's nature unfolds itself in play, and as +man grows up, it develops itself in many forms. The universe also is +full of joy and gladness. The sky is blue, the sea glistens, the +flowers are strewn over the earth. We speak of the waves playing on +the shore, of the shadows playing on the mountain side. All this +indicates that there is "a certain play element" that rejoices in the +world around us. (_b_) This is the teaching of experience. Unvaried +and unbroken toil becomes a sore burden; it breaks the spirit, weakens +energy, and saddens the heart. "All work and no play," according to +the proverb, "makes Jack a dull boy." There are men around us working +so hard that they have no family life, no social life, no time for +thought or for culture. They are simply cogs in a great wheel that is +ceaselessly turning round and round--wearing themselves out before +their time by excess of labor. This cannot be right. There is an +interesting tradition of St. John, the disciple of our Lord, that while +amusing himself with a tame partridge he was asked by a huntsman how he +could spend his time in so unprofitable a manner. St. John replied, +"Why dost thou not carry thy bow always bent?" "Because," answered the +huntsman, "if it were always bent, I fear it would lose its spring and +become useless." "Be not surprised then," replied the apostle, "that I +should sometimes remit a little of my close attention of spirit to +enjoy a little recreation, that I may afterwards employ myself more +fervently in divine contemplation." It is said also of a most saintly +man, Carlo Borromeo, that while engaged with some friends in a game of +chess, the question was started, what they would do if they knew they +were to die within the hour. "I would," said Borromeo, "go on with my +game." He had begun it for God's glory, and in order to fit himself +for God's work, and he would finish it. These anecdotes illustrate the +truth that recreation is a necessary part of life, and may be engaged +in with the highest object. + +Recreation, therefore, is not to be regarded as an evil in itself--Men +at different times have so regarded it. (_a_) Those who have been +termed ascetics in the Church of Rome looked upon every form of +amusement as sinful. Even to smile or laugh was a fault needing severe +penance. They were "cruel to themselves," denied themselves all +earthly joy, and placed vice and pleasure in the same category. (_b_) +The Puritans also, in the time of the Stuarts, set their faces strongly +against games and recreation of every kind. They denounced all public +amusements, as Macaulay tells us, "from masques, which were exhibited +at the mansions of the great, down to the wrestling matches and +quoiting matches on the village green." (_c_) In all ages there have +been good men animated by the same feeling. Life has seemed to them so +serious as to have no place in it for mirth. Even one so saintly as +Archbishop Leighton said that "pleasures are like mushrooms--it is so +difficult to distinguish those that are wholesome from those that are +poisonous, that it is better to abstain from them altogether." Those +views have something noble in them. They spring from hatred of sin and +from realizing intensely that + +Recreation is liable to abuse.--It often leads to evil. It was the +unbridled gaiety of the age, with its selfishness and sensuality, that +made the Puritans denounce amusement, though the austerity they +enforced led to dreadful consequences. Repression passed into excess. +"It was as if the pent-up sewerage of a mud volcano had been suddenly +let loose. The unclean spirit forcibly driven out by the Puritans +returned with seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and the +last state of Stuart England was worst than the first." The history of +that period shows us the mistake religion makes by frowning down all +amusements as sinful. But that some may be so is equally clear. They +are so (_a_) when they are contrary to the express commands of the Word +of God. There are pleasures which are in themselves unlawful, and +which are condemned by the divine law. These, God's children will +shun. They are forms of wickedness which they will ever hold in +abhorrence. "The lust of the flesh, the lust of the eye, and the pride +of life," with all that the words mean, though the world may regard +them as pleasures, and engage in them as amusements, are evil before +God. But not to dwell on this, which is evident, amusements are evil +(_b_) when they unfit for work. "The end of labor," said the Greek +philosopher Aristotle, "is to rest." It is equally true that "the end +of rest is to labor." Pleasures that tempt us from daily duty, that +leave us listless and weary, are pernicious. Outdoor games, for +instance, ought to strengthen the physical frame, they ought to make us +healthy and strong and ready for work. But when carried to excess they +often produce the opposite result, and become positively hurtful. If +the Saturday's play unfit for the worship and rest of the Lord's day; +if an employer, as has been stated, has been obliged to dismiss his +clerks more than once because of their incapacity for work owing to +football matches, cricket matches, and sports generally, it is clear +that these have not been for their good; and the same may be said of +the effect of other forms of amusement, especially when carried to +excess. The amusements that send us back to toil with a lightened +heart and a vigorous mind are those only that we should engage in; all +others are detrimental, and should be shunned. (_c_) It is necessary +to say also that amusement in any form followed as the end of life +becomes specially sinful. Even the heathen moralist, Cicero, could say +"that he is not worthy to be called a man who is willing to spend a +single day wholly in pleasure." How much more truly may a Christian +feel that he "who liveth in pleasure is dead while he liveth." A life +that is simply play, that is simply amusement, is no life at all. It +is only a contemptible form of existence. "A soul sodden with +pleasure" is a lost soul. To be a mere pleasure-seeker is not the +chief end of man. Nothing grows more wearying than continuous +amusement, and no one needs amusement so much as he who is always at +it. He loses the power of real enjoyment. He has, like Esau, bartered +his birthright for a mess of pottage. He is useless to man and guilty +before God. + +It is not easy to lay down distinct and definite rules in regard to +recreation--to set down and catalogue those amusements which it is safe +for us to follow, and those from which we should refrain. This has +been attempted, but not successfully! and the reason is evident. What +may be safe for one person may not be safe for another. If we are told +that an amusement has been held to be wrong, we are ready to reply that +the mere opinion of others is not binding upon us; and perhaps in our +contempt for views which appear to us bigoted and straitlaced, we rush +into the opposite extreme. The true guide in recreation is a Christian +spirit. He who possesses it will need no list of what are lawful and +unlawful made out for him. He will be better guided than by any +carefully compiled code of duty set before him. All, therefore, that +shall be attempted in this direction is to give a few general counsels +which may be serviceable. + +1. We should exercise our own judgment as to what amusements are +helpful or the reverse. It has been said, "When you are in Rome, do as +the Romans do." We would rather put the adage thus, "When you are in +Rome, do _not_ as the Romans do." There are questions which majorities +may decide for us, and there are questions which every soul must decide +for itself. That everybody goes to bull-fights in Spain does not make +bull-fighting right; neither is an amusement right because it is +popular. In this, as in other matters, we must dare sometimes to be +singular. Follow not a multitude to do evil. + +2. What is one man's meat is another man's poison. We are not a law +to our neighbor, neither is our neighbor a law to us. The amusement +that we find injures us, lowers our moral and spiritual tone, and +unfits us for the serious business of life, is the thing for us to +avoid, as we avoid food which some men can take with impunity, but +which does harm to us. + +3. Keep on the safe ground of certainty. Whatever is doubtful is +dangerous, and had best be left alone. If we go skating, and have a +suspicion that the ice in a certain spot is weak, that is sufficient to +make us avoid it. Possibly we might pass over it without danger, but +the thought that it may be dangerous leads us to give it a wide berth. +"If you do not wish to hear the bell ring," says the proverb, "keep +away from the bell rope." There is a sufficiency of amusements which +are beyond doubt safe and satisfying, without our trying those that may +be dangerous. The best recreation often comes from change of +occupation, and there is none better than the companionship of books, +the sweet solace of music, the softening influence of art, or the +contemplation of the beauties of nature, "the melody of woods and winds +and waters." There are fountains of joy open on every side of us, from +which we may quaff many an invigorating draught, without drinking from +those which are often poisoned and polluted. + +4. The pleasure that is more congenial than our work is to be taken +with caution. So long as a man enjoys his work more than his +amusement, the latter is for him comparatively safe. It is a +relaxation and refreshment, and he goes from it all the better for it; +but if a man likes his pleasure better than the duties to which God has +called him in the world, it is a sign that he has not realized, as he +ought to realize, the object for which life was given him. + +5. For the question, What is the harm? substitute, What is the good? +The former is that which many ask in regard to amusements, and the very +asking of the question shows that they feel doubtful about them and +should avoid them. But when we ask, What is the good? it is a sign +that we are anxious to know what benefit we may derive from them, and +how far they may help us. That is the true spirit in which we should +approach our amusements, seeking out those that recruit and refresh us +mentally, morally, and physically. + +Those are hints[1] which may be found useful. "Religion never was +designed," it is said, "to make our pleasures less." Religion also, if +we know what it means, will ever lead us to what are true, innocent, +and elevating pleasures, and keep us from those that are false, bad in +their influence, and which "leave a sting behind them." "Rejoice, O +young man, in thy youth, and let thy heart cheer thee in the days of +thy youth, and walk in the ways of thine heart and in the sight of +thine eyes: but know thou, that for all these things God will bring +thee into judgment." Let those who practise the first part of that +text not forget the second. + + + +[1] I am indebted for some of them to an article in _The Christian +Union_. + + + + +CHAPTER XIII. + +BOOKS. + +Books have an influence on life and conduct the extent of which it is +impossible to estimate. "The precepts they inculcate, the lessons they +exhibit, the ideals of life and character which they portray, root +themselves in the thoughts and imaginations of young men. They seize +them with a force which, in after years, appears scarcely possible." +These words of Principal Tulloch will not appear too strong to any one +who can look back over a long period of life. Such must ever feel that +books have had a powerful effect in making them all that they are. +There are many considerations that go to show the importance of books. + +Books are the accumulated treasures of generations.--They are to man +what memory is to the individual. If all the libraries in the world +were burned and all the books in the world destroyed, the past would be +little more than a blank. It would be a calamity corresponding to that +of a man losing by a stroke the memory of past years. The literature +of the world is the world's memory, the world's experience, the world's +failures. It teaches us where we came from. It tells us of the paths +we have travelled. Almost all we know of the history of this world in +which God has placed us we know from books. "In books," as Carlyle +says, "lie the creative Phoenix ashes of the whole past--all that men +have desired, discovered, done, felt, or imagined, lie recorded in +books, wherein whoso has learned the mystery of spelling printed +letters may find it and appropriate it." + +Books open to us a society from which otherwise we would be +excluded.--They introduce us into a great human company. They enable +us, however humble we may be, to hold converse with the great and good +of past ages and of the present time--the great philosophers, +philanthropists, poets, divines, travellers. We know their thoughts, +we hear their words, we clasp their hands. The chamber of the solitary +student is peopled with immortal guests. He has friends who are always +steadfast, who are never false, who are silent when he is weary, who go +forth with him to his work, who await his return. In the literature of +the world a grand society is open to all who choose to enter it. + +Books are the chief food of our intellectual life.--There are men that +have, indeed, done great things who have read but little. These have +had their want of mental training compensated by their powers of +observation and experience of life. But they have been for the most +part exceptional men, and it is possible they might have done better if +they had studied more. To the great majority of men books are the +great teachers, the chief ministers to self-culture. Books in a +special manner represent intellect to those who can appreciate them. +We cannot estimate in this aspect their importance. They are in regard +to self-culture what Montaigne calls "the best viaticum for the journey +of life." When we think of what we owe to them, we may enter into the +feelings of Charles Lamb, who "wished to ask a grace before reading +more than a grace before meat." + +In regard to books, the practical questions that present themselves +are, what we should read, and how we should read. The first question +cannot be answered in any definite manner. (_a_) The enormous number +of books in the world forbids this. Let any one enter a library of +even moderate size, and he will feel how almost hopeless it would be, +even if it were profitable, to draw out a practicable list of what may +be advantageously chosen for reading and what may well be cast aside. +(_b_) Still more does the infinite variety of tastes, circumstances: +and talents, forbid the laying down of definite rules. Reading that +might be profitable for one might not be so for another. Reading that +would be pleasant to one would be to another weariness. Every class of +mind seeks naturally its own proper food, and the choice of books must +ultimately depend upon a man's own bias--on his natural bent and the +necessities of his life. There are, however, one or two directions +that may be given, and which may be profitable to young men. + +_First_, We should read, as far as possible, _the great books of the +world_. In the kingdom of literature there are certain works that +stand by themselves and tower in their grandeur above all others. They +are referred to by Bacon, in his weighty way, when he says: "Some books +are to be tasted, others to be swallowed, some few to be chewed and +digested." This last class of books may be still spoken of as few. +Various lists have lately been published of the best hundred books, +according to the opinion of some of the greatest men of our time. +There is considerable agreement among the writers as to what they +consider