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You can also find out about how to make a +donation to Project Gutenberg, and how to get involved. + + +**Welcome To The World of Free Plain Vanilla Electronic Texts** + +**eBooks Readable By Both Humans and By Computers, Since 1971** + +*****These eBooks Were Prepared By Thousands of Volunteers!***** + + +Title: Making Good On Private Duty + +Author: Harriet Camp Lounsbery + +Release Date: August, 2004 [EBook # +] +[Yes, we are more than one year ahead of schedule] +[This file was first posted on December 1, 2002] + +Edition: 10 + +Language: English + +Character set encoding: ASCII + +*** START OF THE PROJECT GUTENBERG EBOOK MAKING GOOD ON PRIVATE DUTY *** + + + + +Produced by Ralph Zimmerman, Charles Franks +and the Online Distributed Proofreading Team. + + + + +MAKING GOOD ON PRIVATE DUTY + +MAKING GOOD ON PRIVATE DUTY + +PRACTICAL HINTS TO GRADUATE NURSES + +BY + +HARRIET CAMP LOUNSBERY, R.N. + +PRESIDENT WEST VIRGINIA STATE NURSES' ASSOCIATION SANITARY SCHOOL +INSPECTOR FOR CHARLESTON INDEPENDENT SCHOOL DISTRICT + +"Not to be ministered unto, but to minister" + + + + +PREFACE + + +Though technic is constantly changing, methods improving, and the +teaching in our schools grows better and more comprehensive, the +old problems in private work are ever to be faced, and still the +young sister in our nursing world needs to be counselled, guided +and helped. It is for these young private duty nurses that this +book has been written. + +For six years I went up and down one of our large cities doing +private nursing, and I can remember, as if it were but yesterday, +the curious little sinking of the heart I used to feel, as I +mounted the steps of a house where there was a new patient needing +my care. "Would I do everything right?" "Could I please the +patient and the friends?" "Would the doctor be satisfied with my +efforts?" "How would I feel when I was leaving?" "Encouraged or +hopeless?" "Happy or sad?" A strange house looks so forbidding, +"would this one ever look friendly?" There is time, while walking +up the steps, for these and many more such thoughts to crowd into +the nurse's mind. Once in the presence of the patient, however, +all this quickly changes, and action puts all wondering and doubt +to flight. + +The "hints" here given are the fruit of my own experience and that +of the graduates of the school of which I was the superintendent. +Many long talks we had, when they felt the need of coming back to +their hospital home for advice and comfort. It is an earnest wish +to help the young graduate over the intricate paths that the +inexperienced nurse must often tread that has led me to revise +some early contributions [Footnote: Printed by permission of the +_Trained Nurse_.] to the _Trained Nurse_ and write a few +new ones, which have within the past year appeared in the +_American Journal of Nursing_. + +In the chapter "Hints to the Obstetrical Nurse," there is little +or nothing that is commonly taught in the class-room. + +All of that is so well done, repetition here would be tiresome. +All the asepsis is familiar to every graduate. She knows how to +sterilize any and every thing, but sometimes she does not know the +best way to wash and dry the baby's little shirts or knitted +shawls. Sometimes she will not realize that if the layette cannot +be purchased at a store, old table linen makes the best diapers +for the newborn baby, and that his pillowcase should not have +embroidery in the center. + +I wish in this part to give the nurse such hints that she may be +able to help any woman who wishes to prepare for her confinement. +I have been asked so many times to tell a young expectant mother +just _what_ to get, that I have made for convenience as full +a list as is necessary for any baby or mother, with some hints as +to the washing of the baby. The rest it is expected every nurse +who graduates from a training-school would know. The table for +calculating an expectant confinement was cut from a medical paper +and given me by a physician some years ago. He did not know who +wrote it, nor do I, but he always used it, and I have found it +most accurate. + +The recipes I have given are, I know, reliable, having all been +tested many times. Most of the articles of food every nurse has +probably prepared, but exact proportions have a dreadful way of +slipping out of one's memory. Whether it is a pint of milk or a +quart that must be mixed with two eggs for a custard might not +seem much of a problem to a housekeeper, but to a nurse who has +perhaps not made a custard for a year it might carry many +difficulties. + +I have tried to help in this most important part of a nurse's +duty, and not only as to the food served the patient, but the +_manner_ of serving it, which last is truly to a sick person +of as much importance as the food itself. The few leaves I have +left blank are for such additional recipes as every nurse will +gather as she goes from house to house. Any cook will be glad to +give some hints as to how she does this or that, and no nurse +should be too proud to learn from the cook, or anybody else. I +shall never forget the fat little Irish woman who taught me to +make clam broth, or how much pride she took in my first success. +To ask the family cook for advice is sometimes good policy; she is +often so ready to resent any extra work caused by the sickness or +the nurse, it pays well to conciliate her, by asking for her aid +or counsel. To feel that she can teach the "Trained Nurse" will +often make a friend of the cook, and this will make things +pleasanter all around. It is with the hope that these homely and +perhaps somewhat old-fashioned hints may be of real service, that +this little book is sent forth to do what good it may to those who +are setting out on their professional careers. It is ever to the +young that we elders look, knowing, as Mrs. Isabel Hampton Robb +has truly said, "Work shall be lifted from our hands and carried +on to loftier ideals and higher aims by the strong young hands, +hearts and brains of future nurses." H. C. L. + +Charleston, W. Va. + + + + +CONTENTS + + +CHAPTER + +I. THE NURSE AND HER PATIENT + +II. THE NURSE AND THE DOCTOR + +III. THE NURSE HERSELF + +IV. THE NURSE AND HER PATIENT'S FAMILY, FRIENDS AND SERVANTS + +V. GENERAL REMARKS ON FOODS AND FEEDING + +VI. THE NURSE AS RELATING TO HER TRAINING SCHOOL AND TO HER FELLOW +NURSES + +VII. WHY DO NURSES COMPLAIN? + +VIII. THE NURSE AS A TEACHER + +IX. CONVALESCENCE + +X. HOW SHALL A NURSE OCCUPY HER DAYS OF WAITING? + +XI. SOME HINTS FOR THE OBSTETRICAL NURSE + +XII. AS TO WASHING THE BABY + +XIII. THE VALLEY OF THE SHADOW + + + + +I + +THE NURSE AND HER PATIENT + + +You may think it unnecessary for me to tell you any more about +"the patient." You will say, perhaps: "Have I had all this +training, and must I yet be told how to treat a patient?" I answer +that you have been taught how to watch the progress of disease, +how to follow intelligently the doctor's orders, also certain +manual arts, your proficiency in which is unquestionably most +necessary, but there is much more comprehended in the meaning of +the term "a good nurse" than this. How often do we hear stories of +nurses who were good--_but_--who were skillful--_but_-- +and after the _but_ comes a long list of such faults as do +not show so much in hospital life, where the routine and the many +rules and the constant supervision make them less likely to become +prominent. "She bangs the doors." "She breaks the fine china." +"She wears heavy shoes," or "She talks too much," or "She is +pretty and spends too much time over her front hair"--but why go +on? You have all heard such tales--_ad nauseam_, and if you +are wise, you will set up a sign-post against every one of these +snares into which your sister nurses have fallen, and on this you +will print in large, clear letters: "Danger! Walking on this place +forbidden." So much by way of apology for treating you once more +to a lecture on "the patient." + +The relation between nurse and patient should, from the first, be +a more than amicable one. You have come to bestow the priceless +blessing of unwearied, skillful care upon one who should +thankfully receive it, and believe me, if you do not go to your +patient with a feeling of thankfulness to God for allowing you to +assume such a sacred trust as the care of a human life, you are in +no condition to undertake the work. Your nursing should be, in a +way, an exponent of your own spiritual state; looking at it in its +highest aspect, an outward and visible sign of an inward and +spiritual grace. + +In the first place, then, you must be in entire sympathy with the +sick one--and here do not mistake me--by sympathy I do not mean +sentimentalism. The two emotions are as far asunder as the poles. +Sympathy, then, you must have, and if you do not intuitively feel +it, let me tell you what to do to rouse your dormant feelings. Try +earnestly to put yourself in the patient's place. Has she had an +operation of some kind, and you have all night been trying to keep +her quiet on her back, and she has been begging you to let her +turn "never so little?" When you go to lie down, and have, +perhaps, a backache, and feel tired, instead of settling yourself +in the most comfortable position you can, lie straight and square +on your back and say to yourself, "Now I can't turn over," and +imagine you have by your side a nurse who will not let you turn. +You will find out in the course of an hour that your patient has +had a good excuse for all her complaints, and the next night you +will know just where to slip your hand in the hollow of the back +or under the shoulders to give a little ease. The patient will +profit by such exercise on the part of the nurse, and your +sympathies will be quickened. Never forget that _the patient is +sick_, and you are _not_. You can, you must be firm in what +you know is for your patient's best good, but you must never +be dictatorial or argumentative. It is hard, I know, to bear with +all the foolish, unreasonable whims of sick people, but if you are +true nurses you will do it. There are, however, several consoling +thoughts which have always helped me, and which I will tell you. +In the first place, always remember, as I said before, that the +sick one _is_ sick, and on that ground you can overlook much. +In the second place, remember that it will not last long. A few +days or weeks will surely bring a change. She cannot, in the +nature of disease, remain for long in the very trying stage, +unless indeed she have some kind of mania, and of course if that +is the case, you need pay no attention to her whims. If she says +white is black, let it go. It does not make it so to have her say +so, but if you argue the point, and bring all your wisdom to bear +upon your demonstration, you may bring her pulse and temperature +up to a point that will do her a real injury. + +_Tact_, as you know, is worth everything to you, and by it +you will win your way to all hearts. Try then to feel as the +patient does, and you will know by instinct how to treat her, and +will, perhaps, be often rewarded for some little deed by the +pleased surprise with which she will say, "How did you know I +wanted it done?" You need not tell her how you knew, but you may +be sure she will appreciate you all the more for your prescient +thoughtfulness. Her pillows may be flat and hot, her hair +uncomfortable, her under sheet wrinkled or untucked from the +bottom; all these and a dozen more little things can be arranged +so easily, and they conduce so much to the sick one's comfort when +done, that you must ever have them in your mind. + +Be most careful also as to your patient's belongings, her top +drawer, her various boxes, and her linen closet. You must keep all +these things just as she did. You may think it a very foolish +thing for her to have three piles of handkerchiefs, each of a +different age, or degree of fineness, but if that is her way, she +will be better satisfied if she knows you will not lay a fine +handkerchief over a more common one. So keep them as carefully +divided as if they were the two parts of a Seidlitz powder. + +Hang her clothes up carefully whenever she goes back to bed, be it +once or oftener during the day. Separate them and hang them up; +don't pick all up together and put them over a chair. Put her +shoes away, lay the stockings on a shelf or put them inside the +shoes. Fold her pretty shawl or kimono and lay it in a drawer. Let +her see that you know a good thing, and know how to take care of +it. + +Put away fine china or glass and bric-a-brac, if she is very ill, +and you need space for necessary glasses or other articles. It +will be a pleasant way of beguiling the tedium of some long day in +her convalescence to bring forth and arrange them in their +accustomed places. Be careful of books, table-covers, and all the +articles of luxury and beauty you will find in many of our city +houses. Remember that these things belong to some one else, though +you are for the present custodian, and think how provoked you +would feel if some stranger should come to your home, and, even if +she did nurse you back to health, she left many nicked plates, +broken vases and handleless cups behind her. I think you would not +want her to nurse you again. + +I saw recently in an English magazine devoted to nursing, a very +clever article on "Talk." The writer, a nurse, thought subjects +were scarce. She says: "We must not talk to the patient about her +own complaint, that would make her morbid; or about the doctor, +for that would be gossip; or the hospital, for hospitals are full +of horrors; or the other nurses, for that might lead to talking +scandal; or about other patients, for that would be betrayal of +confidence. Now what _are_ you to talk about when a patient +is well enough to talk, and your talking to her will not hurt her +(but on this point be very sure before you air your eloquence)? It +is indeed quite a question, and the nurse must often use all her +ingenuity to keep the patient to the right subjects, for even +patients, though they hold it so reprehensible in a nurse to talk +gossip, do not disdain to serve up their neighbors occasionally to +the nurse, with some very highly seasoned scandal sauce, and here +the honor of the nurse must come into play; let her forget it if +possible, as woe will betide the poor girl if in her next place +she unwittingly lets out any of the secrets she has heard in these +long talks. Try then to steer clear of the neighbors. If your +patient be a cultivated person, and you yourself know anything +about books, you have a never-failing topic. All the latest books, +the famous books, the most entertaining books, and if you can read +aloud and the patient likes to hear you, read to her, and it will +do both good--only be sure not to tire her by reading too much at +one time. Talk of interesting places you have visited and she will +do the same, of pictures you have seen, and last, but not least, +you can talk about clothes. Generally the first serious piece of +business a convalescent concerns herself about is the purchase and +making of some new clothes. She wants something new and fresh, and +if you can give her any new ideas on the subject or tell her of +any pretty materials you have seen in the shop windows, you will +prove as entertaining as if you talked on any of the forbidden +topics, and many times more useful." + +I would like, in closing this chapter, to say a word as to reading +the daily papers. If your patient is a woman, she will want to +know just about what you, yourself, would be interested in, and +this is very easy; but if your patient is a man, it is harder to +know what he will want; politics, the money market, etc., which +most women skip over. If then your patient is a man, commence on +the first page and read slowly the headings of the news items, +when one strikes him, as desirable to hear, he will tell you to +read it; when you get through the news you may turn to the +editorial page and do the same there. Unless you know your patient +very well do not attempt to enlighten him as to the stock market +quotations, for it is, I suppose, well nigh impossible for an +ordinary woman to read them so that a man will understand her. He +will probably laugh over your well meant endeavor, and ask you to +"kindly let him look at the paper," when he will in a moment find +out what you have been trying to say. + + + + +II + +THE NURSE AND THE DOCTOR + + +I suppose no nurse goes through a training school without being +duly impressed by all the doctors on the staff of lecturers that +they, the doctors, are the generals of the campaign. She and her +fellows are the aids, and that she will be kind enough to remember +this fact, and not make suggestions to him, the doctor, or give +him the fruits of her ripe experience of three years in a +hospital, and more or less time, as may be, since she has +graduated. But though this I think you all know, there are some +points of your connections with the doctor which may not be quite +so clear. + +In the first place, then, remember that you are his _aid,_ +you are to help him in every way you can, you are never to work +against him, never weaken the patient's confidence in him. If you +do not understand why he does thus and so, ask for an explanation, +if you know him pretty well, and if your questions are reasonable +ones, and intelligently put, he will be glad to answer you, and +explain all you wish explained; but if you do not know the reason +of a certain order, and, moreover, if he will not tell you, do not +assume that he does not know, or that he is cross; it may be some +very uncertain, delicate experiment is being tried, and all he +wants you to do is to tell him, with a free unbiased mind, what +you see. Always, however, be loyal to him with the patient. When +you are asked a thousand questions as to, "Why doesn't the doctor +do this, or why does he do that?" you can always say that he does +it, or does it not, for the patient's best good, of that you are +assured, and they must be also. + +You collect the facts and put them in an orderly way before the +doctor; upon your observations and reports he bases his theories +of the disease in many cases. You can see what perfect faith he +must have in you, and how true you must be to him in order to +secure your patient's best good. I have often heard doctors say, +when speaking of a favorite nurse, as if it was the only virtue +worth mentioning: "I am perfectly certain that when I am not +present she will _faithfully_ carry out my orders." Entire +faithfulness takes precedence, I think, and deservedly so. Your +accomplishments may be many, but if you have not this faithfulness, +this obedience to the doctor as a rudder to the ship of your +professional character, no matter how great may be the load +of learning and accomplishments and good intentions, your +self-will and vanity will bring you to the rocks where ruin is +inevitable. + +Do not fear losing your own individuality and independence. "He +who obeys well, governs well," is a very old, and a very true +saying, and your responsibilities will never cease. The more +faithful you are to orders, the more trust and confidence will be +reposed in you. You will have not only your patient, but the +entire family looking to you for directions, for, upon your +faithfulness, and the tact with which you administer your +authority, will depend much of your success as nurses. + +Be careful not to sever your relations with any patient unless +your doctor knows all about it. Never leave your charge, no matter +how urgent the reason may be, unless you tell him. You may be +sick, or the place may be unsuited to you, or you to the place, +and you may know that it is best for you to go. But speak first to +the