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You may copy it, give it away or +re-use it under the terms of the Project Gutenberg License included +with this eBook or online at www.gutenberg.org + + +Title: The Girl Wanted + +Author: Nixon Waterman + +Release Date: September 21, 2008 [EBook #26683] + +Language: English + +Character set encoding: ISO-8859-1 + +*** START OF THIS PROJECT GUTENBERG EBOOK THE GIRL WANTED *** + + + + +Produced by Roger Frank and the Online Distributed +Proofreading Team at https://www.pgdp.net + + + + + + +</pre> + +<hr class='silver' /> +<div class='figcenter'><img src='images/illus-cover.jpg' alt='' title='' style= +'width: 450px; height: 679px;' /><br /></div> +<hr class='silver' /> +<div class='figcenter'><a id='frontis' name='frontis'></a><img src= +'images/illus-fpc.jpg' alt='' title='' style= +'width: 352px; height: 486px;' /><br /> +<p class='caption' style='margin: 0 auto; text-align:center;width: 352px;'> +MARTHA WASHINGTON<br /></p> +</div> +<hr class='silver' /> +<table width="460" style="margin: auto; border: solid 1px;" summary=""> +<tr><td><span style='font-size:2.2em;'> </span></td></tr> +<tr> +<td align='center' valign='bottom' ><span style='font-size:2.2em;'>THE GIRL WANTED</span></td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='center' valign='bottom'><span style='font-size:1.2em;'>A BOOK OF FRIENDLY THOUGHTS</span></td> +</tr> +<tr><td><span style='font-size:2.2em;'> </span></td></tr> +<tr> +<td align='center' valign='bottom'><span style='font-size:1em;'>BY</span></td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='center' valign='bottom'><span style='font-size:1.2em;'>NIXON WATERMAN</span></td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='center' valign='bottom'><span style='font-size:0.8em;'>AUTHOR OF "BOY WANTED,"<br /> +"A BOOK OF VERSES," "IN<br /> +MERRY MOOD," ETC.</span></td> +</tr> +<tr><td><span style='font-size:2.2em;'> </span></td></tr> +<tr> +<td align='center' valign='top'> </td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td> +<div class="figcenter"><img src="images/illus-title.jpg" alt="" /></div> +</td> +</tr> +<tr><td><span style='font-size:2.2em;'> </span></td></tr> +<tr> +<td align='center' valign='top'> </td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='center' valign='top'><span style='font-size:1em;'>CHICAGO</span><br /> +<span style='font-size:1.2em;'>FORBES AND COMPANY</span><br /> +<span style='font-size:1em;'>1919</span></td> +</tr> +<tr><td><span style='font-size:2.2em;'> </span></td></tr> +</table> +<hr class='silver' /> +<p style='text-align:center; width:600px;'><span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Copyright, 1910, By<br /> +Forbes and Company</span></p> +<hr class='silver' /> +<table style="margin: auto;" summary=""> +<tr> +<td align="center">TO</td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align="center">—The girl wanted, who,<br /> +    By her beautiful ways,<br /> +Shall brighten and gladden<br /> +    Life’s wonderful days.</td> +</tr> +</table> +<hr class='silver' /> +<p style='width: 600px; text-align: center; margin-bottom: 1.2em;'>PREFACE</p> +<p style='width: 600px;'>The pleasure of giving to the public this volume has +been brought about by the publication of the author’s work entitled, +"Boy Wanted," which he presented as "a book of cheerful counsel +to his young friends and such of the seniors as are not too old to accept a bit +of friendly admonition."</p> +<p style='width: 600px;'>The warm welcome accorded that book, and the many +requests it has called forth for a similar companion volume for girls, has +prompted the author to prepare the series of papers offered herewith, with the +hope that they, too, may find as many youthful friends (between the ages of +seven and seventy) awaiting them.</p> +<p style='width: 600px;'>In the present volume, as in "Boy Wanted," +the fine prose thoughts are selected from the writings of a very large number +of the world’s foremost teachers and philosophers of all times, while the +author, with a due sense of modesty, lays claim to all such examples of +versification as are to be found within this book.</p> +<p style='width: 600px;'>In these days when the women of the world, with such +splendid success, are writing books for the moral guidance and spiritual uplift +of the men and youth of every land, an author need not feel called upon to +apologize when he presumes to address his remarks to readers of the opposite +sex, as did John Ruskin, to such fine purpose, in the "Pearls for Young +Ladies."</p> +<p style='width: 600px;'>Since his own mother, wife, sisters, daughters and +many of his best friends belong to the feminine half of humanity, any man who +is a careful observer, a logical reasoner, and an adequate writer ought to be +able to say something of worth and interest to the women and girls to whom he +is permitted to address himself. If in this volume the author is able to impart +to others, in a small degree, the beneficent influence he has received through +the splendid precepts and noble examples of the women to whom he owes so much, +he will deem himself grandly rewarded for the labor of love herein set +forth.</p> +<p style='width: 600px;'>Nor is the author unconscious of the great purpose +that should underlie the writing of a series of papers designed to direct the +daughters of our land toward the greatest factor in the making and the +perpetuity of a nation—a noble and beautiful womanhood. For observation +has taught the world that—</p> +<p style='margin-left: 10%;'>We’re almost sure to find good men,<br /> +    When, all in all, we choose to take them,<br /> +Are, nearly nine times out of ten,<br /> +    What mothers, wives and sisters make them.<br /></p> +<p style='width: 600px; text-align:right;'>N. W.</p> +<hr class='silver' /> +<p style='width: 600px; text-align: center; margin-bottom: 1.2em;'>CONTENTS</p> +<table style="margin: auto; width:500px" summary="TOC"> +<col style="width:10%;" /> +<col style="width:82%;" /> +<col style="width:8%;" /> +<tr> +<td align='left'><span style='font-size: small'>CHAPTER</span></td> +<td align='left'> </td> +<td align='right'><span style='font-size: small'>PAGE</span></td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'>I</td> +<td align='left'>CHOOSING THE WAY</td> +<td align='right'><a href="#page_13">13</a></td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'> </td> +<td align='left'>Starting right. The strength of early impressions. +"Environment." The will and the way. Planning the future. +"Mother’s Apron Strings."</td> +<td align='right'> </td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'>II</td> +<td align='left'>ACCOMPLISHMENTS</td> +<td align='right'><a href="#page_27">27</a></td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'> </td> +<td align='left'>The ability to do things. Elegant and useful accomplishments. +The value of thoroughness. "What Have We Done To-day?" The service of +the heart. "Sympathy." "Only A Word."</td> +<td align='right'> </td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'>III</td> +<td align='left'>THE JOY OF DOING</td> +<td align='right'><a href="#page_45">45</a></td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'> </td> +<td align='left'>The power of enthusiasm. Working with heart and hand. Looking +on the bright side. "Just This Minute." Happiness and its relation to +health. Paths of sunshine. "The Sculptor."</td> +<td align='right'> </td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'>IV</td> +<td align='left'>SOME EVERY-DAY VIRTUES</td> +<td align='right'><a href="#page_65">65</a></td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'> </td> +<td align='left'>The desire to do right. The importance of every-day incidents. +True culture. "A Rose to the Living." Patience as a virtue. +"This Busy World."</td> +<td align='right'> </td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'>V</td> +<td align='left'>THE VALUE OF SUNSHINE</td> +<td align='right'><a href="#page_85">85</a></td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'> </td> +<td align='left'>"Likableness" as a desirable quality. The present +the best of all times. The sunshiny girl. "The Prize Winner." The +necessity of being prepared. "The Conqueror."</td> +<td align='right'> </td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'>VI</td> +<td align='left'>A MERRY HEART</td> +<td align='right'><a href="#page_105">105</a></td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'> </td> +<td align='left'>Smoothing the way with a smile. The unselfishness of +happiness. "The Point of View." The joy of living for others. +"The Better Armor." Cultivating happiness. "Song or +Sigh."</td> +<td align='right'> </td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'>VII</td> +<td align='left'>GOLDEN HABITS</td> +<td align='right'><a href="#page_125">125</a></td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'> </td> +<td align='left'>Good habits and bad. The strength of habit. "True +Gentility." Manners and personality. "What Are You Going to Do?" +The worth of good breeding. "Drudgery."</td> +<td align='right'> </td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'>VIII</td> +<td align='left'>THE PURPOSE OF LIFE</td> +<td align='right'><a href="#page_145">145</a></td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'> </td> +<td align='left'>The inspiration of success. Building day by day. "Morning +Gates." The value of a purpose. Women’s growing sphere. "Man, +Poor Man." Opportunities and responsibilities. "Morning +Prayer."</td> +<td align='right'> </td> +</tr> +</table> +<hr class='silver' /> +<p style='width: 600px; text-align: center; margin-bottom: 1.2em;'> +ILLUSTRATIONS</p> +<table style="margin: auto; width:500px; font-variant: small-caps;" summary= +"Illustrations"> +<col style="width:82%;" /> +<col style="width:18%;" /> +<tr> +<td align='left'>Martha Washington</td> +<td align='right'><a href="#frontis">Frontispiece</a></td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'>Queen Victoria</td> +<td align='right'>"    <a href="#page_26">26</a></td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'>Harriet Beecher Stowe</td> +<td align='right'>"    <a href="#page_44">44</a></td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'>Louisa M. Alcott</td> +<td align='right'>"    <a href="#page_64">64</a></td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'>Julia Ward Howe</td> +<td align='right'>"    <a href="#page_84">84</a></td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'>Elizabeth Barrett Browning</td> +<td align='right'>"  <a href="#page_104">104</a></td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'>Florence Nightingale</td> +<td align='right'>"  <a href="#page_124">124</a></td> +</tr> +<tr> +<td align='left'>George Eliot</td> +<td align='right'>"  <a href="#page_144">144</a></td> +</tr> +</table> +<hr class='silver' /> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_13' name= +'page_13'></a>13</span></div> +<p style='width:600px; margin-bottom:30px; text-align:center;'><span style= +'font-size:x-large'>THE GIRL WANTED</span><br /> +<br /> +<span style='font-size:larger;'>CHAPTER I</span><br /> +<span style='font-size:larger;'>CHOOSING THE WAY</span></p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>What can be expressed in words can be expressed in +life.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Thoreau.</span></span>Yes, +my good girl, I am very glad that we are to have the opportunity to enjoy a +friendly chat through the medium of the printed page, with its many tongues of +type.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>It is faith in something and enthusiasm for something +that makes a life worth looking at.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Oliver Wendell Holmes.</span></span> Just here I +have a favor to ask of you, and that is that you will consent to let us talk +chiefly about yourself and the manner in which you are going to live all the +golden to-morrows that are awaiting you.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>The habit of viewing things cheerfully, and of +thinking about life hopefully, may be made to grow up in us like any other +habit.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Smiles.</span></span> In a +discussion of the topics which are to follow, it will be well for you to +understand that there has never been a period in the world’s history when +a girl was of more importance than she is just now. Indeed, many close +observers and clear thinkers are of the opinion that there <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_14' name='page_14'></a>14</span> never has been a +time when a girl was of <span class='sidenote'>A laugh is worth a hundred +groans in any state of the market.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Charles Lamb</span>.</span> quite so much importance +as she is to-day.</p> +<p>Some of our most able writers tell us that we are just on the threshold of +"the women’s century," and that the great advance the world is +to witness in the forthcoming years is to be largely inspired by, and redound +to the glory of, the women of the earth.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>The old days never come again, because they would be +getting in the way of the new, better days whose turn it is.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>George MacDonald</span>.</span> Come what will, the +future is sufficiently alluring to cause you to cherish it most fondly and to +determine that you will make the years that are before you as bright and +beautiful and as "worth while" as it is possible for you to do.</p> +<p>It is a glorious privilege to dwell in the very forefront of time, in the +grandest epoch of the world’s history and to feel that we are permitted +to be observers of, and if it may so be, active participants in, the +fascinating events that are occurring all about us.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>The man who has learned to take things as they come, +and to let go as they depart, has mastered one of the arts of cheerful and +contented living.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Anonymous</span>.</span> Yet with all the grand +achievements that are being encompassed in every field of human endeavor, the +world to-day, needs most, that which the world has ever most needed—words +helpful and true, hearts kind and tender, hands <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_15' name='page_15'></a>15</span> willing and +ready to lift the less fortunate over the rough places in the paths of life, +goodness and grace, gentle women and gentlemen.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Cheerfulness is the very flower of +health.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Schopenhauer</span>.</span> And so here we find +ourselves, just at this particular spot and at this very moment, with all of +the days, months, years—yes, the whole of eternity—still to be +lived!</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>There are people who do not know how to waste their +time alone, and hence become the scourge of busy people.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>De Bonald.</span></span> At first thought it seems +like a great problem, does this having to decide how we are going to live out +all the great future that is before us. Yet, when we come to think it over, we +see that it is not so difficult after all; for, fortunate mortals that we are, +we shall never have to live it but one moment at a time. And, better still, +that one moment is always to be the one that is right here and just now where +we can see it and study it and shape it and do with it as we will.</p> +<p>Just this minute!</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Not what has happened to myself to-day, but what has +happened to others through me—that should be my thought. +—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Frederick Deering +Blake</span>.</span> Surely it will not require a great deal of effort on the +part of any one of us to live the next sixty seconds as they should be lived. +And having lived one moment properly, it ought to be still easier for us to +live the next one as well, and then the next, and the next until, <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_16' name='page_16'></a>16</span> finally, we +continue to live them rightly, just as a matter of habit.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Let us be of good cheer, remembering that the +misfortunes hardest to bear are those which never come.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Lowell</span>.</span> When we come to understand +clearly that time is the thing of which lives are made, and that time is +divided into a certain number of units, we can then pretty closely figure out, +by simple processes in arithmetic, how much life is going to be worth to +us.</p> +<p>What we are doing this minute, multiplied by sixty, tells us what we are +likely to accomplish in an hour.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>The highest luxury of which the human mind is +sensible is to call smiles upon the face of misery.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Anonymous</span>.</span> What we do in an hour, +multiplied by the number of working hours in every twenty-four, tells us what +we may expect to achieve in a day.</p> +<p>What we do in a day, multiplied by three hundred and sixty-five, shows us +what it is probable we shall accomplish in a year.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>He who is plenteously provided for from within, needs +but little from without.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Goethe</span>.</span> What we do in a year, when +multiplied by the number of years of youth and health and strength, we have +reason to believe are yet before us, sets forth the result we may hope to +secure in a lifetime. For it is not hard for us to comprehend that. +<span class='sidenote'>Each day should be distinguished by at least one +particular act of love.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Lavater</span>.</span> <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_17' name='page_17'></a>17</span></p> +<p class='poetry'>If, ever, while this minute’s +here,<br /> +    We use it circumspectly,<br /> +We’ll live this hour, this day, this year,<br /> +    Yes, all our lives, correctly.</p> +<p>As the work of the builder is preceded by the plans of the architect, so the +deeds we do in life are preceded by the thoughts we think. The thought is the +plan; the deed is the structure.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Every person is responsible for all the good within +the scope of his abilities, and for no more; and none can tell whose sphere is +the largest.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Gail +Hamilton.</span></span> "As the twig is bent the tree is inclined." +Wordsworth tells us: "The child is father of the man." Which means, +also, that the child is mother of the woman. That which we dream to-day we may +do to-morrow. The toys of childhood become the tools of our maturer years.</p> +<p>So it follows that an important part of the work and occupation of +one’s early years should be to learn to have right thoughts, which, later +on in life, are to become right actions.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Work is the very salt of life, not only preserving it +from decay, but also giving it tone and flavor.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Hugh Black</span>.</span> The pleasant, helpful girl +is most likely to become the pleasant, helpful woman. The seed that is sown in +the springtime of life determines the character of the harvest that must be +reaped in the autumn. <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_18' name= +'page_18'></a>18</span></p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Treat your friends for what you know them to be. +Regard no surfaces. Consider not what they did, but what they +intended.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Thoreau</span>.</span> +The cultivation of the right point of view means so much in determining +one’s attitude toward all that the years may bring. Three centuries ago +it was written: "What is one man’s poison is another’s meat or +drink." So there are many things in life that bring pleasure to some and +distress to others.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Work! It is the sole law of the +world.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Emile Zola</span>.</span> +There is a beautiful little story about a shepherd boy who was keeping his +sheep in a flowery meadow, and because his heart was happy, he sang so loudly +that the surrounding hills echoed back his song. One morning the king, who was +out hunting, spoke to him and said: "Why are you so happy, my +boy?"</p> +<p>"Why should I not be happy?" answered the boy. "Our king is +not richer than I."</p> +<p>"Indeed," said the king, "pray tell me of your great +possessions."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>No lot is so hard, no aspect of things is so grim, +but it relaxes before a hearty laugh.— <span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>George S. Merriam</span>.</span> The shepherd boy +answered: "The sun in the bright blue sky shines as brightly upon me as +upon the king. The flowers upon the mountain and the grass in the valley grow +and bloom to gladden my sight as well as his. I would not take a fortune for my +hands; my eyes are of more value than all the precious stones <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_19' name='page_19'></a>19</span> in the world. I +have food and clothing, too. Am I not, therefore, as rich as the +king?"</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Concentration is the secret of +strength.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Emerson</span>.</span> +"You are right," said the king, with a smile, "but your greatest +treasure is your contented heart. Keep it so, and you will always be +happy."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Anybody can do things with an +"if"—the thing is to do them without.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Patrick Flynn</span>.</span> So much of life’s +happiness depends upon one’s immediate surroundings that wherever it is a +matter of choice they should be made to conform as nearly as possible to the +thoughts and tastes one wishes to cultivate. As a matter of course but few +persons can have just the surroundings they would like, but it <span class= +'sidenote'>An aim in life is the only fortune worth the finding; and it is not +to be found in foreign lands, but in the heart itself.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>R. L. Stevenson</span>.</span> is possible that by +pleasant thinking all of us can make the surroundings we have more likable. We +can, at least, be thoughtful of the character of the friends and companions we +choose to have with us, and it is they who are the most vital and influential +part of our</p> +<p class='topic'>ENVIRONMENT</p> +<p class='poetry'><span class='sidenote'>It is better +to be worn out with work in a thronged community than to perish of inaction in +a stagnant solitude.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Mrs. +Gaskell</span>.</span> Shine or shadow, flame or frost,<br /> +Zephyr-kissed or tempest-tossed,<br /> +Night or day, or dusk or dawn,<br /> +We are strangely lived upon.</p> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_20' name= +'page_20'></a>20</span></div> +<p class='poetry'>Mystic builders in the +brain—<br /> +Mirth and sorrow, joy and pain,<br /> +Grief and gladness, gloom and light—<br /> +Build, oh, build my heart aright!</p> +<p class='poetry'>O ye friends, with pleasant +smiles,<br /> +Help me build my precious whiles;<br /> +Bring me blocks of gold to make<br /> +Strength that wrong shall never shake.</p> +<p class='poetry'>Day by day I gather from<br /> +All you give me. I become<br /> +Yet a part of all I meet<br /> +In the fields and in the street.</p> +<p class='poetry'><span class='sidenote'>The advantage +of leisure is mainly that we have the power of choosing our own work; not +certainly that it confers any privilege of idleness.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Lord Avebury</span>.</span> Bring me songs of hope +and youth,<br /> +Bring me bands of steel and truth,<br /> +Bring me love wherein to find<br /> +Charity for all mankind.</p> +<p class='poetry'>Place within my hands the +tools<br /> +And the Master Builder’s rules,<br /> +That the walls we fashion may<br /> +Stand forever and a day.</p> +<p class='poetry'>Help me build a palace where<br /> +All is wonderfully fair—<br /> +Built of truth, the while, above,<br /> +Shines the pinnacle of love.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Suffering becomes beautiful, when any one bears great +calamities with cheerfulness, not through insensibility, but through greatness +of mind.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Aristotle</span>.</span> +If we are to receive help and strength from our friends we must lend them help +and strength in return. And since the deeds of others inspire us we should +<span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_21' name='page_21'></a>21</span> not +deem it impossible to make our deeds inspire them.</p> +<p>Helen Keller, who, though deaf and <span class='sidenote'>Character is a +perfectly educated will.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Novalis</span>.</span> blind, has achieved so many +wonderful and beautiful victories over the barriers that have beset her, says: +"My share in the work of the world may be limited, but the fact that it is +work makes it precious.... Darwin could work only half an hour at a time; yet +in many diligent half-hours he laid anew the foundations of philosophy.... +Green, the historian, tells us that the world is moved along, not only by the +mighty shoves of its heroes, but also by the aggregate of the tiny pushes of +each honest worker."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>One of the most massive and enduring gratifications +is the feeling of personal worth, ever afresh, brought into consciousness by +effectual action; and an idle life is balked of its hopes partly because it +lacks this.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Herbert +Spencer</span>.</span> In the same spirit the great French savant, Emile Zola, +penned these words: "Let each one accept his task, a task which should +fill his life. It may be very humble; it will not be the less useful. Never +mind what it is, so long as it exists and keeps you erect! When you have +regulated it, without excess—just the quantity you are able to accomplish +each day—it will cause you to live in health and in joy."</p> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_22' name= +'page_22'></a>22</span></div> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Truth is always consistent with itself, and needs +nothing to help it out.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Tillotson</span>.</span> Some wise observer has said +that one of the chief aims of life should be to learn how to grow old +gracefully. This knowledge is deemed by many to be a great secret and a most +valuable one. Yet it can hardly be called a secret since every girl and boy as +well as every person <span class='sidenote'>He that is choice of his time will +be choice of his company and choice of his actions.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Jeremy Taylor</span>.</span> of maturer years must +know that it is but the working out of the laws of cause and effect. When +character-building is begun on the right lines and those lines are followed to +the end the result is as certain as it is beautiful. When we see a grandmother +whose life has been lived on the happy plane of pure thoughts and kind deeds we +ought not to wonder that her old age is as exquisite as was the perfect bloom +of her youth. We need not marvel how it has come about that her life has been a +long and happy one. Here is the "secret:"</p> +<p>She knew how to forget disagreeable things.</p> +<p>She kept her nerves well in hand and inflicted them on no one.</p> +<p>She mastered the art of saying pleasant things.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Our character is our will; for what we will we +are.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Archbishop +Manning</span>.</span> She did not expect too much from her friends.</p> +<p>She made whatever work came to her congenial. <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_23' name='page_23'></a>23</span></p> +<p>She retained her faith in others and did not believe all the world wicked +and unkind.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>He overcomes a stout enemy that overcomes his own +anger.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Chilo</span>.</span> She +relieved the miserable and sympathized with the sorrowful.</p> +<p>She never forgot that kind words and a smile cost nothing, but are priceless +treasures to the discouraged.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Good company and good conversation are the sinews of +virtue.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Stephen +Allen</span>.</span> She did unto others as she would be done by, and now that +old age has come to her, and there is a halo of white hair about her brow, she +is loved and considered. This is the "secret" of a long life and a +happy one.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>If you have great talents, industry will improve +them; if you have but moderate abilities, industry will supply their deficiency. +Nothing is denied to well directed labor; nothing is to be obtained without +it.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Joshua Reynolds</span>.</span> +Fortunate is the girl who is permitted to dwell within the living presence of +such a matron and to be directed by her into the paths of usefulness and +sunshine. And thrice fortunate is every girl who has for her guide and +counselor a loving mother to whom she can go for light and wisdom with which to +meet all the problems of life.