the best books, and there is considerable difference also. It +is easy to see how those who compiled these lists have been largely +influenced in making their selection by their own peculiar tastes and +fancies. Probably there is not one of their lists which any young man +would care to follow out in its entirety. We give elsewhere the one +which seems most likely to be useful to those into whose hands this +text-book may probably come,[1] though it is evident that many young +men might profitably leave out some of the books mentioned and +substitute others. Still one thing is clear, that it is possible to +make a selection of outstanding works in literature. After +consultation with others better informed than himself, a young man can +make a list suitable to his capacities and tastes, of books that really +are _great_ books, and in this way he may acquire knowledge that is +worth having, and which will furnish a good and solid foundation for +his intellectual culture. It is with books of this kind that he should +begin, and a few such books thoroughly mastered will probably do him +more good than all others that he may afterwards read. + +It is hardly necessary to say that there is _one_ book that may be +termed specially great, and which all young men should make the special +subject of their study. (_a_) The Bible, even as a means of +intellectual culture, stands alone and above all others. "In the +poorest cottages," says Carlyle, "is one book wherein for several +thousands of years the spirit of man has found light and nourishment, +and an interpreting response to whatever is deepest in him." No man +can be regarded as an educated man unless he is familiar with this +book. To understand its history and position in the world is in itself +a liberal education. Those who have been indifferent to its spiritual +power and divine claims have acknowledged its great importance in +regard to self-culture. "Take the Bible," says Professor Huxley, "as a +whole, make the severest deductions which fair criticism can dictate +for shortcomings and for positive errors, and there still remains in +this old literature a vast residuum of moral beauty and grandeur; and +then consider the great historical fact that for three centuries this +book has been woven into the life of all that is best and noblest in +English history; that it has become the national epic of Britain, and +is familiar to noble and simple from John o' Groat's house to Land's +End; that it is written in the noblest and purest English, and abounds +in exquisite beauties of a mere literary form; and finally, that it +forbids the merest hind who never left his village to be ignorant of +the existence of other countries and other civilizations, and of a +great past, stretching back to the furthest limits of the oldest +nations of the world. By the study of what other book could children +be so much humanized?" In these words we have a noble tribute to the +intellectual greatness of the Bible. (_b_) But it has other claims +upon us than its power to stimulate mental culture. It is inspired by +God. "It is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for +instruction in righteousness." It is man's guide through the +perplexities of life to the glory of heaven, "Wherewithal shall a young +man cleanse his way? By taking heed thereto according to thy word." + +Read then the great books of the world, and this book, the greatest of +all. + +_Second_, Another suggestion that we may make in regard to the use of +books is that _we should read from some centre or standpoint_. A +person takes a house in the country. This he makes the centre of many +excursions. One day he climbs the mountain, another day he walks by +winding stream, on another he sails along the shore. In this way he +explores the surrounding country by degrees, coming back each night to +the place he started from. We may do much the same thing with profit +in our excursions among books. For instance, we may take the +starting-point of our _profession_, and read all we can in regard to +it. A farmer should read about farming, a lawyer about law, a divine +about theology. Or we may take the starting-point of our _physical +frame_, and read steadily all we can as to our bodily organisation and +its laws; or we may take as our starting point the _land_ we dwell in, +or even the locality where we live, and seek to learn all we can +regarding its history. In this way distinct lines of study are opened +up to us, and we are saved the evil of desultory reading, which too +often fills the mind only with a jumble of facts undigested and +unarranged, and therefore of but little value. The writer knew a young +minister in a Scottish manse who had among the few books in his library +the _Encyclopaedia Britannica_. In this work he took up distinct +courses of reading--a course of biography, a course of history, a +course of geography--and in this way he acquired knowledge well +systematized, which was of great value to him in his after life. We +should endeavor, according to some such method as we have indicated, to +carry on our reading. "Every man and every woman who can read at all +should adopt some definite purpose in their reading, should take +something for the main stem and trunk of their culture, whence branches +might grow out in all directions, seeking air and light for the parent +tree, which it is hoped might end in becoming something useful and +ornamental, and which at any rate all along will have had life and +growth in it." These words of Sir Arthur Helps put very tersely the +point on which we have been insisting. + +_Third_, We should read books _on the same principle as we associate +with men_. We only admit to our society those whom we deem worthy of +our acquaintance, and from whose intercourse we are likely to derive +benefit. We should do the same in regards to books. There are people +who read books which, if they took to themselves bodily form and became +personified, would be kicked out of their houses. Readers often +associate in literature with what is vile and contemptible, who would +never think of associating with people possessing a similar character. +Yet the society of a weak or bad book is just as harmful to us in its +way, and should be as little tolerated by us as the society of a weak +or bad man. Indeed, between an author and a careful reader there is an +intimacy established even closer than is possible in the intercourse of +life, and evil books poison the springs of thought and feeling much +more thoroughly than an evil acquaintanceship could do. We cannot be +too strict, therefore, in applying to books the rules we follow in +regard to society, and refusing our acquaintance to those books +unworthy of it. (_a_) Such books may be known by reputation. We would +not associate with a man of bad reputation, neither should we read a +book of which the reputation is evil. (_b_) They may be judged of also +by very slight experience. Very little tells us whether a man is +worthy to be admitted to companionship, and very slight acquaintance +with a book is sufficient to tell us whether it is worth reading. +(_c_) But especially by beginning with those great authors that are +beyond doubt high toned, "the master-spirits of all time," we shall +acquire a power of discrimination. We shall no more care to read foul, +impure, and unwholesome literature than a man brought up in the society +of honorable men would choose to cast in his lot with thieves and +blacklegs and the offscourings of society. + +We have anticipated much that might be said in answer to the question +_how_ to read, and only a few words need be written in regard to it. +(1) Read with interest. Unless a book interests us we do not attend to +it, we get no benefit whatever from it, and may as well throw it aside. +(2) Read actively, not passively, putting the book under +cross-examination as we go along--asking questions regarding it, +weighing arguments. Mere passive reading may do no more good than the +stream does to the iron pipe through which it flows. Novel-readers are +often mere passive recipients of the stories, and thus get no real +benefit from them. (3) Read according to some system or method. (4) +Read not always for relaxation, recreation, and amusement, but chiefly +to enable you to perform the duties to which God has called you in +daily life. + + + +[1] See Appendix. + + + + +CHAPTER XIV. + +FAMILY LIFE. + +The words Family--Home--Household--all express one idea. They imply a +relationship existing between certain individuals, a circle or sphere +separate from the mass of human beings, within which there are special +duties to be performed and a special life has to be lived. It is not +necessary to define particularly what is meant by the word Family, for +it is well understood by all of us. + +Family life is peculiar to man.