doctor, tell him candidly why you wish to go, and take counsel +of him how you should act. If he tells you you may go, and you +know that your place must be filled, do not offer as your +substitute your best friend, or anyone else. If he wishes your +counsel he will ask, and then you may tell him of anyone you think +will suit the position, but do not offer your friend, as he may +have some favorite of his own to put in your place. Of course the +patient or her friends must know about the contemplated change-- +that I take for granted. Having consulted the doctor, will make +everything satisfactory to the most careful practitioner. So, as +said before, never go away from your patient, leaving in your +place a nurse whom the doctor does not know. He has, in most +cases, selected you for his patient, and he wants you, you may not +be all he wishes you were, but still such as you are, _there_ +you are, he knows what you can and what you cannot do; and it is a +great piece of impertinence for a nurse to go away unknown to the +doctor, leaving a stranger in her place. The consequence, so far +as he is concerned, will most likely be to have her name crossed +off his list as "unreliable"--so be careful. + +As to your records, keep them faithfully; the doctor usually looks +them over very carefully, but sometimes you find one who passes +them over in a lofty manner, rather trying when you take such +pains with them. You may conclude that it is not necessary to keep +them accurately in such a case, but this same doctor may ask you +some day how long ago it was that the patient's temperature took +such a sudden rise, or how many days it is since she first had +solid food, and if you have accurately kept and carefully +preserved your records, you can tell without a moment's +hesitation. It is better, more business-like, and every way to be +commended, that the nurse should keep, and be exceedingly +particular about these records. If the doctor will write his +orders on the fresh daily record at his morning visit, it is a +great help to the nurse, but very often he is in a hurry and you +must write them yourself. If you have to do this, take your record +and write as he tells you, _when_ he tells you. If the orders +are at all intricate it is your only way of being absolutely sure +you have everything correct. It is a protection to you also, if +the family are inclined to criticise. + +A nice little point for you to remember is always to leave the +doctor _alone_ with the patient for a few moments, if it is +at all possible, at each visit, Wait until he has asked all the +questions he wishes, or until you have told him all that is +necessary to tell before the patient, and then on some errand, +real or imaginary, leave the room. Of course, if the patient is +desperately ill, you cannot do this, nor will it then be +necessary. + +It is a good plan to wait for the doctor at the head of the +stairs, or at the foot, if you are likely to be over-heard, and +tell him there all you could not say before the patient as to her +condition, etc. He likewise may have something to say,--some +final instruction to give, some caution he would not wish the +patient to know of. This is also the time to speak about yourself +if you are sick or tired, or unhappy in your position. Perhaps +neither of you have anything to say, and a friendly nod and a +"patient is doing nicely, nurse," will send you back to the sick- +room feeling that your work is appreciated, which always goes a +long way toward making the hard places easy. Your patients may be +very curious as to what you have to say to the doctor, but you can +readily and truly tell them that there are many things you have to +say to him, that would be hard for you to say before them, and +hard for them to hear too, and these are things you arrange +outside. + +Always be sure to have on a convenient table, if your doctor be of +a homoeopathic school, a little covered tray, and on it two +glasses, clean, and turned upside down to keep them from dust, +teaspoons and covers for the glasses, also a small pitcher of +fresh water. Many doctors of the old school also use some +medicines in water, so it is best to have glasses always at hand. + +Do not sit down when the doctor is making his professional call, +unless he or the patient requests it. He will probably sit at the +side of the bed, your place is at or near the foot. If the doctor +knows the patient well, as a friend, and is inclined to stay a +long time, chatting, you can go quietly to another part of the +room, and take up your work or reading, but be sure the doctor has +finished asking you questions before you go. + +Use sparingly technical terms. If your patient's feet are +oedematous, tell the doctor they are much swollen; if he +_ask_ if they are oedematous tell him "yes," but do not +volunteer to name the peculiar kind of swelling. If the abdomen is +tympanitic, tell him it seems much distended; and if he questions +much further, answer the questions fully and intelligently. If +your patient has the symptoms of phlebitis, tell him of the rise +of temperature, the swelling of the leg, the tenderness along the +course of the vein, and he will know that you know and appreciate +the gravity of the disease; but be sure you do not attempt to give +the symptoms a name, that is not your place. + +I would have you be very careful as to what instruments you carry; +have them of the best. Let your thermometer be of the very best +make. + +There is nothing more trying in a small way than to have your +thermometer doubted, and if you _know_ it is the best the +market affords, if you take it to the instrument maker and have it +tested once in a while, you need not fear, when you find an +unusual temperature, and report it to the doctor, and he quietly +proceeds to test your thermometer by his, which of course is +always correct. Be sure that your hypodermic syringe will work; if +the piston slips loosely after much using of brandy, aromatic +ammonia, etc., take it to be repaired, and see that the needles +are sharp, they become dulled very quickly; keep also the tiny +wires pushed through them. It is just as well to keep this syringe +in the room, its little case is very small and unobtrusive, and if +you keep it near your thermometer in some safe, handy place, you +will have it when some unforeseen emergency arises, and you do not +want to lose time going to your room for it. + + + + +III + +THE NURSE HERSELF + + +It is just as necessary for the nurse to be careful of herself as +of the patient, though her care must be manifested in a far +different way. Always remember that to do really good work you +must have really good tools. No man owning, and intelligently +working a valuable machine, would keep it going at its highest +speed all the time. He takes care of it, keeps it clean, renews +defective parts, oils it; and then he expects it to run for so +many hours, and to run well,--to do its work thoroughly. But with +all his keeping it in order he does not make it work night and day +for weeks or months. Such folly is never heard of in an engineer; +but with us human beings, who own and manage a far more wonderful +machine than any steam engine, we hear of it often, and always, +_always_ the tale winds up with the inevitable catastrophe. +The business man develops paresis, the clergyman loses his voice +or his eyes, the nurse contracts some disease that incapacitates +her for work, in every case mother Nature makes the careless or +ignorant owner of the wonderful machine pay the penalty of the +misuse. It does not matter to Nature what the reason is for our +breaking the great laws; we can kill ourselves with philanthropic +work just as surely as with over indulgence. One trouble is, that +it does not always _kill._ A paralytic may live for years, so +does a man with paresis. When the wonderful God-given machine +works badly, or stops entirely, we look on, and sometimes wonder +why it is that those who are so helpful, such fine examples of +courage, of skill, of virtue, so hardly to be spared, are the ones +to be taken away. Do _we_ wonder, we who are nurses? Do we +not know what did it? Ah! yes--we know, we know, that such and +such a nurse was tired out when she went to still another case-- +and when we heard she herself was ill we were not slow to say, +"Foolish girl! Did she suppose she was made of wrought iron and +sole leather?" But will _we_ take heed, and not do likewise, +or will we wonder, with the unthinking ones, why it is that the +good, useful people are always taken away? Do not deceive +yourselves; they are not "taken away," they take themselves away, +for God will not reverse His wise laws because we (no matter how +good we are) act in defiance of them. + +Please remember I am only speaking now to the good nurses--the +enthusiastic ones,--poor nurses, lazy nurses have no temptation to +overwork themselves. They may die of indigestion, but they will +not die of exhaustion. + +It seems to you so natural for others to be sick. You have seen +the sick by scores in the hospital, and have waited on them, felt +sorry for them, sympathized with them; but have you thought that +it was within the bounds of possibility that _you_ could ever +come into such a pitiable condition? You go from house to house in +your private nursing, always you find the sick, and it seems +natural, quite the proper thing. You care for them, they get well, +or die--and on you go to the next--but reflect on what made them +sick, and though you _know_ you are made of like flesh and +blood, do not conduct yourself as if you were not. "Oh, yes" (how +often have I heard it said), "I know she worked too hard, but I am +so strong, you never heard _me_ complain; I can nurse a fever +case for two weeks and never go out of doors for air or exercise." +Is it not foolish? Is it not wrong for any sensible woman to talk +thus? + +Now listen to some few practical hints as to how to keep +yourselves in good working order. In the first place, then, never +go to a case unless you are feeling well. It is far wiser, as far +as you are concerned, and better also for the sick one, for you to +say so frankly, if you are not well. Tell the one who comes for +you, that you could not do justice to the case, as indeed you +could not. Sick people are as sensitive as babies to the subtle +influence exerted by the one who is so constantly over them. If +you are in full health and strength, your rubbing will be quieting +and effectual, your very presence, if you are careful and gentle, +will be soothing. On the contrary, if you yourself are suffering +and are using the nervous force you ought to be giving your +patient in hiding your own malady, your presence will not be so +eagerly welcomed; your patient will not know what is the matter, +but she feels rather a relief when you are absent. Going to a case +feeling perfectly well, the next thing is to keep well. + +Be careful about your _eating_. Your meals will of necessity +be often irregular, that is unavoidable, but eat only wholesome +things. Do not eat candy; and at dinner, which you will probably +have in the evening after the family are through, avoid patties, +and rich puddings, ice cream, and such like. You will always find +plenty of plain food and fruit in the most luxurious homes; eat +these and let the rest alone. If you want to keep your stomach and +whole digestive apparatus in good order, you must care for it, and +not overtax it. If you have a pretty good stomach it will bear a +good deal of abuse, but in the end it will grumble, and a +dyspeptic nurse is not an attractive object. As to your night +suppers, which you should always have, should your case require +constant watching, I would recommend plenty of coffee, tea, or +cold milk, if you can drink it, bread and butter, cold meat and +fruit. Never eat candied fruits, cake, or pies at night. Have eggs +if you care for them, and pickles if you like. Remember, the +plainest food, the most easily digested, the most nourishing is +what you must have. Believe me, you will be rewarded for the +temperate use you make of all the dainties you see, by a clear +complexion, and good color, which will make you "good to look at," +especially good for a sick person to look at. + +As to the nurse's night toilette, it is quite a problem sometimes +as to just what is best to wear. When the patient is not ill +enough for the uniform to be retained for night duty, the nurse +should be comfortable enough so that she can sleep; yet dressed +enough for any emergency. I think a house gown of pretty material +much neater than the kimono. Be sure this fits about the +shoulders, and never have loose flowing sleeves. A white frill in +the neck looks very trim, and is always becoming. The corset and +all tight clothes should be removed, stockings and underwear kept +on. The hair should be arranged simply, but not allowed to hang in +a loose braid, unless you are _very_ sure you will not see +any but the patient, and even then it may be unwise, as a braid of +hair has an exasperating way of slipping from its proper place +(hanging down the back) and dipping into whatever you are stooping +over. Dressed thus, with night shoes to protect the feet, one can +lie down on a lounge and sleep very comfortably, being freed from +tight clothes, and yet being entirely presentable, no matter what +happens. To undress regularly and put on the diaphanous low-necked +short sleeved night dress of the present mode, and go to bed, when +you are sure you will have to get up one or a dozen times during +the night is not good judgment, I think. You get out of a warm +bed, and if you only put on your shoes and stockings, your patient +must wait while you do it. If anything serious occurs suddenly, +you either run the risk of taking cold from being insufficiently +clad while doing what must be done, or your patient must wait +while you dress--both bad. + +Never get into bed with your patient. This seems to most people a +quite unnecessary caution, but it is the commonest experience of +the successful nurse, that a woman, feeble and nervous, should ask +and almost insist that she shall lie down by her, or get into bed +with her. I always wonder that a sick woman can not realize that +she is not a pleasant bed-fellow, but she seldom does. Of course +you are not to tell her that she is not fit to sleep with, but you +_can_ say that she needs and ought to have the whole bed to +herself, and you will sit by her and hold her hand, or if she +insists on it, you can lie down, with your house gown on, on the +_outside_ of the bed, being careful to give her plenty of +space, and when she is asleep, get up quietly and lie down on your +lounge, which should be placed so that you can see her every +movement. + +Never let the patient think for a moment that you fear her +disease; if she has diphtheria, do not tell her or the family that +you have a delicate throat or that it is sore, and do not examine +it by the help of a hand-glass where any one can see you. Do not +go to such cases if you really fear them, but if you go, and have +reason to feel that you have contracted the disease, tell the +doctor as soon as you can, and if he thinks you ill, he will send +you home. Never tell a patient you have a weak back or any +weakness. Tell the doctor and he will see to it that you have rest +or medicine, but do not let the patient know it. Never go about a +sick room with a long face; it is enough for the sick one to have +to be sick; the family sympathies are all enlisted for her. You +are there to be a help and a comfort, not an added anxiety. Of +course these remarks do not apply to any of you who are tired from +a long, exhausting case. The family in such instances are ready +and willing enough to let you rest. Keep your cheery manner: all +higher considerations aside, it is money in your pocket to look +cheerful. I have known one or two good, faithful, conscientious +nurses who were dismissed from case after case, merely because +they looked "so doleful." It may seem curious to place a +commercial value on a smile, but in reality it amounts almost to +that. + +Be very careful to have your dresses fit you perfectly, and have +them well laundered, especially do not have them too stiff. In +this connection I cannot do better than to relate an incident that +I heard of some time ago. A nurse went to care for a patient whose +first nurse had been called to her own home, and she had not been +in the room an hour before the patient called her and taking her +hand said, "My dear, I can't tell you how thankful I feel that +your dress is not too short in the waist. Miss----'s dress was +frightful!" This was only a nervous woman's whim, but our success +as nurses depends in many cases on just such whims, so it is well +to be careful. When the patient is well enough for you to come to +the family table at meal time, be sure to have on a spotless +apron, and let no sickroom odors announce your presence. It is +worth more to a nurse to have soft, dry, warm, sympathetic hands, +than to have the prettiest face ever seen under a cap, so be +careful of them; after using any antiseptics always have at hand +glycerin and rose water, cold cream, or something soothing to use. +Never put a cold or clammy hand on a patient. If it is cold and +dry it can be laid on a hot, aching head, but never do so if it is +the least damp. If the hand is always damp, pour on it a little +alcohol, or eau de cologne, if that is preferred, or some toilet +water, then put it on the patient's head, and it will be all +right. A simple and very cold lotion is alcohol and water, about +equal parts, and a piece of ice added. Hold your hand in this a +moment and then gently comb the patient's hair (that which grows +on top of the head) with the dripping fingers, taking care not to +let any cold water-drops fall on the face. This is wandering +somewhat from my subject, but I will let it stand and speak of one +more thing that is good to remember. Never lay a warm hand on a +patient's head, or a cold one on the body. If you have to rub your +patient's body, and your hand is warm and damp, shake a little +talcum powder into it, or use a little cold cream, cocoa butter, +or lanolin, and the dampness will not be perceived. Alcohol may +also be used, or bay rum. + +Some nurses are much troubled by excessive perspiration, +especially under the arms, any hard work making the dress quite +wet. The ordinary shields are not very good, as they are not +absorbent enough. A piece of flannel basted inside of the shield +is a help, as that is absorbent. The auxiliary space might be +bathed with a solution of alum; alcohol is good or alcohol with +white-oak bark. Many preparations for this trouble are on the +market, most of them are good but some are expensive. A late copy +of the _Journal of Nursing_ gives the following: "Take two +ounces of baking soda, mix with half an ounce of corn starch, and +use as a dusting powder, after the parts have been thoroughly +cleansed and dried. It will check the perspiration and remove +every particle of odor." This is very successful, but I find it +leaves a slight yellow stain on a white dress. Another remedy from +_Journal of Nursing_ is this: "Zinc oxide" applied to axillae +twice a week, after bathing at night, will dissipate the odor. If +the perspiration has a disagreeable odor, no effort should be +spared to free oneself from what is a serious drawback to the +acceptableness of a nurse. + +Be very careful not to contract any little annoying habits, such +as frequent clearing of the throat, sniffing, etc. You may have a +catarrh, but use your handkerchief quietly; such noises are very +disgusting, and these habits, I am sorry to say, are not rare, and +seem very hard to conquer. + +I suppose that I have better opportunities to hear stories of +nurses and their