</p> +<p>"Mother knows." Her earnest, loving words are to be cherished +above all others as many men and many women have learned after the long miles +and <span class='sidenote'>If you are doing any real good you cannot escape the +reward of your service.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Patrick +Flynn</span>.</span> the busy years have crept between them and "the old +folks at home." Do not, <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_24' +name='page_24'></a>24</span> O Girl! I pray you, ever grow impatient, as boys +sometimes do, to be set beyond the protecting care of</p> +<p class='topic'>MOTHER’S APRON-STRINGS</p> +<p class='poetry'><span class='sidenote'>Simplicity +and plainness are the soul of elegance.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Dickens</span>.</span> When I was but a careless +youth,<br /> +    I thought the truly great<br /> +Were those who had attained, in truth,<br /> +    To man’s mature estate.<br /> +And none my soul so sadly tried<br /> +    Or spoke such bitter things<br /> +As he who said that I was tied<br /> +    To mother’s apron-strings.</p> +<p class='poetry'>I loved my mother, yet it +seemed<br /> +    That I must break away<br /> +And find the broader world I dreamed<br /> +    Beyond her presence lay.<br /> +But I have sighed and I have cried<br /> +    O’er all the cruel stings<br /> +I would have missed had I been tied<br /> +    To mother’s apron-strings.</p> +<p class='poetry'><span class='sidenote'>Happiness is +one of the virtues which the people of all nationalities and every pursuit +appreciate.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Joe Mitchell +Chapple</span>.</span> O happy, trustful girls and boys!<br /> +    The mother’s way is best.<br /> +She leads you ’mid the fairest joys,<br /> +    Through paths of peace and rest.<br /> +If you would have the safest guide,<br /> +    And drink from sweetest springs,<br /> +Oh, keep your hearts forever tied<br /> +    To mother’s apron-strings.</p> +<hr class='silver' /> +<div class='figcenter'><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_26' name= +'page_26'></a>26</span><img src='images/illus-026.jpg' alt='' title='' style= +'width: 348px; height: 483px;' /><br /> +<p class='caption' style='margin: 0 auto; text-align:center;width: 348px;'> +QUEEN VICTORIA<br /></p> +</div> +<hr class='silver' /> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_27' name= +'page_27'></a>27</span></div> +<p style='width:600px; margin-bottom:30px; text-align:center;'><span style= +'font-size:larger;'>CHAPTER II</span><br /> +<span style='font-size:larger;'>ACCOMPLISHMENTS</span></p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Only to the pure and the true does Nature resign +herself and reveal her secrets.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Goethe</span>.</span> I am sure that every girl +wishes to become accomplished, and I am quite as certain that every girl can +become so if she will.</p> +<p>My dictionary defines an accomplishment as an "acquirement or +attainment that tends to perfect or equip in character, manners, or +person."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Every man carries with him the world in which he must +live, the stage and the scenery for his own play.— <span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>F. Marion Crawford</span>.</span> Surely every girl +can do something, or has acquired some special line of knowledge, that is +covered by this broad definition.</p> +<p>It means that every girl who can sweep a room; read French or German +<span class='sidenote'>The best is yet unwritten, for we grow from more to +more.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Sam Walter +Foss</span>.</span> or English as it should be read; bake a loaf of bread; play +tennis; darn a stocking; play the violin or pianoforte; give the names of +flowers and birds and butterflies; write a neat, well-composed letter, either +in longhand or shorthand; draw or paint pictures; make a bed or <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_28' name='page_28'></a>28</span><span class= +'sidenote'>Notwithstanding a faculty be born with us, there are several methods +for cultivating and improving it.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Addison</span>.</span> do one or more of a thousand +and one other things is accomplished. The more things she can do and the +greater the number of subjects on which she is informed, the more highly is she +accomplished.</p> +<p>It is understood, as a matter of course, that thoroughness in one’s +accomplishments is the true measure of his worth. One who knows a few subjects +very well is no doubt more accomplished than one who has only a superficial +"smatter" of knowledge concerning many.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Every truth in the universe makes a close joint with +every other truth.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Melvin L. +Severy</span>.</span> We can all readily understand how much more pleasing it +is to hear a true virtuoso play the violin or pianoforte than it is to listen +to a beginner who can perform indifferently on a number of instruments.</p> +<p>"A little diamond is worth a mountain of glass."</p> +<p>Quality is the thing that counts.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>All flimsy, shallow, and superficial work is a lie, +of which a man ought to be ashamed.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>John Stuart Blackie</span>.</span> The desire and +disposition to do a thing well, coupled with a firm determination, are pretty +sure to bring the ability necessary for achieving the wished-for end. The will +is lacking more often than is the way.</p> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_29' name= +'page_29'></a>29</span></div> +<p><span class='sidenote'>When we cease to learn, we cease to be +interesting.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>John Lancaster +Spalding</span>.</span> It is a matter of frequent comment that we usually +expect too much of the average young and attractive girl in the way of +accomplishments. Because she is pleasing in her general appearance we are apt +to feel a sense of disappointment if we find that her qualities of mind do not +equal her outward charms.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>The workless people are the worthless +people.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Wm. C. +Gannett</span>.</span> Charles Lamb says: "I know that sweet children are +the sweetest things in nature," and adds, "but the prettier the kind +of a thing is, the more desirable it is that it should be pretty of its +kind." And so it is with girls who are bright and blithe and beautiful; +the world would give them every charming quality of mind and heart to match the +grace of face and figure.</p> +<p>Hence we find that the girl who is most fondly wanted, by the members of her +own family, by her schoolmates, and by all with whom she shall form an +acquaintance, is the one who is as pleasing in her manners as she is beautiful +in her physical features.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Our ideals are our better selves.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Bronson Alcott</span>.</span> Of all the +accomplishments it is possible for a girl to possess, that of being pleasant +and gracious to those about her is the greatest and most desirable. "There +is no beautifier of the complexion, <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id= +'page_30' name='page_30'></a>30</span></p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>All literature, art, and science are vain, and worse, +if they do not enable you to be glad, and glad, justly.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Ruskin</span>.</span> or form, or behavior, like the +wish to scatter joy and not pain around us," says Emerson.</p> +<p>It is possible for persons to acquire a great deal of information and to +become skillful in many things and still be unloved by those with whom they are +associated.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>All things else are of the earth, but love is of the +sky.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>William Stanley +Braithwaite</span>.</span> The heart needs to be educated even more than the +mind, for it is the heart that dominates and colors and gives character and +meaning to the whole of life. Even the kindest of words have little meaning +unless there is a kind heart to make them stand for something that will +live.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>To fill the hour, that is +happiness.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Emerson</span>.</span> +"You will find as you look back upon your life," says Drummond, +"that the moments that stand out, the moments when you have really lived, +are the moments when you have done things in a spirit of love. As memory scans +the past, above and beyond all the transitory <span class='sidenote'>Ah, well +that in a wintry hour the heart can sing a summer song.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Edward Francis Burns</span>.</span> pleasures of +life, there leap forward those supreme hours when you have been enabled to do +unnoticed kindnesses to those round about you, things too trifling to speak +about, but which you feel have entered into your eternal <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_31' name='page_31'></a>31</span> <span class= +'sidenote'>Avast there! Keep a bright lookout forward and good luck to +you.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Dickens</span>.</span> life +... Everything else in our lives is transitory. Every other good is visionary. +But the acts of love which no man knows about, or can ever know +about—they never fail."</p> +<p>It is the ability to do the many little acts of kindness, and to make the +most of all the opportunities for gladding the lives of others, that constitute +the finest accomplishment any girl can acquire.</p> +<p>It often happens that the thought of the great kindnesses we should like to +do, and which we mean to do, "sometime" in the days to come, keeps us +from seeing the many little favors we could, if we would, grant to those just +about us at the present time. Yet we all know that it is not the things we are +going to do that really count. It is the thing that we do do that is worth +while.</p> +<p>No doubt we should all be much more thoughtful of our many present +opportunities and make better use of them were we frequently to ask +ourselves,</p> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_32' name= +'page_32'></a>32</span></div> +<p class='topic'>WHAT HAVE WE DONE TO-DAY?</p> +<p class='poetry'><span class='sidenote'>Genius is the +transcendent capacity for taking trouble first of all.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Carlyle</span>.</span> We shall do so much in the +years to come,<br /> +    But what have we done to-day?<br /> +We shall give our gold in a princely sum,<br /> +    But what did we give to-day?<br /> +We shall lift the heart and dry the tear,<br /> +<span class='sidenote'>For dreams, to those of steadfast hope and will, are +things wherewith they build their world of fact.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Alicia K. Van Buren</span>.</span> We shall plant a +hope in the place of fear,<br /> +We shall speak the words of love and cheer;<br /> +    But what did we speak to-day?</p> +<p class='poetry'>We shall be so kind in the after +while,<br /> +    But what have we been to-day?<br /> +<span class='sidenote'>Love is the leaven of existence.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Melvin L. Severy</span>.</span> We shall bring each +lonely life a smile,<br /> +    But what have we brought to-day?<br /> +We shall give to truth a grander birth,<br /> +And to steadfast faith a deeper worth,<br /> +We shall feed the hungering souls of earth;<br /> +    But whom have we fed to-day?</p> +<p class='poetry'><span class='sidenote'>No man can +rest who has nothing to do.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Sam +Walter Foss</span>.</span> We shall reap such joys in the by and by,<br /> +    But what have we sown to-day?<br /> +We shall build us mansions in the sky,<br /> +    But what have we built to-day?<br /> +’T is sweet in idle dreams to bask,<br /> +But here and now do we do our task?<br /> +Yes, this is the thing our souls must ask,<br /> +    "What have we done to-day?"</p> +<p>Among the every-day accomplishments which everyone should wish to possess is +a knowledge of the fine art of smiling. To know how and when to smile, not too +much and not too little, is a fine mental and social possession.</p> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_33' name= +'page_33'></a>33</span></div> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Work is no disgrace but idleness +is.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Hesiod</span>.</span> +Hawthorne says: "If I value myself on anything it is on having a smile +that children love." Any one possessing a smile that children as well as +others may love is to be congratulated. A pleasant, smiling face is of great +worth to its possessor and to the world that is privileged to look upon it.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Shoddy work is not only a wrong to a man’s own +personal integrity, hurting his character; but also it is a wrong to society. +Truthfulness in work is as much demanded as truthfulness in speech.— +<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Hugh Black</span>.</span> A smile is an +indication that the one who is smiling is happy and every happy person helps to +make every one else happy. Yet we all understand that happiness does not mean +smiling all the time. There is truly nothing more distressing than a giggler or +one who is forever grimacing. "True happiness," says one of our most +cheerful writers, "means the joyous sparkle in the eye and the +<span class='sidenote'>The flowering of civilization is in the finished man, +the man of sense, of grace, of accomplishment, of social power—the +gentleman.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Ralph Waldo +Emerson</span>.</span> little, smiling lines in the face that are so quickly +and easily distinguished from the lines produced by depression and frowning +that grow deeper and deeper until they become as hard and severe as if they +were cut in stone." Such happiness is one of the virtues which people of +all classes and ages, the world over, admire and enjoy. "We do not know +what ripples of healing are set in motion," <span class='sidenote'>It is +all very well to growl at the cold-heartedness of the world, but which of us +can truthfully say that he has done as much for others as others have done for +him?—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Patrick Flynn</span>.</span> +says Henry Drummond, "when we simply smile on one another. Christianity +<span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_34' name='page_34'></a>34</span> +wants nothing so much in the world as sunny people."</p> +<p>Most persons are very quick to see whether or not a smile is genuine or is +manufactured and put on like a mask for the occasion. The automatic, +stock-in-trade smile hardly ever fits the face that tries to wear it. It is a +little too wide or sags at the corners or something else is wrong <span class= +'sidenote'>A man is relieved and gay when he has put his heart into his work, +and done his best; but what he has said or done otherwise, shall give him no +peace.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Emerson</span>.</span> with +it.</p> +<p>A smile may be as deep as a well and as wide as a church door; it may be +"sweeter than honey," but the instant we detect that it is not +genuine, it loses its charm and becomes, in fact, much worse than no smile at +all. Smiles that are genuine are always just right both in quality and +quantity. So the only really safe rule is for us not to smile until we feel +like it and then we shall get on all right. And we ought to feel like smiling +<span class='sidenote'>Some people meet us like the mountain air and thrill our +souls with freshness and delight.— <span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Nathan Haskell Dole</span>.</span> whenever we look +into the honest face of any fellow being. A smile passes current in every +country as a mark of distinction.</p> +<p>But it is even possible to overdo in the matter of smiling. "I +can’t think of anything more irritating to the average human being," +says Lydia Horton <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_35' name= +'page_35'></a>35</span> Knowles, "than an incessant, everlasting smile. +There are people who have it. When things go wrong they have a patient, +martyr-like smile, and when things go right they have a dutifully pleasant +smile which has all the appearance of being <span class='sidenote'>I let the +willing winter bring his jeweled buds of frost and snow.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Edward Francis Burns</span>.</span> mechanical, and +purely a pose. Now I think the really intelligent person is the one who can +look as though he realized the significance of various incidents or happenings +and who can look sorrowful, even, if the occasion demands it. It is not a +pleasant thing <span class='sidenote'>The world is unfinished; let’s mold +it a bit.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Sam Walter +Foss</span>.</span> to suffer mentally or physically, for instance, and have +any one come up to you with a smile of patient, sweet condolence. The average +man or woman does not want smiles when he or she is uncomfortable. We are apt +to remember that it is easy enough to smile when it is somebody else who has +the pain. I venture to say that a smile given at the wrong moment is far more +<span class='sidenote'>Our wishes are presentiments of the capabilities which +lie within us and harbingers of that which we shall be in a condition to +perform.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Goethe</span>.</span> +dangerous to human happiness than the lack of a smile at any given +psychological moment. There is a time and a place for all things, even a +smile."</p> +<p>No expression of feeling is of much moment without a warm heart and an +<span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_36' name='page_36'></a>36</span> +<span class='sidenote'>Do not let us overlook the wayside +flowers.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Joe Mitchell +Chapple</span>.</span> intelligent thought behind it. The seemingly mechanical, +automatic expressions of feeling and of interest in our affairs are sometimes +even harder to bear than an out and out attitude of indifference. The thing +that really warms and moves us is a touch of heartfelt, intelligent</p> +<p class='topic'>SYMPATHY</p> +<p class='poetry'><span class='sidenote'>Quiet minds +cannot be perplexed or frightened, but go on in fortune or misfortune at their +own private pace, like a clock during a thunderstorm.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>R. L. Stevenson</span>.</span> When the clouds begin +to lower,<br /> +    That’s a splendid time to smile;<br /> +But your smile will lose its power<br /> +    If you’re smiling all the while.<br /> +Now and then a sober season,<br /> +    Now and then a jolly laugh:<br /> +We like best, and there’s a reason,<br /> +    A good, wholesome half and half.</p> +<p class='poetry'><span class='sidenote'>The wealth of +a man is the number of things which he loves and blesses, and by which he is +loved and blessed.— <span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Carlyle</span>.</span> When the other one has +trouble,<br /> +    We should feel that trouble, too,<br /> +For, were we with joy to bubble<br /> +    ’Mid his grief, ’t would hardly do.<br /> +Let us own that keen discerning<br /> +    That can see and bear a part;<br /> +For the whole wide world is yearning<br /> +    For a sympathetic heart.</p> +<p>Nothing is more restful and refreshing than a friendly glance or a kindly +word offered to us in the midst of our daily rounds of duty. And since we are +not <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_37' name= +'page_37'></a>37</span><span class='sidenote'>The stoical scheme of supplying +our wants by lopping off our desires is like cutting off our feet when we want +shoes.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Jonathan +Swift</span>.</span> often in a position to grant great favors we should not +fail to cultivate the habit of bestowing small ones whenever we can. It is in +giving the many little lifts along the way that we shall be able to lighten +many burdens.</p> +<p>I do not know it to be a fact, but I have read it somewhere in the books +that the human heart rests nine hours out of every twenty-four. It manages to +steal little bits of rest between beats, and thus it is ever refreshed and able +to go on performing the work nature has assigned for it to do.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Whatever is worth doing at all, is worth doing +well.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Lord +Chesterfield</span>.</span> And therein is a first-rate lesson for most +persons, who if they cannot do something of considerable moment are disposed to +do nothing at all. They forget <span class='sidenote'>Indulge not in vain +regrets for the past, in vainer resolves for the future—act, act in the +present.— <span style='font-variant: small-caps'>F. W. +Robertson</span>.</span> that it is the brief three-minute rests that enable +the mountain-climber to press on till he reaches the top whereas longer periods +of inactivity might serve to stiffen his limbs and impede his progress.</p> +<p>Wise are they who, like the human heart, sprinkle rest and kindness and +heart’s-ease all through their daily tasks. They weave a bright thread of +thankful happiness through the web <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id= +'page_38' name='page_38'></a>38</span><span class='sidenote'>The past cannot be +changed. The future is yet in our power.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Hugh White</span>.</span> and woof of life’s +pattern. They are never too busy to say a kind word or to do a gentle deed. +They may be compelled to sigh betimes, but amid their sighs are smiles that +drive away the cares. They find sunbeams scattered in the trail of every cloud. +They gather flowers where others see nothing but weeds. They pluck little +sprigs of rest where others find only thorns of distress.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>The man who cannot be practical and mix his religion +with his business is either in the wrong religion or in the wrong +business.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Patrick +Flynn</span>.</span> After the manner of the human heart, they make much of the +little opportunities presented to them. They rest that they may have strength +for others. They gather sunshine with which to dispel the shadows about +them.</p> +<p>The <span class='sidenote'>I don’t think there is a pleasure in the +world that can be compared with an honest joy in conquering a difficult +task.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Margaret E. +Sangster</span>.</span> grandest conception of life is to esteem it as an +opportunity for making others happy. He who is most true to his higher self is +truest to the race. The lamp that shines brightest gives the most light to all +about it. Thoreau says: "To enjoy a thing exclusively is commonly to +exclude yourself from the true enjoyment of life."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Every right action and true thought sets the seal of +its beauty on every person’s face; every wrong action and foul thought +its seal of distortion.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Ruskin</span>.</span> He is, indeed, a correct +observer and a careful student of human nature who tells us that the face is +such an index of character that the very growth of the <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_39' name='page_39'></a>39</span>latter can be +traced upon the former, and most of the successive lines that carve the +furrowed face of age out of the smooth outline of childhood are engraved +directly or indirectly by mind. There is no beautifier of the face like a +beautiful spirit.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Those who bring sunshine to the lives of others +cannot keep it from themselves.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>J. +M. Barrie</span>.</span> So we see that if we have acquired the habit of +wearing a pleasant face, or of smiling honestly and cheerfully, we have an +accomplishment that is worth more than many others that are more pretentious +and more superficial. If to this accomplishment we can add another—the +ability to speak a pleasant word to those whom we may meet—we are not to +think poorly of our equipment for life.</p> +<p>There is a good, old-fashioned word in the dictionary, the study of which, +with its definition, is well worth our while. <span class='sidenote'>Politeness +is like an air cushion; there may be nothing in it, but it eases the jolts +wonderfully.— <span style='font-variant: small-caps'>George +Eliot</span>.</span> The word is "Complaisance," and it is defined as +"the disposition, action, or habit of being agreeable, or conforming to +the views, wishes, or convenience of others; desire or endeavor to please; +courtesy; politeness."</p> +<p>Complaisance, as it has been truly said, renders a superior amiable, an +equal agreeable, an inferior acceptable. It <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_40' name='page_40'></a>40</span><span class= +'sidenote'>Sloth makes all things difficult, but industry all things +easy.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Benjamin +Franklin</span>.</span> sweetens conversation; it produces good-nature and +mutual benevolence; it encourages the timid, soothes the turbulent, humanizes +the fierce, and distinguishes a society of civilized persons from a confusion +of savages.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Action may not always bring happiness; but there is +no happiness without action.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Disraeli</span>.</span> Politeness has been defined +as society’s method of making things run smoothly. True complaisance is a +more intimate quality. It is an impulse to seek points of agreement with +others. A spirit of welcome, whether to strangers, or to new suggestions, +untried pleasures, fresh impressions. It never is satisfied to remain inactive +as long as there is anybody to please or to make more comfortable.</p> +<p>The complaisant person need not be lacking in will, in determination, or +individuality. In fact it is the complaisant <span class='sidenote'>We would +willingly have others perfect and yet we amend not our own +faults.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Thomas à +Kempis</span>.</span> person’s strength of will that holds in check and +harmonizes all the other traits of character and moulds them into a perfectly +balanced disposition.</p> +<p>Complaisance rounds off the sharp corners, chooses softer and gentler words +and makes it easy and pleasant for all to dwell together in unity. And it never +fails to contribute something to <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_41' +name='page_41'></a>41</span><span class='sidenote'>The most manifold sign of +wisdom is continued cheer.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Montaigne.</span></span> the enjoyment of everyone +even though it be</p> +<p class='topic'>ONLY A WORD</p> +<p class='poetry'><span class='sidenote'>There is only +one cure for public distress—and that is public education, directed to +make men thoughtful, merciful, and just.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Ruskin.</span></span> Tell me something that will +be<br /> +Joy through all the years to me.<br /> +Let my heart forever hold<br /> +One divinest grain of gold.<br /> +Just a simple little word,<br /> +Yet the dearest ever heard;<br /> +Something that will bring me rest<br /> +When the world seems all distressed.</p> +<p class='poetry'><span class='sidenote'>To believe a +business impossible is the way to make it so.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Wade.</span></span> As the candle in the night<br /> +Sends abroad its cheerful light,<br /> +So a little word may be<br /> +Like a lighthouse in the sea.<br /> +When the winds and waves of life<br /> +Fill the breast with storm and strife,<br /> +Just one star my boat may guide<br /> +To the harbor, glorified.</p> +<hr class='silver' /> +<div class='figcenter'><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_44' name= +'page_44'></a>44</span><img src='images/illus-044.jpg' alt='' title='' style= +'width: 353px; height: 480px;' /><br /> +<p class='caption' style='margin: 0 auto; text-align:center;width: 353px;'> +HARRIET BEECHER STOWE<br /></p> +</div> +<hr class='silver' /> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_45' name= +'page_45'></a>45</span></div> +<p style='width:600px; margin-bottom:30px; text-align:center;'><span style= +'font-size:large; text-align:center;'>CHAPTER III<br /> +THE JOY OF DOING</span></p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>What I must do is all that concerns me, not what the +people think.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Emerson.</span></span> Half-way, half-hearted doings +never amount to much. Battles are not won with flags at half-mast. No, they are +run up to the very tops of their standards and are waved as far toward the +heavens as is possible.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Gentle words, quiet words, are, after all, the most +powerful words.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Washington +Gladden.