--The lower animals have nothing in all +respects resembling it. In some particulars their mode of life +occasionally approaches it, but not in all. The birds of the air, for +instance, care tenderly for their offspring, but when these come to +maturity the relation between them and their parents comes to an end. +The family relation on the other hand lasts through life, and is only +broken by the hand of death, if even then. The family has been +instituted by God for the welfare of man. The condition in which we +come into the world requires it--our training for the work of life +demands it--it is specially adapted to promote the great ends of human +existence. + +Family life is that which most truly leaves its mark upon us.--In the +family habits are formed which make us what we are for the rest of our +life. Home influences accompany us to the very end of our journey. +Let any one ask himself what are the chief sources of his virtues, and +he will feel that a large proportion of them are derived directly or +indirectly from association with his fellow-creatures in the family. +The training of parents, the affection and influence of mothers and +sisters, powerfully and lastingly affect our intellectual and moral +nature. From a wise father we learn more than from all our teachers. +When a celebrated artist, Benjamin West, was asked "What made him a +painter?" his reply was, "It was my mother's kiss." "I should have +been an atheist," said a great American statesman, "if it had not been +for one recollection, and that was the memory of the time when my +departed mother used to take my little hand in hers, and caused me on +my knees to say, 'Our Father, who art in heaven.'" On the other hand, +those who have been so unfortunate as to have had an unhappy home +rarely emancipate themselves from the evil effects of their upbringing. +If they do, it is after the severest struggle. "The child," it has +been said, "is the father of the man," and it is in the family the +child receives his first impressions for good or for evil. The world +he first lives in is his home. + +Family life supplies a great test of character.--When Whitefield was +asked whether a certain person was a Christian, he replied, "I do not +know. I have never seen him at home." People are often one thing in +the world and another in their own family. In the close intercourse of +the home circle they exhibit themselves in their true colors. A man +who is a good son or a good brother is generally found to be a good +man. If he is a source of evil in his own home, in his intercourse +with the world he will, sooner or later, be found wanting. + +It is beyond the scope of this book to dwell at length upon the duties +incumbent on the various members of a family. It may be sufficient to +indicate generally the feelings which should animate the young persons +who belong to it. Probably most of those into whose hands this manual +will come are members of a family. What should therefore be their +conduct at home is a question that well deserves their consideration. + +1. _Obedience_ is the fundamental principle of family life. Every +family has a head, and that head must rule. "Order is heaven's first +law." Where there is no obedience there can be no order in a family. +The first form of authority which is placed before the child is that of +the parent, and to the parent he has to be subject. "Children," says +the apostle, "obey your parents in all things, for this is well +pleasing unto the Lord." Even for those members of a family who have +grown out of the state of childhood obedience must be the rule, though +in their case it is not to be, as in the case of the child, +unquestioning obedience, but is to be founded on reason, affection and +gratitude. With them obedience takes the form of reverence, or, to use +a more familiar word, respect. The child is bound to obey his parent +without hesitation or reply; the young man who has entered into greater +liberty than the child will still respect his parents' wishes and +cherish reverence for their authority. This feeling on his part is +termed in the Scriptures _Honor_. "Honor thy father and thy mother" is +one of the Ten Commandments, and can never cease to be included among +moral and religious obligations. It is opposed to everything like +unseemly familiarity, discourtesy of treatment, insolence in reply, or +deliberate defiance. It implies respect for age and experience, and a +sense of the great sacrifices a parent has made for his children's +welfare. It is said that in our time the bonds of parental authority +are being loosened, and that young men do not regard their parents with +the deference that once was invariably shown towards them; that they do +little to smooth the path of life for them when they grow old and weak, +and are more ready to cast them on the public charity than to +contribute to their support. Such a state of things would be shameful, +if true. It would indicate a corruption of social life at the +fountain-head that must lead to serious consequences. The family is +the nursery both of the State and of the Church, and where the purity +and well-being of family life is impaired, both State and Church are +sure to suffer. There should be therefore an earnest and prayerful +endeavor upon the part of the young to cherish towards their parents +that loving sense of their superiority which is implied in the word +Honor. "Let them learn first," says St. Paul (1 Tim. v. 4), "to show +piety at home, and to requite their parents; for that is good and +acceptable before God." There can be no more pleasing memory for a +young man to have than this, that he has been a dutiful son; none more +bitter than this, that he has set at defiance, or neglected, those to +whom he owes so much. + +2. _Affection_ is the atmosphere that should pervade the household. +"Without hearts," it has been truly said, "there is no home." A +collection of roots, and trunk, and branches, and leaves, do not make a +tree; neither do a number of people dwelling together make a home. "A +certain number of animal lives that are of prescribed ages, that eat +and drink together, by no means makes a family. Almost as well might +we say that it is the bricks of a house that make a home. There may be +a home in the forest or in the wilderness, and there may be a family +with all its blessings, though half its members be in other lands or in +another world. It is the gentle memories, the mutual thought, the +desire to bless, the sympathies that meet when duties are apart, the +fervor of the parents' prayers, the persuasion of filial love, the +sister's pride and the brother's benediction, that constitute the true +elements of domestic life and sanctify the dwelling." [1] These +beautiful words are true. It is love that makes home. The dweller, in +a distant land sends again and again his thoughts across the sea, and +reverts with fond affection to the place of his birth. It may be a +humble cottage, but to him it is ever