doings, good and evil, than some have. I +certainly hear some very curious things. The most extraordinary +was of a nurse who always made it a rule, when she went to a +patient's house, to stipulate immediately for her hours "off +duty." She thought she was doing a very clever thing, and making a +most commendable business-like arrangement. It will not be +necessary for me to show you what a lack of tact she exhibited, +and what an antagonistic feeling she aroused. + +Never kiss your patient or allow yourself to show any +demonstrative affection, unless you are very sure it will be +welcome, and be careful even then. A kiss for "goodbye" when you +leave the patient is usually quite enough, and many ladies are +repulsed by anything of the kind. If you feel an affectionate +regard for your patient, you can show it by your constant +thoughtfulness and your care. Do not fear that you will lead +lonesome, repressed lives; if you are the nurses you ought to be, +you will have all the affection you want, and often more than you +know what to do with. Never do any sewing or fancy work for +yourself until you are sure there is none you could do for the +patient. Remember that she pays for your time, and govern yourself +accordingly. + +Read to her, sew for her, play cards with her, but do not amuse +yourself or regulate your wardrobe at her expense. When I say "sew +for her" I do not mean make her dresses, but do the little odd +things that mothers of families always do, and which must remain +undone if she is sick, unless you do them. Do not write letters +when on duty, and, above all things, do not write with a scratchy +pen. To a nervous person the sound of a scratchy pen traveling +over the paper is torturing, and it can be heard even if you are +in the next room. A fountain pen is, I think, the best to use. See +that it is full before you go to your case, and it will need no +attention for three or four weeks. This pen makes no noise as you +write, and you have it always at hand, and if you have to leave +your letter in haste, you can put the cap on the pen and slip it +in your pocket, and no one is in any danger of finding fault with +the nurse for leaving an open ink-bottle for somebody to tip over. + +Remember finally (and I think, from what I read in the daily +papers, you are in no danger of forgetting this), that you are not +domestics, and, while in an emergency I would have you shrink from +nothing that needs doing, I do not think you should do any +washing. Cooking you will very often have to do, but the ordinary +housework does not come at all into your province. If your patient +is a chronic invalid, I would have you make yourself useful in the +house. Do the shopping, order the meals, anything that will show +your patient you are anxious to help make the wheels of domestic +machinery run more smoothly. + +You must use all the tact you possess; you will not find two +houses just alike, or two patients with the same tastes. A "lady" +in an emergency does many things she usually leaves to the +servants. So must you. There is sickness, trouble with the +servants, every domestic wheel turning with difficulty, and, if +you have time, if you can leave your patient without doing her an +injury, you can, perhaps, by some little service earn much +gratitude from the family, and help to remove the impression that +trained nurses are "so helpless and need so much waiting on." + +In conclusion, let me tell you, with all the earnestness of which +I am capable, that upon each one of you rests not only the +reputation of your school, but, in a measure, the reputation of +the profession. No one needs to be told how much more widely known +is an inconsistent Christian than a faithful one, how much harm +one does and how comparatively little good comes of the others' +faithfulness. And it is just so with you nurses, a careless nurse +makes a far wider reputation than a careful one. + +If one physician is unskillful or unprincipled, the whole +profession is not found fault with, but the individual is blamed +and another one found who will do better, but it is not so in most +cases where a nurse proves unsatisfactory. The whole profession +suffers and every nurse sinks more or less if one of her sister +nurses commits an indiscretion, or does any of the thousand things +she ought not to do. I recollect very well, many years ago, a +Brooklyn nurse, of about thirty-five years, married her patient, a +boy nineteen years old. It made a great stir in the city, and, as +I was living there at the time and the superintendent of a +training school, I had to bear my share of the odium cast upon all +nurses. For months after, almost every one I met took pains to +tell me that hereafter they would keep their young sons out of the +clutches of the designing nurse, and I doubt not, such slighting +remarks were borne by every nurse in town, and it was not +pleasant, to say the least of it, for any of us. + +Keep your standards high. Let nothing but the very best satisfy +you, as far as you and your work are concerned. Keep your mind +well informed; if it is full of scientific facts, of skillful +methods, of good literature, or fine pictures, there will be no +room in it for the memory of all the disagreeable things every one +must encounter in one's work, and if you do not remember them, you +cannot tell others of them. + +Finally, remember (and this lies at the root of it all) to keep +your hearts right,--ever thankful that you are permitted to pursue +this high calling, and ever striving to be more worthy of it, with +many prayers that your life and conduct may show, what is better +_lived_ than talked about, the grace and peace of God, which +verily do pass man's understanding. + + + + +IV + +THE NURSE AND HER PATIENT'S FAMILY, FRIENDS, AND SERVANTS + + +Try to realize when you go to a house where there is dangerous +illness, that the family is glad to see you when you come. You +have come to help them, to stay with them, to comfort them by your +presence, by your knowledge, by your experience. They have needed +you, have sent for you, and are to pay you for your time. There is +a general sense of relief when you are once fairly installed in +your place by the bedside, yet you are a stranger. Your friend, +the doctor, has told them what a treasure you are. Mrs. This and +Mr. That have perhaps let them know how invaluable you were when +at their houses; but yet they must look at you a little, they must +note if you make a pleasant impression on the invalid, if you are +as skillful here as you were somewhere else, if you look with +scorn on the plain furniture, or how much you will be displeased +that the bath-room is at the other end of the house. They do not +feel exactly critical: they are too tired or too anxious for that; +but still, unless everyone is too exhausted from watching to do +anything but thankfully surrender everything to you, you will be +pretty closely looked after at first. + +You must look for some espionage; and it is only right that you +should be subjected to it. If _your_ mother was lying very +sick, and some stranger, having knowledge and strength superior to +your own, had to come and care for her, would you not feel that +though you were glad to see her, glad she would give your mother +the benefit of her superior skill, yet you would wish to consider +her a little, to note when she did thus and so; or if she did +something you did not understand, could you refrain from asking +her why she did it? + +Be patient, therefore, with the suggestions of the family, after +all, though you know the disease and the probable course it will +run, the chances for recovery, and what to do in emergency, etc., +_they_ know the patient, all her peculiarities, her likes and +dislikes, and if you are wise you will get and keep many little +hints from those who have cared for her before you came. If she +likes milk, will she insist upon tea? Does coffee keep her awake? +Does she hate the sight of gruel, or beef-tea? Does she like much +sugar in her drinks? All these are little matters of individual +taste that you must find out for each patient, and if you have the +necessary tact and forethought, you never need ask the patient one +question; usually the friends are pleased to be consulted on such +small matters, and gladly tell you all you wish to know. To be +sure, they generally tell much more than you asked for; but that +does not matter, it is better to listen patiently for five minutes +to someone's tiresome descriptions than to repulse them, and so +lose just so much kindly feeling from the one who wished to talk +to you. + +If the amateur nurse has been doing something actually wrong for +the patient, do not tell her so. She did the best she knew how; +but say, as pleasantly as you can, "I think perhaps _this_ +would make our patient more comfortable," or "The doctor thinks +such and such things are not now necessary, and it would be better +to do this way." Then you can do what you know to be right, and +not hurt the feelings of the one who has preceded you, and, +feeling your way carefully, have everything just as it ought to +be, and no one's feelings will be hurt, and no one will feel that +you are looking down upon their ignorance; and here I would say +that in your little confidential talks with the doctor, you could +ask him to say a word to the family if they persist in doing what +you know to be wrong. Ask him to give you orders before some of +them, and that will set _you_ straight in a moment. + +With tact, that most invaluable gift, you can get on with +_almost_ every one, and when you find that there is no such +thing as making friends with the family, you can tell the doctor, +and he will let you go; but such places are very rare. Let all see +that you are thoroughly interested in your patient, and do not +hesitate to perform any little kindness that falls in your way for +the rest of the family, and you will win all their hearts without +a struggle. + +When you go for your rest, be sure to leave carefully written +directions for the one who is to take your place, just as you do +when in charge of a hospital ward, you leave your orders written +out when you go for your "off duty." Show her how to keep the +sick-room record, and be sure she understands it all before you +leave. + +As for the visitors, they are often difficult to manage, and here +again you must have the family help you. Of course _no_ +visitors are allowed until the doctor gives permission. So far all +is easy, but when they are admitted you will do well to make a +little plan with the family. Tell them the patient may be seen at +such an hour. Perhaps between eleven and twelve, perhaps between +two and three, just as you consider her brighter in the morning or +afternoon. Ask them who of the first and dearest friends is the +quietest and most discreet, and then say that if they will kindly +arrange for one visitor only to come each day, it would be so much +better for the convalescent. The friends can always do this and +they never object. They tell Mrs. Jones to come on Monday at two, +and stay just fifteen minutes. On Tuesday Mrs. Smith can come, and +so on, until by the end of the week the arrangement ceases to +cause any comment, and soon, if all goes well, and the convalescence +goes on without interruption, _your_ rules and extreme care +can be relaxed to suit the patient's own fancy. + +Always carefully note if any visitor tires your patient, and +manage so as not to let her come again until the sick one has more +strength. It is better, I think, to sit in an adjoining room when +your patient has a visitor. This gives you a chance to come into +the room when the person has stayed long enough, and generally +your entrance tells her very plainly that she ought to go, and she +departs without you saying a word. If she does not, you will have +to tell her that the doctor is very particular about not letting +the patient talk too much, etc., etc., and get her out in that +way. Be careful, when the visitor has gone, not to sit down and +talk at length yourself. Give the patient a little nourishment, +turn over her pillows, and if she seems at all wearied make her +comfortable for a nap and let her sleep. + +As to the servants they require pretty careful handling. Above all +things, keep on the right side of the _cook_. If you have to +go to the kitchen to do any of the cooking, do not make a +_mess_, or, if you do, don't run off upstairs and leave it. +Gather up your utensils and put them into the sink, and let the +water run over them, and ask for the dishcloth: and if you do it +pleasantly, the cook will probably tell you to "Niver need thim +things," and you will thankfully obey her. If you really cannot +stop to make all tidy after your cooking, you can say, "I'm sorry +to make you extra work with these dishes, but I must hurry back +upstairs." Some such little speech, with a pleasant smile, will +make all things easy for you below stairs, and for the sake of all +the friction it will save you, it is well worth the trouble. Often +the cook will be glad to do the cooking if you tell her how; be +careful to tell her, if it is eaten and enjoyed; and never let her +know if it is rejected. Get rid of it upstairs by some contrivance, +and be sure not to order that dish again. In many cases +of course the cook will know all the little dishes the sick one +will fancy, and you will have very little to do with her. Such +instances are somewhat rare, and very delightful when they occur. + +If there is much extra washing, you may have to use much diplomacy +as regards the laundress; and if it is very disgusting washing, it +is well to have a large pail, with a cover, upstairs. Thoroughly +disinfect the clothes before you send them to the washing, as the +odors are often sickening, and the laundress, like other servants, +is very much afraid, usually, of clothing from a sick-bed. Carry +or send the clothes to the washing as soon as possible after +removing them from the bed; never, on any account, allow them to +remain in the room. + +The nurse cannot be too careful as to the amount of clothes she +sends to the laundry. She should of course keep herself and the +patient scrupulously clean; but she must reflect that private +families do not have an unlimited store of towels and sheets, and +if she is extravagant in this matter it will seriously detract +from her acceptability. + +In concluding, let me remind you that all these hints are intended +for nurses going from one strange place to another, as you would +in nursing fevers, or short surgical cases. Nurses who have +chronic cases need none of these rules. They fall into a routine, +and if they are detained in the family for any length of time, +that shows that their work and methods are right, as far as that +patient and family are concerned. But let them be careful when at +last they leave the case, and go amongst strangers. The ways of +one family are not the ways of another, and they must exercise +much discretion to accommodate themselves to the new environment. + + + + +V + +GENERAL REMARKS ON FOODS AND FEEDING + + +Always have all food presented to an invalid as tempting as +possible. Use pretty china and glass, if you are permitted to do +so, yet not the very finest the house affords; that might make the +patient nervous lest some evil befall it. Absolutely clean napkins +and tray cloths, a few green leaves about the plate, a rose on the +tray; the chop or piece of chicken, the bird or the piece of steak +ornamented with sprigs of parsley, the cold things really cold, +and the hot ones _hot_, these are necessities of invalid's +feeding, that mark the nurse who has a proper appreciation of a +sick person's delicate sensibilities. Have all plates, cups and +saucers _hot_, when they are for the reception of hot toast, +coffee, tea, etc. Hot water plates are very convenient, and easily +procured at any large china shop; but if they cannot be found, put +the hot plate containing the chop over a bowl of boiling water, +and cover with a hot saucer, fold a napkin around the baked +potato, and you can carry the tray containing the dinner through +cold halls and up staircases and it will arrive at your patient's +room _hot._ Be careful not to fill the bowl so full of hot +water that it will spill. Never fill a cup so full that it will +spill its contents over into the saucer, it makes a disgusting +looking _mess._ Have all fruit _cold,_ oranges and grapes +especially. Always look over a bunch of grapes and cut off +the soft ones before you hand them to a patient. If you have +foreign or California grapes, hold them for a moment under the +cold water faucet and let the water run through the bunch, and all +the cork dust will then be washed out. + +If you peel and quarter an orange for your patient never let her +see you do it, unless you are perfectly sure you will not get your +hands covered with juice. Wash your hands before you bring it to +be eaten. + +Be careful not to have any suspicion of grease about the beef tea, +broths, etc. A quick and easy way to remove all grease, is to fill +a cup or bowl _brimming_ full, let it stand a few moments +that the grease may rise to the top, tip the cup a very little to +one side, and the grease, to the last atom, will flow over the +side of the cup; pour your broth carefully into a clean hot cup, +and serve. Beef juice is more palatable with a little very brown +toast. + +Remember, that an invalid hardly ever likes any food made sweet. +No matter what the taste may be in health, in sickness, sweet +things are nauseous; for this reason ice cream bought at +confectioners' is often rejected. Salt also must be used with +caution, if the mouth and lips are tender, as is often the case; +use the salt sparingly in all broths, etc. + +If your patient cannot take milk, when, as in typhoid fever, the +doctor wishes the diet to be wholly or for the most part of milk, +try at first to remove the thick, bad taste by giving a little +pure water or carbonic acid water after it. If that will not do, +mix the carbonic acid water with it, and have both nice and cold. +If a glass of milk is too much (and it will be in nine cases out +of ten, especially if it is cold), give half a glass; if that is +still too much, give quarter of a glass, or put more water with +it. Never repeat a dose (of food) if it nauseates the patient. +Make some change in quantity or quality, and you will, if you +watch carefully, find out the right proportions. + +A person lying flat down in bed cannot, of course, drink from a +glass or cup, and a feeding cup is apt, by pouring too freely, to +cause choking. A bent glass tube is the best arrangement, the +patient can drink easily through this, and can regulate by +sucking, the rapidity with which the food is taken. The tube +should be cleaned immediately after each using, and if any beef +tea or other food cannot be dislodged by letting water run through +it, pass a string with a knot tied in it, through. Make the knot +big enough to touch all sides of the tube, have it thoroughly wet, +and the cleansing will be easily and quickly accomplished. If a +patient prefers drinking from a glass, and can be raised in bed, +always lay a napkin under the chin before you give the drink, and +on no account have the glass or cup more than half full, if you +do, it will surely spill. + +In giving medicine that tastes very bitter or unpleasant in any +way, bring, at the _same time_ with the medicine, some water, +milk, or whatever may be preferred, to take after it. Also a +napkin to wipe the lips, especially if the patient be a man. + +Always keep milk, beef tea, etc., _covered_ in the +refrigerator, and, if you can, see that this is cleaned every day. +But this might cause the cook to feel aggrieved, so I put it as a +suggestion merely. But if the refrigerator has a _smell,_ and +the cook seems touchy, the milk, etc., better be kept upstairs on +some sheltered window-ledge, and carefully covered. + +If you have your own little refrigerator upstairs, see to it that +it is cleaned _every_ day. Never put away anything in tin +pails; always use earthen or china bowls or pitchers. + +BEEF TEA. + +Beef from the round, finely chopped and free from fat. +Proportions, 1 lb. beef to 1 pint of water, cold. Let the beef +soak in the water, stirring occasionally, for two hours; then put +it on the stove and heat it until the red color disappears; never +boil it. Skim off all grease, salt to taste. + +BEEF JUICE. + +Round steak cut an inch thick; slightly broil like beefsteak for +the table, cut into squares of an inch, squeeze in a lemon +squeezer, skim carefully and salt. Serve either very cold, or +place the cup containing the juice in a bowl of boiling water, +stir carefully, and as soon as the juice is warm serve. If left a +moment too long it is spoiled, as it curdles. One pound of beef +makes an after dinner coffee cup almost full of juice. + +BEEF TEA IN A BOTTLE. + +Put into a Mason's preserve jar, tightly corked, one pound of beef +chopped as for ordinary beef tea. Put this into a kettle of cold +water, with a saucer on the bottom, let it come slowly to a boil +and boil for an hour. Take out of the bottle and squeeze the beef. + +SCRAPED BEEF. + +Take a piece of lean round steak, scrape with the edge of a spoon +until the place scraped has no more meat on the surface, but only +the white fibre, cut this off with a sharp knife, exposing once +more a fresh surface. Season, and spread raw on bread and butter, +or make into little cakes and broil slightly, according to the +doctor's orders, or your patient's taste. + +MUTTON BROTH. + +Mutton from the neck. Proportions, 1 lb. of mutton to 1 quart of +water, put the mutton and the water (cold) on the back of the +stove, let it come slowly to a boil, boil until the meat is ready +to fall from the bones. After straining out all the meat etc. add +one tablespoonful of rice or barley. Simmer half an hour after +adding rice or barley. + +CLAM BROTH. NO. 1. + +Take 1 qt. clams. Strain off the juice and chop the clams fine, +return clams to the juice and simmer one hour. Put on to scald as +much milk as juice. Strain out the clams, thicken with a little +corn starch, making about as thick as cream, pour juice into a +bowl and add the milk. + +CLAM BROTH. NO. 2. + +Same as above, only cut off the hard part of the clams, chop the +soft parts and leave them in the broth. For convalescents. + +CLAM BROTH. NO. 3. + +Take little neck clams unopened, wash them very clean with a +brush. Place them on the top of the stove in a clean dry pan, and +when the shells open take them off, remove the clams and pour the +juice into a cup. To be served hot. If it is too strong, add a +little boiling water. This is for very sick people; give only a +teaspoonful at a time. It sometimes corrects nausea. + +CHICKEN BROTH. + +A fowl, not too young, cut in pieces, 1 qt. water to 1 lb. fowl. +Put it on the stove in cold water, let it heat slowly, then boil +gently until the meat is ready to fall from the bones, strain, +skim and add rice, boil once more for 1/2 hour. Salt to taste. +Serve with toast or hot crackers. + +OYSTER BROTH. + +Equal quantities of juice and milk, put each in separate vessels +on the stove; when the juice comes to the boil, skim and slightly +thicken, pour in the milk boiling hot, add the oysters one by one, +let them remain on the stove about five minutes, or until the +beards begin to curl, and they are no longer slippery. Serve with +crackers heated very hot. + +OYSTERS BROILED. + +Dry the oysters, large ones are best, in a towel, have a piece of +toast slightly buttered on a hot plate, near, pour over this a +little hot oyster juice, not enough to make the toast wet through. +Arrange the oysters on a fine buttered broiler, cook over a brisk +fire like steak, until the beards curl. Turn them often. It takes +about five minutes. Arrange them on the toast, add a little salt +and a very little butter, serve very hot. + +BROILED CHICKEN. + +The chicken must be young, split down the back. Lay on the +gridiron and broil evenly, turning frequently. Serve on a piece of +buttered toast, salt and slightly butter the chicken. A little +parsley garnishes the dish prettily. + +All birds to be broiled should be split down the back and broiled +evenly, laid on thin toast and served hot. + +BEEF STEAK. + +Steak must be cut 3/4 inch thick, and evenly broiled, rare, unless +particularly requested to do otherwise. Be careful not to smoke +it; the grease dropping into the fire may make trouble in this +way. + +OATMEAL GRUEL. + +Take two large iron tablespoonfuls of oatmeal freshly cooked for +breakfast, add one cup of boiling water, slowly stirring all the +time, then add an equal quantity of milk. Let all boil for ten +minutes, and strain through a fine wire sieve. If you have no +cooked oatmeal put 1/2 cup raw oatmeal in a double boiler with two +cups of boiling water and cook for two hours, then proceed as +above. It makes the gruel richer to add all milk, or 1-1/2 cups of +milk and 1 cup of cream. Be sure not to forget the salt. Never put +any sugar in unless requested to do it by the patient. + +KOUMYSS. + +Dissolve a third of a cake of compressed yeast (Fleischmann's) in +a little warm water (not hot). Take a quart of milk fresh from the +cow, or warmed to blood heat, add to it a tablespoonful of sugar, +and the dissolved yeast. Put the mixture in beer bottles with +patent stoppers, fill to the neck, cork, and let them stand for +twelve hours where the temperature is about 68 degrees or 70 degrees, +then put the bottles on ice, upside down. + +MILK PUNCH. + +One glass of milk, 1 or 2 tablespoonfuls of brandy, 2 teaspoons of +sugar. + +Shake well or beat with an eggbeater. Give cold. Have patient take +slowly. + +EGG-NOG. + +One egg, half glass of milk, 2 teaspoons of sugar, 2 teaspoons of +sherry or brandy, ice. Beat the yolk of egg in a glass, add the +sugar and beat, then a little milk, continue beating, then four or +five pieces of ice about as big as a hickory nut; add brandy-- +regulate to the taste of your patient--add rest of milk; beat +whites of eggs and add all but a teaspoonful with which garnish +the top. It should make a glass brimming full. Have a spoon with +which to eat it. + +EGG LEMONADE. + +One egg, one-half a lemon, 2 teaspoonfuls of sugar, beat the white +and yolk separately as for egg-nog; add the sugar to the yolk, +then the lemon juice, then the ice, lastly the white beaten to a +stiff froth. + +WINE WHEY. + +One pint of boiling milk, one-half pint sherry; add sherry to the +milk while scalding hot; stir a moment until the curd gathers; +strain through a fine muslin, sweeten. To be taken cold. This +takes a little practice to gather the curd as it should be done. + +POACHED EGGS. + +The best way of cooking for an invalid. Slip the egg, previously +broken into a saucer (the fresher the egg the better), carefully +into salted water which is boiling in a frying pan, then +immediately set the pan at the side of the stove so that the water +does not boil, keep it there for about five minutes. Let the water +be about two inches deep in the iron frying pan. Each egg must be +broken separately and slipped carefully into the water. When +cooked so that the white is firm but jelly like, no part being raw +or hard, take it out with a skimmer and slip it on a piece of thin +buttered toast, sprinkle a little salt and pepper on top, serve +immediately. Garnish with parsley. + +SCRAMBLED EGGS. + +Beat two eggs until thoroughly mixed, add two tablespoonfuls of +milk, salt and pepper. Pour into a very hot frying pan, buttered, +and stir constantly for about two minutes. Pour over buttered +toast. + +SHIRRED EGGS. + +Heat the shirring cup very hot. Put in a piece of butter as big as +a large pea. Shake it about and break in the egg. Let it remain on +the stove a few moments and serve in the shirring cup. Sprinkle +salt and pepper on it. + +OMELETTE. + +Beat very stiff two eggs, whites and yolks separately, add two +tablespoonfuls of milk and a little salt. Pour carefully into a +small frying pan, _hot_ and buttered. As soon as the egg is +_set_, slip a knife under one side and fold one side over the +other. Slip on a piece of toast and serve at once. A little finely +minced ham or parsley flavors it very well. + +RENNET. + +One pint of milk slightly warmed and sweetened and flavored, add +one large teaspoon of liquid rennet. Stir for a moment and set it +in a refrigerator. To be eaten with sugar and cream. + +BOILED CUSTARD. + +One pint of milk and 2 eggs. Beat the eggs, add the milk heated +almost to the boiling point. Stir in 2 tablespoonfuls of sugar. +Return to the double boiler, and cook for about 3 minutes, +stirring gently all the time. When done it will be about as thick +as cream. Be careful not to let it cook too much as it will +"separate" and be spoiled. + +BAKED CUSTARD. + +Same ingredients and proportions as for boiled custard, only let +milk be cold. Pour into custard cups. Stand these in a dripping +pan half full of warm water and bake in a pretty hot oven. Watch +carefully, bake 15 minutes. + +THIN BREAD AND BUTTER. + +Have a loaf of good home-made bread, yesterday's baking, cut off +the crust, then butter the loaf and cut the slice in this way, +buttering first and cutting afterwards. The slice can be made +_very_ thin and dainty, and the thinner it is, the better. A +patient will sometimes relish this when tired of all kinds of +toast or crackers. + + + + +VI + +THE NURSE AS RELATING TO HER OWN TRAINING SCHOOL AND TO HER FELLOW +NURSES + + +Always be loyal to your own school and hospital. It may not have +been in every respect perfect; but it is not necessary to tell +strangers of its imperfections: probably those in authority are +just as sensible of its short-comings as you are, and perhaps they +work harder than you do to right its wrong; in any case it does no +good to tell others of the things you disapproved. It may indeed +be that your criticism is one-sided and unfair, that the very +rules you hated and found hard to keep are the wisest ones, and, +if you let strangers see that you disapprove of these wise +regulations, the opinion they will form of your intelligence will +certainly not be flattering to you. + +When you meet other nurses in your work, as you are sure to do, +and when you compare your school with the one the other nurse came +from, try to realize that the other school is neither wholly above +nor wholly below your own; each has probably its own merits and +its own drawbacks. You should not tell the other nurse any of your +own school's shortcomings, any sooner than you would tell them to +any other stranger; be loyal everywhere to the place where you +were fitted for your work. + +Never tell revolting hospital stories to your patients. Some +people have the most morbid wish to hear dreadful details. I +remember a patient of mine, years ago, asking me in all good faith +to tell her the most horrible thing I had ever seen in all my +hospital experience. I asked her why she wished to hear such +things, and after some reflection she acknowledged that it was a +foolish, morbid curiosity. It is best to keep the dreadful side +entirely out of sight; there are plenty of bright, interesting, +pleasant things always occurring; tell of these. Tell of the +cunning little babies in the lying-in ward, the absurd little +black ones, the fat little German and Swede babies. Tell of the +surly drunken men that come, and how a week of cleanliness in bed, +with a broken leg, or it may be a cracked skull, will change them +into quiet, polite, pleasant patients; and how, later, they will +take their turn at washing dishes, with a docility that would make +their wives stupid with amazement. All such matters (and the more +you try to think of them, the more you will be able to recall) +will amuse and really edify your patient, many of whom think of a +hospital only as a place of terror. + +Never gossip about your sister nurses; of the stupidity of one, +the untidiness of another, or the overbearing nature of the third. +It can do no good, and it lowers you in the estimation of every +one who hears you talk. + +As for your duties to each other, I would have you always observe +the same punctilious etiquette outside that you do in the +hospital. When you are called to assist another nurse, remember +that _she_ is the head nurse; the case is hers. She gives +directions, and you follow them; be sure you do it faithfully. If +you have some one to assist _you_, be sure you arrange for +her rest and exercise, and that you leave intelligently written +orders when you go for your own rest. + +Some very awkward complications may arise where there are two +nurses, and the worst, I think, is for the patient and family to +like the second nurse better than the first one, and to criticise +her and find fault with her to the other nurse. This is hard all +around. The second nurse expects the first one to be preferred, +and usually dislikes to go to such a case, for that very reason; +but if any of you find that under such circumstances you are +preferred, never allow the people to retail to you the faults of +the other nurse, and never gossip about her. She may not suit +them, but she is probably doing the best she can, and such idle +talk can do no good. If they _will_ talk, make all the excuses +for her you can, and never let her suspect from any action +of yours, that you are preferred above her. If, on the other hand, +you are the first nurse and some second one is called in, and +preferred before you, study her well. See how it is that she wins +the patient's confidence, when you did not. Try to find out, in a +quiet way, wherein lies her charm. If it is quietness, exactness, +cheerfulness, or ready tact--it must be something--and if you are +clever you must see how it happens that she is preferred. It will +be a good lesson for you. Perhaps you will never have such another +chance for learning what you have found out by experience you +lack. So do not waste your time by allowing yourself to feel +jealous, but use it as a time of study, and you may reap a rich +reward by winning your next patient's confidence. + + + + +VII + +WHY DO NURSES COMPLAIN? + + +It seems to some of us, judging from the prevailing tone of +nurses' conversations, that this is a veritable age of discontent. +We hear that a nurse's life is confining; that it is wearing on +the nerves; it keeps one from enjoying society; it is not +sufficiently remunerative, etc., etc. We all know, without going +into further particulars, what a nurse could complain about, and +though each one's tale of woe may be perfectly true, it seems to +me we are not wise, as nurses, to allow the trials of our +professional life to occupy such a prominent position in our +thoughts. + +Let us glance at some of the other professions, and see how the +members of each regard their chosen work. What is the prevailing +theme of the religious newspapers? Is it complaints from the +ministers that they are not appreciated, or that their life wears +on their nerves? Not that surely, but we read of more and more +work to be done; more and more need of the gospel to be preached +and lived, that all may be attracted to it. What do we read in the +medical journals? Not how often Dr. Jones or Dr. Smith has been +called up at night, or how often they have been dismissed or +maligned by ungrateful patients; neither do they talk of such +things. Do they complain that they are kept from the presence of +"Society?" Not so, and why? Their enthusiasm is such that these +matters are accepted as part of the inevitable, and the higher, +nobler aim is so real that the lower and meaner consideration of +personal comfort sinks into insignificance. What is the soldier's +favorite tale? Not that all through the war he had to drink his +coffee without cream, that he did not have sheets on his bed, and +that he ate from a tin plate. Would he ever speak of such things, +except to show that a man can for a noble aim accept inconvenience, +and laugh over it? Yet the soldier has probably been used +to these comforts and many more all of his life in his home; +but viewed in the light of his enthusiasm for the country he +is striving to save, and seen by the side of her peril, such +inconveniences sink into their merited nothingness. + +Now the profession we have entered is, we are told, a noble one. +We have been ranked shoulder to shoulder with the doctors, we have +been compared to soldiers, we have been assured that our +opportunities for doing good to souls are second only to those of +the ministers. What more do we want? We want this, and we want it +very much. We want the courage to accept our trials which must +come if we are to have any glory. It is all very fine to be called +a ministering angel, but it is pleasanter to minister to those who +are appreciative. We _can_ be heroic, in an emergency, but if +we are not properly thanked, we do like to growl a little. It is +gratifying to our vanity to be ranked with our masculine +associates, but when it comes to the hard, thankless tasks which +they accept without a murmur, then we proceed to show that we know +what is what, and that our refined tastes cannot be so inconsiderately +treated. + +The trouble with these fretful nurses is that they _are_ +nurses. If they are not satisfied with the profession they have +chosen, why do they not make a change and enter some other? Do +they not know when they enter the work that it is hard, do they +not hear on every side that it is exacting and confining? They +knew it perfectly well before they began, why then do they +complain? Why not say candidly, "I cannot have such enthusiasm for +my fellow-men that I can forget myself," and then do something +that is easier? + +The Superintendent of the training school shows each new aspirant +for the nursing profession that the life is not an easy one, that +patience is one of the most necessary characteristics for the +nurse. She tells her of the trials, the irritations, the unreason, +the tiresomeness of sick people, and still women will come to the +school, and forgetting the warnings, they will complain when some +exasperating incident occurs. If a nurse, from overwork and the +consequent weakening of her nervous energy, has lost her patience, +she will be a wise woman if she drops out of nursing work for a +year or more; this will probably help her, complaining never will. + +Do you feel that your patient is cross or unreasonable? That is +most likely, and is to be expected in nine cases out of every ten. +Put yourself in your patient's place for a little while; try to +realize what it is to have a pain, constant and sickening; to have +it every minute of the twenty-four hours; try to imagine the +fatigue of a respiration of forty; the ache and restlessness of a +fever of 103 degrees; the agony of longing to change a position when it +cannot be done; the despair of a hope for recovery growing daily +less, or the realization of absolute weakness that comes with +early convalescence; try to imagine yourself bearing some of these +ills with nerves and brain weakened by disease, and you will not +wonder that your patient is irritable, that he thinks the minutes +of your absence are "hours," that the unevenness of the bed is +"hard lumps," that the food is "slops," and the medicine "no +good." Remember that he is a prisoner, and he has a cruel jailer; +his bed is his prison, his disease is his jailer, and he suffers +whatever torments his jailer chooses to inflict. Now prisoners are +not, as a rule, a happy class of men; so bear with your prisoner +and help him. Complaining about his shortcomings will never make +them