</span></span> If we lack enthusiasm we are almost as certain to fail +of achieving an end as a locomotive engine that lacks steam is of climbing the +grade. Even a listless, lackadaisical spirit may get on all right so long as +the path of life is all on a level or is down grade, but when it comes to +hill-climbing and the real experiences of life that serve to develop character, +it is likely to give up the contest and surrender the prize it might win to +other and more earnest competitors.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Aim above morality. Be not simply good; be good for +something.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Thoreau.</span></span> +"If you would get the best results, do your work with enthusiasm as well +as fidelity," says Dr. Lyman Abbott. "Only he can who thinks he +can!" says Orison <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_46' name= +'page_46'></a>46</span>Swett Marden. "The world makes way only for the +determined man who laughs at barriers which limit others, at stumbling-blocks +over which others fall. The <span class='sidenote'>Nothing will be mended by +complaints.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Johnson.</span></span> +man who, as Emerson says, ’hitches his wagon to a star,’ is more +likely to arrive at his goal than the one who trails in the slimy path of the +snail."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Peace! Peace! How sweet the word and tender! Its very +sound should wrangling discord still.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Nathan Haskell Dole.</span></span> Every girl knows +that the girl friends whom she loves best are the ones who are alive to the +world about them and who feel an enthusiasm in the tasks and privileges that +confront them.</p> +<p>Enthusiasm is the breeze that fills the sails and sends the ship gliding +over the happy waves. It is the joy of doing things and of seeing that things +are well done. It gives to work a thoroughness and a delicious zest and to play +a whole-souled, health-giving delight.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>The Spartans did not inquire how many the enemy are, +but where they are.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Agis +II.</span></span> Only they who find joy in their work can live the larger and +nobler life; for without work, and work done joyously, life must remain dwarfed +and undeveloped. "If you would have sunlight in your home," writes +Stopford Brooke, "see that you have work in it; that you work yourself, +and set others to work. Nothing makes moroseness and <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_47' name='page_47'></a>47</span><span class= +'sidenote'>The man in whom others believe is a power, but if he believes in +himself he is doubly powerful.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Willis George Emerson.</span></span> +heavy-heartedness in a house so fast as idleness. The very children gloom and +sulk if they are left with nothing to do. If all have their work, they have not +only their own joy in creating thought, in making thought into form, in driving +on something to completion, but they have the joy of ministering to the +movement of the whole house, when they feel that <span class='sidenote'>The +secrecy of success is constancy to purpose.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Disraeli.</span></span> what they do is part of a +living whole. That in itself is sunshine. See how the face lights up, how the +step is quickened, how the whole man or child is a different being from the +weary, aimless, lifeless, complaining being who had no work! It is all the +difference between life and death."</p> +<p>We <span class='sidenote'>Men talk about the indignity of doing work that is +beneath them, but the only indignity that they should care for is the indignity +of doing nothing.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>W. R. +Haweis.</span></span> must play life’s sweet keys if we would keep them +in tune. Charles Kingsley says: "Thank God every morning when you get up +that you have something to do that day which must be done whether you like it +or not. Being forced to work, and forced to do your best, will breed in you +temperance and self-control, diligence and strength of will, cheerfulness and +content, and a hundred virtues which the idle will never know." +<span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_48' name='page_48'></a>48</span></p> +<p>All <span class='sidenote'>Share your happiness with others, but keep your +troubles to yourself.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Patrick +Flynn.</span></span> the introspective thinkers of the world have agreed that +nothing else is so hard to do as is "nothing." It is unwholesome for +one to have more leisure than a mere breathing spell now and then for the +purpose of setting to work once more with renewed energy.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Neither days, nor lives can be made noble or holy by +doing nothing in them.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Ruskin.</span></span> They who work with their +hearts as well as their hands do not grow tired. A labor of love is a labor of +growing delight. "The moment toil is exchanged for leisure," writes +Munger, "a gate is opened to vice. When wealth takes off <span class= +'sidenote'>Use thy youth as the springtime, wherein thou oughtest to plant and +sow all provisions for a long and happy life.— <span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Walter Raleigh.</span></span> the necessity of labor +and invites to idleness, nature executes her sharpest revenge upon such +infraction of the present order; the idle rich live next door to ruin." +And Burton puts the case even more strongly when he says: "He or she that +is idle, be they of what condition they will, never so rich, so well allied, +fortunate, happy—let them have all things in abundance and felicity that +<span class='sidenote'>To have ideas is to gather flowers; to think is to weave +them into garlands.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Madame +Swetchine</span>.</span> heart can wish and desire,—all +contentment—so long as he or she or they are idle, they shall never be +pleased, never well in mind or body, but weary still, sickly still, vexed +still, loathing still, weeping, sighing, grieving, suspecting, <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_49' name='page_49'></a>49</span>offended with the +world, with every object, wishing themselves gone or dead, or else carried away +with some foolish phantasy or other."</p> +<p>But <span class='sidenote'>When a firm decisive spirit is recognized, it is +curious to see how the space clears around a man and leaves him room and +freedom.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>John +Foster</span>.</span> riches do not necessarily have to be associated with +idleness. Riches rightly employed bestow upon the possessors of them the +blessed privilege of being employed in the kind of work where they can serve to +the best advantage and do most for their fellowmen. Indeed, the possession of +riches places upon those who have them the moral necessity and obligation of +doing more and better things in the world than is expected of the ones less +amply supplied with wealth. "From every man according to his ability; to +every man according to his needs." The larger responsibilities are placed +upon those to whom are given the larger means of achievement.</p> +<p>So <span class='sidenote'>That person is blest who does his best and leaves +the rest, so do not worry.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>A. E. +Winship</span>.</span> it is a mistake to fancy that the possession of great +riches would relieve us from doing all the tasks and duties for ourselves and +for others that are inevitably essential for the physical and spiritual health +and happiness of all mankind. No matter in whatever walk of <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_50' name='page_50'></a>50</span> <span class= +'sidenote'>Work is the best thing to make us love life.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Ernest Renan</span>.</span> life we may find +ourselves, we must exercise our muscles or they will become weak and useless; +we must stir and interest our hearts or they will grow hard and unresponsive; +we must use our minds or they will become dull and inactive; we must employ our +consciences or they will grow to be blind and unsafe guides that must lead us +into dark distress.</p> +<p>But <span class='sidenote'>If you want to be miserable, think about +yourself,—about what you want, what you like, what respect people ought +to pay to you, and what people think of you.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Charles Kingsley</span>.</span> to be employed does +not mean that we must necessarily work in the fields, or in the factory, or in +the office. There are a thousand ways in which we may serve the world. The only +requirement is that we shall devote a portion of our time and energy to genuine +service in behalf of our brothers, our sisters, our parents, our teachers, our +friends, and all the world. And we must be grateful for the chance to serve +others and deem it an opportunity rather than an obligation.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Aspiration carries one half the way to one’s +desire.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Elizabeth +Gibson</span>.</span> And above all, we must find delight in the work we are +privileged to do. "Every one should enjoy life," writes the ever glad +and inspiring pen guided by the <span class='sidenote'>The best thing is to do +well what one is doing at the moment.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Pittacus</span>.</span> hand of Patrick Flynn: +"Life was made to enjoy. We mean life, itself. The <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_51' name='page_51'></a>51</span> very living and +breathing. It is a divine pleasure to inhale a breath of fragrant air out here +in the country these charming summer mornings. And what jewels can compare in +color or brilliancy <span class='sidenote'>To work and not to genius I owe my +success.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Daniel +Webster</span>.</span> with the pearly dewdrops that shine and glisten in the +early sun! And the sun, itself! The great, mysterious, miraculous sun! Its +myriads of vibrations <span class='sidenote'>No thought is beautiful which is +not just, and no thought can be just, that is not founded on +truth.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Joseph +Addison</span>.</span> dancing in the warm air like golden fairies and dazzling +one’s eyes with their wondrous beauty! Aye, and filling one’s soul +with love and one’s body with health. And in the evening when the +day’s work is done there is above us that mysterious depth of +star-spangled sky. We cannot fathom its mystery but like a stream of grace +descending from heaven, we can feel the cool, refreshing dew on our upturned +brow. Until at last we feel that we should like to take wing and actually fly +up among those <span class='sidenote'>The loss of self-respect is the only true +beggary.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>John Lancaster +Spalding</span>.</span> unknown worlds and come back with the story to our +readers. And even though we cannot grow the wings, we go up in fancy and seldom +come back without some new tale. The message is: ’Live life, love life, +enjoy life, if you would overcome all fear of death.’" <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_52' name='page_52'></a>52</span></p> +<p>That is the spirit in which we should look upon all the beauty and wonder +about us. To-morrow will ever be a joyous hope and yesterday a golden memory, +if we are thoughtful regarding the manner in which we live</p> +<p class='topic'>TO-DAY</p> +<p class='poetry'>Let’s live to-day so it shall +be,<br /> +When shrined within the memory,<br /> +As free from self-inflicted sorrows<br /> +As are our hopes of our to-morrows.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>The tactful person looks out for opportunities to be +helpful, without being obtrusive.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Margaret E. Sangster</span>.</span> There are many +who make the serious mistake of thinking that joyousness and cheerfulness are +only for the play hour and are not to be made a part and factor of the time we +must devote to toil. No view could be more faulty and regrettable. It is in our +working hours that we should seek to be cheerful and sunshiny. All of our tasks +should be sweetened and glorified with the leaven of good humor.</p> +<p class='poetry'>The task seems never very long<br /> +If measured with a smile and song.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>It is labor alone, backed by a good conscience, that +keeps us healthy, happy and sane.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Godfrey Blount</span>.</span> Listen while one +faithful worker, Emory Belle, tells us how she carried <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_53' name='page_53'></a>53</span>the spirit of +good cheer to her daily tasks and what came of it:</p> +<p>"I started out to my work one morning, determined to try the power of +cheerful thinking (I had been moody long enough). I said to myself: ’I +have <span class='sidenote'>Labor was truly said by the ancients to be the +price which the gods set upon everything worth having.— <span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Lord Avebury</span>.</span> often observed that a +happy state of mind has a wonderful effect upon my physical make-up, so I will +try its effect upon others, and see if my right thinking can be brought to act +upon them.’ You see, I was curious. As I walked along, more and more +resolved on my purpose, and persisting that I was happy, that the world was +treating me well, I was surprised to find myself lifted up, as it were; my +carriage became more erect, my step lighter, and I had the sensation of +treading <span class='sidenote'>Our daily duties are a part of our religious +life just as much as our devotions are.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Beecher</span>.</span> on air. Unconsciously, I was +smiling, for I caught myself in the act once or twice. I looked into the faces +of the women I passed and there saw so much trouble and anxiety, discontent, +even to peevishness, that my heart went out to them, and I wished I could +impart to <span class='sidenote'>Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the +good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Shakespeare</span>.</span> them a wee bit of the +sunshine I felt pervading me.</p> +<p>"Arriving at the office, I greeted the book-keeper with some passing +remark, <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_54' name= +'page_54'></a>54</span>that for the life of me I could not have made under +different conditions, I am not naturally witty; it immediately put <span class= +'sidenote'>Energy and determination have done wonders many a +time.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Dickens.</span></span> us on +a pleasant footing for the day; she had caught the reflection. The president of +the company I was employed by was a very busy man and much worried over his +affairs, and at some remark that he made about my work I would ordinarily have +felt quite hurt (being too <span class='sidenote'>The finest qualities of our +nature, like the bloom on fruits, can be preserved only by the most delicate +handling.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Thoreau.</span></span> +sensitive by nature and education); but this day I had determined nothing +should mar its brightness, so replied to him cheerfully. His brow cleared, and +there was another pleasant footing established, and so throughout the day I +went, allowing no cloud to spoil its beauty for me or others about me. At the +<span class='sidenote'>Discretion of speech is more than eloquence: and to +speak agreeably to him with whom we deal is more than to speak in good words or +in good order.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>F. +Bacon.</span></span> kind home where I was staying the same course was pursued, +and, where before I had felt estrangement and want of sympathy, I found +congeniality and warm friendship. People will meet you half-way if you will +take the trouble to go that far.</p> +<p>"So, my sisters, if you think the world is not treating you kindly +don’t delay a day, but say to yourselves: ’I am going to keep young +in spite of my gray hairs; <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_55' name= +'page_55'></a>55</span> <span class='sidenote'>Bread of flour is good: but +there is bread, sweet as honey, if we would eat it, in a good +book.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>John Ruskin.</span></span> +even if things do not always come my way I am going to live for others, and +shed sunshine across the pathway of all I meet.’ You will find happiness +springing up like flowers around you, will never want for friends or +companionship, and above all the peace of God will rest upon your +soul."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>What is wrong to-day won’t be right +to-morrow.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Dutch +Proverb.</span></span> And all of this was brought about by a change in the +attitude of the mind and a determination to look upon the sunshiny, rather than +the dark, side of life. We can all do as much. It is for us to say whether we +will be happy and make others happy, or whether we shall be distressed and +thereby distress others.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>We are only so far worthy of esteem as we know how to +appreciate.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Goethe.</span></span> +What sort of girl are you going to be? Are you going to make the world glad or +sorry that you are in it? Why don’t you decide, as you read these lines, +as did Emory Belle when starting to her work that morning, that you will try to +carry sunshine and not gloom into the lives of all you meet? Let us hope that +there is no great reform in this matter to be worked in your life; but that you +have ever been a joy-bringer and not a gloom-maker.</p> +<p>Therefore let us look well to the <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id= +'page_56' name='page_56'></a>56</span> <span class='sidenote'>We are grateful +that abundant life lies waiting in the heart of winter, and there is no +condition where life is not.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Isabel Goodhue.</span></span> attitude of mind and +our habit of looking at things. One of our careful students of human attributes +tells us—and the truth of which we all know—"that there is +nothing surer than that we go and grow in just that direction in which our mind +is most firmly fixed. Hoarding money absorbs the whole time and mind of the +miser; how to scatter it is the chief thought of the spendthrift. Our daily +<span class='sidenote'>Wishing will bring things in the degree that it incites +you to go after them.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Muriel +Strode.</span></span> actions, and their result on our lives, are the effect of +a cause—and that cause is invariably our previous thought. What you think +most of to-day will be most likely what you will repeat to-morrow. Therefore it +is of the utmost <span class='sidenote'>It is impossible to estimate the power +for good of a bright, glad shining face. Of all the lights you carry on your +face Joy shines farthest out to sea.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Anonymous.</span></span> importance that we begin to +think as deeply as possible on just those things that build us up. Half the +work is already done if we can only concentrate our minds on that which we +desire to do. It is the mind that drags us either up or down. Where that leads +we follow.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>No one in this world of ours ever became great by +echoing the voice of another, repeating what that other has +said.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>J. C. Van +Dyke.</span></span> The power of direction is with us, but we cannot send our +mind in one direction and then take the opposite road ourselves. Therefore, +whether we are moving upward or downward in the scale of life depends on +whether we are thinking up or thinking <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id= +'page_57' name='page_57'></a>57</span> down. This is a truth that every +person’s experience will prove to his own <span class='sidenote'>One +fault mender equals twenty faultfinders.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Earl M. Pratt</span>.</span> satisfaction. Thought +impels action, action forms habit, and habit rules our lives. So that no matter +what direction we may wish to take, up or down, it is only necessary for us to +fix our mind in the desired direction."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Let us then, be what we are, speak what we think, and +in all things keep ourselves loyal to truth.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Longfellow</span>.</span> So let us pause and take +an account of stock and ascertain whether we are thinking ourselves up or down, +whether we are building truthfully or falsely, whether we are going forward or +backward,</p> +<p class='topic'>JUST THIS MINUTE</p> +<p class='poetry'>If we’re thoughtful, just this +minute,<br /> +    In whate’er we say or do;<br /> +If we put a purpose in it<br /> +    That is honest, through and through,<br /> +We shall gladden life and give it<br /> +    Grace to make it all sublime;<br /> +For, though life is long, we live it<br /> +    Just this minute at a time.</p> +<p class='poetry'><span class='sidenote'>There are +some people whose smile, the sound of whose voice, whose very presence, seems +like a ray of sunshine, to turn everything they touch into +gold.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Lord Avebury</span>.</span> +Just this minute we are going<br /> +    Toward the right or toward the wrong,<br /> +Just this minute we are sowing<br /> +    Seeds of sorrow or of song.<br /> +Just this minute we are thinking<br /> +    On the ways that lead to God,<br /> +Or in idle dreams are sinking<br /> +    To the level of the clod.</p> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_58' name= +'page_58'></a>58</span></div> +<p class='poetry'>Yesterday is gone, to-morrow<br /> +    Never comes within our grasp;<br /> +Just this minute’s joy or sorrow,<br /> +    That is all our hands may clasp.<br /> +Just this minute! Let us take it<br /> +    As a pearl of precious price,<br /> +And with high endeavor make it<br /> +    Fit to shine in paradise.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>It is work which gives flavor to life. Mere existence +without object and without effort is a poor thing. Idleness leads to languor, +and languor to disgust.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Amiel</span>.</span> One who finds joy in the doing +of things can work more easily and steadily than one who works unwillingly and +unhappily. Good nature is a lubricant for all the wheels of life. It changes +the leaden feet of duty into the airy wings of opportunity, it not only brings +happiness but that almost necessary adjunct of happiness,—health.</p> +<p>"In the maintenance of health and the cure of disease," says Dr. +A. J. <span class='sidenote'>How poor are they who have only money to +give!—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>John Lancaster +Spalding</span>.</span> Sanderson, "cheerfulness is a most important +factor. Its power to do good like a medicine is not an artificial stimulation +of the tissues, to be followed by reaction and greater waste, as is the case +with many drugs; but the effect of cheerfulness is <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_59' name='page_59'></a>59</span> <span class= +'sidenote'>Fear begets fear.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>A. E. +Winship.</span></span> an actual life-giving influence through a normal channel +the results of which reach every part of the system. It brightens the eye, +makes ruddy the countenance, brings elasticity to the step, and promotes all +the inner forces by which life is sustained. The blood circulates more freely, +the oxygen comes to its home in the tissues, health is promoted, and disease is +banished."</p> +<p>When we note how generally the <span class='sidenote'>What an absurd thing +it is to pass over all the valuable parts of a man and fix our attention on his +infirmities!—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Addison</span>.</span> members of the medical +profession ascribe to cheerfulness the very highest of health-giving powers, we +are led to think that the wise words quoted above possess a foundation of +scientific fact. "Faith, hope and love," says Charles G. Ames, +"are purifiers of the blood. They have a peptic quality. They open and +enlarge all the channels of bodily vitality. As was learned long ago, ’A +<span class='sidenote'>There can be no true rest without work and the full +delight of a holiday cannot be known except by the man who has earned +it.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Hugh Black</span>.</span> +merry heart doeth good like a medicine.’ And the self-control which keeps +reason on the throne and makes passion serve is the best of all domestic +physicians."</p> +<p>So the girl who would go down the paths of sunshine will put joy and +enthusiasm into her work and into her play. She will practice her music +<span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_60' name='page_60'></a>60</span> +<span class='sidenote'>The more we do the more we can do; the more busy we are +the more leisure we have.— <span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Hazlitt</span>.</span> lesson, take up her studies +at school, assist in performing the household duties, and in doing the many +tasks that come to her hands in a joyous, whole-hearted manner.</p> +<p>In so doing she will make a <span class='sidenote'>Lost—a golden hour, +set with sixty diamond minutes. There is no reward, for it is gone +forever.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Beecher</span>.</span> +pleasure of that which, with dull complaining, would be a drag and a distress. +By this cheerful attitude of mind she will be able to mold all things to her +will and, better still, she will be able to mold her will to her highest ideal +of splendid womanhood. For none can doubt that man <span class='sidenote'>Good +company and good conversation are the sinews of virtue.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Stephen Allen</span>.</span> is the architect of his +own fortune, to a very great extent. He is even more than that, he is of his +own self</p> +<p class='topic'>THE SCULPTOR</p> +<p class='poetry'>I am the sculptor: I, myself, the +clay,<br /> +    Of which I am to fashion, as I will,<br /> +In deed and in desire, day by day,<br /> +    The pattern of my purpose, good or ill.</p> +<p class='poetry'>In breathless bronze nor the +insensate stone<br /> +    Must my enduring passion find its goal;<br /> +Within the living statue I enthrone<br /> +    That essence of eternity, the soul.</p> +<p class='poetry'><span class='sidenote'>A triumph is +the closing scene of a contest.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>A. +E. Winship.</span></span> Nor space nor time that soul of yearning bars;<br /> +    It flashes to the zenith of the sky,<br /> +And dwelling mid the mystery of the stars,<br /> +    Aspires to answer the Eternal Why. <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_61' name='page_61'></a>61</span></p> +<p class='poetry'>It loves the pleasing note of lute +and lyre,<br /> +    The lily’s purple, the red rose’s +glow;<br /> +It wonders at the witchery of the fire,<br /> +    And marvels at the magic of the snow.</p> +<p class='poetry'><span class='sidenote'>Don’t +forget that the man who can but doesn’t must give place to the man who +can’t but tries.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Comtelburo.</span></span> "Who taught," it +asks, "the ant to build her nest?<br /> +    The bee her cells? the hermit thrush to sing?<br /> +The dove to plume his iridescent breast?<br /> +    The butterfly to paint his gorgeous wing?</p> +<p class='poetry'>"The spider how to spin so +wondrous wise?<br /> +    The nautilus to form his chambered shell?<br /> +The carrier-pigeon under alien skies,<br /> +    Who taught him how his homeward course to +tell?"</p> +<p class='poetry'>By force or favor it would win from +fate<br /> +    The sacred secret of the blood and breath:<br /> +Learn all the hidden springs of love and hate,<br /> +    And gain dominion over life and death.</p> +<p class='poetry'><span class='sidenote'>Advise well +before you begin, and when you have maturely considered, then act with +promptitude.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Sallust</span>.</span> In every feature of this +sculptured face<br /> +    Of spirit and of substance, I must mold<br /> +The shining symbol of a grander grace;<br /> +    The hope toward which the centuries have rolled.</p> +<p class='poetry'>Oh, hands of mine that the +unnumbered years<br /> +    Evolved from hoof and wing and claw and fin,<br /> +’T is ours to bring from out the stress and tears,<br /> +    A godlike figure fashioned from within.</p> +<hr class='silver' /> +<div class='figcenter'><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_64' name= +'page_64'></a>64</span> <img src='images/illus-064.jpg' alt='' title='' style= +'width: 347px; height: 482px;' /><br /> +<p class='caption' style='margin: 0 auto; text-align:center;width: 347px;'> +LOUISA M. ALCOTT<br /></p> +</div> +<hr class='silver' /> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_65' name= +'page_65'></a>65</span></div> +<p style='width:600px; margin-bottom:30px; text-align:center;'><span style= +'font-size:large; text-align:center;'>CHAPTER IV<br /> +SOME EVERY-DAY VIRTUES</span></p> +<p>I would rather be right than president!" <span class='sidenote'>Each, +whatever his estate, in his own unconscious breast bears the talisman of +fate.