dear because of the love which +dwelt there and united those who dwelt there by ties that distance +cannot sever. Even the prodigal in the matchless parable of our Lord, +herding with the swine and eating of their husks, was led to a higher +and a better life by the remembrance of his father's house. A home +without love is no home, any more than a body without a soul is a man. +It is only a corpse. + +3. _Consideration_ for those with whom we live in the family is the +chief form which affection takes. Each member has to remember, not his +own comfort and wants, but the comfort and wants of those with whom he +dwells. His welfare as an individual he must subordinate to the +welfare of the household. There are various forms which want of +consideration takes, and all of them are detestable. (_a_) Tyranny, +where the strong member of a family insists on the service of those +weaker than himself. (_b_) Greed, where one demands a larger share of +comfort, food, or attention than that which falls to the others. (_c_) +Indolence, where one refuses to take his proper part in the maintenance +of the family, spending his wages, perhaps, on his own pleasures, and +yet expecting to be provided for by the labor of the rest. (_d_) +Discourtesy, where, by his language and manners, he makes the others +unhappy, and, perhaps, by his outbursts of temper fills the whole house +with sadness. (_e_) Obstinacy, which will have its own way, whether +the way be good or not. All these forms of selfishness are violations +of the true law of family life, and render that life impossible. In +the family, more than in any other sphere, everyone should bear the +burdens of others. Everyone should seek, not his own, but another's +welfare, and the weak and feeble should receive the attention of all. + +4. _Pleasantness_ should be the disposition which we should specially +cultivate at home. If we have to encounter things that annoy and +perhaps irritate us in the outer world, we should seek to leave the +irritation and annoyance behind when we cross the threshold of our +dwelling. Into it the roughness and bluster of the world should never +be permitted to come. It should be the place of "sweetness and light," +and every member may do something to make it so. It is a bad sign when +a young man never cares to spend his evenings at home--when he prefers +the company of others to the society of his family, and seeks his +amusement wholly beyond its circle. There is something wrong when this +is the case. "I beseech you," said one addressing youth, "not to turn +home into a restaurant and a sleeping bunk, spending all your leisure +somewhere else, and going home only when all other places are shut up." +A young man, it is admitted, may find his home uninviting through +causes for which he has not himself to blame. Still, even then he may +do much to change its character, and by his pleasant and cheerful +bearing may bring into it sunshine brighter than the sunshine outside. + +5. The highest family life is that consecrated by _Religion_. The +household where God is acknowledged, from which the members go +regularly together to the house of God, within whose walls is heard the +voice of prayer and praise, is the ideal Christian family. In such a +family the father is the priest, daily offering up prayers for those +whom God has given him, at the family altar. He makes it his duty, and +regards it as his privilege to bring up his children in "the nurture +and admonition of the Lord," and by personal example and teaching to +train them up as members of the household of faith. Unlike those who +leave the religious instruction of their children entirely to others, +he loves to teach them himself. A household thus pervaded by a +Christian atmosphere is a scene of sweet and tender beauty. Such a +household is well depicted by our Scottish poet, Robert Burns, in his +"Cotter's Saturday Night." There we see how beautiful family life may +be in the humblest dwelling. + + From scenes like these old Scotia's grandeur springs, + That makes her lov'd abroad, rever'd at home. + + + +[1] Dr. James Martineau. + + + + +CHAPTER XV. + +CHURCH.[1] + +The word church is derived from the Greek word _Kuriakon_, the Lord's +(from _Kurios_, the Lord), and it has various significations. (_a_) +Sometimes it means the whole body of believers on earth--"the company +of the faithful throughout the world"--"the number of the elect that +have been, are, and shall be gathered into one, under Christ the Head +thereof; and is the spouse, the body and the fulness of Him that +filleth all in all." [2] (_b_) Sometimes it is applied to a body of +Christians differing from the rest in their constitution, doctrines, +and usages; as, for example, the Church of Rome, the Greek Church, the +Reformed Church. (_c_) Sometimes it refers to the Christian community +of a country or its established religion, as when we speak of the +Gallican Church, the Swiss Church, the Church of England, the Church of +Scotland. (_d_) It is used in a still more limited sense to represent +a particular congregation of Christians who associate together and +participate in the ordinances of Christianity, with their proper +pastors or ministers. (_e_) It is applied also to the building in +which the public ministrations of religion are conducted, as when we +speak of the church in such a street, St. James' church, St. Peter's +church, etc. + +In this chapter we use the word church in the fourth sense, as +representing a particular congregation of Christians. To such a +community every young man should belong, and in connection with it he +is called to discharge certain special duties. There are four aspects +in which the life of the Church, in this sense, may be regarded. + +I. It represents Christian worship.--(_a_) Public worship seems +essential to the very existence of religion. At least, every religion +the world has seen has had its meetings for public rites and +ceremonies. Faith unsupported by sympathy, as a rule, languishes and +dies out in a community. Were our churches to be shut Sunday after +Sunday, and men never to meet together as religious beings, it would be +as though the reservoir that supplies a great city with water suddenly +ran dry. Here and there a few might draw water from their own wells, +but the general result would be appalling. (_b_) Public worship also +strengthens and deepens religious feeling. A man can pray alone and +praise God alone; but he is, beyond all doubt, helped when he does so +in the company of others. He is helped by the conditions of time and +place; and the presence and sympathy of his fellow-worshippers have +upon him a mighty uplifting influence. (_c_) Above all, public worship +is the channel through which we receive special blessings from God. +There is communion in the sanctuary between us and Him. "The true +worshippers shall worship the Father in spirit and in truth, for the +Father _seeketh_ such to worship him." God desires our worship, and +blesses it to us. That He does so has been the experience of +Christians in all ages. They have found in the house and worship of +God a strength and power that supported and blessed their life. They +have realized that the promise of Christ is still fulfilled, "Where two +or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of +them." (Matt. xviii. 20.) + +II. The Church represents Christian teaching.--In the congregation the +Word of God is read and preached. (_a_) Preaching has always formed +part of the service of the Christian Church from the very earliest +times. In the second century Justin Martyr says: "On the day called +Sunday, all who live in the cities or in the country gather into one +place, and the memoirs of the apostles and the writings of the prophets +are read as time permits; then when the reader has ceased, the +president verbally instructs and exhorts to the imitation of these good +things." This description of an early Christian service is applicable +still. Wherever the Church meets there is religious teaching. (_b_) +And it is the only such teaching that multitudes receive. Without it +they would be left to grope their way alone. (_c_) Whenever, +therefore, there has been a revival of life in the Church, great stress +has been laid upon the preaching of the Word of God, and God has +specially blessed it to the conversion of sinners and the edification +of His people. + +III. The Church represents Christian fellowship.