any the less. He is sick. Oh! the pathos of that short +sentence, "He is sick;" that says all. You are well, or you ought +to be; therefore bear with him. + +You have chosen a hard profession, but we are told it is the +noblest one a woman can follow. Why is it noble? Exactly because +it is hard, and the hardness consists in your forgetting yourself +and giving your strength to others. There are many hard lives that +are not in the least noble, but there is no noble life that is not +hard. A coal miner has, I suppose, a hard life, yet no one calls +it a noble one; why? Because he works solely for his wages, and he +complains and "strikes" when his wages and his hours do not suit +him; but a doctor going from house to house, and in spite of all +discouragements carrying cheer and hope; a city missionary going +to the degraded, the ignorant, and by his own efforts helping his +fellow-men to a better life, to a knowledge of God--these are +noble lives. You can see I am sure the difference, and you will +not gainsay me when I assure you that the doctor and the +missionary, though they may not be satisfied with themselves, or +with their manner of working, are happy men, happy because they +live outside of themselves. The coal miner who is not content with +his wages is miserable, because he himself and his needs loom up +before him so large that every thing else is shut out. It is +because you take a hard task and do it well, that so much praise +is given to nurses. If you undertake a difficult task and fret +over it all the time you are doing it, if you propose to benefit +your fellow creatures and grumble because you have not comforts, +or appreciation, or gratitude, where does the nobility go? Where +is the heroism? If the task is easy, agreeable, delightful, the +idea of heroism, of nobility, of all high aspiration dies +directly. Did any one ever do a grand work and have an easy time +while doing it? Did Florence Nightingale have all the comforts of +life when she did her great work? Was it not by her indomitable +perseverance, her great patience, and her enthusiasm for others +that she won such an honored place for herself? You know almost +before I say it, that there can be no loftiness of purpose, no +enthusiasm, if there are not difficulties to be conquered, and you +all know that complaining about sick people will never alter their +characteristics, and that complaining about the nervousness of the +relatives will never make less unreasoning, when they are fearful +that a loved one is going to die. + +Do we want gratitude and appreciation? We get it very often, and +very often we do not; and when this last is the case, we may +reflect that we are in very good company. How did the French +reward Joan of Arc? The warmth of their gratitude led her to the +stake. Galileo, as reward for his discovery, was put into prison +and loaded with chains, as were also Christopher Columbus and Sir +Walter Raleigh, a notable company these, and every one suffered +from the ingratitude of their fellow-men. Many more examples you +must call to mind, of ingratitude more base than any thing we +shall ever be called upon to bear. + +The profession of nursing is still one of the most recent that +women have engaged in. The world had until the past few decades +been so used to being nursed by the old-fashioned nurse, who was a +servant, and who never expected any treatment but that of a +servant, that it has taken some years to always remember that we +are not servants, in the usual acceptation of the term; but no one +will be convinced of the fact that we are ladies by our +_telling_ them so. If you are a lady, with a lady's +refinement, every one in the house will know it, will feel it, and +you will never mention the subject; they must feel it, then there +will be no arguing on the subject. It must be demonstrated by your +deftness, your quietness, your cheerfulness, your education, your +intelligence, your quick appreciation of other good qualities. We +must all of us show the world that it is being nursed by its +compeers, that a lady can do even the most revolting service in a +way that robs it of its difficulties; and when the hard part of +the illness is over, when your patient is ready and anxious to be +entertained, you can show that you are not a machine for carrying +out the doctor's orders; that you are capable of something more +than the ability to take temperature, pulse, and respiration. + +We must remember that even yet we are, in a way, pioneers of one +part of that great woman movement in the world. It is not enough +to educate one family up to the realization that we are its +equals; the next house we go to, the same work may have to be done +over again; but each time it is done, and done well, the whole +profession has been benefited, which is an aim worth striving for. + + + + +VIII + +THE NURSE AS A TEACHER + + +It does not occur to every nurse, when she graduates, that she has +been preparing herself, during all these strenuous years of study +and hospital work, for the life of a teacher. She fondly imagines +that she is a nurse, and only that; but after she has been doing +private duty for a year or more, she realizes that she is +generally a teacher as well as a nurse, and that often she is a +missionary also. + +Perhaps no private duty nurse needs to be told what subject she +must teach; the patient or the patient's friends never let her +rest until she has told the "why" of every thing she does, or does +not. There are, however, some important subjects that the nurse- +teacher should try to make very clear to every patient. + +We will begin with the baby, as the babies are with us always, and +if doctors and nurses, science and sanitation have their way, +there will some time be no call but that of the baby, for nurse or +doctor either. The ignorance of the young mother is proverbial; +her wish to know about her baby and its care is pathetically +earnest. The new life is so precious, she would take such good +care of it, if she only knew how. Here is a pupil eager for +knowledge, ready to do all that can be intelligently taught to +her. The nurse should have very clearly in her mind all the +mysteries of digestion, all the reasons for regularity in feeding, +the necessity for fresh air, for long and uninterrupted slumber, +for loose clothing, for regular bathing. She should be able to +give the mother the rules for her own living that she may be able +to provide the best milk for the baby, or, if the little one has +to be artificially fed, the methods of preparing the particular +food chosen should be explained, and the indications of +indigestion pointed out. All this is real teaching, real +missionary work, and if well done will help the mother immensely +and probably save the baby many attacks of colic or worse. Washing +the baby is usually regarded by the young mother as a terrible +ordeal. No nurse should leave her young-mother patient until she +is fully able to perform this task. Let the mother watch, a few +mornings, while the nurse does all the work, then let her undress +the baby, when the nurse can take him and finish the operation. +Day by day let her do a little more, as her strength and ambition +permit, until at the end of a week she is fairly used to handling +the child and can, perhaps, keep him until the last finishing +touches are put on. The nurse should always be near, to help, to +advise, to take the child should the mother become exhausted. +Finally, she should go into another room, and, leaving all things +ready, allow the mother to perform the duty by herself, letting +her know that at any time she will be relieved if necessary. In +this way the mother becomes accustomed to the child, and the bath +is always a pleasure to her. How many times have we heard pathetic +stories of a young mother trying for the first time to wash the +baby?--the tears of despair, the nervous blunders, the exhaustion +when the performance was brought to a hasty close. All such +stories mean that the nurse in charge was not a teacher and that +her work when she left the case was not completed. + +Suppose that this baby is the third or fourth, the mother knows +what to do for the new little one, but how about the others? She +is still anxious to do what is right, or perhaps she is not +anxious, and her attitude toward the children is not what it +should be. Perhaps she does not realize that she will be called to +account for these souls intrusted to her care, that these bodies +will do their part in life, well or ill, as she treats them wisely +or foolishly. Here is true missionary work. A thoughtful, +intelligent, judicious nurse can show a mother that an adenoid may +be responsible for Johnny's inattention, as it causes dullness of +hearing, how Mary's fretfulness is caused by too little sleep or +by insufficient ventilation of her room at night. She can explain +how irregular eating causes the children to be cross and +irritable. She can show why the first teeth should be removed when +the second begin to push towards the gum. She can teach the mother +that the headaches so often met with, in children who go to +school, are due, perhaps, to eye strain, and can not be corrected +with pills, and should never be soothed with headache powders. She +can show the evils of the gallons of soda water too many young +women swallow, of the injudiciousness of allowing young girls to +congregate in drug stores. These last two evils, "soda water and +the drug store habit," the mother may know nothing about. She is +busy at home with the "little ones," and the fourteen- or sixteen- +year-old girl only too often is allowed to wander off "down town" +with other young girls, and what she does there would astonish +many a mother. + +Every nurse should know how to teach her patient to guard herself +and her children from tuberculosis. She should be able to show +what the early symptoms are, what is then necessary to do, what +care should be taken of the sputum, of the patient's food, of his +eating and drinking vessels, his bed and bedding. She should know +how to teach a tuberculosis patient to care for himself, how he +can avoid giving his disease to others, if he stays at home; and +where he will find proper hospital or sanatorium accommodations if +he goes away. + +Most mothers are very thankful for practical hints from one who is +supposed to know, and who, during a four to six weeks' stay, makes +herself one of the family, and offers advice in the _right +way_ and _at the right time_. + +The great sex question is almost sure to be discussed at such a +time. The advent of a new baby is such a wonderful thing that +nearly always the other little ones want to know (very naturally) +where it came from. Little folks are brimful of curiosity. It is +Nature's way, I suppose, of teaching them. Every new thing fills +them with admiration, with joy, and they must know all about it. +"Oh, mamma, what a lovely new pony! Where did you get it?" "Is it +really mine?" "Oh, papa, what a dandy, new sled! Where did you get +it? Can't I use it right now?" "Oh, have we got a new baby? A real +baby? Is it ours? Where did it come from?" "Can't I hold it?" + +All are familiar with these expressions of wonder, of delight, of +joy of possession, but how to satisfy the eager mind aright is a +problem requiring our most careful thought. Books, papers, and +magazines tell us what to say and how to say it. All this should +be talked over, and, if the mother does not know, the nurse should +know what books to tell her to read. + +The medical world to-day is much concerned over the question of +prostitution and its effect upon the coming race, through the +transmission of syphilitic taint to an innocent wife, who is +thereafter barren, or who bears syphilitic children. The folly of +the double standard, purity insisted on for the wife, unchasity +condoned in the husband; all these subjects are sure to be brought +up, and the nurse who goes prepared on these and kindred topics +can do an immense amount of good to the women she nurses. + +She can show how useful the knowledge of chastity is to a boy-the +strength that comes from self-control, the weakness that follows +self-indulgence, the danger to himself and to those he really +loves when he contaminates himself with prostitutes. A young man +once said to a friend of mine, "Oh! if my mother had only warned +me of the suffering I would cause myself and others, I never would +have polluted my body and shamed my soul." The nurse should know +how to instruct the mother as to the signs of self-abuse in her +little boys, so that she may know what causes the nervous +movements, the pallor, the fitful appetite, the dark circles under +the eyes, the listlessness, the fondness for being alone--any one +of which should call for extreme watchfulness. All these things a +nurse should be sure to know, so that, as far as in her lies, she +should be one more earnest woman striving to make the world better +for her having lived and worked in it. A wise man has given this +quaint description of a perfectly educated man: "When a man knows +what he knows, when he knows what he does not know, when he knows +where to go for what he should know, I call that a perfectly +educated man." So with the nurse. When she finds a social problem +with which she is not familiar, let her turn to this list of +books, magazine articles, and pamphlets upon the subject: Chapman, +Rose R., The Moral Problems of Children; Dock, Lavinia L., Hygiene +and Morality; Hall, Winfield Scott, Reproduction and Sexual +Hygiene; Henderson, Charles W., Education with Reference to Sex; +Lyttelton, E., Training of the Young in the Laws of Sex; Morley, +Margaret W., The Renewal of Life; Morrow, Dr. P. A., Social +Diseases and Marriage; Saleeby, Caleb W., Parenthood and Race +Culture; Wilson, Dr. Robert N., The American Boy and the Social +Evil, The Nobility of Boyhood, 50 cents (contained in "The +American Boy and the Social Evil"); Hall, Stanley, Educational +Problems, Chapter on the Pedagogy of Sex, Adolescence, Youth; +Northcoate, H., Christianity and Sex Problems; Janney, Dr. Edward +O., The White Slave Traffic in America; Report of the 3 8th +Conference of Charities and Corrections, in Boston, June, 1911, +Sex-Hygiene Section; Kauffman, Reginald Wright, The House of +Bondage; Summary of the Chicago Vice Commission, in the May number +of _Vigilance_; Education with Reference to Sex in the August +number of _Vigilance_ (published monthly at 156 Fifth Ave., +New York City, at five cents per copy); The Cause of Decency, +Theodore Roosevelt, _Outlook_, July 15, 1911; articles on The +Causes of Prostitution in _Collier's Weekly_, from time to +time, since April 1, by Reginald Wright Kauffman; articles on the +Necessity for Teaching Sex Hygiene, in _Good Housekeeping_, +beginning with the September number; Dr. Dale's articles on Moral +Prophylaxis, in the JOURNAL OF NURSING since the July number; +Instructing Children in the Origin of Life, Elisabeth Robinson +Scovil, in October JOURNAL OF NURSING; Leaflets and pamphlets +published by American Motherhood, 188 Main Street, Cooperstown, +New York; Publications of the American Association of Sanitary and +Moral Prophylaxis, New York City, JOURNAL OF NURSING, February, +1912. + +One last word and I have finished. Be careful, oh so careful, that +your instructions are acceptable, that your pupil is anxious to be +taught. Most mothers are anxious on these subjects; if one is +encountered who does not care, first try to make her care (and +this is a task, indeed), and then teach her what to do and how to +do it. + + + + +IX + +CONVALESCENCE + + +One frequently hears the private duty nurse deplore the necessity +of her remaining with a patient during convalescence. "I wish," +such a one would say, "that I never need stay with a patient after +the temperature has been normal for ten days," or, "I do not mind +the first two weeks of an obstetric case, then there is something +to do, but after that I am ready to leave," or again, "When my +patient is ready to go out driving, I always wish she would drive +me home; half-sick people are not to my taste." I have often +wondered if this feeling is not caused by the atmosphere of the +hospital which has, during training, been the nurse's home,--the +hospital, where the patient leaves at the earliest possible moment +of recovery, to make room for someone else. The pupil nurse gets +used to the excitement of critical illness, used to the hard work +of constant watching and fighting for the patients' lives, and +that, and only that, it seems to her, is nursing. So when she goes +to her private cases, and her patient has a long period of +convalescence, she feels out of place, she does not seem to be +doing what she was trained to do, and she frets over it, until +some happy day when the doctor releases her, and she is at liberty +to go once more to some one who is at death's door. + +Nurses seem to feel that caring for a convalescent is not +"nursing," but there they are mistaken. After a serious illness it +takes a long time to restore the patient to perfect health, some +function may need the close watching which only trained eyes can +give, and it is not beneath the dignity of the nurse to remain, +and keep watch until every part is once more in perfect working +order. Many nurses feel that it is not nursing to amuse a patient, +but it is nursing to help him on to the healthy plane from which +he has fallen, to play games with an invalid and to watch him, to +read with him, and to watch, to walk or ride or travel with him, +and to watch, always to watch, that the dreaded symptom does not +appear, that the one part which still needs care gets it. + +A surgeon does not spend all day, every day, with his gloves on, +and his scalpel in his hand; he is not _always_ operating, or +even arranging for operations; he can find time to see patients, +to sit and talk with them, to advise them, to cheer them, even to +tell funny stories to them, but all the time he is watching them. +A lawyer is not always pleading in the court room, a clergyman is +not forever in the pulpit. The lawyer when talking to his client +is just as truly a lawyer; the clergyman, when visiting his +congregation, is just as truly a clergyman,--the sermon on Sunday +is the climax, if I may so express it, of his week's work. The +lawyer's speech to the jury is the point to which all his efforts +tend after, perhaps, weeks of preparation. So the convalescence of +a patient is the post climax of the nurse's undertaking. She +begins with the climax, severe illness, operation, or obstetric +case, whatever it may be, gradually the stress lessens, the whole +atmosphere of the house becomes natural as the patient progresses +toward recovery; but the process is not complete, and the nurse's +work is not done until the doctor pronounces her trained care no +longer necessary; then she may go, and feel that her work has been +thoroughly done-no small comfort surely. + +I wish I could show my young sister nurses how good _for +them_ this period of the patient's convalescence might be. The +delightful rest of regular sleep, and regular meals comfortably +eaten at a table instead of in solitude from a tray, the +opportunity for regular exercise--these things come as a real +luxury when one has been nursing a critically-ill patient, and +anxiety has been with one, night and day. This is the period when +the nurse's nerves, strained to their utmost, can regain their +tone, where the responsibility borne by the doctor and shared by +the nurse is not so great a weight, and the knowledge of one more +victory over death, one more human life saved, gives a joyousness +to the day that is good to experience. + +The satisfaction of knowing that by your help the patient has +come, perhaps, from the gates of death; the pleasure of noting day +by day