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>John Townsend +Trowbridge</span>.</span></p> +<p>At first thought those words seem to be the declaration of an unusually +upright and conscientious person. But let us study them a little more deeply +and closely.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>When a man has not a good reason for doing a thing, +he has one good reason for letting it alone.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Thomas Scott</span>.</span> The desire to do right +and to deserve the approbation of all good people is very strong in every human +breast. Not until a man has lost his moral sense of values would he trade his +integrity and self-respect for any other gift the world could offer. This being +true, who among us would care to be president if in order to occupy that +exalted position he must be obviously in the wrong?</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Once a body laughs he cannot be angry +more.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>James M. +Barrie</span>.</span> Thus we see that after all is said and done, the one +great prize for which we all aspire is the love and good will of our friends +and of the world. For no matter <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_66' +name='page_66'></a>66</span> <span class='sidenote'>Success is usually the +result of a sharpened sense of what is wanted.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Frank Moore Colby.</span></span> how much of wealth +and fame may come to us, without the love and respect of our fellow beings we +must ever remain poor and friendless.</p> +<p>He is the richest who deserves the most friends. Wealth is a matter of the +<span class='sidenote'>He that falls in love with himself, will have no +rivals.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Benjamin +Franklin.</span></span> heart and not of the pocket. A thousand slaves piling +up wealth for their master cannot make him rich. It is not that which others do +for us that makes us possessors of great wealth, but that which we do for +others. All true riches are self made. Only when the hand and the heart are put +into one’s work does it yield a lasting worth. In the final true analysis +the picture forever belongs to the painter who paints it; the poem to the poet +who writes it; the loaf of bread to the toiler who earns it. Wealth may acquire +these things but it cannot own them.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>A sinful heart makes a feeble +hand.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Walter Scott.</span></span> +Therefore the true value of character is something that each must achieve for +himself. It cannot be bought; it cannot be bequeathed to us; it must be earned +by each individual who would possess it. Hence it is that these great riches +may be acquired by all who desire to possess them. <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_67' name='page_67'></a>67</span></p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Look within, for you have a lasting foundation of +happiness at home that will always bubble up if you will but dig for +it.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Marcus Aurelius +Antoninus.</span></span> Where are they to be found? Right here.</p> +<p>When may we obtain them? Right now.</p> +<p>Do you care to learn the only way in which you can come into possession of +them? "Whoever you are—wise or foolish, rich or poor," says +Rebecca Harding Davis, "God sent you into His <span class='sidenote'>To a +friend’s house the road is never long.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Danish Proverb.</span></span> world, as He sent +every other human being, to help the men and women in it, to make them happier +and better. If you do not do that, no matter what your powers may be, you are +mere lumber, a worthless bit of world’s furniture. A Stradivarius, if it +hangs dusty and dumb upon the wall, is not of as much real value as a kitchen +poker which is used."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Honest toil is holy service; faithful work is praise +and prayer.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Henry Van +Dyke.</span></span> So we learn that it is the fine practical spirit, content +and willing to do the humble things which are possible of achievement that is +doing most to lift the world to a higher and better plane. "Have you never +met humble men and <span class='sidenote'>Give me the toiler’s joy who +has seen the sunlight burst on the distant turrets in the land of his +desire.— <span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Muriel +Strode.</span></span> women," asks Gannett, "who read little, who +knew little, yet who had a certain fascination as of fineness lurking about +them? Know them, and you are likely to find them persons who have put so +<span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_68' name='page_68'></a>68</span> much +thought and honesty and conscientious trying into their common work—it +may be sweeping rooms, or planing <span class='sidenote'>You can buy a lot of +happiness with a mighty small salary, but fashionable happiness always costs +just a little more than you’re making.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>George Horace Lorimer.</span></span> boards, or +painting walls—have put their ideals so long, so constantly, so lovingly +into that common work of theirs, that finally these qualities have come to +permeate not their work only, but so much of their being, that they are +fine-fibred within, even if on the outside the rough bark clings."</p> +<p>If we are wisely introspective, we must reach the conclusion that humble +though we may be, we are after all, a <span class='sidenote'>A tart temper +never mellows with age, and a sharp tongue is the only edged tool that grows +keener with constant use.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Washington Irving.</span></span> component part of +the great expression of being, and that we are well worth while. Then if we are +worth while, it follows that all we do is worth while, for each of us is, in +the end, the sum of all the things he has done. Once we have this idea that +everything stands for something more than the mere thing itself—that it +is correlated in its influences with all the other things that we and all +others are doing, we shall invest all our tasks, little and big, with more of +purpose and importance. Emerson says:</p> +<p>"There is no end to the sufficiency of character. It can afford to +wait; it can <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_69' name= +'page_69'></a>69</span> <span class='sidenote'>Where there is one man who +squints with his eyes, there are a dozen who squint with their +brains.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Oliver Wendell +Holmes.</span></span> do without what it calls success; it cannot but succeed. +To a well-principled man existence is victory. He defends himself against +failure in his main design by making every inch of the road to it pleasant. +There is no trifle and no obscurity to him: he feels the immensity of the chain +whose last link he holds in his hand, and is led by it."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>When a true genius appears in the world you may know +him by this sign, that the dunces are all in confederacy against +him.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Jonathan Swift.</span></span> +Perhaps no other every-day virtue counts for so much in the general welfare of +the world as the adapting of one’s self to, and the making the most of, +one’s immediate surroundings. It is in the hundreds of little, unrecorded +deeds of kindness and goodness that we lay the foundations of character. And +because these humble lives, that mean so much to the other humble lives with +which they <span class='sidenote'>What we have got to do is to keep up our +spirits and be neighborly. We shall come all right in the end, never +fear.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Dickens.</span></span> come +into touch, are never specifically named and shouted by the multitudinous +tongues of type, that many fail to see in them the elements of true and noble +achievement with which they are crowned. "The most inspiring tales," +it has been truly said, "are those that have not been written; the most +heroic deeds are those that have not been told; the world’s greatest +successes have been <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_70' name= +'page_70'></a>70</span> <span class='sidenote'>Happiness is the feeling we +experience when we are too busy to be miserable.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Thomas L. Masson.</span></span> won in the quiet of +men’s hearts, the noblest heroes are the countless thousands who have +struggled and triumphed, rising on stepping-stones of their dead selves to +higher things."</p> +<p>Since it is these humbler every-day virtues that one is called upon oftenest +to exercise, or to neglect, it is apparent <span class='sidenote'>Duty is the +sublimest word in the English language.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Gen. Robert E. Lee.</span></span> that the one who +possesses the most of them and who cultivates them the most earnestly has the +greatest number of opportunities of winning the admiration of others. It is of +a girl possessing this fine adaptability to the world’s workaday +surroundings that "Amber" draws this pen-picture: "Shall I tell +the kind of girl <span class='sidenote'>Optimism is the faith that leads to +achievement; nothing can be done without hope.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Keller.</span></span> that I especially adore? Well, +first of all, let us take the working girl. She is not a ’lady’ in +the acceptance of the term as it is employed by many members of this latter +day’s hybrid democracy. She is just a blithe, cheery, sweet-tempered +<span class='sidenote'>The activity and soundness of a man’s actions will +be determined by the activity and soundness of his thoughts.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Beecher.</span></span> young woman. She may have a +father rich enough to support her at home, but for all that she is a working +girl. She is never idle. She is studying or sewing or helping about the home +part of the day. She is romping or playing or swinging out of doors the other +part. She is never <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_71' name= +'page_71'></a>71</span> <span class='sidenote'>What men want is not talent, it +is purpose; not the power to achieve, but the will to labor.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Bulwer Lytton.</span></span> frowsy or untidy or +lazy. She is never rude or slangy or bold. And yet she is always full of fun +and ready for frolic. She does not depend upon a servant to do what she can do +for herself. She is considerate toward all who serve her. She is reverent to +the old and thoughtful of the feeble. She never criticises when criticism can +wound, and she is ready with a helpful, loving word for every one. Sometimes +she has no father, or her parents are too poor to support her. Then she goes +out and earns her living by whatever her hands find to do. She clerks in a +store, or she counts out change at a cashier’s desk, or she teaches +school, or she clicks a typewriter, or rather a telegrapher’s key, but +<span class='sidenote'>We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, +while others judge us by what we have already done.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Longfellow.</span></span> always and everywhere she +is modest and willing and sweet.</p> +<p>"She has too much dignity to be imposed upon, or put to open affront, +but she has humility also, and purity that differs from prudishness as a dove +<span class='sidenote'>The great hope of society is individual +character.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Channing.</span></span> +in the air differs from a stuffed bird in a showcase. She is quick to apologize +when she knows she is in the wrong, yet no young queen ever carried a higher +head than she can upon justifiable occasions. She <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_72' name='page_72'></a>72</span> +<span class='sidenote'>Concentrate all your thought upon the work in hand. The +sun’s rays do not burn until brought to a focus.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Alexander G. Bell.</span></span> is not always +imagining herself looked down upon because she is poor. She knows full well +that out of her own heart and mouth proceed the only witnesses that can absolve +or condemn her. If she is quick to be courteous, unselfish, gentle and retiring +in speech and manner in <span class='sidenote'>Associate with men of good +quality if you esteem your reputation, for it is better to be alone than in bad +company.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>George +Washington.</span></span> public places, she is true gold, even though her +dress be faded and her hat a little out of style. You cannot mistake any such +girl any more than you can mistake the sunshine that follows the rain or the +lark that springs from the hawthorne hedge. All things that are blooming and +sweet attend her! The earth is better for her passing through it and heaven +will be fairer for her habitation therein."</p> +<p>How fortunate it is for us who would practice these little every-day virtues +that we do not have to wait for some noted person at some remote time to tell +the world that we are striving in our own humble way to be kind and thoughtful. +There is some one within the sound of our voice and within the reach of our +hand who will be glad to testify to our goodness.</p> +<p>Kindness is never shown in vain. <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id= +'page_73' name='page_73'></a>73</span></p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>The public school playground transposes many a boy +from a public liability to a public asset.—A. E. <span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Winship.</span></span> The gift blesses the giver, +even though the one receiving the gift is ungrateful. Consciously or +unconsciously we exert an influence upon all who come within the zone of our +being. Surely those who know us best ought to be the ones to appreciate +<span class='sidenote'>Real coolness and self-possession are the indispensable +accompaniments of a great mind.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Dickens.</span></span> us the most intelligently. If +we are lovable, will they not love us? If we love them, will it not serve to +make them lovable? Let us not keep the nice little attentions and the carefully +selected words for the stranger and the passer-by, but have as much regard for +the ones of our own intimate family circle. <span class='sidenote'>One of the +crying needs of society is the revival of gentleness and of a refined +considerateness in judging others.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Newell D. Hillis.</span></span> We should be happy +to do most for them who do most for us. One of our students of human happiness +says to us: "Get into the way of idealizing what you have; let the +picturesqueness of your own imagination play round the village where you do +live, instead of the one where you wish to live; weave a romance round the +brother you have got, instead <span class='sidenote'>In this world inclination +to do things is of more importance than the mere power.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Chapin.</span></span> of round the Prince Perfect of +a husband whom you have not got." And Marcus Aurelius says: "Think +not so much of what thou hast not, as of what thou hast; but of the things +which thou hast, select the best, and then reflect how eagerly <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_74' name='page_74'></a>74</span> they would have +been sought if thou had’st them not."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Character lives in a man, reputation outside of +him.—J. G. <span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Holland.</span></span> +Culture, itself, is but a composite expression of our simple, every-day +virtues. It must be measured by its outward manifestation of regard for the +pleasure, <span class='sidenote'>Self-confidence is the first requisite to +great undertakings.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Johnson.</span></span> happiness and advancement of +others. Literary culture will open up the windows of the soul that the light of +virtue from within may shine forth and dispel the darkness of vice with which +it comes in contact. "Unless one’s knowledge of good books—his +literary scholarship—has <span class='sidenote'>Patience is a necessary +ingredient of genius.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Disraeli.</span></span> so taken hold upon him as to +make him exemplary, in a large measure, he cannot be said to be cultured," +says one of our students of higher ethics. "His learning should cultivate +a choice and beautiful address, a cheerful and loving countenance, a +magnificent and spirited carriage, a refinement of manner, an agreeable +presence."</p> +<p>The extent to which we may feel a sense of peaceful satisfaction at the end +of a day, depends upon how we have lived that day. We soon learn that the day +means most for us in which we do most for others. If we have lived for self +alone, it has been <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_75' name= +'page_75'></a>75</span></p> +<p class='topic'>A LOST DAY</p> +<p class='poetry'>Count that day truly worse than +lost<br /> +    You might have made divine,<br /> +Through which you sprinkled bits of frost<br /> +    But never a speck of shine.</p> +<p>"At the end of life," says Hugh Black, "we shall not be asked +how much pleasure <span class='sidenote'>Follow your honest convictions and be +strong.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Thackeray.</span></span> +we had in it, but how much service we gave in it; not how full it was of +success, but how full it was of sacrifice; not how happy we were, but how +helpful we were; not how ambition was gratified, but how love was served. Life +is judged by love; and love is known by her fruits."</p> +<p>The every-day virtues include very many fine little traits that serve +unconsciously to make our paths smoother, <span class='sidenote'>Admonish your +friends privately, but praise them openly.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Publius Syrus.</span></span> our skies bluer and all +of life more glad and golden. They constitute a habit of doing the right thing +at all times and so quietly and unostentatiously that no one is made to feel +any sense of obligation. One who possesses these virtues does not wait for +stated times and occasions to bestow evidences of love and good will upon +others, but like a flower in bloom spreads the fine perfume of friendship upon +all who come within the charmed presence. Intuitively and unconsciously +<span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_76' name='page_76'></a>76</span> +<span class='sidenote'>Economy is of itself a great revenue.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Comtelburo.</span></span> does the owner of these +virtues follow the precept set forth by the philosopher: "I shall pass +through this world but once; any good thing therefore that I can do, or any +kindness that I can show to any human being, let me do it now. Let me +<span class='sidenote'>Grace is the outward expression of the inward harmony of +the soul.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Hazlitt.</span></span> +not defer it or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again." And in +expressing the same sentiment Amiel says: "Do not wait to be just or +pitiful or demonstrative towards those we love until they or we are struck down +by illness or threatened with death. Life is short, <span class='sidenote'>Pull +on the oar and not on your influential friends.—A. E. <span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Winship.</span></span> and we have never too much +time for gladdening the hearts of those who are traveling the dark journey with +us. Oh! be swift to love, make haste to be kind!" We should not wait till +some sad experience has taught us the rare privilege we may now own of offering +<span class='sidenote'>Our grand business undoubtedly is not to see what lies +dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Carlyle.</span></span></p> +<p class='topic'>A ROSE TO THE LIVING</p> +<p class='poetry'>A rose to the living is more<br /> +    Than sumptuous wreaths to the dead;<br /> +In filling love’s infinite store;<br /> +A rose to the living is more,<br /> +If graciously given before<br /> +    The hungering spirit is fled,—<br /> +A rose to the living is more<br /> +    Than sumptuous wreaths to the dead.</p> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_77' name= +'page_77'></a>77</span></div> +<p>Of all the homely virtues there is none more to be commended and desired +than <span class='sidenote'>The noblest mind the best contentment +hath.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Spenser.</span></span> +patience. This priceless quality of mind puts its possessor into friendly +relations with whatever the surrounding conditions may chance to be. There is +no irritation, no clash of interests, no lack of organization for performing to +the best of one’s ability the duties of the moment, as they present +themselves for consideration. Nothing is so conducive to success as to be able, +calmly and patiently, to do to the best of one’s ability the tasks that +present themselves. "Success in life," says one of our students of +the world’s <span class='sidenote'>The man who has begun to live more +seriously within, begins to live more simply without.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Phillips Brooks.</span></span> problems, +"depends far more upon the decision of character than upon the possession +of what is called genius. The man who is perpetually hesitating as to which of +two things he will do, will do neither." On the other hand the man who +hastily and impatiently disposes of the problems that confront him also impairs +his chances for making the best of life.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>To be usefully and hopefully employed is one of the +great secrets of happiness.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Smiles.</span></span> Have you ever experienced the +sorry realization of how one petulant or peevish member of a household can +destroy the happiness of a breakfast or dinner <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_78' name='page_78'></a>78</span> <span class= +'sidenote'>Everything in this world depends upon will.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Disraeli.</span></span> hour? What would otherwise +have been a pleasant coming together of kindly congenial spirits is made +painful and unprofitable because some one lacked the patience and forbearance +to withstand and to surmount some little trial or irritation that should have +been promptly dismissed from the mind and the heart, or better still, which +never should have been permitted to enter. As has been truly observed, +membership in the family involves the recognition that <span class='sidenote'>A +man is valued according to his own estimate of himself.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Comtelburo.</span></span> the normal life of the +individual is to be found only in a perfect union with other members; in regard +for their rights; in deference to their wishes; and in devotion to that common +interest in which each member shares. Each member <span class='sidenote'>All +men wish to have truth on their side; but few to be on the side of +truth.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Whately.</span></span> must +live for the sake of the whole family. "Children owe to their parents +obedience, and such service as they are able to render," says Dr. DeWitt +Hyde. "Parents, on the other hand, owe to children support, training, and +an education sufficient to give them a fair start in life. <span class= +'sidenote'>Mightier than all the world, the clasp of one small hand upon the +heart.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>John Townsend +Trowbridge.</span></span> Brothers and sisters owe to each other mutual +helpfulness and protection."</p> +<p>The patient disposition to do the best one can, this day, this hour, this +very <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_79' name='page_79'></a>79</span> +moment, counts for much in the building of a life. How perfectly is its whole +purpose set forth in Channing’s "Symphony," in which he so +beautifully makes known his heart’s desire: "To live content with +small means; to seek elegance rather than luxury; and refinement rather than +fashion; to be worthy, not respectable, and wealthy, not rich; to study hard, +think quietly, talk gently, act frankly; to listen to stars and birds, to babes +and sages, with open heart; to bear all cheerfully, do all bravely, await +occasions, hurry never. In a word, to let the spiritual, unbidden and +unconscious, grow up through the common. This is to be my symphony."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>The truest wisdom is a resolute +determination.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Napoleon.</span></span> It is this rare sense of +poise, this patient regard for our own happiness and that of others, that +enables some sweet spirits to come as a balm for all the <span class= +'sidenote'>Character must stand behind and back up everything—the sermon, +the poem, the picture, the play. None of them is worth a straw without +it.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>J. G. Holland.</span></span> +bruises that a busy world can put upon us. "There is no joy but +calm." Until one has learned to do his work pleasantly and agreeably he +has not mastered the most important part of his lesson. "Blessed is the +man who finds joy in his work." He will succeed where the complaining, +discontented person will be <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_80' name= +'page_80'></a>80</span> almost sure to fail. So, let us cultivate this +<span class='sidenote'>The question every morning is not how to do the gainful +thing, but how to do the just thing.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>John Ruskin.</span></span> one of the chiefest of +our every-day virtues. It will enable us to give to every moment the proper +regard for its value and of the possibilities it offers for achievement. It +will teach us that during every day, every hour, every moment, there is time +for politeness, for <span class='sidenote'>Resolve to be thyself; and know that +he who finds himself, loses his misery.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Matthew Arnold.</span></span> kindness, for +gentleness, for the display of strength and tenderness and high purpose, and +for the exercise of that degree of patience that does so much to make life big +and broad and beautiful in</p> +<p class='topic'>THIS BUSY WORLD</p> +<p class='poetry'>It is a very busy world in which we +mortals meet,<br /> +There are so many weary hands, so many tired feet;<br /> +So many, many tasks are born with every morning’s sun.<br /> +And though we labor with a will the work seems never done.<br /> +<span class='sidenote'>I hate a thing done by halves. If it be right, do it +boldly; if it be wrong, leave it undone.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Gilpin.</span></span> And yet for every +moment’s task there comes a moment’s time:<br /> +The burden and the strength to bear are like a perfect rhyme.<br /> +The heart makes strong the honest hand, the will seeks out the way,<br /> +Nor must we do to-morrow’s work, nor yesterday’s, to-day.</p> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_81' name= +'page_81'></a>81</span></div> +<p class='poetry'>We scale the mountain’s rugged +side, not at one mighty leap,<br /> +But step by step and breath by breath we climb the lofty steep.<br /> +<span class='sidenote'>What we need most is not so much to realize the ideal as +to idealize the real.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>F. H. +Hedge.</span></span> Each simple duty comes alone our willing strength to +try;<br /> +One little moment at a time and so the days go by.<br /> +With strength to lift and heart to hope, we strive from sun to sun,<br /> +A little here, a little there, and all our tasks are done;<br /> +There’s time to toil and time to sing and time for us to play,<br /> +Nor must we do to-morrow’s work, nor yesterday’s, to-day.</p> +<hr class='silver' /> +<div class='figcenter'><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_84' name= +'page_84'></a>84</span> <img src='images/illus-084.jpg' alt='' title='' style= +'width: 352px; height: 482px;' /><br /> +<p class='caption' style='margin: 0 auto; text-align:center;width: 352px;'>From +a Photograph, Copyright, 1902, by J. E. Purdy, Boston<br /> +JULIA WARD HOWE</p> +</div> +<hr class='silver' /> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_85' name= +'page_85'></a>85</span></div> +<p style='width:600px; margin-bottom:30px; text-align:center;'><span style= +'font-size:large; text-align:center;'>CHAPTER V<br /> +THE VALUE OF SUNSHINE</span></p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Kind words are worth much and they cost +little.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Proverb.</span></span> Do +people like you?</p> +<p>Are your girl playmates and classmates fond of your society? Are they eager +to work with you, play with you, go strolling or sit by the fire with you? +<span class='sidenote'>The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of +your thoughts.