--(_a_) It keeps up +the idea of brotherhood in the world. It brings people of different +ranks and classes together, and that under most favorable +circumstances. Whatever a man is in the world, in the Church he is +made to feel that in the eye of God he is a member of one family, +having the same weaknesses, the same sorrows, the same needs, the same +destiny before him as those around him. In the Church "the rich and +poor meet together" in equality before the same God, who is the Maker +of them all. (_b_) But especially in its worship is the Church a +common bond between _believers_. On one day of the week men of all +nations, kindreds, peoples and tongues, a multitude whom no man can +number, unite in spirit together. Their prayers and praises ascend in +unison to the Throne of Grace. They enter into the "communion of +saints." They belong to one holy fellowship. (_c_) At the table of +the Lord they take their places as partakers of one life--as one in +Christ. "The cup of blessing which we bless, is it not the communion +of the blood of Christ? The bread which we break, is it not the +communion of the body of Christ? For we being many are all partakers +of that one bread." (1 Cor. x. 16, 17.) + +IV. The Church represents Christian Work.--It is not merely a society +for instruction or for the cultivation of devout feelings. It is an +aggressive society. Every congregation of believers is a branch of the +great army which is warring against the kingdom of darkness. Every +individual is called upon to be a "fellow-laborer with Christ," and not +merely to work out his own salvation, but to work for the salvation of +others. The motto of every true Christian Church should be, "Work for +everybody, and everybody at work." Those who may be able to do little +as isolated individuals may do much by combining their efforts with +those of others. The Church gives them the power and the opportunity. + +We may now glance at some of the special duties incumbent upon those +who are connected with the Church, and particularly upon young men. + +1. We should be regular in availing ourselves of the means of grace +which the Church affords. If it be the home of worship, of teaching, +of fellowship, and of work, it is a home from which we should not make +ourselves strangers. There is a blessing to be found there, and we are +remiss if we do not seek it. Every young man should be a regular +attendant on the ministrations of religion. He should be so (_a_) for +his own sake, and (_b_) for the sake of others. He may perhaps have at +times the feeling, I can get my worship in the fields and my teaching +from my books; I can get along without the Church. But surely he +undervalues the promised blessing to those who "forsake not the +assembling of (themselves) together." Surely he undervalues the power, +and strength, and comfort, that come from association with believers. +But even if he could get on without the Church, is he not bound to +consider others? Has any man in a world like ours, where all are bound +together and are dependent on one another, any right to consider as to +whether he can get on alone? Is he not bound to consider those around +him? We must all feel that it would be a great calamity to a nation +were public worship given up, churches closed, and Sunday made a day of +recreation. But those who absent themselves from public worship are +undoubtedly using their influence in that direction. If it be right +for them to absent themselves, it must be right also for others to +imitate them, and it is easy to see how disastrous generally such +imitation would be. + +Especially should every young man become _a communicant_ at the table +of the Lord. Besides the many spiritual benefits of which the +sacrament is the channel to every devout believer, it is an ordinance +which is particularly helpful to the young. It leads them to make a +decision, and decision gives strength. From the moment they +deliberately and solemnly make their choice, there is a power imparted +to their life that it had not before. In the life of the well-known +Scotsman, Adam Black, it is said that shortly after he went up to +London he became a communicant in the Church to which he belonged. "I +found," he says, "this step gave a stability to my character, and +proved a defence from follies and vices, especially as a young man in +London, entirely my own master, with no one to guide or check me." + +2. We should take each of us our full share in the work of our Church. +It is a poor sign of a church when all the work done is by the +minister, or by the office-bearers alone, and it is a still poorer sign +of those who belong to it. It is a sign that they have not felt the +power of that grace which ever leads the soul to put the question, +"What wilt thou have me to do?" There are none who cannot do +something. The writer read lately of a church in England, the grounds +of which were regularly tended and made beautiful by the young men +belonging to it. That may seem a small service, but it was something. +It showed a good spirit. If we are to get the most out of the Church, +we must help it to do its work--charitable, missionary, Sunday School, +Young Men's Guild. If the best heart and talent of young men were put +into these and other agencies, the power of the Church for good would +be increased immeasurably, and not the least of the advantage would +come to the workers themselves. Let each do his own part. There is +one way, we need scarcely say, in which we can all help the Church's +work: by giving to it "as the Lord hath prospered us." Under the Old +Testament dispensation every one was under strict obligation to give a +fixed proportion of his substance for religious purposes. Surely we +should not be less liberal when the proportion is left to our own sense +of duty. Freely we have received. Let us also freely give. + +3. While loyal to our own Church, we should cherish towards all +Christians feelings of charity and good-will. Many of us, probably +most of us, belong to the Church to which our parents belonged; and so +long as we feel it ministers to our spiritual benefit we should keep by +it and work with it. There is little good obtained by running from +church to church, and those who sever themselves from their early +religious associations are often anything but gainers. But while we +are loyal to our own regiment in the Christian army, and proud, so far +as a Christian may be so, of its traditions and achievements, let us +ever feel that the army itself is greater than our own regiment, and +not only cherish good-will and brotherly love towards those who fight +in that army, but be ready at all times to co-operate with them, and to +fight with them against the common enemy. It is well to be a good +churchman, it is infinitely better to be a good Christian. It is best +when one is both; for indeed he is the best Christian who is the best +churchman, and he is the best churchman who is the best Christian. + + + +[1] The subject of "The Church, Ministry and Sacraments" is to be fully +dealt with in a Guild text-book by the Rev. Norman Macleod, D. D. We +only refer in this chapter to those phases of Church life that are more +immediately connected with Life and Conduct. + +[2] _Confession of Faith_. + + + + +CHAPTER XVI. + +CITIZENSHIP. + +Citizenship is derived from the Latin word _civitas_, the state, and +comprehends the duties that are binding upon us as members of the +state. The first question then that arises in considering these is, +What do we mean by the state? + +The state may be defined as the larger family.