the return of healthful sensations, the gradual ever- +growing desire to once more take his accustomed place in the life +work that has been interrupted--all these are missed by the nurse +who flies from convalescents. + +May it not be that the change in occupation has something to do +with this unwillingness to remain with a patient when he is +convalescing? When a temperature has to be taken but once a day, +or when the doctor only makes visits twice a week, when all the +routine of the sick-room gives way to a more natural atmosphere, +many nurses do not feel at ease, they do not read aloud +pleasantly, they do not care for books, and, if the patient asks +for this amusement, the reading is a torment to the nurse, and I +imagine it does not afford much pleasure to the listener. A nurse +once gave me a graphic description of her efforts to read "Romola" +to a convalescent typhoid patient. The poor nurse knew nothing of +Florence or of the Italian language, and her struggles over the +foreign words in that book must have been funny enough. Her +patient was not much edified--of that I am certain. If a nurse +does not read aloud understandingly, she should make every effort +to learn. She thereby increases her usefulness, and makes herself +more acceptable to her patients. She adds to her own value. She is +worth more. No nurse can tell when this method of passing the +weary hours will be required of her, as it is almost certain that +a patient of intelligence will ask for some mental refreshment. + +Another pleasant way to pass the long hours of convalescence, is +by playing games with your patient. I am sure no training school +for nurses has added the study of cribbage, pinochle, bezique, +chess, checkers, backgammon, or dominos to its curriculum. All +these are two-handed games, the playing of which will help the +convalescent to forget himself and his past illness and present +weakness. The nurse, if she knows only one game that is unfamiliar +to the patient, gives him new thoughts while she teaches him, and +it is quite astonishing how much pleasure such simple things can +give both to teacher and pupil. I would suggest that nurses in +their club houses or homes could profitably fill some vacant +evenings practising these two-handed games. I am sure they would +never regret the time so spent. + +If the convalescent is a woman, the means of amusing her are more +varied and more congenial perhaps. In addition to reading aloud +and playing games, there is the vast realm of "fancy work," where +most women feel at home. It is a pity, so few women nowadays know +anything about knitting, crochetting or tatting,--many do not even +know which is which. A lady asked me very innocently, not long +ago, how I could tell the difference between knitting and +crochetting! Since Irish crochet has returned to favor, however, +many have once more taken up their crochet needles. The nurse who +can deftly turn her hand to these dainty arts, and can teach them +to her patients, or any of the patient's family, has the means of +making herself a very acceptable companion, apart from her nursing +skill. Embroidery is very fascinating, and appeals to every woman. +A dainty little garment for your patient, embroidered while you +watch her return to health, will be long treasured by her. For a +nurse, what art, what accomplishment can she have that will not +help some poor invalid, that will not shorten the weary hours for +some sick body, or bring consolation to a weary soul? A perfect +nurse is one who brings comfort to her patient. It is because +trained nurses bring more comfort that they have replaced the old +style nurse; the more comfort the nurse brings, the more +successful she is. The ability to talk well, when talk is needed, +to read well, to amuse understandingly, to wisely meet each need +of the invalid as it presents itself, this is to be the ideal +nurse. + + + + +X + +HOW SHALL A NURSE OCCUPY HER DAYS OF WAITING? + + +To many nurses the time between cases is dreaded as a period when +money is being spent for necessary maintenance, and none is coming +in; a nervous time, as the ring of the telephone which may mean a +call is wished for or dreaded, perhaps both; an anxious time, as +no one knows how long she may have to wait; a dreary time, as the +days drag on and still no call comes. It _is_ a trying time, +but much can be done in these days of waiting that is delightful +in the doing, and that will prove a source of pleasure to all +future patients, and no little profit to the nurse also. + +Let me preface my few hints by saying that all patients and +patients' friends expect the nurse to know all about the diseases +and their cures, the care and management of the sick,--that is +common, ordinary nurses' business,--but there too many nurses +stop; they often can go no further; and when one comes to a family +and adds to this a broad culture, and an intelligent interest in +the topics of the day, the respect and admiration of the patient +and family are unbounded, and their surprise genuine. + +I would like, if possible, to impress upon the nurse graduate that +really there is much to learn after she has left the training +school. All the technic of hospital and operating room is fresh in +mind, but there is so much that lies necessarily outside the walls +of a hospital, and this knowledge that comes with experience is a +great part of what makes a successful nurse. + +I will not touch here upon what every nurse knows so well, +relating to the "preparedness" of clothes, satchel, and +instruments. We take it for granted that all this is ready. The +case before has been a hard one, we will imagine, and several days +have been given to the luxury of whole nights in bed, and whole +days of resting; this is all done, and the next case is awaited. + +The best thing to do first is for the nurse to examine a little +her mental equipment, see what she has stored away in her mind +that can help the next patient, or that can assist in fighting the +battle of hygienic cleanliness versus disease-bearing dirt. Let +her consider whether she reads aloud acceptably, understandingly. +Has she a good list of books which most women would enjoy? Does +she know what books to suggest for the children? Can she tell what +would interest the boys, or what a man would like to listen to? +Does she know humorous books, interesting histories, or +biographies? Here, then, is occupation for many idle days. + +To go to a public library is always a pleasure, to make friends +with the librarian is an added pleasure, as is also the making +one's self familiar with some good books that can always be +procured, and that will give pleasure and profit to patient after +patient. This search for good literature will give happiness in +the quest, and happiness in the reading. Librarians are usually +glad to direct one to the books needed, and many delightful hours +may be spent in the library, and all the while the comfortable +feeling experienced that the pleasure felt will be transferred +later to future patients. + +The subject of hygiene is taught in most training schools, and +indeed in many day schools as well; but this is a branch of +knowledge that is growing so rapidly that, unless the very latest +discoveries are learned, the nurse may find herself of use merely +when the infection has done its work. + +I wonder how many nurses have made use of the bulletins issued by +the U. S. Department of Agriculture in Washington. These are +called Farmers' Bulletins, but many of them are of use to all +mankind, be they farmers or not. They are free to any who ask for +them, and up to the present time about five hundred have been +issued. They are upon all sorts of subjects--Flies, Malaria, The +Destruction of Rats, Care of Food in the House, Fruit as a Food, +Cereal Breakfast Foods, etc., etc., subjects _ad infinitum._ +Here, then, is a mine of information open to anyone who asks; all +one has to do is to write to the Secretary of Agriculture and ask +to have sent a list of the Farmers' Bulletins published by his +department, and from the list any bulletins may be selected, and +they will be sent. Ask for what is needed; it is all meant for the +education of the public. The information is absolutely reliable, +and represents the best thought of the country--expert advice by +the foremost scientists. + +I have often thought that a nurse who made the nursing of children +a specialty, or even those who nursed children occasionally, would +be much profited by a course in a Kindergarten Training School. +The private duty nurse, however, having but a few days at her +disposal, cannot do anything as extensive as that; but a very good +substitute is at hand, in the kindergarten department of any of +our public schools. It is most interesting to go to a public +school, ask to see the Principal, and let the nurse explain her +visit, and show her how helpful it would be to future little sick +folks, if she might be allowed to study some of the kindergarten +methods, and permission will readily be given. When the nurse +reaches the room of the "littlest ones," let her sit down, and +quietly watch what is done for them, and how they are managed. The +kindergartner will be glad to tell where she finds the charming +stories she relates; she will give models of the wonderful things +her pupils cut out of paper, the canoes, the men to sit in them, +the wigwams, the sleds, automobiles, swings, stoves, trees, +apples, etc., etc., articles well-nigh innumerable, and all so +simple and so deftly made. A small convalescent could be amused +for weeks with the things one could learn in a few hours in one of +our city kindergartens. I speak of the things I know, for I have +tried it, and I never yet found a Principal who was not glad to +have her kindergarten studied, nor a kindergartner who was not +pleased to know that she could assist in the work of nursing sick +children, even in this seemingly roundabout way. + +In all of our large cities are fine art galleries, and in many +there are fine loan collections on exhibition every summer. There +are, besides pictures in these loan collections, many things; some +curious, some beautiful, and all of them interesting. Some days +spent in these galleries will bring much knowledge and beauty into +one's life. Time must be taken for these visits; no one can +appreciate the patience and skill of oriental handiwork in a +hurry. If unacquainted with the exhibits, a catalogue should be +purchased, and each one studied until one knows why it is there, +and what is its beauty. I remember seeing, one day, in a +collection, a cup of jade, with a very finely wrought handle; I +thought it fine, but did not appreciate it until the Custodian +told me that it took the artist twenty years to carve that one +cup, jade is such a hard stone. This cup was so valuable that the +Kensington Museum, in England, had paid an immense sum of money +for it, as a nearly perfect specimen. This information was my +reward for close study of an exhibit. In these exhibitions one +could spend many vacant days with much pleasure and profit. + +In whatever town a nurse lives she should familiarize herself with +the philanthropic efforts of the place. In the largest cities it +is not possible to know them all, but she should know about some +of the settlement work, the day nurseries, the babies' hospitals, +the rescue work, the homes for aged. Of course she will know about +the hospitals and dispensaries, but what is done for the poor, the +ignorant, the sinful, and the stranger--these she should learn. +Many times she could do much to help these institutions, by +relating, simply and truthfully, when occasion offers, what she +has seen, of the great needs of such efforts, and the heroic work +of those who go down and live amongst the needy and try to uplift +them. Many a rich, idle patient might become interested and give +money, if not time, to help in these good works; and my experience +shows that they generally need all the help they can get. So the +nurse should know about the anti-tuberculosis work, the night +schools, the playgrounds on the roofs of the school-houses, all +the philanthropic work of her town, and she cannot know about it +unless she takes some of her vacant days, her days of waiting, and +turns them into days of learning, and the expansion of both her +mind and her heart. + +Another pleasant way to spend some days of waiting is to study the +trolley system of the town where you live. Learn how far it can +go, to how many other towns. If a river is near, become familiar +with its steamboats. Excursions on boat or trolley will be +delightful, and will teach the best routes, the best terminal +stations, and the best restaurants, and some day when a patient is +well enough to take an excursion, some part of his own immediate +neighborhood may be shown him which he has never seen before. +Believe me, all this will be appreciated. Space fails me to tell +of music to be heard, theatres to be enjoyed, and all to be used +hereafter for the benefit of those to whom you will be called to +minister. The information constantly gathered in the "days of +waiting," rightly used, intelligently imparted to the patient or +her friends, will make of the nurse such a broad-minded, +sympathetic woman that everyone who employs her will appreciate +the fact that she has a wide culture, and brings to her patient +something besides mere technical skill. + + + + +XI + +SOME HINTS FOR THE OBSTETRICAL NURSE + +THE BABY'S WARDROBE. + + +When a nurse goes to see a woman who wishes to engage her, some +months hence, to care for her baby and herself, it is very nice to +be able to give her, should she ask, a list of all the things she +will need, both for her own comfort and the baby's. + +The following is a good sensible wardrobe, and will be found +ample, though many articles more or less fanciful will, most +probably, be added by friends. The things enumerated below should +last the baby until he is put into short clothes: + +Slips, 10. Dresses, 8 to 10. Pinning blankets, 4. Flannel skirts, +4. White skirts, 5. Shirts, 4. Bands, plain flannel, 4. Bands, +Jersey made, 4. Diapers first size, 17 inches square, 20. Diapers +second size, 20 inches square, 30. Diapers third size, 26 inches +square, 30. Knitted blankets, plain white, 2; if with any color, 4 +to 6. Knitted sacques, 4 (two sizes). Little pillow (hair), 6 +cases. Crib sheets, 6. Crib blankets, 2. + +FOR BASKET. + +Two small gold safety pins. Large safety pins, I box. Small safety +pins, i box. Powder box and puff. Coudreay's powder. Small box of +equal parts borax and powdered sugar. Old damask towels. One cake +old white castile soap, or Colgate's nursery soap. One bottle +unscented vaseline. As many sachets as you can get. Some few yards +of the narrowest ribbon, pink and blue. Two old handkerchiefs. One +lap protector. Brush and comb. Absorbent cotton. + +FOR THE MOTHER. + +All the old sheets in the house. Rubber sheet, double width. A +square of rubber sheeting single width. An old comforter. +[Footnote: When the Kelly pad is used for the delivery, the +old comfortable, the blankets and the single width rubber +sheet need not be provided.]Two or three old blankets. Fountain +syringe. Paper basin. Towels ad libitum. Six or seven night +dresses, three of them old. Undershirts, if worn in bed, 4 +(large). Bandages, 6. Cheese cloth, 10 yards. Absorbent cotton, 2 +lbs. A large flannel sacque, or a nightingale. Soft unbleached +muslin, 2 or 3 yards. Colgate's fumigating wafers, I box. Bedpan, +I. + +Layettes can be purchased at any good department store, but many +expectant mothers prefer to make all the clothes for the little +one. These lists are for the benefit of these mothers. + +These look, perhaps, like two very formidable lists, but a second +glance will convince any one that all these articles are +absolutely necessary, and none of them are expensive. + +The slips should be made very plainly. The material may be as fine +as can be bought, but beyond a few tucks about the yoke, and a +little lace or fine embroidery about neck and sleeves, should be +perfectly plain. The dresses, of course, are somewhat more +elaborate, but the fashion now decrees that infant's clothing +shall be perfectly plain, and a most sensible fashion it is. +Pinning blankets are open all down the front, and are usually made +in the shops with a broad band of stiff white muslin, which shows +that the people who made them never tried to dress a baby. The +band should be of flannel or coarse linen many times washed so +that it may be soft, and the pins will go through many folds of +it. Flannel skirts are usually made of two breadths of flannel, +and are more or less embroidered. These are not left open, except +just enough to make the dressing easy. Shirts are made so well in +stores that few people care to knit them. They should always be +high in the neck and long sleeved, and it is better to get two +sizes, as, if the baby is small, it never can be comfortable in a +large shirt that does not fit. + +The four flannel bands should be 6 inches wide by 17 or 18 long, +torn the length way of the flannel and left just as torn. Not +hemmed or ornamented in any way. No hemming or stitching can be so +fine that it will not mark the baby's flesh. Besides this, if you +have these plain bands and find they are several inches too big, +nothing is easier than tearing off a strip and making them fit. If +the child has a very large, round abdomen, they can be made to fit +over it nicely by taking two little tucks on the lower edge, about +half an inch from the middle of the band, and letting the tucks +run up about an inch or a little more, tapering it off gradually. +When these are discarded and the Jersey made bands are put on, +always put them on the baby feet first, as it is hard to get them +over the shoulders. + +The very best material for the first small diapers is old, soft +table damask. The better the quality, the softer it will be; be +sure they are exactly square. Nothing is more trying, in a small +way, than to get a diaper that cannot be folded true. These should +be made double and the edges turned in and sewed around. By the +time the baby has outgrown them they will be fit only for the rag- +bag, and may be thrown aside. The second size diaper, also the +third should be many times washed to make them soft enough for +use. These may be used at first folded eight times and put under +the baby next the damask diaper, between that and the pinning +blanket, and will often save the nurse the trouble of changing the +baby's clothing, because it is wet through. In this way they will +get more washings and be softer when you have to use them next the +baby's skin. + +Cotton flannel, with a good nap and not a very close web, is very +good also and can be used instead of the damask where that cannot +be procured. Put it on with the nap next the skin. It is an +excellent absorbent. + +The baby should have at least one little (rather flat) hair +pillow, covered on one side with blue or pink silk, on the other +with plain white over the ticking. The prettiest pillow cases I +ever saw were made of broad hemmed pocket handkerchiefs. Two sewed +neatly together round three edges, and on the fourth button holes +for mother-of-pearl studs. The handkerchiefs may be fine or not, +embroidered or plain, and may have lace sewed on the edge, but +they can't help being pretty, and the embroidery will never be in +the middle. I shall never forget my pity for one poor little mite +I saw once, who, on waking from his sleep, was discovered to have +the print of an embroidered S on his cheek. It had been worked in +the centre of the little pillow case by some loving but ignorant +hands. When the baby uses the pillow, let him sleep on the white +side; at other times turn up the colored side