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Marcus Aurelius +Antoninus.</span></span></p> +<p>This one fact we must know; if we are not liked it must be because we are +not the possessors of that fine quality known as "likableness." And +if those who have had an opportunity to know us and our traits of character do +not love and <span class='sidenote'>To do something, however small, to make +others happier and better, is the highest ambition, the most elevating hope, +which can inspire a human being.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Lord Avebury.</span></span> admire us, it is we and +not they who are responsible for their state of mind. For as sure as the warm +sunshine attracts the flowers, and the fragrant flowers call the attention of +the bee to their store of honey, so a fine likable character is certain to gain +and to hold the admiration of good friends and true.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Always laugh when you can; it is a cheap medicine. +Merriment is a philosophy not well understood. It is the sunny side of +existence.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Byron.</span></span> +The face full of sunshine, the heart full of hope, the lips that are speaking +pleasant <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_86' name= +'page_86'></a>86</span> words of good cheer and joyous faith in the world, will +attract friends about them as certainly as the magnetic pole attracts the +needle.</p> +<p>The girl who goes among the people with smiles to offer will find very many +ready to receive her gracious gifts, but if she carries with her sighs and +frowns, <span class='sidenote'>Happiness gives us the energy which is the basis +of all health.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Amiel.</span></span> instead, she will learn that +the world wants none of them.</p> +<p>We all love to hear pleasant things. The one who tells us that he thinks it +is going to set in for a long rainy spell of weather is of less worth to us +than the one who says he thinks that the clouds are going to clear away and +that we shall have a beautiful day to-morrow.</p> +<p>The grandsire who tells his young friends that they ought to be glad that +the grandest, brightest and best era in the world’s history is just +before them, does much more to inspire them than does the one who tells them +that the <span class='sidenote'>Not in the clamour of the crowded streets, not +in the shouts and plaudits of the throng, but in ourselves are triumph and +defeat.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Longfellow.</span></span> +best days of the world were "the good old days of long ago," and that +the golden age will never return again. Brooke Herford tells us: "There +are some people who ride all through the journey of life with their backs to +the horse’s head. <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_87' name= +'page_87'></a>87</span></p> +<p>They are always looking into the past. All the worth of things is there. +They are forever talking about the good old times, and how different things +were when <span class='sidenote'>A man should always keep learning +something—"always," as Arnold said, "keep the stream +running"—whereas most people let it stagnate about middle +life.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Anonymous</span>.</span> +they were young. There is no romance in the world now, and no heroism. The very +winters and summers are nothing to what they used to be; in fact, life is +altogether on a small, commonplace scale. Now that is a miserable sort of +thing; it brings a sort of paralyzing chill over the life, and petrifies the +natural spring of joy that should ever be leaping up to meet the fresh new +mercies that <span class='sidenote'>A smile passes current in every country as +a mark of distinction.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Joe +Mitchell Chapple</span>.</span> the days keep bringing."</p> +<p>Know then, my young friends, that the best time that ever was is the present +time, if you will but use it aright. It is full of romance, of heroism, of +<span class='sidenote'>The thoughts of men are widened with the process of the +suns.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Tennyson</span>.</span> +splendid opportunity, of all that goes to constitute experience and to develop +character. There never was a time when there were more good things to be done, +or when greater rewards awaited the doers of them. The summers are just as long +and bright and golden; the roses blossom just as numerously and as sweetly; +human hearts are just as warm and kindly, <span class='sidenote'>No man ever +sunk under the burden of the day. It is when to-morrow’s burden is added +to the burden of to-day that the burden is more than a man can +bear.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>George +MacDonald</span>.</span> as they have been at any time in the world’s +<span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_88' name='page_88'></a>88</span> +history. Emerson says: "One of the illusions is that the present hour is +not the critical, decisive hour. Write it on your heart that every day is the +best day in the whole year."</p> +<p>So then as far as the time and the hour are concerned, there is nothing in +<span class='sidenote'>Though sorrow must come, where is the advantage of +rushing to meet it? It will be time enough to grieve when it comes; meanwhile, +hope for better things.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Seneca</span>.</span> our surroundings to make us +morose or gloomy or dispirited or indifferent regarding the influence we are +exerting upon those around us. There is no obvious reason why we should not be +joyous and happy at the prospect before us. We should have not only grace +enough for our own personal needs, but plenty of it to spare for those not so +gladly born as ourselves.</p> +<p>And rich beyond computation is the one who has joyousness to spare. Better +<span class='sidenote'>All my old opinions were only stages on the way to the +one I now hold, as itself is only a stage on the way to something +else.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>R. L. +Stevenson</span>.</span> than gold, better than food and raiment and all +material things, betimes, is a ray of sunshine from the heart, an uplift of +saving humor from a merry tongue. "I have often felt, myself," says +Benson, "that the time has come to raise another figure to the hierarchy +of Christian graces. Faith, Hope and Charity were sufficient in a more +elementary and barbarous age, but, now that the world has <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_89' name='page_89'></a>89</span> <span class= +'sidenote'>Hasten slowly, and, without losing heart, put your work twenty times +upon the anvil.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Boileau.</span></span> broadened somewhat, I think +an addition to the trio is demanded. A man may be faithful, hopeful, and +charitable, and yet leave much to be desired. He may be useful, no doubt, with +that equipment, but he may also be both tiresome and even absurd. The fourth +quality that I should like to see raised to the highest rank among the +Christian graces is the Grace of Humor."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Self-reverence, self-knowledge, +self-control—these three alone lead life to sovereign +power.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Tennyson.</span></span> +Splendidly blest is that household that is so fortunate as to possess at least +one member gifted with the grace of good humor. One such person in a home is +enough if there cannot be more. Just when all the others are seriously +<span class='sidenote'>It is curious to what an extent our happiness or +unhappiness depends upon the manner in which we view things.—E. C. +<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Burke.</span></span> confronting what +seems to be a most sad and serious condition of affairs how just one word of +illuminating good humor can change the whole point of view and send the +foreboding proposition glimmering into nothingness. "Do you know, my +dear," says Mrs. Holden, "that there is absolutely nothing that will +help you to bear the ills of life so well as a good laugh? Laugh all you can +and the small <span class='sidenote'>Those who never retract their opinions +love themselves more than they love truth.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Joubert.</span></span> imps in blue who love to +preempt their quarters in a human heart will scatter away like owls before the +music of flutes. <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_90' name= +'page_90'></a>90</span></p> +<p>There are few of the minor difficulties and annoyances that will not +dissipate at the charge of the nonsense brigade. If the clothes line breaks, if +the cat tips over the milk and the dog elopes with the roast, if the children +fall into the mud simultaneously with the advent of clean aprons, if the new +<span class='sidenote'>Truth is tough; it will not break, like a bubble, at a +touch; nay, you may kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round +and full at evening.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Oliver +Wendell Holmes.</span></span> girl quits in the middle of housecleaning, and +though you search the earth with candles you find none to take her place, if +the neighbor you have trusted goes back on you and decides to keep chickens, if +the chariot wheels of the uninvited guest draw near when you are out of +provender, and the gaping of your empty purse is like the unfilled mouth of a +young robin, take courage if you have <span class='sidenote'>Good manners are +made up of petty sacrifices.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Emerson.</span></span> enough sunshine in your +heart, to keep the laugh on your lips. Before good nature, half the cares of +daily living will fly away like midges before the wind. Try it."</p> +<p>What a world of inspiration and cheerfulness in the motto written by Edward +Everett Hale for the Lend-A-Hand Society: "Look up, and not down; look +forward, and not back; look out, and not in; and lend a hand." It is the +lifting of the <span class='sidenote'>The aids to noble life are all +within.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Matthew +Arnold</span>.</span> burden from another’s tired shoulder <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_91' name='page_91'></a>91</span> that does most +to lighten the load resting on our own.</p> +<p>No one who truly is conscious of the value of sunshine upon his own nature +<span class='sidenote'>Nothing is difficult; it is only we who are +indolent.—B. R. <span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Haydon</span>.</span> and upon the spirits of those +with whom he comes into contact will ever, for one minute, permit himself to be +taken possession of by</p> +<p class='topic'>THE "BLUES"</p> +<p class='poetry'>"Blues" are the sorry +calms that come<br /> +    To make our spirits mope,<br /> +And steal the breeze of promise from<br /> +    The shining sails of hope.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>It is a serious thing that we should see the full +beauty of our lives only when they are passed or in visions of a possible +future. What we most need is to see and feel the beauty and joy of +to-day.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Maurice D. +Conway</span>.</span> Margaret E. Sangster, who is the kind and gracious foster +mother to all the girls of her time and generation, says that "being in +bondage to the blues is precisely like being lost in a London fog. The latter +is thick and black and obliterates familiar landmarks. A man may be within a +few doors of his home, yet grope hopelessly through the murk to find the +well-worn threshold. A person <span class='sidenote'>Let us enjoy the scenery +of the present moment. The landscape around the bend will still be there when +our life-train arrives.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Horatio W. +Dresser</span>.</span> under the tyranny of the blues is temporarily unable to +adjust life to its usual limitations. He or she cannot see an inch beyond the +dreadful present. Everything looks dark and forbidding, and despair with an +iron <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_92' name= +'page_92'></a>92</span></p> +<p>clutch pins its victim down. People think, loosely, that trials that may be +weighed and measured and felt and handled are the worst trials to which flesh +is <span class='sidenote'>If we cannot get what we like let us try to like what +we can get.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Spanish +Proverb</span>.</span> heir. But they are mistaken. Hearts are elastic, and +real sorrows seldom crush them. Souls have in them a wonderful capacity for +recovering after knockdown blows. It is the intangible, the thing that one +dreads vaguely, that catches one in the dark, that suggests and intimates a +peril that is spiritual rather than mortal; it is the burden that carries +dismay and terror to the imagination."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Men continually forget that happiness is a condition +of the mind and not a disposition of circumstances.— <span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Lecky</span>.</span> A single member of a household +who is given to having "the blues" often darkens a home that would +otherwise be bright and sunny. Such an unfortunate person should bear in mind +that when a servant is employed the whole household <span class= +'sidenote'>Delicacy in woman is strength.— <span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Lichtenberg</span>.</span> expects her to be kind, +tidy, industrious, moral, gentle, and, above all, good natured in her attitude +toward all. Surely the daughter of a household cannot wish to feel that she +holds her position by accident of birth, and that if her family were not +compelled to keep her they would not. <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id= +'page_93' name='page_93'></a>93</span> <span class='sidenote'>If you would know +the political and moral condition of a people, ask as to the condition of its +women.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Aime +Martin</span>.</span></p> +<p>Charles Dickens says: "It is not possible to know how far the influence +of any amiable, honest-hearted, duty-doing man flows out into the world." +A bright, cheerful, sunshiny daughter in a home can never know how great is her +influence for making the little household world holier and happier for all +whose life <span class='sidenote'>Who has not experienced how, on nearer +acquaintance, plainness becomes beautified, and beauty loses its charm, +according to the quality of the heart and mind.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Fredrika Bremer</span>.</span> interests are +centered therein. Hamilton Wright Mabie says: "The day is dark only when +the mind is dark; all weathers are pleasant when the heart is at rest." +Bliss Carman observes that "happiness, perhaps, comes by the grace of +Heaven, but the wearing of a happy countenance, the preserving of a happy mien, +is a duty, not a blessing." This thought that it is one’s duty to be +happy <span class='sidenote'>Her voice was ever soft, gentle and low,—an +excellent thing in woman.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Shakespeare</span>.</span> is set forth still more +forcibly by Lilian Whiting: "No one has any more right to go about unhappy +than he has to go about ill-bred."</p> +<p>The girl with sunshine in her thoughts and sunshine in her eyes will find +<span class='sidenote'>Gentleness, cheerfulness, and urbanity are the Three +Graces of manners.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Marguerite de +Valois</span>.</span> sunshine everywhere. Wherever she may go her gracious +presence will light the way and make her every path more smooth and beautiful. +In the home, in the school, amid whatever conditions <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_94' name='page_94'></a>94</span> surround her, +she will shine with the glow of a rose in bloom. She will see the good and the +beautiful in the persons whom she meets; while all the charms of nature, as +portrayed in field and forest, will be to her a never-ending source of interest +and enjoyment. Above all, she will warmly cherish life and look upon +<span class='sidenote'>To have what we want is riches, but to be able to do +without is power.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>George +MacDonald</span>.</span> it as being crowded with priceless opportunities for +obtaining happiness for herself and for others. She will be filled with the +same exhuberant spirit of joy in the mere fact of her being that Mrs. Holden so +happily sets forth: "I love this world. I never walk out in the morning +when all its radiant colors are newly washed with dew, or at splendid noon, +when, like an untired racer, the sun has flashed around his mid-day course, or +at evening, when a fringe of a shadow, <span class='sidenote'>A man is rich in +proportion to the number of things which he can afford to let +alone.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Thoreau</span>.</span> like +the lash of a weary eye, droops over mountain and valley and sea, or in the +majestic pomp of night when stars swarm together like bees, and the moon clears +its way through the golden fields as a sickle through the ripened wheat, that I +do not hug myself for very joy that I am yet alive. What matter if I am poor +and unsheltered and costumeless? <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_95' +name='page_95'></a>95</span></p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>In truth, how could I feel this gladness now had I +not known the bitterness of woe.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Alicia K. Van Buren</span>.</span> Thank God, I am +yet alive! People who tire of this world before they are seventy and pretend +that they are ready to leave it, are either crazy or stuck as full of bodily +ailments as a cushion is of pins. The happy, the warm-blooded, the +sunny-natured and the loving cling to life as petals cling to the calyx of a +<span class='sidenote'>Of all the joys we can bring into our own lives there is +none so joyous as that which comes to us as the result of caring for others and +brightening sad lives.—E. C. <span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Burke</span>.</span> budding rose. By and by, when +the rose is over-ripe, or when the frosts come and the November winds are +trumpeting through all the leafless spaces of the woods, will be time to die. +It is no time now, while there is a dark space left on earth that love can +brighten, while there is a human lot to be alleviated by a smile, or a burden +to be lifted with a sympathizing tear."</p> +<p>We all understand that it is not so difficult for us to be bright and +smiling and gracious toward everyone when there is naught to disturb the +serenity of our <span class='sidenote'>Human improvement is from within +outward.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Froude</span>.</span> +thoughts, and when nothing happens to interfere with the fulfillment of our +wishes. But when things go "at sixes and sevens," when our dearest +purposes are thwarted, when some one is about to gain the place or prize which +we covet, when we are forced to stay within doors <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_96' name='page_96'></a>96</span> when we very +much prefer to go in the fields; then it requires more of character, more of +strength, more of the true spirit of sacrifice to wear a smiling face and to +maintain a cheerful heart. But instead of fleeing from the <span class= +'sidenote'>Cheerfulness and content are great beautifiers, and are famous +preservers of good looks.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Dickens</span>.</span> petty trials that cross our +paths we should welcome them as opportunities for testing and strengthening our +good purposes. Newcomb tells us: "Disappointment should always be taken as +a stimulant, and never viewed as a discouragement." To the sunshiny, +philosophical person, trials and difficulties but serve to help him to develop +into</p> +<p class='topic'>THE PRIZE WINNER</p> +<p class='poetry'>    Oh, the man +who wins the prize<br /> +    Is the one who bravely tries,<br /> +As he works his way amid the toil and stress,<br /> +    Through the college of Hard Knocks,<br /> +    So to hew his stumbling-blocks,<br /> +They will serve as stepping-stones toward success.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>The law of true living is toil.—J. R. +<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Miller</span>.</span> Sunshine has ever +been deemed by the close students of life as a most essential element in the +achievement <span class='sidenote'>We may make the best of life, or we may make +the worst of it, and it depends very much upon ourselves whether we extract joy +or misery from it.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Smiles</span>.</span> of the highest and fullest +success. The optimist sees open paths leading to pleasant and prosperous fields +of endeavor where the <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_97' name= +'page_97'></a>97</span> pessimist can see no way out of the hopeless +surroundings amid which he has been thrust by an unkind fate. The disposition +to seize upon the opportunities <span class='sidenote'>Every optimist moves +along with progress and hastens it, while every pessimist would keep the world +at a standstill.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Helen +Keller</span>.</span> lying close at hand and to believe that the here and now +is full of sunshine and golden possibilities has carried many a one to success, +where others, lacking the illumination born of good cheer and a hope well +grounded in a broad and beautiful faith, have sat complainingly by the +<span class='sidenote'>He that riseth late, must trot all day, and shall scarce +overtake his business at night.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Benjamin Franklin</span>.</span> way and permitted +the golden chances to go by unobserved.</p> +<p>"Born of only ordinary capacity, but of extraordinary +persistency," said Professor Maria Mitchell, the distinguished astronomer, +in the later years of <span class='sidenote'>It is great folly not to part with +your own faults, which is possible, but to try instead to escape from other +people’s faults, which is impossible.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Marcus Aurelius.</span></span> her life in looking +back upon her career. But she added, with a simplicity as rare as it is +pleasing: "I did not quite take this in, myself, until I came to mingle +with the best girls of our college, and to become aware how rich their mines +are and how little they have been worked." At sixteen she left school, and +at eighteen accepted the position of librarian of the Nantucket public library. +Her duties were light and she had ample opportunity, surrounded as she was by +books, <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_98' name= +'page_98'></a>98</span> <span class='sidenote'>Labor is discovered to be the +grand conquerer, enriching and building up nations more surely than the +proudest battles.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>William Ellery +Channing.</span></span> to read and study, while leisure was also left her to +pursue by practical observation the science in which she afterward became +known. Those who dwell upon the smaller islands, among which must be classed +Nantucket, her island <span class='sidenote'>It is easier to leave the wrong +thing unsaid than to unsay it.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>George Horace Lorimer.</span></span> home, learn +almost of necessity to study the sea and the sky. The Mitchell family possessed +an excellent telescope. From childhood Maria had been accustomed to the use of +this instrument, searching out with its aid, the distant sails upon the horizon +by day, and viewing the stars by night. Her father possessed a marked taste for +astronomy, and carried on an independent series of observations. He taught his +daughter all he knew, and what was more to her advancement, she applied herself +to the study and made as much independent <span class='sidenote'>Work is the +inevitable condition of human life, the true source of human +welfare.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Tolstoi.</span></span> +advancement as was possible for her to do. It was this cheerful willingness to +make the most of her immediate surroundings that proved to be the secret of her +world-wide fame in after years when her name was included with those of the +other prominent astronomers of the world. At half past ten of the evening of +October First, 1847, <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_99' name= +'page_99'></a>99</span> <span class='sidenote'>If you want knowledge, you must +toil for it; and if pleasure, you must toil for it. Toil is the law. Pleasure +comes through toil, and not by self-indulgence and indolence. When one gets to +love work, his life is a happy one.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Ruskin.</span></span> she made the discovery which +first brought her name before the public. She was gazing through her glass with +her usual quiet intentness when she was suddenly startled to perceive "an +unknown comet, nearly vertical above Polaris, about five degrees." At +first she could not believe her eyes; then hoping and doubting, scarcely daring +to think that she had really made a discovery, she obtained its right ascension +and declination. She then told her father, who gave <span class='sidenote'>One +of the grandest things in having rights is that, being your rights, you may +give them up.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>George +MacDonald.</span></span> the news to the other astronomers and to the world, +and her claim to the discovery was duly accepted and ever after stood to her +lasting credit. But had she not been interested in her work and competent to +seize upon and to make the most of the opportunity that presented itself, she +would not have been able to make herself the first of all the beings of our +earth to observe and record this strange visitant to our starry realms above +us.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Every individual has a place to fill in the world, +and is important in some respects, whether he chooses to be or +not.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Hawthorne.</span></span> It +is the faith which the sunshiny spirit has in the "worth whileness" +of life and its possibilities that makes him or her who possesses it prepare +for the best that is to come. It is because of the "preparedness" +achieved by labor that men and <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_100' +name='page_100'></a>100</span> women are able to seize upon and make the most +of the "lucky chance" that may bring them happiness and success.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Expediency is man’s wisdom. Doing right is +God’s.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>George +Meredith.</span></span> While Thomas A. Edison was yet a youth, the desire to +make himself of worth to the world and to be able to do something that would +make him a living while he was still fitting himself for better things, he +spent the leisure which most <span class='sidenote'>Diamonds are found only in +the dark places of the earth; truths are found only in the depths of +thought.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Victor +Hugo.</span></span> boys would spend in idleness or purposeless pastime in +learning the telegrapher’s code. Later on this knowledge gave him work +which enabled him to gain experience as a telegraph operator, which in turn led +to his invention of the quadruplex telegraph. But the invention was temporarily +a <span class='sidenote'>I simply declare my determination not to feed on the +broth of literature when I can get strong soup.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>George Eliot.</span></span> failure, although later +on a great success. Sorely reduced in circumstances, he was one day tramping +the streets of New York without a cent.</p> +<p>"I happened one day," he says, "into the office of a +’gold ticker’ company which had about five hundred subscribers. +<span class='sidenote'>A thousand words leave not the same deep print as does a +single deed.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Ibsen.</span></span> +I was standing beside the apparatus when it gave a terrific rip-roar and +suddenly stopped. In a few minutes hundreds of messenger boys blocked up the +doorway and yelled for some one to fix <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id= +'page_101' name='page_101'></a>101</span> the tickers in the office. The man in +charge of the place was completely upset; so I stepped up to him and said: +’I think I know what’s the matter.’ I removed a loose contact +spring that had fallen between the wheels; the machine went on. The result? I +was appointed to take charge of the <span class='sidenote'>Woman—the +crown of creation.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Herder.</span></span> service at three hundred +dollars a month. When I heard what the salary was I almost fainted." It +had been his hopeful, cheerful, expectant attitude toward the future that had +ever prompted him to fit himself so well that when the opportunity offered +itself he was able to show that he possessed the grasp of things that made +him</p> +<p class='topic'>THE CONQUEROR</p> +<p class='poetry'>There’s a day, there’s +an hour, a moment of time<span class='sidenote'>Harmony is the essence of power +as well as beauty.