--The family is the +origin of the state. (_a_) In early times government was of the simple +kind that prevails in a family. The father was the head of the +household and ruled over his children. As these grew up and had +families of their own, they naturally looked to the aged head of the +family, listened to his counsels, and were guided by his wisdom. Hence +the first form of the state was the tribe or clan, and the first form +of government was _patriarchal_. The head of the family governed the +tribe. (_b_) On the death of the patriarch it was necessary that a +successor should be appointed. Sometimes he was the son of the +patriarch or his nearest descendant. Sometimes he was chosen by the +tribe as the strongest and bravest man and most competent to lead them +against their enemies. Often tribes combined for mutual protection. +Thus nations were formed, and the government passed from the +patriarchal to the _monarchical_ form. The head was called the _king_, +which literally means the "father of a people." We trace this growth +in government in the history of the Israelites. First, we have the +family of Israel in immediate relation with the patriarchs. As the +Israelites grew and multiplied, they came under the leadership of +Moses, who governed the tribes. Finally, when they settled in the land +of Canaan, they became a nation, and were governed by a king. The +kingdom was the expansion of the family. (_c_) In modern times there +has been a further development. Government by a king or monarch was in +the first instance _despotic_. It is so in some cases--as in Russia at +the present day. The will of the sovereign is the law by which the +people are ruled. But just as a wise father relaxes his control over +his full-grown sons, and admits them to a share in the government of +the household with himself, so the people have in modern times been +permitted to exercise power in the state. The head of the state +remains, but the main power of government lies with the people. This +form of government is called _constitutional_. In Great Britain we +have a _limited monarchy_; the power of the sovereign is controlled by +the will of the people, who have a large share in making the laws. In +the United States of America, in France, and in other countries, we +have _republics_, where the voice of the people is supreme, though at +the head of the state is a president, elected by the people, and bound +to carry out their wishes. + +As the state is the larger family, the duties of those who compose it +correspond with those belonging to the members of a household. + +1. There is the duty of loyalty or patriotism. The first duty of the +member of a family is love of home and of those who belong to it. +However poor or humble it may be, he feels bound to it by no ordinary +ties. He defends its interests. Above all other households, he loves +his own the best. The first duty of the citizen is of the same kind. +He loves his land; his own country is dearer to him than any other on +earth. He is ready to defend it even with his life. The words of Sir +Walter Scott, as of many another poet, express this patriotic feeling: + + Breathes there the man with soul so dead, + Who never to himself hath said, + This is my own, my native land, + Whose heart hath ne'er within him burned, + As home his footsteps he hath turned, + From wandering on a foreign strand. + +Many have died for their country's sake, and in all ages this has been +thought a specially noble death. History records with affection the +names of such men as Wallace, Bruce, William Tell, and Garibaldi, who +sacrificed very much for the land they loved. And as "peace has its +victories no less renowned than those of war," it has been the pride of +others to serve their country by guarding its liberties, increasing its +happiness, diminishing its evils, reforming its laws. The _flag_ of a +country is the symbol, to those who belong to it, of their common +inheritance. Brave men will follow it through the shot and shell of +battle. Men have wrapt it round their breasts, and have dyed its folds +with their heart's blood to save it from the hands of the enemy; and +wherever it waves it calls forth feelings of loyalty and allegiance. + +2. Another primary duty of citizenship is obedience to the law. Here +again we have the rule of the family extended to the state. The child +is bound to obey his parents unless they bid him do what his conscience +clearly tells him is wrong; so, a good citizen will obey the laws of +his country, unless these laws are so evidently unjust that the good of +all demands that they should be resisted. Whatever the law is, he will +endeavor to respect and obey it. If he believes it to be an unjust or +unrighteous law, he will do his best to get it amended or abolished. +It is only in an extreme case, though this opens a subject on which we +cannot enter, that he can be justified in refusing obedience. "Let +every soul," says Scripture, "be subject unto the higher powers. For +there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God. +Whosoever therefore resisteth the power, resisteth the ordinance of +God; and they that resist shall receive to themselves condemnation. +For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to the evil. . . . +Wherefore, ye must needs be subject, not only for wrath, but also for +conscience sake." + +3. It is a duty of citizenship to see that the laws are reasonable and +just. In a family, the grown-up members will use their legitimate +influence to promote the wise regulation of the household, that there +may be peace and harmony. The same desire will animate the members of +the state. (_a_) This is specially incumbent upon those who, like +ourselves, live under constitutional government. With us, government +is not the prerogative of the Crown, or of a few families; or of men of +rank or wealth. It is not _despotic_, or _aristocratic_, or +_plutocratic_, but _democratic_--that is to say, it is in the hands of +the people, or of those of the people to whom it has been entrusted, +and who form a large proportion of the male inhabitants of the country; +on them devolves the making of the laws by which the country is +governed. They are bound to do their best to see that these laws are +what they should be--equitable and righteous, and for the interest of +the whole community. (_b_) This they can only do through their +representatives. We could conceive of a state so small that each of +its members could take a direct part in its government. That is not +the case with us, and the people can only exercise their control +through those they authorise to represent them. These they elect, and +in electing them are bound to see that they are men who are worthy of +the trust committed to them, who will make laws good for every class. +This applies not only to the election of members of Parliament, but +wherever the representative principle is carried out, as in the case of +councils, school boards, and other forms of local government. Wherever +a man exercises the privilege of choosing a representative, he is bound +to do so conscientiously, and with an earnest desire to perform what is +right. It is a maxim in law that what we do by another we do +ourselves. We are responsible for those whom we choose to make our +laws, and if we help to choose unworthy men we cannot be held blameless +of the consequences that may follow. (_c_) As it is our duty to +exercise this privilege of citizenship rightly, we are also bound not +to refrain from exercising it. We hear people say sometimes that they +have nothing to do with politics. But by keeping altogether aloof they +cannot rid themselves of their responsibility. By abstaining they may +do almost