and the pink or blue +will show very prettily through the linen. If you let the child +sleep on the colored side he may, most likely will, vomit some +sour milk on it, sooner or later, and the beauty of your pillow +will be gone. + +If the regular little crib blankets are thought too expensive, a +very good substitute may be made from white eiderdown cloth, which +is warm, soft, and not at all costly. + +The gold safety pins are intended for the final pinning of the +dress in the front and in the back. Of course any little +ornamental baby pin answers the purpose just as well, and, indeed, +an ordinary safety pin will do should no other be at hand. + +The little box of equal parts of borax and sugar should not be +forgotten. Mix the two very thoroughly, and if any little white +aphthous spots appear on baby's lips, tongue or cheeks, apply a +little of this mixture several times a day, and they will probably +all be gone by night. Put it on very carefully with the tip of +your finger slightly moistened so that some of the powder will +adhere. Examine the baby's mouth every day for these spots. They +are likely to appear any time after ten days or two weeks, and are +more often seen in weak children, or those who are fed by a +bottle. If the spots appear on a child who is taking the breast, +the nipples are very apt to be sore. Much care, therefore, must be +exercised in this matter. + +Sachets are a real luxury in the drawers of the baby's bureau. +Atkinson's sachets are the best, though Colgate's violet is very +delicate and pleasant. Put one or two amongst the little shirts, +and some among the knitted blankets, but mostly have them in the +dresses, and be sure when you take out a clean dress, or slip, to +take the sachet and slide it into the neck of the slip that will +be worn tomorrow. Nothing can be more attractive than a clean, +sweetly smelling baby, and, _per contra_, nothing is more +disgusting than a wet, sour, cold, crying baby. If he be wet and +sour he will surely have cold feet and hands, and as surely will +he cry. Poor little thing! It is his only way of expressing his +opinion of the state of his toilette. + +It is very pretty, when the baby is fresh and clean, and has on a +fine slip with lace edging the sleeves, to tie around the wrist, +outside of the sleeve, a piece of pink or blue ribbon. Make a nice +little bow and let the lace fall over the fat little hands, like a +frill. Be careful not to tie the ribbon too tight, and keep it +clean. If it becomes soiled or wet, take it off directly. + +A lap protector is made by covering a piece of rubber cloth about +14 inches square with several thicknesses of old blanket. To cover +this have some slips like pillow cases, of linen or cotton, plain +or fancy, as the lady may have time or money. Slip the "protector" +in its case, and lay it on your own, or any one else's, lap who +wishes to hold the baby, and it perfectly protects from all +wetting. + +TABLE FOR ESTIMATING THE PROBABLE DURATION OF PREGNANCY + +Two hundred and eighty days, forty weeks, ten lunar months, or +nine calendar months are here estimated as the usual duration of +pregnancy (the actual computed average being 276-2/3 days). The +exact day of conception (_not_ the fertile coition), can +never be accurately determined; the only date from which +conception can be dated, and the probable confinement day +predicted with some chance of certainty, is the first day of the +last menstrual flow, adding to this one week (seven days) for the +average duration of the flow (with a few days lee-way). We count +nine calendar months forward, and have the approximate date of the +expected confinement. The most ready method is to add seven days +to the first day of the last menstrual flow, count back three +months, and add one year, when we have the future date when, or +about when, delivery may be expected. + +An _exact_ estimate is but guess work; errors of one or two +weeks either way may be made by the most experienced, as in cases +where conception occurred shortly before the next menstrual +period, which did not then appear. + +The present table is constructed on the above principle, the +second column representing the day of quickening, nineteen weeks +after the beginning of the last menstruation, with seven days +added; and the third column still twenty weeks later. The date of +quickening is still more variable than that of delivery, from one +to four weeks. + +Intermediate dates may be fixed by adding the necessary number of +days to each column. Thus, for Jan. 11th, the second column should +read 31st of May, and the third column, October 18th, and so on. + +Beginning +of last +Quickening. Confinement. Menstruation. + + +Jan. 1st.........May 20th.........Oct. 8th. +Feb. 1st.........June 20th.........Nov. 8th. +March 1st.........July 18th.........Dec. 4th. +April 1st.........Aug. 18th.........Jan. 6th. +May 1st.........Sept. 17th.........Feb. 5th. +June 1st.........Oct. 8th.........March 8th. +July 1st.........Nov. 17th.........April 7th. +Aug. 1st.........Dec. 18th.........May 8th. +Sept. 1st.........Jan. 18th.........June 6th. +Oct. 1st.........Feb. 17th.........July 8th. +Nov. 1st.........March 20th.........Aug. 8th. +Dec. 1st.........April 19th.........Sept. 7th. + + + + +ARTICLES FOR THE MOTHER'S USE. + + +Perhaps it is not necessary to say why it is better to use old +sheets for the bed of a parturient woman, but I will repeat that +old ones are to be preferred, and really new ones, that is, only +once washed, never used. New towels are of course objectionable, +as being too harsh. If the patient likes a rough towel, use a +regular bath towel, if you can get it. Be careful, never to let +loose and wet ends of the wash cloth drag along exposed parts of +the body. It is a good plan to sew your wash cloth into a bag, and +to slip your hand inside, and work with it put on like a mitten. A +rubber or fibre sponge is to be preferred. Keep one for the face, +neck, arms, and hands, and another for the feet and legs. The +vulva is bathed best by means of a fountain syringe used as an +irrigator, and a little sterilized gauze twisted around your +dressing forceps. The gauze can be changed as often as necessary, +and is much more satisfactory than anything else, especially if +there has been a laceration. + +The square of rubber sheeting, single width, is most useful. For +the confinement the bed should be made by first spreading over the +mattress the wide rubber sheet, over this put an old blanket, then +the under sheet; upon the right side of the bed, where most likely +the woman will lie, place the square of rubber, over that the old +comfortable, four double, and hold all in place with a sheet +folded like a hospital "draw-sheet." This must be firmly tucked in +at the sides under the mattress. It will seldom be found necessary +to change the under sheet, if the bed is made this way, and the +rubber square is drawn carefully away, with the comfortable and +draw sheet, when it is time to make the patient clean and dry +after the birth. It is a good plan now to tear this square in two, +and keep one piece directly under the clean draw sheet for the +first few days. This saves much washing. + +An old blanket and a small one will be found invaluable for all +sorts of things--for example, to spread over the shoulders and +chest when the bandage is being pinned; to warm and wrap up the +feet and legs, if they show any signs of being cold; to cover one +knee and part of the body when using the irrigator, which when +there has been _any_ laceration, is a delicate piece of +business, as every nurse knows. Always fold up this invaluable and +constant friend, and put it in some handy but inconspicuous place; +it _is_ a friend, and a good one; but it is not a beautiful +object to look upon, and others not knowing its virtues would +think you untidy if it was in a noticeable place. The fountain +syringe is absolutely indispensable; and, though it may seem +unnecessarily large, yet I think a four-quart bag better than any +of the smaller sizes. To be sure, you never might need four quarts +in the bag, but it is so much easier managed, so much less liable +to spill over, if you have a large bag and put it only half or +three-quarters full. Then, too, you get so much more force if you +have more water in the bag, you need not use it all. A Davidson +syringe is very nice for some things that a fountain syringe could +not be used for. Oil enemas, for instance, also nutritive enemas. +After an oil enema be sure to wash your syringe _thoroughly_ +with a strong solution of washing soda or ammonia, else you will +find the rubber of the bulb and tubing becoming pasty, and your +syringe will be utterly spoiled. The paper basin is very light and +easily handled and much to be preferred to a large china affair, +which may easily slide from warm, wet, slippery hands. + +I often wonder that the women of our day, who are so sensible in +many things, should have abandoned the fashion of short night +gowns, which our grandmothers always provided for themselves at +these times. I remember asking one lady, when talking over what +she would need for her first baby, and for herself, at the time of +its birth, if she had not something short and plain that she could +wear. She looked very thoughtful for a moment and then said that +she thought she did have _one_ night-dress that did not have +a ruffle or embroidery around the bottom. She could wear that. It +certainly is not from motives of economy that our wealthy patients +do not have these most sensible of garments. I think they know +nothing about them, and they should have their virtues explained +to them. A pocket could be added to this garment, I think, and it +would be a real comfort to a woman. I know it would be to a nurse, +who usually has to hunt up the ever missing pocket handkerchief a +dozen times a day. Men always have pockets in their night-shirts, +and they are not sick half as much as the women. I wonder why +women do not imitate this most sensible custom. If your patient +will not let you cut off any of her old night-dresses, you must +use the long ones, of course, and change them as often as +necessary. + +Bandages should always be made of soft unbleached muslin; double +is best, though I have used them of the single fold, and hemmed, +but they are firmer if double. They should be wide enough to come +down to the great trochanters, and up to a place two inches above +the umbilicus; long enough to fit the woman before she became +pregnant. She has likely some measure, or could get it from her +dress-maker. Women vary so much, it is hard to give an exact +measure in inches, but you might begin with a bandage fifty inches +long, and if the ends are too long, cut them off, and turn in the +edges of the cloth and overhand it neatly. + +Obstetrical binders, or bandages are now seldom put on a +parturient woman, but in case they are to be used, I give the best +kind I know of. They are sometimes made to order, but I never knew +one of these to fit, or wash well. + +The method of their application is of course taught in the +schools. The nurse should always know from the doctor, or the +prospective patient, if binders are to be worn, and instructions +given as to how to make them. Four or six will be enough. + +Two or three yards of soft, unbleached muslin for breast-bandages +should be provided in case they are needed. A six-tailed bandage +is, I think, the best for this purpose. Tear down the first two +"tails" to within three inches of the others, and these passing +over the shoulders, and fastening to others, which are adjusted +over the breasts, keep the whole bandage in place. + +It is not necessary to speak of the napkins or pads; these are +universally used, and readily bought, sterilized, and ready for +use. All sterilization is so thoroughly taught in the schools, I +have taken proficiency in this particular for granted. + +There should always be a disinfectant or antiseptic of some sort +on hand. + +Carbolic I-30, Platt's chlorides, permanganate of potash, or +something that will answer the purpose; bichloride of mercury, +etc. You must find out from the physician which he prefers, and of +what strength. + +I must not forget to say that when you go to see you prospective +patient, and she shows you the room she expects to occupy, it +would be well to cast your eyes about for some rug, that you can, +if necessary, turn wrong side out and spread at the side of the +bed. Some doctors are very neat about their work, but some are-- +well, perhaps I better not say it; we must not criticise the +doctors. + +But sometimes it is best to have protection for the floor, it +gives the nurse a comfortable feeling quite beyond description to +know, that, no matter what may happen, the carpet will not be +ruined. + + + + +XII + +AS TO WASHING THE BABY + + +In the first place get together everything you will need for the +bath and subsequent dressing. Have the clothes all laid in order +over a chair-back before an open fireplace, or over a radiator, or +if no better expedient suggest itself, fill bottles with hot +water, or get a hot water bag and fill that, and lay it +_over_ the clothes arranged in the order you will need them, +beginning the pile with the dress and having the band the last. +Have _two_ large, soft towels and keep them warm. If possible, +have an apron made of rubber cloth to tie about your waist. +At your side, on the floor, have a small blanket ready to +lay over the rubber apron when needed. Put your baby basket where +you can reach it, be sure that it contains all the things you will +need--sponge, soap, powder, pins, vaseline, etc., and an extra +diaper or two. Now get the tub (tin) and pour in the water until +it is about four inches deep. Have the water no warmer than 100 degrees +F. Bath thermometers are made that are quite cheap, and a great +convenience; one should always be at hand, as no nurse should ever +trust her feelings as to whether the water is hot enough or not. +Always test any water to be used for the sick or the delicate with +a thermometer. Another point a nurse should be most careful about, +is to be careful that her hands are warm before she takes the +baby, as her cold hands on his warm flesh will surely make him +scream. + +All being now ready, take the baby and sit down with him, +spreading the blanket over your knees as you do so, and having the +tub just in front of you on another chair. The sponge is best to +use for the washing, but a piece of old table damask is very good. +Wash the eyes very carefully first, then the face, and dry on the +towel. Now hold the baby's head over the tub and give that a good +washing with soap on your bare hand, and rinse it well with plenty +of water, always holding the left hand under the head and neck. +Bring him back on your lap and thoroughly dry his head, then wash +and dry the ears carefully. + +When you get this far you may undress the baby completely, being +most careful yet not taking any unnecessary time. When he is quite +ready for the tub, grasp him firmly with the right hand, letting +the buttocks rest in the palm of the hand, the fingers being +outspread, and the thumb coming up almost to the pubic bone. With +the left hand hold the head and shoulders. Lower him _very_ +gently into the water. Any sudden movement is most injurious, as a +baby must never cry when the band is off, if it can be avoided. He +will often put out both hands as if trying to catch hold of +something. If he seems frightened at the same time, and cries +violently, let the buttocks rest on the bottom of the tub, and +with the right hand hold both of his, and he will be comforted. + +I think it well to wash the whole body with your bare hand, well +soaped. Be careful to wash under the arms, in the bend of the +elbows, the groins, and under the knees, rinse him with the wash +cloth or sponge, and now lay one warm towel on your lap, and take +up the baby just as you put him in, slowly, and without shock, and +lay him in the warm towel. Lay the second one over him, and draw +over all the blanket, wrapping him up warm and snug. Put your hand +inside the blanket and dry him. This can be easily and quickly +done without at all uncovering the child. Pass the hand with a +slight squeezing movement over each arm and leg, and over the +front of the body. When this is done, you must undo the blanket, +and take the upper towel and dry most carefully all the creases, +and powder everywhere, especially if he is very fat. Get down to +the very bottom of every crease, and be sure it is dry and +powdered. Lay over the navel a compress of absorbent cotton, +unless the child is over four weeks old, and over this the band, +which should be unhemmed, and wide enough to extend from the hip +to the armpit. Lay the palm of your right hand firmly over band +and pad and turn the child carefully, holding your right hand +still under him, and with the left, clear away all damp towels, +and then straighten out the band that is wrinkled under one side. +Keep your knees close together. Now take away the right hand, and +see that the baby's knees are on the right side of your knee, and +the elbows well over the other side of your lap. Now you have the +baby where he can kick, but he can't wriggle or spring off your +lap. See that the back is dry, rub it a little with your hand, and +powder. Look carefully in the deep dimple just at the coccyx and +see if it is clean. Now pin the band snugly, but not too tight. +Use the smallest safety pins, and never pin directly over the +spine. Sometimes the abdomen is very large and it will be +necessary to make two little tucks in the lower edge of the band +in front to make it fit snugly. + +While the baby is still on his stomach, lay in place the diaper, +and next the shirt, which should be open in the front, and the +pinning blanket. Lay all of these just as they should be, as +regards the back, and turn him, being careful to hold all the +clothes in place. If he is liable to chafe, or the movements of +the bowels are in any way irritating, use vaseline about the +buttocks. Now put the arms in the shirt sleeves and tie or button +it up, and then pin the petticoat or pinning blanket. Lay an extra +diaper folded many times under him, and fold the pinning blanket +just in three, bring the hem up to the waist and pin in place. + +The dress goes on feet first. Slip it on over the pinning blanket, +and pass the right hand up under the buttocks, and with the left, +pull the dress into place, put the little hands in the sleeves, +and get it perfectly straight and smooth over the chest. Now pass +the fore-finger of the left hand down inside of all the clothes, +beginning at the neck, until you find the band (the first +garment), take a small safety pin or any small ornamental pin, and +pin thoroughly through everything. This last pin I consider most +necessary, as it keeps the dress, shirt, band and all in place. +Turn the baby over once more and put a similar pin in the back of +the dress, being very careful to get at the band. While the baby +is in this position put the blanket he wears during the day over +him, and a final turn brings him around, and he is washed and +dressed all but his mouth, which must be carefully washed with +clean, warm water or borax and water. This should be also done +many times each day, if the mouth is sore, and always a sharp +watch kept for white patches on lips, cheeks and tongue. If the +baby has hair to brush, it is well to brush it. It makes him look +very cunning, but if he is tired or sleepy, do not trouble him. +This washing and dressing should not occupy more than twenty +minutes, I have done it in fifteen where the baby was very well +behaved. + +Be sure that the room is warm and that the windows and doors are +kept closed. Do not allow admiring relatives to come and go, +opening and shutting the doors as they do so. If they want to see +the operation, let them come and stay. A baby should never be +bathed in a tub until the stump of the cord is off and the navel +well and strong. If there is any inclination to pouting of the +navel, wash the child on your lap and do not take off the band +until the rest of the baby is all washed, dried, and powdered. +Then take off band and compress, and put on fresh ones as quickly +as possible, turn the child and pin as before directed. + +In taking the clothing off, it is not necessary to turn the child +at all, the band being the only thing pinned in the back. + +N. B.