—A. E. <span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Winship.</span></span><br /> +    When Fate shall be willing to try us;<br /> +This one test of our worth and our purpose sublime,<br /> +    It will not, it cannot deny us.<br /> +’Tis our right to demand one true crisis, else how<br /> +    Shall we prove by our valor undaunted<br /> +That we merit the wreath Fortune lays on the brow<br /> +    Of the man who is there when he’s wanted?</p> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_102' name= +'page_102'></a>102</span></div> +<p class='poetry'>And whene’er Opportunity +knocks at his door<span class='sidenote'>Be faithful to thyself, and fear no +other witness but thy fear.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Shelley.</span></span><br /> +    The wise one’s glad greeting is, +"Ready!"<br /> +He has garnered, of knowledge, an adequate store,<br /> +    His purpose is seasoned and steady.<br /> +With soul and with spirit, with hand and with heart,<br /> +    And with strength that he never has vaunted,<br /> +He is fashioned and fitted to compass his part,<br /> +    Is the man who is there when he’s wanted.</p> +<p class='poetry'>The world is a stage and our lives +are a play<span class='sidenote'>To give heartfelt praise to noble actions is, +in some measure, making them our own.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>La Rochefoucauld.</span></span><br /> +    And the role that is given us in it<br /> +May be grand or obscure, yet there comes the great day<br /> +    When we speak its best lines for a minute.<br /> +And the dream that through all of life’s trials and tears,<br /> +    The soul, like soft music, has haunted,<br /> +Comes true, and the world gives its smiles and its cheers<br /> +    To the man who is there when he’s wanted.</p> +<hr class='silver' /> +<div class='figcenter'><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_104' name= +'page_104'></a>104</span> <img src='images/illus-104.jpg' alt='' title='' +style='width: 342px; height: 472px;' /><br /> +<p class='caption' style='margin: 0 auto; text-align:center;width: 342px;'> +ELIZABETH BARRETT BROWNING<br /></p> +</div> +<hr class='silver' /> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_105' name= +'page_105'></a>105</span></div> +<p style='width:600px; margin-bottom:30px; text-align:center;'><span style= +'font-size:large; text-align:center;'>CHAPTER VI<br /> +A MERRY HEART</span></p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Mirth is God’s medicine; everybody ought to +bathe in it.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Holmes.</span></span> +Who among us can presume to estimate the value of a merry heart? What a +perpetual blessing it is to its possessor and to all who must come into close +relationship with the owner of it!</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>The blue of heaven is larger than the +cloud—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Elizabeth Barrett +Browning.</span></span> There is nothing more pleasantly "catching" +than happiness. The happy person serves to make all about him or her the more +happy. What the bright, inspiring sunshine adds to the beauty of the fields, a +happy disposition adds to the charm of all the incidents and experiences of +one’s daily life.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>A gay, serene spirit is the source of all that is +noble and good.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Schiller.</span></span> Do not you, whose eyes are +perusing these lines, love to associate with a friend possessing a cheerful +disposition? And do you not intuitively refrain from meeting with the +unfortunate one whose looks and words are heavy with complainings or whose eyes +fail to see the beauty of the world lying all about? And <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_106' name='page_106'></a>106</span> <span class= +'sidenote'>Your manners will depend very much on what you frequently think on; +for the soul is as it were tinged with the color and complexion of +thought.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Marcus Aurelius +Antoninus.</span></span> if we are given to wise thinking we must reach the +conclusion that as we regard these attributes in others, so others must regard +them in us.</p> +<p>Nothing is more eloquent than a beautiful face. It is the open sesame to all +our hearts. A sunshiny face melts away all opposition and finds the word +"Welcome" written over the doorways where the face wearing a hard, +unfriendly look sees only the warning, "No Admittance."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time, for +that is the stuff life is made of.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Benjamin Franklin.</span></span> But a smile that is +only skin deep is not a true smile, but only a superficial grin. A true smile +comes all the way from the heart. It bears its message of good will and +friendliness. It is a mute salutation of "good luck and happy days to +you!" and it makes whoever receives it better and stronger for the +hour.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Be yourself, but make yourself in everything as +delightful as you can.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Margaret E. +Sangster.</span></span> The genuine smile is closely related to, and is a part +of, that laughter which beams and sparkles in the eye and makes the little, +cheerful, smiling lines in the face that are so quickly and easily +distinguished from the lines that are the outward sign of an unhappy spirit +within.</p> +<p>Many centuries ago that wise and <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id= +'page_107' name='page_107'></a>107</span> <span class='sidenote'>The tissue of +the life to be we weave with colors all our own, and in the field of destiny we +reap as we have sown.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Whittier.</span></span> admirable philosopher, +Epictetus, discovered that "happiness is not in strength, or wealth, or +power; or all three. It lies in ourselves, in true freedom, in the conquest of +every ignoble fear, in perfect self-government, in a power of contentment and +peace, and the even flow of life, even in poverty, exile, disease and the very +valley of the shadow."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>What must of necessity be done you can always find +out beyond question how to do.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Ruskin.</span></span> One of the happiest observers +of life and its higher purposes—Anne Gilchrist—says: "I used +to think it was great to disregard happiness, to press to a high goal, +careless, disdainful of it. But now I see there is nothing so great as to be +capable of happiness,—to pluck it out of each moment, <span class= +'sidenote'>The doctrine of love, purity, and right living has, step by step, +won its way into the hearts of mankind, and has filled the future with hope and +promise.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>William +McKinley.</span></span> and, whatever happens, to find that one can ride as gay +and buoyant on the angry, menacing, tumultuous waves of life as on those that +glide and glitter under a clear sky; that it is not defeat and wretchedness +which comes out of the storms of adversity, but strength and +calmness."</p> +<p>The strongest incentive for the cultivation of a merry heart is that it is a +duty as well as a delight. Sydney Smith has very wisely observed that +"mankind is always happier for having been <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_108' name='page_108'></a>108</span> <span class= +'sidenote'>Since time is not a person we can overtake when he is past, let us +honor him with mirth and cheerfulness of heart while he is +passing.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Goethe.</span></span> +happy; so that if you make them happy now, you may make them happy twenty years +hence by the memory of it."</p> +<p>True happiness has about it no suggestion of selfishness. The genuinely +happy person is the one who would have all the world to be happy. "Is +there any happiness in the world like the happiness of a disposition made happy +by the happiness of others?" asks Faber. "There is no joy to be +compared with it. The <span class='sidenote'>Every wish is a prayer with +God.— <span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Elizabeth Barrett +Browning.</span></span> luxuries which wealth can buy, the rewards which +ambition can obtain, the pleasures of art and scenery, the abounding sense of +health and the exquisite enjoyment of mental creations are nothing to this pure +and heavenly happiness, where self is drowned in the blessings of +others."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Say not always what you know, but always know what +you say.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Claudius.</span></span> +One of the most heavenly attributes of happiness is that it begets more +happiness not only in ourselves but in others about us. It has in it an uplift +and a strength that enables us to build the stronger to-day against the +distress that would beset us to-morrow.</p> +<p>"Health and happiness" are terms that are so often closely linked +in our speech and in our literature. One is <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_109' name='page_109'></a>109</span> <span class= +'sidenote'>Evil is wrought by want of thought, as well as want of +heart.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Hood.</span></span> almost +a synonym for the other. Perhaps the true significance existing between the two +would be more correctly stated were we to reverse the form in which they are +usually set forth and say "happiness and health" instead. All +observers of human nature and its many complex attributes are convinced that +happiness is the <span class='sidenote'>Our greatest glory consists not in +never falling, but in rising every time we fall.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Goldsmith.</span></span> fountain spring of +health.</p> +<p>One of our keenest students of life tells us that "small annoyances are +the seeds of disease. We cannot afford to entertain them. They are the +<span class='sidenote'>So use present pleasures that thou spoilest not future +ones.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Seneca.</span></span> +bacteria,—the germs that make serious disturbance in the system, and +prepare the way for all derangements. They furnish the mental conditions which +are manifested later in the blood, the tissues, and the organs, under various +pathological names. Good thoughts are the only germicide. We must kill our +resentment and regret, impatience and anxiety. Health will inevitably follow. +Every thought that holds us in even the slightest degree to either anticipation +<span class='sidenote'>A good manner springs from a good heart, and fine +manners are the outcome of unselfish kindness.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Margaret E. Sangster.</span></span> or regret +hinders, to some extent, the realization of our present good. It limits +freedom. Life is in the present tense. Its significant name is Being." +<span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_110' name= +'page_110'></a>110</span></p> +<p>Whether we are happy or not depends much on our point of view. The +disposition to look at everything through kind and beautiful eyes makes all the +world more kind and beautiful. If we are gloomy within the whole world appears +likewise. Perhaps the two ways of looking at things could not be better set +forth than in these clever lines by E. J. Hardy:</p> +<p>"How dismal you look!" said a bucket to his companion, as they +were <span class='sidenote'>Reading and study are in no sense education, unless +they may contribute to this end of making us feel kindly towards all +creatures.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Ruskin.</span></span> +going to the well.</p> +<p>"Ah!" replied the other, "I was reflecting on the uselessness +of our being filled, for, let us go away never so full, we always come back +empty."</p> +<p>"Dear me! how strange to look on it that way!" said the other +bucket; "now I enjoy the thought that however empty we come, we always go +away full. Only look <span class='sidenote'>An hour in every day withdrawn from +frivolous pursuits would, if properly employed, enable a person of ordinary +capacity, to go far toward mastering a science.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Samuel Smiles.</span></span> at it in that light and +you will always be as cheerful as I am."</p> +<p>The difference between the pessimist and the optimist is in their</p> +<p class='topic'>POINT OF VIEW</p> +<p class='poetry'>Because each rose must have its +thorn,<br /> +    The pessimist Fate’s plan opposes;<br /> +The optimist, more gladly born,<br /> +    Rejoices that the thorns have roses.</p> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_111' name= +'page_111'></a>111</span></div> +<p><span class='sidenote'>To live with a high ideal is a successful life. It is +not what one does, but what one tries to do, that makes the soul strong and fit +for noble career.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>E. P. +Tenney.</span></span> Since our happiness is merely the reflex influence of the +happiness we make for others it would seem as though the joy of our lives +dwells within our own keeping. "The universe," says Zimmerman, +"pays every man in his own coin; if you smile, it smiles upon you in +return; if you frown, you will be frowned at; if <span class='sidenote'>He who +loses money loses much; he who loses a friend loses more, but he who loses +spirit loses all.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>S. A. +Nelson.</span></span> you sing, you will be invited into gay company; if you +think, you will be entertained by thinkers; if you love the world, and +earnestly seek for the good therein, you will be surrounded by loving friends, +and nature will pour into your lap the treasures of the earth."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>If you tell the truth, you have infinite power +supporting you; but if not, you have infinite power against you.— +<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Charles G. Gordon.</span></span> All of +this being true we must early learn to seize upon opportunities for making +others happy if we, ourselves, would get the most and highest enjoyment from +life. "There are gates that swing within your life and mine," writes +"Amber," that good woman of sainted memory, "letting in rare +opportunities from day to day, that tarry but a moment and are gone, like +travelers bound for points remote. There is the opportunity to resist the +temptation to do a mean thing! Improve it, for it is in a hurry, like the man +whose ticket is <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_112' name= +'page_112'></a>112</span> <span class='sidenote'>Great hearts alone understand +how much glory there is in being good. To be and keep so is not the gift of a +happy nature alone, but it is strength and heroism.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Jules Michelet</span>.</span> bought and whose time +is up. It won’t be back this way, either, for opportunities for good are +not like tourists who travel on return tickets. There is the opportunity to say +a pleasant word to the ones within the sound of your voice. All of the +priceless opportunities travel by lightning express and have no time to idle +around the waiting-room. If we improve them at all it must be <span class= +'sidenote'>We live in deeds, not years; in thoughts, not +breaths.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Bailey</span>.</span> +when the gate swings to let them through."</p> +<p>It is in living not for ourselves alone but for others that we are to find +the larger and truer happiness of life. Says Jenkin Lloyd Jones, "I would +rather <span class='sidenote'>Remember that everybody’s business in the +social system is to be agreeable.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Dickens</span>.</span> live in an alley, stayed all +round with human loves, associations and ambitions, than dwell in a palace with +drawbridge, moat, and portcullis, apart from the community about me, alienated +from my neighbors, unable to share the woes and the joys of those with whom I +divide nature’s bounty of land and landscape, of air and sky." And +along this same line of thinking, Charles Hargrove says: "Brother, sister, +your mistake is to live alone in a crowded world, to think of yourself and your +own belongings, and what is the matter with you, instead of <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_113' name='page_113'></a>113</span> <span class= +'sidenote'>In the lexicon of youth there is no such word as +fail.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Bulwer Lytton</span>.</span> +trying to realize, what is the fact—that you are a member of a great +human society, and that your true interests are one with those of the world +which will go on much the same however it fare with you. Live the larger life, +and you will find it the happier."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Be noble! and the nobleness that lies in other men, +sleeping, but never dead, will rise in majesty to meet thine +own.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Lowell</span>.</span> So one +of the chief aims of your life and of mine should be to find happiness and to +see to it that others find it as well. And let us not wait to find happiness in +one great offering, but let us discover it whenever and wherever we can. Let us +carefully study our surroundings to see if it is not hiding all about us. +"Very few things," says Lecky, "contribute so much to the +happiness of <span class='sidenote'>The cheerful live longest in years, and +afterward in our regards.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Bovee</span>.</span> life as a constant realization +of the blessings we enjoy. The difference between a naturally contented nature +and a naturally discontented one is one of the marked differences of innate +temperament, but we can do much to cultivate that habit of dwelling on the +benefits of our lot which converts acquiescence into a more positive +enjoyment."</p> +<p>Nothing can do more to add to our happiness of mind than to cultivate the +gracious habit of being grateful for joys <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id= +'page_114' name='page_114'></a>114</span> <span class='sidenote'>How sweet and +gracious, even in common speech, is that fine sense which men call +Courtesy!—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>James T. +Fields</span>.</span> that come to us and to seek to appreciate the worth of +the beneficent gifts that are ever being showered upon us. We are so apt to +fall into the habit of accepting blessings as a matter of course and of failing +to discover their wonderful value. How many of us, for example, have ever +thoughtfully dwelt upon <span class='sidenote'>Make each goal when reached, a +starting point for further quest.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Browning</span>.</span> the priceless attributes of +the air that is ever and always floating about us. In order that we may have a +truer appreciation of its fine qualities and purposes let us read these words +by Lord Avebury:</p> +<p>"Fresh air, how wonderful it is! It permeates all our body, it bathes +the skin in a medium so delicate that we are not conscious of its presence, and +yet <span class='sidenote'>The world is so full of a number of things, +I’m sure we should all be as happy as kings.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Robert Louis Stevenson</span>.</span> so strong that +it wafts the odors of flowers and fruit into our rooms, carries our ships over +the seas, the purity of sea and mountain into the heart of our cities. It is +the vehicle of sound, it brings to us the voices of those we love and the sweet +music of nature; it is the great reservoir of the rain which waters the earth, +it softens the heat of day and the cold of night, covers us overhead with a +glorious arch of blue, and lights up the morning and evening skies with fire. +It is so <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_115' name= +'page_115'></a>115</span> <span class='sidenote'>God bless the good-natured, +for they bless everybody else.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Beecher</span>.</span> exquisitely soft and pure, so +gentle and yet so useful, that no wonder Ariel is the most delicate, lovable +and fascinating of all Nature Spirits."</p> +<p>It is only when we open our eyes to the beauty of the wonders about us that +we see how much there is to contribute to our happiness if we will but open our +hearts and let it come in. What a perpetual exaltation nature will afford us +<span class='sidenote'>If you are acquainted with Happiness, introduce him to +your neighbor.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Phillips +Brooks</span>.</span> when we have cultivated the fine habit of looking upon it +with the welcoming eyes through which Richard Jefferies beholds it: "The +whole time in the open air," he tells us, "resting at mid-day under +the elms with the ripple of heat flowing through the shadow; at midnight +between the ripe corn and the hawthorne hedge or the white camomile and the +poppy pale in the duskiness, with face <span class='sidenote'>Nor love thy +life, nor hate; but what thou liv’st, live well; how long or short, +permit to heaven.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Milton</span>.</span> upturned to the thoughtful +heaven. Consider the glory of it, the life above this life to be obtained from +constant presence with the sunlight and the stars."</p> +<p>So let us cultivate the fine habit of finding joy and of shouting it to our +friends and neighbors. Life seems bright to us when we are really glad of +<span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_116' name='page_116'></a>116</span> +<span class='sidenote'>The most wasted of all days is that on which one has not +laughed.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Chamfort</span>.</span> +anything and we let gladness have voice to express itself. George MacDonald +says "a poet is a man who is glad of something and tries to make other +people glad of it, too." In the possession of this kindly spirit, at +least, we must all strive to be poets.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>It is impossible to be just if one is not +generous.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Joseph +Roux</span>.</span> Emerson tells us that "there is one topic positively +forbidden to all well-bred, to all rational mortals, namely, their distempers. +If you have not slept, or if you have headache, or sciatica, or leprosy, or +thunder stroke, I beseech you, by all the angels, to hold your peace, and not +pollute the morning, to which all the housemates bring serene and pleasant +thoughts, by corruption and groans."</p> +<p>The fine tonic effect of a bright, happy face smiling across the breakfast +table is known to all the world. Better a feast of corn bread and a cheerful +countenance than fruit cake and a sour temperament. <span class= +'sidenote'>People glorify all sorts of bravery, except the bravery they might +show on behalf of their nearest neighbors.— <span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>George Eliot</span>.</span></p> +<p>So I feel very sure that you, my dear young lady, for whom these lines are +written, are never going to appear at the breakfast table with aught other than +a bright cheery face and a pleasant word <span class='sidenote'>How active +springs the mind that leaves the load of yesterday behind.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Pope</span>.</span> <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_117' name='page_117'></a>117</span> for all about +you. Some one has said that the first hour of the day is the critical one. +Happy is the person who can wake with a song, or who can at least hold back the +fears and the grumbles until a thought of gladness has established <span class= +'sidenote'>One of the most charming things in girlhood is +serenity.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Margaret E. +Sangster</span>.</span> itself as the keynote of the day.</p> +<p>"Assume a virtue, if you have it not," says Shakespeare. While as +a rule it is deemed wrong to assume to possess any virtue that we do not +possess, we may and no doubt should, at times, appear to be happy even though +we may feel more like indulging in lamentations. To come to the breakfast table +enumerating a <span class='sidenote'>Every generous nature desires to make the +earning of an honest living but a means to the higher end of adding to the sum +total of human goodness and human happiness.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Frances E. Willard</span>.</span> list of real or +imaginary ailments is a most ill-advised thing to do. We should endeavor to +forget our troubles and above all we should be slow to give voice to them so +that thereby they will be multiplied in the minds of others. It has been truly +said that most people who are unhappy are really miserable and bring their +misery to others because they allow the failures and discomforts to speak the +first word in their souls. For misery is voluble and the little discomforts +will turn us into their continual mouthpieces if we will give them a +<span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_118' name='page_118'></a>118</span> +<span class='sidenote'>Attempt the end, and never stand in doubt; +nothing’s so hard but search will find it out.— <span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Richard Lovelace</span>.</span> chance. But the +truly thoughtful and considerate person will have none of them. Instead of +displaying the flag of distress and surrender, the wiser method is to pull our +courage and determination together and don</p> +<p class='topic'>THE BETTER ARMOR</p> +<p class='poetry'>    If through +thick and through thin<span class='sidenote'>There is only one way to get ready +for immortality, and that is to love this life and live it as bravely and +cheerfully and faithfully as we can.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Henry Van Dyke</span>.</span><br /> +    You are eager to win,<br /> +Don’t go shrouded in Fear and in Doubt,<br /> +    But with Hope and with Truth<br /> +    And the blue sky of Youth<br /> +Go through life with the sunny side out.</p> +<p>So let us determine that we will cultivate the happy habit; for indeed even +happiness is largely a habit. "As he thinketh in his heart, so is +he." If he thinks trouble, he is very likely to find it. If he thinks +sickness, he is <span class='sidenote'>He that composes himself is wiser than +he that composes books.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Benjamin +Franklin</span>.</span> likely to be ill. If he thinks unkind things, he is +quite sure to put them into the deeds of his daily life. The thought is the +architect’s plans which the hands are likely to set about to build. To +the one who thinks the weather is <span class='sidenote'>Anxiety never yet +successfully bridged over any chasm.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Ruffini</span>.</span> bad, it is sure to be +disagreeable. To the one who seeks to find something pleasant about it, it is +certain to offer some happy phases. <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id= +'page_119' name='page_119'></a>119</span></p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>How poor are they that have not patience! What wound +did ever heal but by degrees?—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Shakespeare</span>.</span> We must all answer +"yes" to this question asked by one of our fine writers on our social +amenities: "Don’t you get awfully tired of people who are always +croaking? A frog in a big, damp, malarial pond is expected to make all the fuss +he can in protest of his surroundings. But a man! Destined for a crown, and +born that he may be educated for the court of a king! Placed in an emerald +world with a hither side of opaline shadow, and a fine dust of diamonds to set +<span class='sidenote'>Duty determines destiny. Destiny which results from duty +performed, may bring anxiety and perils, but never failure and +dishonor.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>William +McKinley</span>.</span> it sparkling when winter days are flying; with ten +million singing birds to make it musical, and twice ten million flowers to make +it sweet; with countless stars to light it up with fiery splendor, and white, +new moons to wrap it round with mystery; with other souls within it to love and +make happy, and the hand of God to uphold it on its rushing way among the +countless worlds that crowd its path; <span class='sidenote'>If I can stop one +heart from breaking, I shall not live in vain.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Emily Dickinson</span>.</span> what right has man to +find fault with such a world? When the woodtick shall gain a hearing, as he +complains that the grand old century oak is unfit to shelter him, or the +bluebird be harkened to when he murmurs that the horizon is off color, and does +not <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_120' name= +'page_120'></a>120</span> match his wings, then, I think, it will be time for +man to find fault with the appointments of the magnificent sphere in which he +lives."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>No book is worth anything which is not worth much; +nor is it serviceable, until it has been read, and reread, and loved, and loved +again.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Ruskin</span>.</span> +Therefore let it be determined between us, right here and now, that come what +may, we shall each of us endeavor to keep a merry heart and a pleasant face. As +we love to see a happy expression on the faces of our parents, brothers, +sisters and friends, so must they enjoy seeing a pleasant look overspreading +our <span class='sidenote'>Wise, cultivated, genial conversation is the best +flower of civilization.