as much to further the views they disapprove of as by taking +an active part in promoting them. If there are evils in connection +with government, the best way to get rid of them is for good men to +take a part in public life, and try to bring about a better state of +things. In a free country no man can shake off his obligations by +refraining from taking part in public affairs. The talent that is +entrusted to us we are bound to use for the glory of God and the good +of man. Our political power, however small, is such a talent, and we +are responsible for its proper employment. + +4. It is a duty of citizenship to take direct part in all that we +believe is for the good of the state. We say a direct part, as +distinguished from the indirect part we take in government through +representatives. A man's duty as citizen does not end with the +ballot-box, or with the election of members either to the national or +local council. A great part of the business of the nation is carried +on by the voluntary efforts of its members. There are men and women +that have no part in representative government, who yet can discharge +nobly the duties of citizenship. (_a_) All can take a part in forming +a healthy public opinion. This is done in all free countries in +various ways: through the press, through public meetings, and by means +of the speech and communications of everyday life. If our views are +those of a minority, we may help, by our influence, our example, the +fearless expression of our convictions, to turn the minority into a +majority; and in a democratic country the views of the majority will +ultimately prevail. (_b_) We can also take direct part in promoting +objects that tend to the well-being of society. Much is left by the +state to voluntary effort by its members. The state undertakes the +defence of the country by the army and navy, the relief of the poor, +and the elementary education of the people; but beyond these and other +instances of direct state action there is much left to be done by the +people themselves, and for themselves. The Volunteer movement, in +which men take part of their own free will, and which has been of so +much benefit to the country; the erection and support of hospitals, +libraries, art galleries, colleges and universities; the furnishing of +the people with amusement and recreation--are illustrations of what may +be done by members of the community directly. All such efforts tend to +the welfare of the state. All its members reap benefit from them. He +who does not help and encourage them is as mean as the man who would go +to an hotel and take its entertainment, and then sneak away without +paying the reckoning. Whatever we can do to benefit society benefits +ourselves, and in throwing ourselves heart and soul into any of those +enterprises that benefit society we are discharging in a very special +way the duties of good citizenship. + +It only remains to say in a word that our citizenship should be the +outcome of our religion. Without that, citizenship loses its high +position. He who fears God will honor the king, and he who "renders to +God the things that are God's" will "render to Caesar the things that +are Caesar's." He will give "to all their dues: tribute to whom +tribute is due; custom to whom custom; fear to whom fear; honor to whom +honor." Religion thus becomes the strength of the state, and +"righteousness exalteth a nation." + + + + +APPENDIX. + +The following is the list of the best hundred books referred to in +Chapter XIII. It is by Professor Blackie, Edinburgh, author of +Self-Culture, and is given with his kind consent. + + +I. + +HISTORY AND BIOGRAPHY. + + The Bible. + Homer. + Wilkinson's Ancient Egyptians. + Max Von Dunche's History of the Ancient World. + Plutarch's Lives. + Herodotus. + History of Greece--_Grote_ or _Curtius_. + History of Rome--_Arnold_ or _Mommsen_. + Menzel's History of the Germans. + Green's History of the English People. + Life of Charlemagne. + Life of Pope Hildebrand. + The Crusades. + Sismondi's History of the Italian Republics. + Prescott's America. + Prescott's Ferdinand and Isabella. + Italy, by _Professor Spalding_. + Chronicles, by _Froissart_. + The Normans--_Freeman_ and _Thierry_. + Motley's Dutch Republic. + Life of Gustavus Adolphus. + The French Revolution--_Thiers, Carlyle, Alison_. + Bourrienne's Life of Napoleon. + Wellington's Peninsular Campaign. + Southey's Life of Nelson. + America--_Bancroft_. + The Stuart Rising of 1745, by _Robert Chambers_. + Carlyle's Life of Cromwell. + Foster's Statesmen of the Commonwealth. + Life of Arnold--_Stanley_. + Life of Dr. Norman Macleod. + Life of Baron Bunsen. + Neander's Church History. + Life of Luther. + History of Scottish Covenanters--_Dodds_. + Dean Stanley's Jewish Church. + Milman's Latin Christianity. + + +II. + +RELIGION AND MORALS. + + The Bible. + Socrates or Plato and Xenophon. + Marcus Aurelius Antoninus' Meditations. + Epictetus Seneca. + The Hitopadion and Dialogues of Krishna. + St. Augustine's Confessions. + Jeremy Taylor. + Bunyan's Pilgrim's Progress. + Martineau. + Aesop's Fables. + + +III. + +POETRY AND FICTION. + + Homer. + Virgil. + Dante. + The Niebelungen Lay. + The Morte D'Arthur. + Chaucer. + Shakespeare. + Spenser. + Goethe--Faust, Meister, and Eckermann's Conversations. + Milton. + Pope. + Cowper. + Campbell. + Wordsworth. + Walter Scott. + Burns. + Charles Lamb. + Dean Swift, "Tale of a Tub" and "Gulliver's Travels." + Tennyson. + Browning. + Don Quixote. + Goldsmith, "Vicar of Wakefield." + George Eliot. + Dickens. + Robinson Crusoe. + Andersen's Fairy Tales, "Mother Bunch." + Grimm's Popular Songs and Ballads, especially + Scotch, English, Irish and German. + + +IV. + +FINE ARTS. + + Ferguson's History of Architecture. + Ruskin. + Tyrwhitt. + + +V. + +POLITICS AND POLITICAL ECONOMY. + + De Tocqueville. + John Stuart Mill. + Fawcett. + Laveleye. + Adam Smith. + Cornewall Lewis. + Lord Brougham. + Sir J. Lubbock. + + +VI. + +SCIENCE AND PHILOLOGY. + + J. G. Wood's Books on Natural History. + White's Natural History of Selbourne. + Geology--_Hugh Miller, Ramsey, Geikie, Ansted_. + Botany--General Elements of British. + Science of Language--_Trench_ and _Farrar, Max Mueller_. + Taylor's Words and Places. + + +VII. + +VOYAGES AND TRAVEL. + +In every variety; especially the old collections. + + + + +LIST OF WORKS. + +The following is a list of works upon topics treated in this text-book, +which have been consulted in its preparation, and which may be useful +to students: + +_Self-Culture_, by John Stuart Blackie. Edinburgh: David Douglas. +Twentieth edition. 1892. + +_Plain Living and High Thinking, or Practical Self-Culture--Moral, +Mental and Physical_, by W. H. Davenport Adams. London: John Hogg, +Paternoster Row. 1880. + +_The Secret of Success_, by W. H. Davenport Adams. London: John Hogg, +Paternoster Row. 1880. + +_The Threshold of Life_, by W. H. Davenport Adams. T. Nelson & Sons, +Paternoster Row. 1876. + +_On the Threshold_, by Theodore T. Munger. London: Ward, Lock & Co. +1888. + +_Beginning Life_, by John Tulloch, D.D. London: Chas. Burnet & Co. +1883. + +_Life: a Book for Young Men_, by J. Cunninghame Geikie. London: +Strahan & Co. 1870. + +_The Gentle Life_, by J. Hain Friswell. London: Sampson Low & Marston. +1870. + +_Self-Culture_, by James Freeman Clarke. Boston: J. R. Osgood & Co. +1881. + +_Life Questions_, by M. J. Savage. Boston: Lockwood, Brooks & Co. +1879. + +_Elements of Morality, for Home and School Teaching_, by Mrs. Chas. +Bray. London: Longmans, Green & Co. 1863. + +_The Family and its Duties_, by Robert Lee, D.D. London: Longmans, +Green & Co. 1863. + +_Christianity in its Relation to Social Life_, by Rev. Stephen J. +Davis. London: Religious Tract Society. + +_Home Life_, by Marianne Farningham. London: James Clarke & Co. + +_The Domestic Circle_, by the Rev. John Thomson. 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