--This method of bathing is for a normally healthy child, +from the time it is one week old, until it is six months or more. + +Until the stump of the cord has sloughed off, a baby should never +be put into the tub. If after the stump has sloughed there seems +to be any protrusion, or indeed any ulcerated look about the +naval, it is best to bathe the child on your lap. In all such +cases undress the baby as previously directed, until you come to +the band (flannel belly band). Wash, rinse, wipe and powder him, +being careful to make every part absolutely clean and dry. If the +band is soiled or wrinkled, or out of shape in any way, remove it +and put on a fresh one--looking every day, after three days, to +see if the stump has come off--and if it is still adherent, being +most careful not to disturb it in any way. Apply the fresh band +immediately. Turn the baby on its stomach, and when the back is +exposed, wash and rub the back gently with your warm hand. If the +band does not need changing, unpin it, rub the back, pin it up +again, and proceed in dressing as before. When the cord is once +fairly off, and the navel smooth and clean, you can put the baby +into the tub, very gently, slowly, and cautiously, remembering +that a sudden movement on your part may, in fact, always will make +him scream, and screaming with no band or compress on is for a +baby a very frequent cause of umbilical hernia. If the cord is +small when the child is born, there will be less danger of hernia, +but if it be a large one, then beware! It will not always be your +fault if the baby's navel is not small and flat when you are +leaving your case, but you will always be blamed for it, if it is +not. Notice carefully every morning when you bathe the child if +there is any umbilical protrusion, and report it without delay to +your doctor, if there is any, no matter how slight. This is not, +however, the place to treat of umbilical hernia, and we will go on +with the washing, If the child's skin is very tender, chafing +easily, wash with castile soap suds, rinse and dry carefully, +after every time he urinates, as well as when you bathe him. +Powder with talcum powder. Sometimes no powder will do it any +good, then try vaseline. If that will not do, ask the doctor if +you can try oxide of zinc ointment. Ordinarily, extreme care in +washing, drying and powdering will be sufficient, but it must be +done every time the diaper is changed. In this, as in other +things, eternal vigilance is absolutely necessary. + +When the baby is about two or three weeks old, it is a good plan +to put some alcohol into the water in which he is bathed--two or +three ounces to the amount of water used in bathing. Have a small +bowl of cooler water, 70 degrees to 80 degrees, for the face, and +after that is washed, add a tablespoonful of alcohol to that also, +for the head. It helps to toughen the skin, and prevents the baby +from taking cold so easily. + +If the baby seems much frightened by being put into the tub, +spread a bath towel or small thin blanket over it and have someone +hold his hands, so that he will not clutch so wildly at +everything, then lower him into the water, towel and all, and he +will not notice it so much. + +I know of no place where deftness of handling shows to such +advantage as with a baby. He knows well enough if he is handled +properly or not, and his fretful cry, or violent screams, will +tell you without delay if he is not comfortable. + +Once more, let me impress upon the minds of all who read this, the +necessity of having everything used about the tub and subsequent +dressing, warm. Anything cold will make the little one scream, and +I think all nurses will agree with me, that there is no more +nervous work than washing and dressing a baby who is crying (and +once he begins, he is only too apt to keep it up during the entire +time). This is especially true if a weak, ignorant mother is made +nervous by the noise, or a doting grandmother hovers about, making +remarks about "new fashioned ways," and wondering why this child +should cry when his mother was always so good, as a baby, in her +bath. + +Now, as to the time of washing a baby. The morning is +unquestionably the time, but if the baby be very young (less than +two weeks) and has been wakeful during the night, I would let him +have his nap, even if it did delay you and interfere with your +plan of work. If he sleeps he is comfortable, and, unless for some +more serious reason than the bath, he ought not to be disturbed. +This, for babies in private practice. Hospital babies cannot be so +tenderly cared for. When there are ten or eleven to be washed in +one morning, choose, of course, the ones that are awake, as far as +you can, but there will always be one or two sleepy, warm little +ones about whom you will have some twinges of conscience as you +begin to wash their faces, but the work presses so, it must be +done. + +A baby should not be bathed just after nursing, or when he is +hungry. Yet, most little babies go to sleep at the breast, and +very often do not waken until they are once more ready for eating. +This seems like stating a difficult problem, and I know it is not +always easy to select just the proper time, but the best way, I +think, is this. + +If the baby is nursing from the breast, tell the mother, after +this nursing you wish to wash the child, and not to let him go off +for sound sleep. She can prevent it, and keep him for the twenty +minutes or half an hour it is necessary to wait after his meal, +meantime you have time to get everything in readiness for the +bath. It is a great mistake to attempt to bathe a baby when he is +hungry. He will scream for his food from the beginning to the end +of the performance, hesitating occasionally when something warm +touches his mouth, and he eagerly seeks his meal, only to redouble +his cries when not satisfied. Nothing is so persevering in its +endeavors, as a hungry baby. Satisfy its appetite first and wait a +reasonable length of time, wash him deftly and quickly, and he +will be so sleepy by the time you are through, you can lay him in +his bed and he will be asleep in a moment, when you can pick up +all the soiled clothing and the general "mess" of the bathing +operation, and leave the room once more tidy. + +And just here, let me say a little about the washing of the baby's +clothes. Of course the dresses or slips, skirts, and the diapers +go to the laundress. Begin every morning on an entirely new, that +is newly-washed, set of diapers. Gather up all that have been used +the past twenty-four hours and have them washed. Perhaps they may +not be ironed, but washed they should be, every twenty-four hours, +even if you have to do it yourself, and I do not think a nurse +should ever be called upon to do this. Still, I would rather do it +than use a diaper over and over again. + +But it is of the little shirts I particularly wish to speak. I +think the nurse should wash these, also the socks when they need +it, and the knitted shawls most babies wear. It takes very little +time to do this, and if you know how, you will do it much better +than any laundress. The best way to wash these things is in cool +borax water, and if there is any one place the baby has vomited +on, put a little dry powdered borax on (the place being wet), and +rub it in. Then wash by plunging it in the water and squeezing it +out. Do this again and again until the garment is clean. Rinse in +clear cool water, and wring as dry as possible in a towel; then +pull in shape and lay it on a clean towel to dry. It is a good +plan to lay it on a folded towel over a half shut register and +place a single fold of towel over. It will dry very soon. If you +are washing a baby's knitted shawl, be very careful about the +wringing. Lay a large towel (bath towel is the best) out flat, +and, having squeezed the most of the water from the blanket, lay +it carefully on the towel and roll both together, and wring very +tightly. If this towel gets wet take a second. When you are +satisfied that it is as dry as you can make it, lay it out on a +folded sheet on the floor, in some room not much used, and pull +and arrange it into its original shape and size. + +Anything made of Germantown wool stretches terribly, but you can +arrange it as it ought to be. It will look ruffly here and there +and ridgy all over, but when it is dry it will shrink down all +right. Only do not hang it up, and when it is dry you will be +surprised to find it looks as good as new. If you are ever +consulted beforehand as to what would be nice for the baby, use +all your eloquence against _any_ color being put into these +knitted shawls. Germantown wool is the best to use, and plain +knitting or brioche stitch is the best to wear and wash, and these +things must be washed with the most careful handling. On the +nicest baby they will become dirty, and the delicate blues and +pinks become the dismalest wrecks when washed. Therefore, tell +your patient not to put any color in these first plain little +comfortable shawls. They should be a yard long by about three- +quarters wide. Two or three will be all you will need, and do not +use any of the fancy blankets sent in by friends. Lay these all +away, with a sachet bag or two, in some convenient drawer, and +never take them out unless the baby is required to look very fine +for a brief display to some friend. These delicate, fancy trifles +when once wet through or vomited on are ruined, and it should be +your aim to leave everything as good as you found it when you go +from the house. There will be plenty of time after you have left, +for the fond mamma to spoil all the pretty things, and as she does +so she will appreciate more and more your care of them. + + + + +XIII + +THE VALLEY OF THE SHADOW + + +I suppose that no nurse deliberately chooses to go to an incurable +case, yet most of us who have done private nursing have found +ourselves at some time caring for one who slowly, and painfully, +creeps nearer day by day to the great End. We have gone perhaps to +stay a few weeks, for some acute disease, but symptoms have +changed, and instead of recovery, a long, slow decline is to be +faced, the nurse feeling she is needed, decides to stay and do +what she can for the poor failing body, and so the weeks drag on +in the dreadful monotony of that one sick room, until we feel that +we have been left out of the real nursing world, that we are +stranded with our patient upon an island of pain, that there is no +outlook but the one dread Valley, no moving object but the river +of Death, and no hope for the life we are guarding. Each week we +grow more and more rusty as to our hardly-won surgical technic, +more out of touch with those who come and go to one patient after +the other, and who not unnaturally count upon so and so many +victories over the very enemy who we know will overcome the life +we are fighting to save. Yet we realize that all our care will +never bring victory, all our skill can but help to smooth the +rugged pathway, down which the feet must tread alone. The endless +repetition of the same symptoms is wearying, the only possible +variation being some new pain, which indicates another stage in +the development of the disease. An improvement hardly cheers us, +as we know it is but temporary, and maybe followed by an +exacerbation of the trouble. + +Often the actual nursing calls but for a portion of the day, but +that portion is so necessary that the nurse's presence is +imperatively demanded. The remainder of the time little is to be +done, except perhaps a guard maintained over the failing strength, +a watch kept for untoward accidents that might snap the frail +thread that binds the spirit still to earth. Probably the bedroom +must be kept tidy, and the patient's clothing cared for, and the +nurse feels she has degenerated into a servant. + +One who has gone through with an experience like this, and who has +courageously remained with her patient to the end, has passed +through a training more severe than any she has had in her +hospital life, and she has earned a new diploma. + +There are some things which the nurse may do to lighten these dark +days, some things which may help both herself and her patient, and +these I will try to show. + +_Firstly_, it is well to study your case from a pathological +view point. Find out the heredity, the manner of the daily life, +the first manifestation of the disease, what circumstances led to +it, how it was treated, what success the treatment seemed to have, +what symptoms can now be noted, what complications have shown +themselves, and their influence on the original disease. A careful +history could be written embracing all of these points, and as new +symptoms appear they should be observed and noted. All this should +be valuable and should help some future day to show some one who +has but started on the dreaded pathway, how to avoid what will +surely be a fatal disease. Many a valuable paper could be written +in the long hours when the nurse feels she is losing her time, if +she would intelligently study her case, and write the story of the +disease, what led to it, and how it is being combated. + +Perhaps, if it could be arranged, the nurse might be spared part +of a day once or twice a week, and she could go to her hospital +out patient department, or to some dispensary and do some work +that carries a little feeling of success with it; work in a babies +milk station, or almost any of the numerous charitable activities, +would rest and refresh one who has for months been with the same +patient. + +_Secondly_, as a psychological study. We all know we must +die, we feel that we talk to people every day who perhaps will not +be alive a twelvemonth hence; but we are not actually certain that +ourselves or any of our friends will so soon be dead, and we +habitually act and speak as if we all were to live on indefinitely. +So to be closely associated with some one who we know is +drawing closer and closer to the life beyond the grave, is a +very solemn thing; whether the sick one knows it or not, the +nurse knows it, and such an one must be viewed with peculiar +interest. + +She is so near to knowing the great Mystery. She will so soon see +those who have gone before. The present helplessness will so +marvelously become Life Everlasting. It seems, as the end comes +nearer, and yet more near, as if, perhaps, one could send a +message to some of our own loved ones gone on before, "If you see +some of my dear ones, on that other shore, bear them a loving +greeting from me, tell them I am trying to live as they would have +me live." Such a thought trembles on the tongue, so near does the +unseen seem to come to us. + +In the face of these things, how small do the thoughts of our own +dignity seem. It is all _service_, and service is what we +were made for. + +"I pass this way but once, if, therefore, there is _any_ +service I can perform for my fellow man let me do it now, for I +shall not pass this way again." This quotation is familiar to all, +and especially does it come to mind when we minister to those who +are to die. When they are gone there will be no bringing them back +to explain duties slighted or left undone. "We pass this way but +once." + +_Thirdly_, from a religious point of view. It is quite +impossible to say, what exactly is the nurse's duty as regards the +religious side of her ministration, though the wish to help must +be often in the mind of every thoughtful nurse who has charge of +an incurable case. + +The patient may not know her condition, and the doctor may not +wish her to be told, then, of course, the nurse's lips must be +sealed, as to any allusion to the dread truth. The religious views +of the patient and her friends may be different from anything that +the nurse knows, or perhaps the family pastor comes frequently, +and instructs and comforts the sick one, and the family. + +A patient will sometimes _ask_ for the reading of some +portion of the Bible, and unless the part is specified the nurse +may be at a loss just where to turn. Some parts of the Scriptures +are so generally known and accepted, that they can hardly fail to +give hope and comfort, no matter what the religious teaching may +have been heretofore. + +I will suggest then _in case_ readings are asked for. The +Psalms are full of beautiful comforting thoughts and prayers. The +23d has helped many a poor soul about to take its last journey, +the 37th, which begins "Fret not thyself," shows that those are +truly blessed who trust in the Lord, the 51st, "Have mercy upon +me, O God," teaches repentance, the 42d, "As the hart pants after +the water-brooks, so longeth my soul for Thee, O God," shows the +desire of the soul for God. + +In the New Testament, the 14th chapter of St. John's gospel is a +universal favorite, on account of its comforting thoughts "In my +Father's house are many mansions." In St. Luke's gospel chapter +15th, verse 11, we have the parable of the Prodigal Son, to show +how complete and perfect is God's love, and His forgiveness, when +sin is forsaken. In 1st Corinthians, 15th chapter, verse 20, we +have a masterly argument for the resurrection from the dead, and a +life beyond the grave. In Revelations, 14th chapter, 13th verse, +is a very comforting thought for those who have led a strenuous +life and are in much suffering. + +These few references will help, I hope, if any nurse is called +upon to read the Bible, and she feels a little nonplussed as to +exactly where to turn. + +There are of course innumerable passages besides these, that could +be found by the aid of a concordance, and which it would be wise +to note on a slip of paper, ready for any call. Sometimes a +patient will ask for a prayer, and it is not often that a nurse +would feel competent to kneel down by the bedside and make an +acceptable extemporaneous prayer, so I would suggest buying a +volume of "Prayers for the Sick." + +Very tiny, dainty little books can be purchased at the church book +stores, full of these prayers. + +In the Episcopal Book of Common Prayer are many helpful prayers. + +The sentence, the collect, and the whole of the Easter service in +this book are radiant with the truths of the Resurrection, and the +Easter hymns are tuned to the same inspiring theme. + +This last thought I leave with you. What more helpful +consideration can come to a weary nurse, than that the sick one to +whom she has ministered for so many weeks or months should at +last, on entering in to the life Eternal, lay before the Lord of +Glory, the name of the one who was with her, who helped her, who +cared for her, and who was faithful to her trust to the end? + + + + + +End of the Project Gutenberg EBook of Making Good On Private Duty +by Harriet Camp Lounsbery + +*** END OF THE PROJECT GUTENBERG EBOOK MAKING GOOD ON PRIVATE DUTY *** + +This file should be named 6361.txt or 6361.zip + +Produced by Ralph Zimmerman, Charles Franks +and the Online Distributed Proofreading Team. + +Project Gutenberg eBooks are often created from several printed +editions, all of which are confirmed as Public Domain in the US +unless a copyright notice is included. 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