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Emerson</span>.</span> features. And with this good +and kindly resolve in our minds it will never be difficult for us to decide +whether we shall give to the good world about us the gladness or the gloom that +is embodied in</p> +<p class='topic'>SONG OR SIGH</p> +<p class='poetry'>If you were a bird and shut in a +cage,<br /> +    Now what would you better do,—<br /> +Would you grieve your throat with a sorry note<br /> +    And mourn the whole day through;<br /> +Or would you swing and chirp and sing,<br /> +    Though the world were warped with wrong,<br /> +Till you filled one place with the perfect grace<br /> +    And gladness of your song?</p> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_121' name= +'page_121'></a>121</span></div> +<p class='poetry'><span class='sidenote'>It is so easy +to perceive other people’s little absurdities, and so difficult to +discover our own.— <span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Ellen +Thornycroft Fowler</span>.</span> If you were a man and shut in a world,<br /> +    Now what would you better do,—<br /> +On a gloomy day, when skies were gray,<br /> +    Would you be gloomy, too?<br /> +When crossed with care would you let despair<br /> +    Life’s happy hope destroy,<br /> +Or with a smile work on the while<br /> +    You found the path to joy?</p> +<hr class='silver' /> +<div class='figcenter'><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_124' name= +'page_124'></a>124</span> <img src='images/illus-124.jpg' alt='' title='' +style='width: 347px; height: 487px;' /><br /> +<p class='caption' style='margin: 0 auto; text-align:center;width: 347px;'> +FLORENCE NIGHTINGALE<br /></p> +</div> +<hr class='silver' /> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_125' name= +'page_125'></a>125</span></div> +<p style='width:600px; margin-bottom:30px; text-align:center;'><span style= +'font-size:large; text-align:center;'>CHAPTER VII<br /> +GOLDEN HABITS</span></p> +<p>We often hear <span class='sidenote'>I think that there is success in all +honest endeavor, and that there is some victory gained in every gallant +struggle that is made.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Dickens</span>.</span> persons speaking of "the +force of habit" as though it were something to be regretted. "Habit +is second nature," is a saying that is included among the classic epigrams +of men. That habits do become very strong, all the world has learned, sometimes +to its sorrow and sometimes to its advantage and delight.</p> +<p>For be it known that good habits are just as strong as bad habits and in +that <span class='sidenote'>Every noble work is at first +impossible.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Carlyle</span>.</span> +we should all feel a common joy and a sense of deliverance from wrong +doing.</p> +<p>The fact that a fixed habit is only a matter of long and gradual growth +ought <span class='sidenote'>Truth is a strong thing, let man’s life be +true.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Browning</span>.</span> to +be very much to our advantage. This very fundamental principle of their +construction should result in giving us very many more good habits than bad +habits. This happy conclusion is based on the supposition that while many of +<span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_126' name='page_126'></a>126</span> +<span class='sidenote'>Efforts to be permanently useful must be uniformly +joyous—a spirit all sunshine, graceful from very gladness, beautiful +because bright.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Carlyle</span>.</span> us are so constituted that it +is possible we might, in some unguarded moment, do a wrong act, it is unlikely +we could repeat the error so often and so long as to make the questionable +action become a fixed habit.</p> +<p>The doing of a wrong thing should result in convincing us, on sober second +<span class='sidenote'>Pass no day idly; youth does not +return.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Chinese +Proverb</span>.</span> thought, that it was a mistake on our part to have +permitted ourselves to have been led into uncertain, unhappy paths and we would +then and there reinforce our moral strength and our determination that the +wrong should not occur again.</p> +<p>In doing right things, the conditions are quite reversed. Every good deed +inspires us to still greater determination to do more of the same kind. Wrong +<span class='sidenote'>If, instead of a gem, or even a flower, we could cast +the gift of a lovely thought into the heart of a friend, that would be giving +as the angels must give.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>George +MacDonald</span>.</span> deeds are, in most cases, committed in a moment of +thoughtlessness when one’s conscience, one’s higher and better +self, is momentarily off guard. Our good acts are performed with a full and +proud realization of what we are doing and are followed by a grateful sense of +retrospective pleasure, after they have been done.</p> +<p>"Could the young," says Henry <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id= +'page_127' name='page_127'></a>127</span> <span class='sidenote'>Nothing can +constitute good breeding that has not good manners for its +foundation.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Bulwer +Lytton</span>.</span> James, "but realize how soon they will become mere +walking bundles of habits, they would give more heed to their conduct while in +the plastic state. Nothing we ever do is, in strict scientific literateness, +wiped out." One of our latter day philosophers tells us that +"happiness is a matter of habit; and you had better gather it fresh every +day or you will never get it at all."</p> +<p>In speaking of the success he had achieved in life, Charles Dickens said: +"I have been very fortunate in worldly matters; many men have worked much +harder <span class='sidenote'>The common earth is common only to those who are +deaf to the voices and blind to the visions which wait on it and make its +flight a music and its path a light.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>H. W. Mabie</span>.</span> and not succeeded half so +well; but I never could have done what I have done, without the habits of +punctuality, order, and diligence, without the determination to concentrate +myself on one object at a time, no matter how quickly its successor should come +upon its heels."</p> +<p>When we come to study carefully the full meaning of the word +"habit" we find it to be a very comprehensive term. In the sense in +which it is here employed <span class='sidenote'>The truest lives are those +that are cut rose-diamond-fashion, with many facets answering to the +many-planed aspects of the world about them.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Oliver Wendell Holmes</span>.</span> the dictionary +defines it as being "a tendency or inclination toward an action or +condition, which by repetition has become easy, spontaneous or even +<span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_128' name='page_128'></a>128</span> +unconscious." From this definition it is easy to deduce the conclusion +that one’s habits are in fact one’s manners, one’s +principles, one’s mode of conduct; and a careful consideration of the +theme finally brings one to a clear realization of the secret of</p> +<p class='topic'>TRUE GENTILITY</p> +<p class='poetry'>One cannot from the world +conceal<br /> +    The current of his thought;<br /> +<span class='sidenote'>It seems to me there is no maxim for a noble life like +this: Count always your highest moments your truest moments.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Phillips Brooks</span>.</span> A word or action will +reveal<br /> +    The thing his brain hath wrought.</p> +<p class='poetry'>True goodness from within must +come<br /> +    And deeds, to be refined,<br /> +Their outer grace must borrow from<br /> +    Politeness of the mind.</p> +<p>Our manners are ourselves. They constitute our personality and it is by our +<span class='sidenote'>We only begin to realize the value of our possessions +when we commence to do good to others with them.— <span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Joseph Cook</span>.</span> personality that we are +judged. If that is frank and pleasant and agreeable we shall not lack for +friends.</p> +<p>A person may be deficient in the charm of form or face but if the manners +are <span class='sidenote'>Believe me, girls, on the road of life you and I +will find few things more worth while than comradeship.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Margaret E. Sangster</span>.</span> perfect they +will call forth admiration as nothing else could do.</p> +<p>Our thoughts are the essential and impressive part of ourselves. "It is +the <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_129' name= +'page_129'></a>129</span> spirit that maketh alive. The flesh profiteth +nothing." We are told by Swedenborg that "every volition and thought +of man is inscribed on his brain, <span class='sidenote'>Do noble things, not +dream them, all day long, and so make life, death, and the vast forever, one +grand, sweet song.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Charles +Kingsley</span>.</span> for volition and thoughts have their beginnings in the +brain, whence they are conveyed to the bodily members, wherein they terminate. +Whatever, therefore, is in the mind is in the brain, and from the brain in the +body, according to the order of its parts. Thus a man writes his life in his +physique, and thus the angels discover his autobiography in his +structure."</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>And to get peace, if you do <i>want</i> it, make for +yourself nests of pleasant thoughts.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Ruskin</span>.</span> Since good habits and pleasing +manners are such important aids in the making of character and personality we +should leave nothing undone to strengthen the better side of our lives. And +since we all are constantly being acted upon by <span class='sidenote'>When one +is so dedicated to his mission, so full of a great purpose that he has no +thought for self, his life is one of unalloyed joy—the joy of +self-sacrifice.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Lyman +Abbott</span>.</span> suggestion we should invite to our assistance anything +that will tend to keep us in the most exemplary frame of mind.</p> +<p>In addition to the spoken word of admonition from parents, teachers, and +others honestly interested in our welfare we should reinforce our good resolves +by reading good books and in framing <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id= +'page_130' name='page_130'></a>130</span> <span class='sidenote'>Morality is +conformity to the highest standard of right and virtuous action, with the best +intention founded on principle.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>A. +E. Winship</span>.</span> for our own benefit a code of rules for our better +conduct.</p> +<p>It is considered to be a good plan to select a number of suitable quotations +and display them in some manner where the eye must see them with frequency. A +calendar with a daily quotation admirably serves this purpose. Oftentimes when +a good thought is put into the mind in the early morning it tends to direct the +<span class='sidenote'>To have a friend is to have one of the sweetest gifts +that life can bring; to be a friend is to have a solemn and tender education of +soul from day to day.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Anna +Robertson Brown</span>.</span> course of our thinking throughout the day. The +following quotations are offered only as suggestions. They can be added to +indefinitely:</p> +<p class='poetry'>A man’s own good breeding is +the best security against other people’s ill +manners.—Chesterfield.</p> +<p class='poetry'>Good breeding shows itself most when +to an ordinary eye it appears the <span class='sidenote'>When it comes to doing +a thing in this world, I don’t ask myself whether I like it or not, but, +what’s the best way to get it done.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Ellen Glasgow</span>.</span> +least.—Addison.</p> +<p class='poetry'>Good manners is the art of making +those people easy with whom we converse. Whoever makes the fewest people uneasy +is the best bred in the company.—Swift.</p> +<p class='poetry'>Hail! ye small, sweet courtesies of +life, for smooth do you make the road of it.—Sterne.</p> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_131' name= +'page_131'></a>131</span></div> +<p class='poetry'>Civility costs nothing and buys +everything.—Lady Montague.<span class='sidenote'>Do you ask to be the +companion of nobles? Make yourself noble, and you shall be. Do you long for the +conversation of the wise? Learn to understand it, and you shall hear +it.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Ruskin</span>.</span></p> +<p class='poetry'>Evil communications corrupt good +manners.—Bible.</p> +<p class='poetry'>No pleasure is comparable to +standing on the vantage ground of truth.—Lord Bacon.</p> +<p class='poetry'>They are never alone that are +accompanied with noble thoughts.—Sidney.</p> +<p class='poetry'>Let your speech be always with +grace, seasoned with salt.—New Testament.</p> +<p class='poetry'>Sweet mercy is nobility’s true +badge.—Shakespeare.<span class='sidenote'>There is no cosmetic for homely +folks like character. Even the plainest face becomes beautiful in noble and +radiant moods.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Newell Dwight +Hillis</span>.</span></p> +<p class='poetry'>Honest labor bears a lovely +face.—Dekker.</p> +<p class='poetry'>The gods give nothing really +beautiful without labor and diligence.—Xenophon.</p> +<p class='poetry'>The key to pleasure is honest work. +All dishes taste good with that sauce.—H. R. Haweis.</p> +<p class='poetry'>Work is as necessary for peace of +mind as for health of body.—Lord Avebury.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>A single gentle rain makes the grass many shades +greener. So our prospects brighten on the influx of better +thoughts.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Thoreau</span>.</span> +Sir John Lubbock has said: "I cannot, however, but think that the world +would be better and brighter if our teachers would dwell on the duty of +Happiness, as well as the happiness of Duty, for we <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_132' name='page_132'></a>132</span> ought to be +as cheerful as we can, if only because to be happy ourselves is the most +effectual contribution to the happiness of <span class='sidenote'>A good book +is the precious life-blood of a master spirit embalmed and treasured up on +purpose to a life beyond life.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Milton</span>.</span>others."</p> +<p>Surely we cannot include among good habits the habit of making those about +us unhappy. Hence it is that they who are careless of the state of mind into +which <span class='sidenote'>Happiness is the natural flower of +duty.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Phillips +Brooks</span>.</span> they throw those about them are not good mannered. While +it is but simple kindness to allow our friends to sympathize in the great +griefs that may overtake us, it is not kindness for us to be forever stirring +them with all the real or fancied ills with which we can regale them. Either +extreme is more or <span class='sidenote'>By wisdom wealth is won; but riches +purchased wisdom yet for none.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Bayard Taylor</span>.</span> less absurd and +unwarranted. Perhaps, as a rule, we thrust our troubles quite too willingly +upon others. On the other hand, some of the peoples of the Orient we deem to be +so ludicrously polite in matters of this nature as to almost arouse our +mirth.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>It is surely better to pardon too much than to +condemn too much.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>George +Eliot.</span></span> An English writer in speaking of the Japanese says: +"There must really have been a double portion of politeness bestowed upon +these people who in the deepest domestic grief would smile and smile, so that a +guest in the home might <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_133' name= +'page_133'></a>133</span> not be burdened with their sorrow. The habit is in +striking contrast with the weeping and wailing, the mourning streamers, the +hatbands, plumes, palls, black <span class='sidenote'>To be a strong hand in +the dark to another in the time of need, to be a cup of strength to a human +soul in a crisis of weakness, is to know the glory of life.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Hugh Black.</span></span> chargers, and funeral +hearses with which we struggle to stir the envy, if not the hearts of all +beholders!"</p> +<p>In Japan, so we are told, manners are included in the public teaching of +morality. Among our western peoples our public school boys would deem it +strange <span class='sidenote'>It is not the result of our acts that makes them +brave and noble, but the acts themselves and the unselfish love that moved us +to do them.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>R. L. +Stevenson.</span></span> if a master gave them an hour’s instruction in +the correct manner of behaving toward their father and mother or sisters. Yet +such knowledge might be urgently needed and do good here as it does in Japan +where it is counted the most vital instruction of all. Step by step the +Japanese child is led along the course of behavior, learning how to stand up, +sit down, bow, hang up its hat, and how to think of its parents, brothers and +sisters, and of its country. Later on these lessons are repeated with +illustrations from short stories, and still later by incidents from actual +history and the lives of great men of all <span class='sidenote'>Use thy youth +so that thou mayest have comfort to remember it when it hath forsaken +thee.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Walter +Raleigh</span>.</span> countries. Before the end of the course of instruction +is reached all manner of virtues and <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id= +'page_134' name='page_134'></a>134</span> points of behavior have been +introduced, such as patriotism, cleanliness, and (especially in the case of +girls) the proper way of advancing and retiring, offering and accepting things, +sleeping and eating, visiting, congratulating and condoling, mourning and +holding public meetings. So the school course continues <span class= +'sidenote'>It is easy to condemn; it is better to pity.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Abbott</span>.</span> from year to year, the +elementary school course lasting four years and the secondary course four years +more, and leading the boys and girls up to the study of benevolence, their duty +to ancestors, to other people’s property, other people’s honor, +other people’s freedom, and, finally, to self-discipline, modesty, +dignity, dress, labor, the treatment of animals, and the due relations of men +and women, both of whom are to be regarded equally as "lords" of +creation. From end to end of the long course of training, behavior rather than +knowledge is insisted upon, even down to the tiniest detail of what our good +great-grandmothers valued as deportment.</p> +<p>To such scrupulous deportment and close attention to minuteness of habit, +<span class='sidenote'>If you don’t scale the mountain, you can’t +view the plain.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Chinese +Proverb</span>.</span> some objection can be raised, perhaps. "Some +men’s behavior," said Bacon, "is like a verse wherein every +syllable is measured," and he warned us that manners must be like apparel, +"not too strait or point-device, but free for exercise or <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_135' name='page_135'></a>135</span> <span class= +'sidenote'>For him who aspires, and for him who loves his fellow-beings, life +may lead through the thorns, but it never stops in the +desert.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Anonymous</span>.</span> +motion." However, it is better to err on the side of too much attention to +our manners rather than to be thought careless of our persons and our +behavior.</p> +<p>Civilized peoples cannot help but be concerned with manners, refinement, +good <span class='sidenote'>Be cheerful; wipe thine eyes; some falls are means +the happier to arise.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>William +Shakespeare</span>.</span> breeding, and in a more minute sense, with the forms +of etiquette. It is these things that distinguish civilization from savagery, +and so unmistakably lift the cultured person above the one who does not see fit +to cultivate the grace of gentility.</p> +<p>It has been truly said that we judge our neighbors severely by the breach of +<span class='sidenote'>Be resolutely and faithfully what you are, be humbly +what you aspire to be.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Thoreau</span>.</span> +written or traditional laws, +and choose our society, and even our friends, by the touchstone of courtesy. It +is not an uncommon occurrence for a girl or a boy to win an advantageous +position in life, not by superior mental or physical endowments but by a +graciousness of manners that have smoothed for them the ways that lead to +success.</p> +<p>For some quite unwarranted reason <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id= +'page_136' name='page_136'></a>136</span> <span class='sidenote'>If people only +knew their own brothers and sisters, the Kingdom of Heaven would not be far +off.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>George +MacDonald</span>.</span> society seems to have taken the position that we have +a right to expect more from our girls than from our boys in the matter of good +manners. This, however, is not the view held by those who know the true meaning +of good breeding. The <span class='sidenote'>The shadows of our own desires +stand between us and our better angel.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Dickens</span>.</span> demand that every boy shall +be a gentleman is as firm and binding as is that which says that every girl +must be a gentle woman and a thorough lady.</p> +<p>Every girl knows what is expected of her. Her parents, brothers, sisters, +<span class='sidenote'>If every day we can feel, if only for a moment, the +realization of being our best selves, you may be sure that we are +succeeding.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Bliss +Carman</span>.</span> teachers, society and the world intend that she shall be +good and gentle and gracious. They will be satisfied with nothing short of all +that and it will be well for every girl to learn early in life to pursue only +the paths that will lead into ways wherein these qualities of person and +character may be found. So here and now it is timely to ask of the readers of +these lines—</p> +<p class='topic'>WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO?</p> +<p class='poetry'>What are you going to do, +girls,<br /> +    With the years that are hurrying on?<br /> +Do you mean to begin life’s purpose to win<br /> +    In the freshness and strength of the dawn?</p> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_137' name= +'page_137'></a>137</span></div> +<p class='poetry'>The builders who build in the +morning,<span class='sidenote'>If you know how to spend less than you get, you +have the philosopher’s stone.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Benjamin Franklin</span>.</span><br /> +    At even may joyfully rest,<br /> +Their victories won, as they watch the glad sun<br /> +    Sink down in the beautiful west.</p> +<p class='poetry'>What are you going to do, +girls,<br /> +    With time as it ceaselessly flows?<br /> +Are you molding a heart that will pleasures impart<br /> +    As perfume exhales from the rose?</p> +<p class='poetry'>Let all that is purest and +grandest<br /> +    In duty’s fair wreath be entwined;<br /> +There is no other grace can illumine the face<br /> +    Like the charm of a beautiful mind.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>He only is advancing in life, whose heart is getting +softer, whose blood warmer, whose brain quicker, whose spirit is entering into +living peace.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Ruskin</span>.</span> A student of the subject of +ethics must understand that the true spirit of good manners is very closely +allied to that of good morals. It has been pointed out that no stronger proof +of this assertion is required than the fact that the Messiah himself, in his +great moral teachings, so frequently touches upon the <span class= +'sidenote'>The fine art of living, indeed, is to draw from each person his +best.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Lilian +Whiting</span>.</span> subject of manners. He teaches that modesty is the true +spirit of good behavior, and openly rebukes the forward manner of His followers +in taking the upper seats at the banquet and the highest seats in the +synagogues.</p> +<p>The philosophers whose names are recorded in history, although they were, +<span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_138' name='page_138'></a>138</span> +<span class='sidenote'>Reflect upon your present blessings—of which every +man has many—not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have +some.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Dickens.</span></span> +themselves, seldom distinguished for fine manners, did not fail to teach the +importance of them to others. Socrates and Aristotle have left behind them a +code of ethics that might easily be turned into a "Guide to the Complete +Gentleman;" and Lord Bacon has written an essay on manners in which he +reminds <span class='sidenote'>If the day and the night are such that you greet +them with joy, and life emits a fragrance like flowers and sweet-scented +herbs—is more elastic, more starry, more immortal—that is your +success.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Thoreau.</span></span> us +that a stone must be of very high value to do without a setting.</p> +<p>The motive in cultivating good manners should not be shallow and +superficial. Lord Chesterfield says that the motive that makes one wish to be +polite is a desire to shine among his fellows and to raise one’s self +into a society supposed to be better than his own. It is unnecessary to state +that Lord Chesterfield’s good manners, fine as they appear, do not bear +the true <span class='sidenote'>Blessings ever wait on virtuous +deeds.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Congreve.</span></span> +stamp of genuineness. There is not the living person back of them possessing +heart and character. They seem to him, in a measure, what a fine gown does to +the wax figure in the dressmaker’s window. True manners mean more than +<span class='sidenote'>The microscope gives us a world, a universe, a single +drop of dew. So also there is a world in a single profound, earnest +meditation.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Madame +Swetchine.</span></span> mannerisms. They cannot be taught entirely from a book +in which there are sets of rules to be observed on any and every occasion. They +<span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_139' name='page_139'></a>139</span> +are rather a cultivated method of thinking and feeling and the forming of a +character that knows, intuitively, the nice and kind and appropriate thing to +do without reference to what a printed rule of conduct may set forth.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Better is it to have a small portion of good sense, +with humility and a slender understanding, than great treasures of science, +with vain self-complacency.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Thomas +à Kempis.</span></span> It is generally agreed that our best and only right +motive in the cultivation of good manners should be to make ourselves better +than we otherwise would be, to render ourselves agreeable to every one whom we +may meet, and to improve, it may be, the society in which we are placed. With +these objects in view, it is plainly as much a moral duty to cultivate +one’s manners as it is to cultivate one’s mind, and no one can deny +that we are better citizens when we observe the nicer amenities of society than +we are when we pay no heed to them.</p> +<p>Lord Bacon says: "Many examples may be put of the force of custom, both +upon <span class='sidenote'>There is one road to peace and that is +truth.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Shelley.</span></span> mind +and body. Therefore, since custom is the principle magistrate of man’s +life, let men by all means endeavor to obtain good customs. Certainly custom is +most perfect when it beginneth in young years; this we call education, which +is, in effect, but an early custom." <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id= +'page_140' name='page_140'></a>140</span></p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>He hath from his childhood conversed with books and +bookmen; and always being where the frankincense of the temple was offered, +there must be some perfume remaining about him.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Thomas Fuller</span>.</span> So we see that our true +characters are but the expression of our habits and of our manners. And we see +that only those habits that are formed in the early years of life seem to fit +us perfectly and naturally throughout all the years.</p> +<p>It is an old saying and a homely one, but none the less true, that "it +is hard to teach an old dog new tricks." So it is hard to acquire in later +life the manners and graces that escape us in youth.</p> +<p>Fortunate is the young girl who finds her lot is cast among the good +<span class='sidenote'>Everything great is not always good, but all good things +are great.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Demosthenes</span>.</span> influences of a cultured +home. She has at hand the material from which to select all that she may need +to build the fine character the world shall observe and admire. Such felicitous +surroundings should teach her, first of all, to be very charitable and lenient +toward others whose early years are lived among less <span class='sidenote'>The +turmoil of the world will always die, if we set our faces to climb +heavenward.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Hawthorne</span>.</span> advantageous surroundings. +For if her culture does not in some ways influence and soften and modify her +heart as well as her mind, its true purpose has been lost.</p> +<p>Those whose earlier years are spent amid surroundings not so favorable for +the forming of golden habits, must strive all the harder for the prize of +gentility <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_141' name= +'page_141'></a>141</span> <span class='sidenote'>If I can put one touch of a +rosy sunset into the life of any man or woman, I shall feel that I have worked +with God.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>George +MacDonald</span>.</span> which they would obtain. And in this very struggle +against adverse circumstances will be engendered a strength and a spirit of +self-reliance that will be likely to prove a worthy equivalent for the loss of +a more kindly and propitious environment.</p> +<p>It is experience that develops character, and character is the one thing +that distinguishes a life and makes it a definite and individual thing of +supreme beauty. <span class='sidenote'>Our business in life is not to get ahead +of other people but to get ahead of ourselves.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Maltbie D. Babcock</span>.</span></p> +<p>The character that is the most laboriously built is the most enduring. +Golden habits that have been hammered out of our life experiences are to be +implicitly relied upon. They have been tested at every point. They have been +shaped out of the very necessity of one’s surroundings. They are worth +every effort that <span class='sidenote'>The narrow kingdom of to-day is better +worth ruling over than the widest past or future.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Edith Wharton</span>.</span> they have cost. The +world will never know how much of its integrity, how much of its stability, how +much of its beauty it owes to that which we are all so prone to call</p> +<p class='topic'>DRUDGERY</p> +<p class='poetry'>Dull drudgery, "gray angel of +success;"<span class='sidenote'>There’s always a bloom on the world +if one looks.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Abby M. +Roach</span>.</span><br /> +    Enduring purpose, waiting long and long,</p> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_142' name= +'page_142'></a>142</span></div> +<p class='poetry'>Headache or heartache, blent with +sigh or song,<br /> +Forever delving mid the strife and stress:<br /> +Within the bleak confines of your duress<br /> +    Are laid the firm foundations, deep and strong,<br /> +    Whereon men build the right against the +wrong,—<br /> +The toil-wrought monuments that lift and bless.</p> +<p class='poetry'>The coral reefs; the bee’s +o’erflowing cells;<span class='sidenote'>The reward of one duty is the +power to fulfill another.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>George +Eliot</span>.</span><br /> +    The Pyramids; all things that shall endure;<br /> +The books on books wherein all wisdom dwells,<br /> +    Are wrought with plodding patience, slow and +sure.<br /> +Yours the time-tempered fashioning that spells<br /> +    Of chaos, order, perfect and secure.</p> +<hr class='silver' /> +<div class='figcenter'><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_144' name= +'page_144'></a>144</span> <img src='images/illus-144.jpg' alt='' title='' +style='width: 351px; height: 484px;' /><br /> +<p class='caption' style='margin: 0 auto; text-align:center;width: 351px;'> +GEORGE ELIOT<br /></p> +</div> +<hr class='silver' /> +<div><span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_145' name= +'page_145'></a>145</span></div> +<p style='width:600px; margin-bottom:30px; text-align:center;'><span style= +'font-size:large; text-align:center;'>CHAPTER VIII<br /> +THE PURPOSE OF LIFE</span></p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>He who works for sweetness and light works to make +reason and the will of God prevail.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Matthew Arnold</span>.</span> "Nothing succeeds +like success."</p> +<p>Perhaps the true meaning of this old French proverb is that once we have a +measure of success we are the more likely to achieve still more victories. The +discovery that our strength, perseverance and determination have been capable +of bending circumstances to our will and bringing to fulfillment the end for +which <span class='sidenote'>Let us ever glory in something, and strive to +retain our admiration for all that would ennoble, and our interest in all that +would enrich and beautify our life.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Phillips Brooks</span>.</span> we have wished and +worked, gives us renewed courage and inspiration for the undertaking of new and +larger duties.</p> +<p>We learn to do by doing. Achievement leads to still greater achievement. +Orison Swett Marden, one of the world’s wisest of observers and deepest +of philosophers, says, "The world makes way for the determined man." +And so it does <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_146' name= +'page_146'></a>146</span> <span class='sidenote'>Nothing of worth or weight can +be achieved with half a mind, with a faint heart, and with a lame +endeavor.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Barrow</span>.</span> +for the determined woman, or the determined girl or boy.</p> +<p>Regarding this thing called "Success," too many of us are apt to +think that it means some one, isolated, remarkable achievement, that comes at +the end of a <span class='sidenote'>Good manners are part of good +morals.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Whately</span>.</span> +long period of striving in some particular field of endeavor. This is not +entirely true. Every great success is made of very many lesser successes that +have preceded it. Just as the cap-stone at the top of the tallest building is +held in its lofty position by every stone beneath it even down to the ones deep +in the earth at the very foundation of the structure, which are indeed perhaps +<span class='sidenote'>After all, the kind of world one carries about within +one’s self is the important thing, and the world outside takes all its +grace, color and value from that.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Lowell</span>.</span> the most important of all.</p> +<p>So the thing which the world is pleased to call "Success" is built +up by a thousand little successes on which it must finally rest. The building +of a life success begins with the earliest dawn of being and must be carried on +with as much care as a mason would give to the laying of the walls of a +structure designed to stand for years. The mason knows that if he does not lay +his <span class='sidenote'>In character, in manner, in style, in all things the +supreme excellence is simplicity.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Longfellow</span>.</span> foundations deep and firm, +that if the walls are not kept straight and plumb, that if he <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_147' name='page_147'></a>147</span> puts faulty +bricks or stones in the walls, the building will not be a success. The work at +every stage must be a success or the completed structure must be a failure.</p> +<p>So it is in life. If our moments are not successful, the hours can never be +so, and the days and years can but enlarge upon and emphasize their failure. +"Every day is a fresh beginning, every morn is a world made new," +says Susan Coolidge. There is a chance for attaining success every hour and day +of our lives.</p> +<p>Success is not alone for the great men of the world who find new continents, +<span class='sidenote'>The small courtesies sweeten life; the greater ennoble +it.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Bovee</span>.</span> explore +the poles, navigate the air, write great poems, paint great pictures, or who +amass fortunes of millions of dollars. No, success is for any and all of us, +here and now, any and all the time.</p> +<p>Were you prepared in your studies at school to-day? If you were, that was +<span class='sidenote'>Never mind if you cannot do all things just as well as +you would like to. It is only necessary to do things just as well as you +can.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Patrick Flynn</span>.</span> +success.</p> +<p>Have you your music lesson well in hand for this afternoon? If so, that +means success.</p> +<p>Have you been kind to everybody to-day, and with a pleasant word and a +<span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_148' name='page_148'></a>148</span> +willing hand, done all you could to make life pleasanter and happier for those +about you? If so, that is a fine moral success. And if you will multiply the +<span class='sidenote'>Not so much beautiful features as a beautiful soul can +make a beautiful face.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Margaret E. +Sangster</span>.</span> achievements of to-day by the days that are in the +years before you, you can see the result that you have a reason to expect, as +your life’s work.</p> +<p>Success means doing all that we can do as well as we can do it. It may be +<span class='sidenote'>There is a marvelous power in a well-defined +individuality.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Joe Mitchell +Chapple</span>.</span> work or it may be play. It may be something of seemingly +little account or it may be something of importance, but unless we do it well, +and to the best of our ability it will not be a success.</p> +<p>"Every day," says Bunsen, "ought to be begun as a serious +work, standing alone in itself, and yet connected with the past and the +future." And Ruskin still further emphasizes this thought in the words: +"Let every dawn of morning be to you as the beginning of life, and every +setting sun be to you as its close; then let every one of these short lives +leave its sure record of some <span class='sidenote'>Resolution always gives us +courage.— <span style='font-variant: small-caps'>A. E. +Winship</span>.</span> kindly thing done for others."</p> +<p>We begin to achieve success when we do the things that are necessary for +such achievement. Huxley expressed the <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id= +'page_149' name='page_149'></a>149</span> <span class='sidenote'>Of all +fruitless errands, sending a tear to look after a day that has gone is the most +fruitless.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Dickens</span>.</span> +whole secret of the matter when he said: "Perhaps the most valuable result +of all education is the ability to make yourself do the thing you have to do, +when it ought to be done, as it ought to be done, whether you like to do it or +not."</p> +<p>A good life, which is but another name for success, does not come +<span class='sidenote'>You can never be wise unless you love +reading.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Johnson</span>.</span> by +accident. Fortune may seem to favor it but it is the disposition to seize upon +the opportunities that present themselves that make some lives seem more blest +with "good chances" than others.</p> +<p>Self cultivation is the secret of most all attainments in the realm of human +endeavor. As a matter of fact, all that others can do for us is as nothing to +<span class='sidenote'>The perfecting of one’s self is the fundamental +base of all progress and all moral development.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Confucius</span>.</span> that which we may do for +ourselves. Persons who do things usually have to work for results, or they have +at some time had to work to acquire the habits that later on make it seem so +easy for them to do fine things. "We think," says J. C. Van Dyke, +"because the completed work looks easy or reads easy, that it must have +been done easily. But the geniuses of the world have all put upon record their +conviction that there is more virtue in perspiration than in inspiration. The +<span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_150' name='page_150'></a>150</span> +<span class='sidenote'>Nothing can be beautiful which is not +true.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Ruskin</span>.</span> great +poets, whether in print or in paint, have spent their weeks and +months—yes, years—composing, adjusting, putting in and taking out. +They have known what it is to ’lick things into shape,’ to labor +and be baffled, to despair and to hope anew."</p> +<p>With the dawning of every morning, life comes bringing to us a new and +<span class='sidenote'>It is not a lucky word, this same impossible; no good +comes to those who have it so often in their mouth.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Carlyle</span>.</span> wonderful day to employ it as +we will. Shall it be a fine, gratifying success, or shall it be a failure? +Shall it be part success and part failure? There can be no doubt about it being +a matter that is very largely in our own keeping.</p> +<p class='topic'>MORNING GATES</p> +<p class='poetry'>Each golden dawn presents two +gates<br /> +    That open to the day;<br /> +Through one a path of joy awaits,<br /> +<span class='sidenote'>I wasted time, and now time doth waste +me.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Shakespeare</span>.</span> +    Through one a weary way.<br /> +Choose well, for by that choice is willed<br /> +    If ye shall be distressed<br /> +At eventide, or richly filled<br /> +    With strength and peace and rest.</p> +<p>"Every true life," says J. R. Miller, "should be a perpetual +climbing upward. We should put our faults under our feet, and make them steps +on which to lift ourselves daily a little higher.... We never <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_151' name='page_151'></a>151</span> <span class= +'sidenote'>Youth, all possibilities are in its hands.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Longfellow</span>.</span> in this world get to a +point where we may regard ourselves as having reached life’s goal, as +having attained the loftiest height within our reach; <span class= +'sidenote'>Thought is deeper than all speech.— <span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Cranch</span>.</span> there are always other rounds +of the ladder to climb."</p> +<p>So we know that the purpose of life is not to make a failure of it. And we +know that we cannot make it a success unless we work toward that end. "The +first <span class='sidenote'>People influence us who have no business to do it, +simply because we have neglected to train ourselves to attend to our own +affairs.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>A. E. +Winship</span>.</span> great rule is, we must do something—that life must +have a purpose and an aim—that work should be not merely occasional and +spasmodic, but steady and continuous," says Lecky. "Pleasure is a +jewel which will retain its luster only when it is in a setting of work, and a +vacant life is one of the worst of pains, though the islands of leisure that +stud a crowded, well-occupied life may be among the things to which we look +back with the greatest delight."</p> +<p>There can be no interest where there is no purpose. How tiresome it would +<span class='sidenote'>As the heart, so is the life. The within is ceaselessly +becoming the without.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>James +Allen</span>.</span> very soon become if we were compelled to make idle, +useless marks upon paper, without any design whatsoever. But to be able to draw +pictures is a delight that no one can forego. "The most pitiable +<span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_152' name='page_152'></a>152</span> +life is the aimless life," says Jenkin Lloyd Jones. "Heaven help the +man or woman, the boy or girl, who is not interested in anything outside of his +or her own immediate comfort and that related thereto, who eats bread to make +strength <span class='sidenote'>I have faith in the people.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Abraham Lincoln</span>.</span> for no special cause, +who pursues science, reads poetry, studies books, for no earthly or heavenly +purpose than mere enjoyment or acquisition; who goes on accumulating wealth, +piling up money, with no definite or absorbing purpose to apply it to anything +in particular."</p> +<p>Perhaps we expect to-day, more than men have at any other time in the +<span class='sidenote'>Of all the propensities which teach mankind to torment +themselves, that of causeless fear is the most irritating, busy, painful and +pitiable.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Walter +Scott</span>.</span> world’s history, that girls as well as boys, must +look forward to doing something definite in life. It is not deemed sufficient +for anyone simply "to be." The whole world is now living the verb +"to do." The grace, strength, beauty and worth of womanhood is being +enhanced with the constantly enlarging sphere of women’s work. The +primitive, almost heathen, notion that the feminine sex constituted a handicap +in the achieving of great success in a great majority of the fields of human +endeavor is <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_153' name= +'page_153'></a>153</span> <span class='sidenote'>He who cannot smile ought not +to keep a shop.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Chinese +Proverb</span>.</span> rapidly fading away. It can no longer stand in the light +of the brilliant achievements women are making everywhere. Indeed, men are +becoming well convinced that their presumed supremacy in many of the +world’s spheres of <span class='sidenote'>Common sense bows to the +inevitable and makes use of it.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Wendell Phillips</span>.</span> work is being +successfully challenged at every point. So general is this experience becoming +that the present status of things might well be set forth somewhat after the +following style:</p> +<p class='topic'>MAN, POOR MAN!</p> +<p class='poetry'>The question used to be, ’t is +true,<br /> +"What tasks are there for girls to do?"<br /> +But now we’ve reached an epoch when<br /> +We ask: "What is there left for men?"</p> +<p class='poetry'>They’ll keep enlarging +"woman’s sphere"<br /> +Till man, poor, shrinking man, we fear,<br /> +Must <span class='sidenote'>If you wish success in life, make perseverance your +bosom friend, experience your wise counselor, caution your elder brother, and +hope your guardian genius.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Addison</span>.</span> grow quite useless, after +while,<br /> +And go completely out of style.</p> +<p>This piece of frivolity can well be pardoned on account of its absurdity. +The great work of the world is so broad, so deep, so high, that it calls for +the best endeavors of all girls and boys, women and men. That the door of +opportunity is henceforth to be open to all is an assurance that the work is to +be more grandly <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_154' name= +'page_154'></a>154</span> <span class='sidenote'>Self-distrust is the cause of +most of our failures.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Bovee</span>.</span> and beautifully done than ever +before. What women may do in the years to come is wonderfully set forth by what +women have done in the past. All history is filled with the splendid +achievements of the women of the world. A girl of to-day will find <span class= +'sidenote'>It is generally the idle who complain they cannot find time to do +that which they fancy they wish.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Lubbock</span>.</span>no reading more helpful and +inspiring than the lives of such noble women as Martha Washington, Queen +Victoria, Sally Bush—Abraham Lincoln’s good +step-mother—Elizabeth Barrett Browning, Mrs. Harriet Beecher Stowe, Miss +Louisa Alcott, Laura Bridgman, Charlotte Cushman, Maria Mitchell, Lady +Franklin, <span class='sidenote'>What ardently we wish we soon +believe.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Young</span>.</span> Mrs. +Julia Ward Howe, and Florence Nightingale.</p> +<p>If the girls of to-day are to have larger rewards in the world’s work, +they must fit themselves for the larger responsibilities. Every prudent girl +will, of course, talk over the prospect of her future years with her parents, +her brothers and sisters, her teachers, or with mature and responsible friends. +So very, very much depends on laying the right foundations. But there are many +qualities that must constitute parts of every enduring foundation. <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_155' name='page_155'></a>155</span></p> +<p>Attention, application, accuracy, method, punctuality, good behavior, +<span class='sidenote'>Nature never stands still, nor souls neither; they ever +go up or go down.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Julia C. R. +Dorr.</span></span> modesty, gentility, enlightenment, all of these and more +are essential to success and for the highest achievement of the true purpose of +living.</p> +<p>It has been well said that it is the repetition of little acts which +constitutes not only the sum of human character, but which determines the +character of nations; and where men or nations have broken down, it will almost +invariably be found that neglect of little things was the rock on which they +were wrecked.</p> +<p>Every human being has duties to be performed, and, therefore, has need of +<span class='sidenote'>Thought alone is eternal.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Owen Meredith</span>.</span> cultivating the +capacity for doing them—whether the sphere of action be the management of +a household, the conduct of a trade or a profession, or the government of a +nation.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Only those live who do good.— <span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Tolstoi</span>.</span> The one fixed truth in the +matter of character-building is the fact that steady attention to the little +matters of detail lies at the very foundation of human progress.</p> +<p>The splendid trees that lift their branches heavenward depend for their +sustenance on the tiny thread-like roots <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id= +'page_156' name='page_156'></a>156</span> <span class='sidenote'>The greatest +truths are the simplest.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Hare</span>.</span> that come into very close +relations with the soil and can thus take in the nourishment needed for the +making of growth. This, the larger roots have not the capacity for doing. So in +the growth of the human intellect and human character, it is the little +actions, day by day, that really do the permanent building. With patient +purpose to do successfully the many little tasks that confront us we can later +on achieve the larger success awaiting us.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Many people owe the grandeur of their lives to their +tremendous difficulties.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Spurgeon</span>.</span> The world’s history is +full of the triumphs of those who have had to struggle from beginning to end +for recognition. Carey, the great missionary, began life as a shoemaker; the +chemist Vanquelin was the son of a peasant; the poet Burns was a farmer boy and +a day laborer; Ben Jonson was a bricklayer; Livingstone, the traveler and +explorer, was a weaver; Abraham Lincoln was a "rail-splitter" and a +farmer boy.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Thought by thought piled, till some great truth is +loosened.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Shelley</span>.</span> +At the plow, on the bench, at the loom, these men dreamed of the future +greatness, and step by step, day by day, they persevered until they won the +full measure of success.</p> +<p>The great and good women of the <span class='pagenum pncolor'><a id= +'page_157' name='page_157'></a>157</span> <span class='sidenote'>The +child’s reasoning powers are, as it were, the wings with which he will +eventually have to fly.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Landon</span>.</span> world have won their +distinction in the same manner. They cultivated the sterling qualities that +made for success. They acquired the manners that attracted toward them help and +strength of others interested in good causes and those struggling to advance +them.</p> +<p><span class='sidenote'>Choose always the way that seems the best, however +rough it may be. Custom will render it easy and agreeable.— <span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Pythagoras</span>.</span> And the girl who is +reading these lines, can, if she will, make her life a happy success. She may +be praised by the world or it may be by the small circle of friends with whom +she comes in contact. Her name may never be written in history but it may be +fondly spoken by parents, sisters, brothers, schoolmates, <span class= +'sidenote'>Recollection is the only paradise from which we cannot be turned +out.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Richter</span>.</span> +friends. In a thousand gracious ways she can make the hours, days and years +good and golden for her own precious self and for all who know her. She must be +thoughtful and intelligently alert to the opportunities lying all about her +ready to be fashioned into shining deeds. She must know that she is a precious +craft on the sea of life and that she must not be permitted to drift from the +harbor of youth and of home without a life pilot. And this pilot should be her +<span class='sidenote'>Memory is the treasure-house of the +mind.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>Fuller</span>.</span> own +conscience, hedged about with the learning, the good breeding, <span class= +'pagenum pncolor'><a id='page_158' name='page_158'></a>158</span> the fine +character that she herself, under proper guidance, must cultivate through the +impressionable years of childhood and maidenhood. If she so wills it, beauty +and grace and true worth are all hers. And let her greet and go forth in the +freshness of each golden day, as indeed, she must greet life, itself, with a +glad, hopeful, helpful</p> +<p class='topic'>MORNING PRAYER</p> +<p class='poetry'><span class='sidenote'>Habit is an +internal principle which leads us to do easily, naturally, and with growing +certainty, what we do often.—<span style= +'font-variant: small-caps'>Webster</span>.</span>Oh, may I be strong and brave, +to-day,<br /> +    And may I be kind and true,<br /> +And greet all men in a gracious way,<br /> +With frank good cheer in the things I say,<br /> +    And love in the deeds I do.</p> +<p class='poetry'>May the simple heart of a child be +mine,<br /> +    And the grace of a rose in bloom;<br /> +Let me fill the day with a hope divine<br /> +And turn my face to the sky’s glad shine,<br /> +    With never a cloud of gloom.</p> +<p class='poetry'>With the golden levers of love and +light<br /> +<span class='sidenote'>The vision that you glorify in your mind, the Ideal that +you enthrone in your heart—this you will build your life by, this you +will become.—<span style='font-variant: small-caps'>James +Allen</span>.</span>     I would lift the world, and +when,<br /> +Through a path with kindly deeds made bright,<br /> +I come to the calm of the starlit night,<br /> +    Let me rest in peace. Amen.</p> +<hr class='full' /> +<p style= +'width: 600px; text-align: center; margin-bottom: 0.6em; margin-top: 2em; font-size:larger;'> +<i>By MARGARET E. SANGSTER</i></p> +<hr style='width: 100px; border:none; border-bottom:1px solid silver;' /> +<p style='width: 600px; text-align: center; font-size:x-large;'>HAPPY SCHOOL +DAYS</p> +<p style='width: 600px; text-align: center; font-size:larger;'>A Book for +Girls</p> +<hr style='width: 100px; border:none; border-bottom:1px solid silver;' /> +<p style='width: 600px;'>In this book, Mrs. Sangster, the popular friend of all +girls, writes to them charmingly and sympathetically of the things nearest to +their hearts. 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It is a book of great worth, and whoever extends +its usefulness by increasing its readers is a public +benefactor.—<i>Journal of Education, Boston.</i></p> +<p style='width: 600px; text-align: center;'><i>Handsome cover. Cloth, 12mo. +$1.00</i></p> +<hr style='width: 80%; border:none; border-bottom:1px solid silver;' /> +<p style='width: 600px; text-align: center; margin-bottom: 50px;'>FORBES & +COMPANY<br /> +<span style= +'font-size:smaller;'>PUBLISHERS                     CHICAGO</span></p> +<hr class='full' /> +<p style= +'width: 600px; text-align: center; margin-bottom: 0.6em; margin-top: 2em; font-size:larger;'> +<i>By NIXON WATERMAN</i></p> +<hr style='width: 100px; border:none; border-bottom:1px solid silver;' /> +<p style='width: 600px; text-align: center; font-size:x-large;'>"BOY +WANTED"</p> +<p style='width: 600px;'>A book of jolly, sparkling, invigorating counsel, in +prose and verse, that any girl or boy will read with interest. 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